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Solving what problem for the OP, for example?

Any good employer doesn't give a reason.

Presents?

Yeah, that's not really how this works... post a post on a site, have it focused only on you (what do the 'parents' get out of it, other than a needy kid and dirty diapers?), etc.

In the local paper insert there was an ad for Depends, $9.95/bag, delivered.

Spoken as a man who's been diapered since last night... and may well be all the way through Christmas eve (when we'll go visit her family, and when family becomes more important than diapers since it's not a "must have" thing for me). Of course, since although my wife is encouraging me to enjoy myself working at home today, through the weekend, etc., she doesn't feel well so use/changes aren't high on the priority list for today so I'm wearing but staying clean/using the potty. Again, balance. When she feels better tonight, we're headed for the movies... which means she'll definitely be up to change me / mommy me when we get home. And perhaps tonight or tomorrow I'll get a chance to diaper her... and more... as we've been working DL into our sexual play more and more recently. To keep this on topic, I'm working her towards being diapered more than just an overnight - diaper snuggling, etc. - and towards wetting so I can change her. Nevermind that Bella's gel sufficiently that she'll get to experience me stimulating her through a dry diaper... then with the different pressure and feel of a wet one. The OP and I have the same goal, ultimately.

Best idea? Next time you're about to get sexual and she goes for a diaper, stop her and say "no, this time let's just have this be about me and you!" Reinforce to her the importance of HER, and that you can separate the two and enjoy her without the fetish. Then, when she DOES engage, she'll be more likely to go farther because she's doing it more for you... and knowing that you love and respect HER more for doing so.

Considering you can use a keyboard with an iPad, it's not that much more difficult. If it is, be more careful so you don't have mistakes to try and fix.

Welcome to DD! Hope you enjoy your stay!

How many of these threads are we going to see? Wasn't there one about Taco Bell the other day? The post contains everything the poster needs to know to fix his own situation: 1) Thickness. If you're going to wear, wear something thinner. 2) Noise. Cover it up. 3) Wearing to work and getting caught. Do or don't. If wearing a diaper is more important than being a productive member of society (in other words, I can't wear at work so I won't go to work) then get help. It's clear from your post that you wear by choice, so no "need" comes into play here unless there's mental illness involved.

My wife is accepting of my DL-ness, but not necessarily as involved as I'm sure I'd prefer she be. That said, she's open to it. Last night, however, was not the night. I'd just come home from a week long work trip and we had plans to head to the movies. She didn't feel well - but well enough to go sit through a movie (Jennifer Lawrence has a promising career ahead of her, mind you!). Before we left she asked "are you going to the movies diapered?" As much as I wanted to, knowing she didn't feel well and that we were looking forward to the time together more than anything, I replied "no, nothing like that - just a night with you!" Not that she would have cared, but it went a long way. Essentially "I realize you're reaching out, but I want to make sure you understand you come first, playing to a fetish second." Now if she'd insisted, or told me I was wearing... that would be different. Besides, we'll get to it tonight... we're home alone with catch-up to do on calendar, budget, etc... and I need to nurse her through a cold. Great night to snuggle in a diaper to SNL. Balance. Staying at home to be diapered vs. going out and being social is a sign that your fetish rules you. Either go out diapered, or go out un-diapered... but be interactive.

-1, Troll.

A cold front came through this morning. Short version? I had to run an early morning errand, was running late and just stepped out in "normal" clothes - no jacket, sweater, fleece, etc. Out and about I started to feel the need to pee. I had to stop for gas - I still had my Bella on, though, and when I stepped out into the chilly breeze to fill up the tank I just started to go. I'm not sure if it's because my body needed to relieve itself or warm up... but it was a nice contrast in cold outside, warm inside. And of course, being a Bella, I still felt dry when I was done. Being that we don't get as much cold weather as some of the rest of you it's easy to forget how snuggly warm a good diaper can be.

Don - I'm not in your shoes, but from the outside looking in, you're handling this wrong. I'm not going to continue to post here because I don't want to seem like I'm attacking you. Please take this as just my experience... as an employee and a manager. The fact that you're now "playing games" with a third associate... and TWO MORE "witnesses"... that you have now told your manager that you won't reveal (i.e. "I won't follow procedure, I'm going to do my own thing my own way") sends her the signal that she's getting a very biased story from you that will cause her to doubt the validity of it, especially how "deep" it really is vs. you "just being emotional" about something she likely doesn't want to be involved in anyway - your [abnormal] sex life. At this point the common issue in every problem so far is you. She's already said she's not finding anything, which isn't surprising (that coworkers are lying) and now you have told her point blank you won't follow the process and help her. Take from that what you will - if I'm her, I now don't have the leg I need to stand on in terms of you not being a part of the problem and being able to trust what you say... I have to balance that against everyone else's story, which is never going to match yours. Good luck... and this really does suck. You have my sympathy there. At least you have the comfort and solace of a soft, snuggly diaper?

If you're going to quote me, let's be clear. An idiot for posting on Fetlife? Absolutely not. I have an FL account. An idiot for interacting with THIRD co-worker on FL after all this starts from his FL being personally identifiable and recognized by a coworker then having that information spread around at work and potentially used to harass him? Absolutely. After having problems already and complaining about the crossover between work and sexuality, he not only doesn't take steps to bolster his privacy, he engages a different co-worker in a discussion about sexuality (who now, apparently, has become personally involved in terms of confronting other co-workers, etc. while an internal investigation is going on)? That's what's idiotic. Do I engage in aspects of sexuality that if my general pool of friends and co-workers knew about I'd be likely to get teased about? Absolutely... I'm here, aren't I? This certainly isn't "mainstream" even among fetishes. So I take steps to enhance my privacy - things like not posting personal information on general sites like FL (or even here on DD). And were this to "come out" at work, it's certainly not something I'd engage with people about unless they directly engaged me first. Allowing third-party co-workers sympathetic to my cause to help fight my fight might feel compassionate but it really just makes something that should't be an issue into an issue because it draws in more and more attention, involves more and more people, and becomes something management can't ignore that, like it or not, I end up at the center of. Don - you got outed. It sucks. It's potentially embarassing. Teasing sucks, even from ignorant people. In the case of the workplace, it's likely a violation of policy that needs to be rectified, and if you're discriminated against or the workplace becomes hostile to you, it's a legal issue. Minimize the damage and move on. Whether that means a new job around new people, or the same job with the same people will depend on how things get handled and how you handle them. Making things bigger and involving more people doesn't seem like the right way to go. Show up, do your job, go home.

It's her job to react appropriately. If not, she's potentially exposing herself and the company to legal harm. If you're really "scared" of her, you need a new job with a new boss. Not to be rude, but you're an idiot. You go back to the same site that caused you trouble and now you're engaging in sexual conversations discussing fetishes with someone else in your workplace? Aside from being unbelievable that there'd be this many ADBL (or ABDL friendly) folks in your workplace, didn't you yourself say "the store manager agreed that they shouldn't have brought personal life into work" and "I didn't want anyone to know but they kept telling people"???

Any more anytime soon?

Fantasic approach! This gets past the "something to treat" mentality and back to the "someone to help" approach. VERY well said!

Edit to add: In my work circle I know for a fact I'd get teased, and I'd have a HARD time falling back on sexual harassment (well, it'd be easy to claim, but wouldn't bode well for me in terms of the level of personal respect I'd need to be successfully employed there), but I also know that after the initial wave of teasing that if I simply explained it for what it is and kept being me, it'd go away. Some would be turned off, some would talk behind my back or be repulsed... most just wouldn't care and would chalk it up to something "strange" I like to do on my own time. C'est la vie.

Actually, the mere telling of the truth isn't sexual harassment. You had a profile on a public site, someone saw it and they're talking about it. That in and of itself isn't harassment, even if it's embarrassing. Now if it turns to defamation, discrimination, or discussions WITH YOU that make you uncomfortable, then you start moving towards sexual harassment if you've asked them to not discuss this with you and they keep doing it, or if you feel that it being discussed is leading to hostility or discrimination in the workplace (and hostility includes intentionally making you uncomfortable at work). Work is personal life - you spend up to a third of your time there, with them, and nearly half of your normal waking hours more the majority of the week. There is no difference in that sense. The difference is that at work there are rules to protect you from harassment and discrimination. This is absolutely no different than if you were gay and someone outed you from a gay dating site. Zero difference. In that regard, now is the time to stop being afraid and to stand up for your rights, and to put a stop to this. You've done the right thing by reporting it. Two more things: 1) They're never going to un-know. They'll care less over time, but they'll always know. 2) That may not be bad. There's an outside chance that someone else into/curious about this now knows someone they can come to. Despite what any other posters say, that's a very, very, very remote chance and not something you should overtly pursue... just keep it in mind. It's funny... I know several co-workers who are gay, and I have several friends who are hardcore into what would be considered fetish scenes (BDSMdungeon, public nudity, etc.). The gay co-workers? Nobody cares. The fetish scenes? Those who know, know, but that's not a place where our social interactions cross, so it's never been important (but also something that the participants don't advertise but aren't ashamed of, either). They've also never been teased about their pursuits... primarily because they're the kind of people that otherwise engender respect in the way they carry themselves in the rest of their lives. The same likely applies for you - the more people know you, and know you for other things, the less important knowing you enjoy a diaper fetish becomes.

Same here. The Dry 24/7 is fantastic and perhaps a bit thicker, but my two favorites are the Bambino Bella and the Classico. Bella has a FANTASTIC fit and feel for me, and the Classico fits better than the 24x7 but has the more crinkle than the Bella for times when I want the crinkle. I'm actually in a Bella right now... put it on last night. I'm not one who enjoys being wet, so I've actually not wet it (intentionally), but I'm snug as a bug in a rug and quite content. Still soft, secure and a constant reminder of what I've got on.

I either work from home or on the road; when I work from home I have the house to myself so my routine has been to drop the kiddo off at school, come home and diaper up for the day. It's a decent balance since I don't have to worry about anyone being home and can do what I please. Long and short, I'm a DL. Perhaps some indulgence into the AB side now and then, but while my SO will interact with the DL aspect, she's simply not interested in the AB side of things. So be it. Balance. I don't wear to use, although I've never hesitated to wet and do enjoy the change in bulk and feel for a short while after wetting. I've never been one to mess, though, primarily because I don't like the feeling and don't really want to do the cleanup (nor is that a part of my desires - having someone clean me up from messy). Today, however, I figured "why not try it?" So while not a "thank god I had a diaper on" story in the sense of a save, it was the "thank god I have a diaper on" in the sense of the ability to try out this aspect. Result? Not for me. Don't like the feeling, want to get out of that diaper ASAP, and have to clean up in the shower. Not offended by those who like it, just not something for me. But I am thankful I had a diaper on... and could give it a whirl. Could definitely come in handy, though, the next time (hopefully never!) I get a bad stomach bug, etc. I haven't had uncontrollable diarrhea since I was a kid, but some of the GI bugs I've seen going around lately are just nasty fast-acting.

Stress relief.