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Just got an order of Teddy's in today after about a month of being out of supplies. First time wearing teddys as well. That feeling that comes over me when I diaper up;

I will agree also with what others have said. Be discreet around your parents, just as you would with your sexuality. Find a lover that is willing to share this side of your life with you. I haven't mentioned any of this lifestyle to my parents, and probably never will. I did experiment from time to time when I was young and living at home, but I never bought diapers until I was an adult, and I moved out of home when I was 18. I only embraced this lifestyle last sumemr, when I was 30, and just a few months before moving back to the town I grew up in. I was only able to stay with my parents for a couple of weeks, even though they offered more time, because I really needed to have the privacy to explore this lifestyle more, and I didn't want them to be exposed to it. I have been growing closer to my parents in other ways. My dad and I have talked often about depression, PTSD, and suicidal thoughts, which we both suffer from, or have suffered from (in the case of suicidal thoughts.) My mom and I talk about the sexual abuse I suffered as a child (babysitter) and the effects that is having on me as an adult. And we just hang out from time to time and do normal things. I find the more that we experience normal life together, the more comfortable we are discussing sensitive topics. The only way I could ever imagine talking with my parents about my DL lifestyle is if it came out in coversation; with me wearing adult clothes and speaking as an adult; no diapers, onesies, dummies, ect physically present. Essentially a mature adult conversation.

Why not just strap a bucket of water between your legs? This is just getting so extreme that it is rediculous. I really don't see the purpose of a diaper that can hold 7lbs of fluid.

Umm, I thought my comment above was enough to express that I see a balanced approach to diapers from this girl, not a potential new ABDL convert. You might want to check your assumptions about my "ABDL fantasy mind."

It sounds like you need to find that energy where you give to each other because it feels good to contribute to each other's well being. How you get there can be tough, though. I like the nonviolent communication approach: 1. Observe without evaluating - Connect them to what you experienced, not what you think of them for what they said or did. 2. Express feelings without blaming - State how you feel in the moment you experienced, and connect that feeling immediately to an unmet need. 3. Express needs separate from requests - State what is missing in your life in that moment, that getting it would make life more wonderful for you. 4. Epress requests without demanding - Ask to negotiate for their support in meeting that need. You can ask them to take action to meet that need, or to take action to no longer interfere with the need. Be prepared for the other person to hear the following instead: 1. Your evaluations of them ("you think I'm . . ." most often generates a defensive response) 2. You blaming them for your feelings ("I made you feel . . ., how horrible I am that I could do that") 3. You need me to . . . (When people become our needs the world becomes scarce) 4. I have to . . . (When people hear a demand they have 2 choices: submit or rebel,) When you suspect that they didn't hear your message as you intended for them to, ask: "Can you tell me what you heard me say?" (if that sounds condescending, reword it so it sounds genuine to you.) When their response confirms that they misunderstood you, simply say: "Thank you for telling me what you heard me say. How can I say it differently so that you hear . . ." Take time to speak and act out of an energy of your choosing. The website www.cnvc.org has a lot of resources on effective communication that I have found to be very helpful. They have lists on human needs and feelings that are helpful in expressing how we are. To clarify: Human needs are universal, we all have the same needs. If we can express our need clearly, and the other person hears that need clearly, it is possible for them to feel compassionate about your experience, and any offer or agreement to help is more likely to come with the joy of a small child feeding a hungry duck. Preferences are just our own unique ways of getting our needs met. Feelings are an indication that a need of ours is unmet and that we are not enjoying life at the moment. Feeling can always be expressed as a declarative; "I feel sad" can be expressed as "I am sad." If a feeling cannot be expressed without using the word "feel," it is most likely an evaluation. "I feel like you just don't take any interest in me any more," is more likely to be heard as an evaluation of them, while "I feel sad and really need some comfort and connection," is more likely to be met with compassion and understanding. I hope this helps; please let me know if I need to clarify anything here. I really reccomend nonviolent communication to anyone who is looking for ways to contribute to relationships in a life giving way.

My thoughts exactly. I had to laugh about the part where she discovers that they are 2 sizes too big for her. I made the same rookie mistake the first time I bought. I ended up with an Xl bag of depends pullups (I wear bambino mediums.) She will know better for next time. I also applaud her confidence and lack of emberrassment when dealing with the checkout girl. She wanted diapers for a legitimate reason, even if it was only a personal choice and not a "medical need." She had no problem essentially telling the girl that "yes, I'm going on a long bus ride and I get nervous about holding it in for 3 hours, and I will feel so much more relaxed and worry free if I am wearing a diaper." I can just see her walking into the store, finding the diapers, almost jumping for joy, and walking up to the counter with a supressed grin. And in her own words "[checkout girl] 'um, foreign girl. what the hell are you doing????' i beam at her." It is laughable that on my first purchase I spent 4 hours driving from store to store to gather the courage to even look down the incontinence isle! I also find it interesting that, in her own admission, she had been actively looking for them for a while, and she makes no hint of shame about that. To her it is an ingenious solution to her problems, the only problem being able to find some. It is not like she just saw them in the store one day and said "eurika," although if that had been the case, I still would applaud her open mindedness. I still chuckle about how the checkout girl called them pampers, and she never corrected her by saying "briefs, incontinence pads, ect." or even just diapers. Pampers is clearly a baby diaper brand, and even though the word is synonymous with diapers in many areas, she readily accepts the babyish term. She even titles her blog posting "the pampers project." Whether either of them made the babyish association I can't really tell. I also like how she identifies the warm safe feeling of wearing without instantly becoming an obsessed ABDL. Maybe "normal" people can feel that way wearing diapers. Did anyone else read the comments to the posting? This must be a family member or friend. I'm not sure what is to be confused about.

the pampers project Came across this article in a blog today, thougth I would share. Scroll down past the kimodo dragons, it's the next article.

Just wait untill you are beyond the point of being able to hold it in. At this point it should require very little effort to go and a hell of a lot of effort to hold it in.

I laughted here, so you got a +1 rating from me. Pooping a diaper for me is like turkey dinner. It is really nice to have at special occasions, but the work and cleanup involved are way too much for every day, and you just get tired of it and it loses it's charm. But whe I do, it can be glorious. When I begin to anticipate that I am ready to go, I get into a comfortable position, relax my body, and just wait. My focus becomes sharply attuned on what is going on in my body, like the rest of the world is nonexistant. Once I start to feel the mass moving towards the exit, the fun really starts to begin. I try my best to just relax and let my body expell the poop. I find this the most enjoyable way to mess. I can't really describe the feeling, it is really good though. Sometimes, though, I will squat like a toddler and push it out. That feels good sometimes. I don't stay in it for very long, or the smell gets to me too quick. I usually just take a shower after I remove the diaper and flush the mess.

To answer the OP's question, just put on a diaper and wait around until you get that feeling that would make you want to got to the bathroom to poop. Instead of going to the toilet, just relax, get in a comfortable position, and your body should just expell the poop into your diaper for you. I find that I enjoy pooping the most (diapered or on the toilet) when I am not trying to push it out, but instead letting my body expell it naturally. Interesting thing is that after I tried pooping in a diaper the first time, I began to find it easier to just poop naturally without needing to push.

This is what I would wish for: Plastic backing - have a soft babyish feel, but suitably thick plastic. Even a noticable playful texture would be nice. Print - I love the look of the Fabian and Cushies all over print, and wouldn't mind seeing more print options. But simple bears/blocks prints like Bambino and ABU are nice too. Scent - a really nice nursery scent is a must for me. Packaging - it just gets thrown out, but a nice ABDL print on the bags (not on the box though) would be fun. Tapes - minimum 2 tapes per side. Tapes need to be 10% bigger overall then they are on bambino models, including the anchored end. Tape landing zone - needs to be reinforced plastic, but not as industrial feeling as those bambinos. It needs to feel like part of the diaper and not just stuck on late in production. Waistbands - front and back, could be a little bigger and streachier than bambinos. Leg gathers and standing leak guards, standard Front and back leak guards Absorbancy capacity equal to the average bambino. I don't know why I would ever need more. Longer sides - I wear medium bambinos, and size 34 jeans. Those bambios always tape on the sides, and I would much rather have the tapes more towards the front

Is there something wrong with the right one?

Please do not do this. Nurses and caregivers are compassionate people who want to help people who cannot care for themselves. We do not need to take action that will damage their trust in the general public. Oh, and yes, you run a high risk of being prosecuted.

Writing a user manual for a DVD player or a car is one thing. Writing one for an ABDL is a whole nother ball of wax. Every person is different. I think given the courage and resources, people will research for information and ask questions on sites like this.

Not necessarily to tick people off but to gross them out, Go to your local pharmacy/grocery store and buy only the following items, all at once: Latex or vinyl gloves Any type of lube or petrolium jelly, the bigger quantity the better extra large condoms plastic sandwich bags gold bond medicated powder a turkey baster and if you feel especially bold, pick up adult diapers as well.

I had fun with one of these once, leading them on like I was seriously interested(and nieve,) but I think they caught on really quick that I was just f'ing with them and quit replying.

mischa, you don't read sarcasm well, do you?

I don't know much about labour laws in Lithuania, but in Canada you would be entitled to a very hefty severence package, including unpaid holiday time. I've actualy fought an ex employer over termination without cause, and she had to pay me severance. Sorry to hear about your misfortune. Hoping everything turns around and you find gainful employment elsewere soon. I was working at an insurance firm for a couple of years. I carried a lot of responsibility for commercial auto clients, as I looked after about 90% of them. I was specialy trained to do this, and the guy who trained me was moved to another dept. After a year of working my ass off and getting no pay or recognition for overtime (on salary) my boss gave me a shitty performance review and no raise, after getting drunk at the christmas party and joking that she would pay the bar tab with our raises. The firm was also spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on a lease of a brand new office building that we were supposed to move into on new years day. (Fucking halleluia!) So a few weeks after new years, while we sat around in our old office wondering what the fuck was going on, I took a fedex package that contained critical documents for a vehicle registration I had done the previous day. I wasn't supposed to process the registration without it, but the dealership forgot to send the papers with the client, and my boss said to go ahead and do it with the promise that the dealership send the papers overnight. Well, a month later when my boss got the fedex charges, she was pissed at me for signing collect on the delivery! She actually wanted me to send it back and increase the risk that our firm would get in shit with the powers that be for not having supporting documentation! All for a $20 delivery charge! Then a lady I was training got moved to a position in another dept that I wanted. Then the boss lady made an example of me in front of the entire office during a staff meeting about the delivery charge issue. I dropped of my resume at another firm the next day, and got a position similar to the one I wanted at the firm I was with. I gave my 2 weeks notice, and she sent me packing that day. When she dropped of my final cheque for the days I had already worked, I asked where my severance pay was. She said "you don't get severance, you quit." I said, yeah, in two weeks. So yeah, I called labor relations, and they heard my story, and hears, and got all documents and copies of my resignation, and they told her she had to pay me severance. I got the cheque a couple weeks later.

Got a strange email from a man claiming to be an egyptian ambassador. He claims that the egyptian president is hiding in exile, and has lost access to his fortunes. He needs to borrow $10,000 to cover the banking fees to secure a transfer of funds from the egyptian federal bank to his swiss bank account, and is promising to return me $100,000 when he completes the transfer. Anyone got $10k I could borrow? Yahoo Story

Someone made a good point about using a diaper with standing leg cuffs. Abena has a fairly full product line with some cloth like outer sheets that are discreet, and some are thin enough to conceal underneath moderate to tight fitting clothing. Having kibbles and bits (block and tackle, pickle and olives, ect.) is always an issue when wetting. I like to be pointed down when I flood, but that is not comfortable for me; having my beans and wiener shoved beteween my legs all the time. I like to keep the fly and rod up front and out of the way. And I agree, the back of the diaper doesn't get used that much. Your idea of using a cloth is interesting, however I don't like the idea of having a urine soaked rag wrapped around my north pole. I don't like the idea of urine sitting against my skin period. It tends to soak into the pores, and even after a shower you still smell.

^ good point. I'm just a little paranoid, I guess.

I'd pick her too! On a related note, I had a dream the other night I was hanging out with her, and she took off her bra without taking off her shirt and gave it to me. She then said we should date, but I think she had something more in mind. Just then my stupid cat jumped on my bed and woke me up. Stupid cat.

What worries me more than the paramedics, doctors, and nurses finding out is if they told my family or friends. Of course that is not going to happen due to Dr. patient confidentiality, but what if I am in a coma and they need to ask my family questions about my medical history? What if they begin asking if I had a history of incontinence? I'm sure the doctors have tact and can ask for information they need without giving away what kind of underwear I was wearing when I came in. And if I died in the crash, I'm sure the mortitian would appreciate the easy cleanup.

Again it comes down to not WHAT you see, but WHY you are seeing it. If you are going about your business and happen to be in a diaper and it happens to become visible, most people will not notice anything more than that. But if you are prancing around, or even trying to not be seen so that if you are seen you are "caught" and you get your kicks, there is an uncomfortable vibe that people will notice about the situation, and they will find it strange and wierd. And it is when the public is uncomfortable with something that it finds strange and wierd that there is a potential for the ABDL community to get a bad rap.

You call this crystal clear? I'm not trying to pick fights, nor am I implying that the OP is a pedo. I am saying that the language is not clear to me, and sounds disturbing. The OP should edit their post to remove any doubt that their intentions are acceptable. Mentioning a "real baby" in this context is probably not a good idea. Better to be clear and specify "the [garments] that a real baby would wear." Just sayin' The intention behind the wording is more crystal clear to me than the actual wording, I'll give you that.