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Glad to hear y0u want to use cloth! Try experimenting first before you go looking for a one-piece, fitted, sized diaper. I used receiving blankets (from garage sales and thrift stores) stuffed with real baby diapers, either prefold or 27x27 flats. Most receiving blankets are flannel and come in wonderful baby patterns. Even retail, these are inexpensive. An adult sized pre-fold in just your size could easily cost you $17 to $23 each. You need to find out if a 30x30 square or a 32x38 rectangle fits better when you pin it on. Add stuffers for absorption and comfort. With a little experimentation you will know how to pin a diaper on yourself that is snug, comfortable and just the right thickness. Also, when doing laundry, you will not face the embarrasment of pulling a large adult diaper out of the machine. If you decide to stay with cloth (and I hope you do) find Granitsmith on eBay and get 36x36 heavyweight birdseye diapers and stuff them with 21x40 gauze diapers; a super-soft, really absorbant, comfortable combination. 18 billion disposable diapers go into American landfills each year. That's 5 million tons of yucky trash. And big $$$ just wasted ! I am still using the diapers I bought six years ago, and it is only one or two extra loads of laundry a week. Better yet, you can get some awsome plastic pants, too. Have fun experimenting before you invest. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

packrat I don't think you are out of the woods yet, but you may have found a trail to follow........who knows where it leads. I don't agree with Sara AB's altuistic romantic honesty in love philosophy. Trust is always earned, even in marriage. You love your wife, yet you are learning to trust her with your most secret vulnerable self. It takes time and experience. And honesty can be a trap: "Does this dress make me look fat, honey?" Yes, we learn to say things so we don't hurt the ones we love. I'm intrigued by your situation. I too have been with a health care professional for 28 years. If she knows, she has never let on, other than saying "Goodnight, Baby." just before sleep. CONGRATULATIONS !! on your progress, so far. Looking for your up-date. babylin HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

so she was concerned you were sleeping on the couch naked.........getting it dirty? then she calls you and asks twice if you are "alright?" if your wife is an RN, DO NOT claim it is any physical problem. She already suspects you were not telling her the truth. But you might say that you had gas and some cramps and were afraid of fall-out farts. it is time to tell her that you find the snap-on diapers give you a feeling of security and comfort, that you wore tham not to get the couch dirty, or that you sometimes wake with the urge to pee and you wanted to protect the couch. open confrontation may not be the right course of action.......that is, just wearing your diapers to bed.........but DO answer all of her questions honestly and accurately. She loves you and is concerned about your wants and needs and is trying to understand you. Evidently this is something she has been wondering about since you have disposables you sometimes wear.......she could accept that idea of being in a car and having to go........and that is the use of diapers, correctly. So, WHY were you wearing them on the couch ? Tell her about the sense of security and feelings of comfort diapers provide as something you remembered from your childhood. Steer her in the right direction and lead her to ask the right questions. Be open, unashamed, even vulnerable to her. About your underwear on the floor.....is she a neat freak? What concern is it as to what underwear you wear? Or is it only where you leave the dirty cloths? I take it you do not have kids around the house and your "secret" is pretty much between you two alone. Your behavior seems to embarras her. Sounds like she will let you do as you wish as long as she is not bothered by it. Assure her you love her and that you wearing a diaper is not somehow her failure. Now don't you have some sort of early childhood story about you and diapers that by telling her would show her your inner child is crying out for comfort and mothering? As a secret keeper myself, I empathize . Wish you the best of outcomes. BTW......keep the cat stoned on catnip. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

WEARING VERY OCCASIONALLY ...What's that ? This past month I've gotten to wear maybe 10 days of each two weeks. Night and day. Before that my wife was not working and I got to wear my cloth diapers only 1 or 2 times a week. She does not know and I am not about to tell her. Just make sure that when she is home from work, that there are no signs of diapers around. Nothing. I slipped up and she noticed "dust" in our bedroom. Baby powder gets into the air so easily. So now I dust before she comes home, every other weekend. Someday I know I will have to "purge" for the last time. I would hate for her to find out over my dead body. HEY ! You story tellers out there. Try that one on for size: The grieving widow who finds out her late husband was a diaper lover and had all this stuff stached secretly around the house and files on the computer. I sometimes try to put myself in her place. See things as she might if she found out. And YES !! I will purge before the end of my days. But wearing soft cloth diapers is so enjoyable! HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

Jamie ! You're casting a wide net and will collect too much data. This is a common thesis error. Is your focus to be on adult, teen, child, or infant behavioral psychology. Since most of us will claim diaper use for security and comfort, I suggest you look at the trauma of toilet training. Remember, this is a cultural thing. Some do not use diapers. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

[quote name='teen_nappy' . There comes a point in every persons life where they must make a decision, I think that this is one of those times.

I have birdseye weave cloth diapers new in package, unopened. 27 x 27. would be willing to trade for plastic pants shown. babylin

I think most of us are still here, we just post less frequently, Turtlepins. Your stories and contributions are magnetically fun. Perhaps us oldsters having already seen most of what is posted lately and having commented on it before are somewhat bored and simply waiting for new material or at least someone who can communicate themselves as well as you do (not bs). Good to see you are still around, too. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

REMEMBER and take to heart the words of Dr. Suess: "Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind." Wear whatever undearwear you want. If you're experimenting, I suggest you try cloth diapers with plastic pants. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

[quote Well, I started my diapered studying today.

shorts over Suprima plastic pants a large heavyweight birdseye diaper pinned on with six Curity gauze diapers for stuffers and baby powder with that great smell and socks HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

[quote 'zorro daddy' date='Aug 3 2008, how they got started What is that one thing for you? Zorro Daddy

It has been often said on here that a DL is just a baby that has not found himself yet. In truth, there is a whole spectrum of behaviors. I consider myself a Diaper Lover, but I own a couple pacifiers and a blue baby blanket I rarely use. I love the smell of baby powder. Also the smell of stale urine in plastic pants. Be careful with this analogy. Wearing a diaper leads to..........?????? Drinking a beer leads to alcoholism. Having a cigarette leads to smoking pot. Taking an aspirin leads to drug use. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

quote 'singner 'Jul 29 Should I tell the people around me that I wear? need to hide the diapers. The concern for many at that point is - will they still accept me? If they don't, then they haven't got respect for your respect of them.

Baby Jay ! I bought a travel size of J & J Baby powder last week and also noticed it didn't smell right. Weak ass crap. Maybe that's because I usually go to Dollar General or Family Dollar and get their baby powders that are Cornstarch. I like the cornstarch much better than the talc of J&J. Yes, there is definately "something" about the smell, and the cheaper brands have more of it. Once in a while to relive my early diaper days, I will wet in a well powdered cloth diaper and let it dry out. Brings back so many memories of retrieving my hidden diapers from under the dresser where they would dry out for next time. Being a bedwetter, hidden drying diapers did not add too much to the smell of my bedroom anyway. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

Interesting ! I've read diaper stories from the 1930's and to associate them with rubber/plastic pants I would think then that the diaper fetish, as is the presumptive question here, would go back into the 1870's when Kleinerts first produced rubber baby pants, and reflected mostly the 1950's, as it was after WWII in the late forties when plastics were then applied to baby pants. Playtex came out big in the early 1950's, but by then rubber baby pants were common and the generic for baby pants was "rubber pants". Plastic replaced rubber and disposables, once they had plastic backing and adhesive tapes, replaced cloth diapers in the 1960's. As to when my diaper desires began: I can remember wanting them shortly after I was taken out of diapers at age two. Back in the 50's, peer pressure was great on mothers to have their children toilet trained by age two; one was an adequate mother if she did so and less so if the baby was getting older. So I can remember wanting diapers befor age 3. But I was also a bedwetter and wanted diapers right thtough grade school, waking up every morning soaked neck to knees. I think my diaper "fetish" developed as I entered puberty. As far as a theory of personality formation and diaper desires: well, I believe in reincarnation and Karma. So my bedwetting and consequent diaper desire may have been a leftover from a previous life manifesting in this life cycle. I know I am not conquering my diaper desires in this lifetime---but have come to accept them --- so maybe they won't be with me in the next lifetime. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

Cloth !! I have Curity diapers from the forties and fifties that still "work" beautifully. And I use them along with 21x40 gauze diapers I got from GranitSmith six years ago. Durability? Show me a disposable you can use over and over. And for comfort. No way can a disposable beat cloth. Properly folded a cloth diaper hugs perfectly. With practice it's not hard to diaper yourself with cloth, but with disposables.........sagging, tapes coming unstuck or tearing off, and they always leak. And here's another thought: if you believe in Karma, plastic lasts in landfills for decades, maybe longer. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

We're engeged and pregnant, CONGRATULATIONS !! If you do not already do so, make doing the laundry your job........your contribution to sharing the load of having a family and living together. And now my point: use cloth diapers for your child. You will save enough over the cost of disposables to pay for the washer and dryer, extra water and soap. Plus the diapers are good for the next baby and/or yourself. And most women do not mind cloth diapers if they do not have to wash them (how manly of them!). You then get your diapers and she likes it even more. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

O K !! I'm ethically challenged ! But, my question was: what if the package left in the shopping cart were diapers? Like your favorite diapers and amazingly, in your size ? I suppose it's easy to say "Well, it was beer, and not even my brand." But, hypothetically, your favorite diapers.? Store policy would be to throw them away if the cart boy found them and brought them back in. I didn't have a spare hour to "watch first" to see if anyone returned looking for them. Diapers lost------- diapers found. Would you have returned diapers to the store? HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

Pulling in next to the shopping cart return corral today at the local grocery with my wife along, I noticed a Michelob case box under a returned cart. Sure enough it was FULL of cold beer! So it quickly ended up in my car trunk. My wife said it was stealing. I contended that it was lost and therefore "finder's keepers." ( BTW, no security cameras). In the past I've had the fantacy of finding a full diaper bag in a like situation. So my question hypothetically, what if it had been a new pack of Attends or Depends left in the shopping cart lower rack? I guess I'm ethically challenged. Was this stealing? Should I have just left it there for someone else to claim? Maybe the poor loser coming back? Or turned it into the store? What would you do if you "found" diapers? HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

Take the plunge !! Instead of looking at the "baby" isle in Wall Mart, look in the "Adult Diapers" section. Watch her reactions. Also, BUY a package of Pull Ups or Depends and put them openly where she can find them. Force a discussion of what "babyhood" means for both of you. From your description I get the strong impression that your girlfriend wants to be a mommy to your child and NOT to you as her child-baby. She wants a baby all her own and you are the Daddy doner. Discuss your future. Best of luck......keep your eyes open..........think outside the box. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

You're only 24 and like most HNG from the tone of your letter "you want what you want". Hey! Grow up! A lasting relationship is not about you and your wants. Stop being obsessive-compulsive. Learn to accept yourself first. Learn to be happy with yourself. Learn not to be lonely, but happy alone. Not many women are looking for a "fixer-upper" guy. Date. Find a woman who attracts you and turns you on then be yourself. Sometime before you commit, tell her of your diaper desires. You may lose her, so what. By then you will be able to attract another woman, or another, because you will be a happy person and more self-confident and someone a woman is attracted to. I didn't find my wife until I was 31. We've been married 26 years and my bride still does not know about my diaper desires. She is more important to me than the diapers. Once you learn to accept yourself, life begins. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS.

I hate squirming in my seat or missing out on the best parts, so I love going to the movies diapered. This weekend KUNG FU PANDA and IRONMAN are double featured at the local drive-in. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

["minimal" absorbancy? I would suggest some cloth lined plastic pants. If you do not like plastic pants, try women's sanitary pants with the waterproof crotch and use your pad. If you just want to try cloth diapers, get a pkg of infant prefolds at your local Target or Wal-Mart, wash them , and insert one in your underwear. A pad inside of a pull up is nice too. HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

[quote name='lilwetone' date='Apr 27 I've been thinking lately about buying some cloth diapers and need some advice on what to look for and where.