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Relationships fail numerous of times whether they are AB related or not. With any relationship each person must give a 100% and give many compromises, which many people forget. Not only that but most people fall into the trap that Love is a feeling, it should be bubbly and they should feel it ALL the time, that is so not the case. There are going to be many days you don't feel like loving the person you are with and that bubbly feeling is NOT there all the time, esp when your partner has done something to make you mad. And usually when the feelings have gone away, most people believe the LOVE has gone away, and thus they go about saying, I'm not in love with you anymore. Love is a give and take, its definitely a compromise, its forgiving, its doing anything and everything for that person whether or not you want to (ie, going to the opera etc...blah opera)... Love is a commitment, but when it comes to an AB relationship we tend to forget that this is a big compromise and a give and take. I feel that most AB relationships fail because they do not base their relationship on anything but the the AB/daddy or mommy side of things. Realistically, you can not be a baby 24/7, That is not giving 100%, and that definitely is not a compromise, and definitely beyond being selfish (you have to think, what am i giving to my partner if im a baby 24/7) , not to mention you must be running away from something, and what really gets me are those who say they are 24/7, but yet they still do adult things ... ok sorry getting off subject here..... anyways, as I was saying, any relationship must be based on adult life, regardless of what you want, you still are an adult and you still have adult responsibilities. What do you do in a relationship when you aren't roleplaying?? If you can't connect on an adult relationship then the AB relationship will not last. ABs (and yes I am one) are so quick and so worried about finding a 'mommy' and 'daddy' that they forget when that 'mommy' and that 'daddy' is no longer roleplaying there are adult things that need to be done, like cleaning house, paying bills, working, cooking, grocery shopping, and just doing adult activities..... ok rambling.... I guess what I'm trying to say is this.... an adult relationship must be established first, and the daddy/baby or mommy/baby relationship should be seen as a bonus. If you can't relate outside of the roleplaying aspect then your relationship is not going to work because like I said, in reality, you can't roleplay 24/7.... I personally would be bored with it, and it wouldn't be all that special... I love my adult life and I know that the AB is part of me, and does not control me, unfortuantely for some it does, and thats not healthy. Also, the AB side of the relationship should be met as well, because we all know, including myself, if that AB side is not met, sadness, depression can set in. You need some kind of release as well My story.... I met my daddy online over 3 years ago in the abdl yahoo room... We actually were friends for three months before even moving into the daddy/baby relationship. We established a friendship even before the talk of anything more came about. We talked online and on the phone for 6 months before visiting each other. After about three visits, another 6 months of talking I moved to be with him (I was in NC and he was in OR). We have been living together for 2 1/2 years, and will be married in October 2007. We have a wonderful adult relationship, our daddy/baby relationship needs a little work, which we are working on, and it is hard esp with adult life getting in the way, and those unexpected vistors like friends and families, or situations that come up unexpectedly, but we are definitely working on it, but I still love him, no matter what.....

Ahhhhh, the life of an AB living off her daddy.... can it get any better than that!?!!?!? Well, I taught preschool for 4 years in Pennsylvania, and then 3 years in North Carolina. I currently have an Associates degree in Early Childhood Education. Now living in Oregon with my daddy, I'm going back to school full time to earn my bachelors degree in Early Childhood and Elementary Education. I will graduate, hopefully with honors, in December 2007. I am looking forward to teaching again, hopefully at a 4th grade level. After about a year of teaching, I will go for my Master's degree. I am seriously thinking about teaching at a college level in the future. Until then.... I live the life that many ABs wish they did.... off of daddy

I would have to agree with jenniebear on this as far as not wanting to be accepted by the media or the world. I don't think having the world accept my lifestyle will make me any more happy than I already am. I feel what goes on in your house, in your bedroom, between your partner or just by yourself is your business and no one elses. I think that is why i enjoy the abdl websites because I am able to share these things with people who actually understand where I am coming from. I don't see a point or even understand why I need to share this with other people who are not going to understand it in the first place. I have many vanilla friends whom I have shared it with, some accepted it, some never spoke to me again, but hey, don't need friends that can't support me in my decision. I think we are just setting ourselves up for disappointment and hurt, even more than you already experience in this scene, by trying to get the media and the like to accept something that they, like I said, will never understand. I also agree with jenniebear of the fact that maybe its not so much getting society to accept it as much as it is the people around you. Maybe your thinking is, if society accepts it then maybe the people that I love around me will, unfortunatly thats not going to be the case, everyone of us is judgemental of the next person even if we try not to be. However, I do feel that if our lifestyle does come out to those who love you and they do not accept it then that is their problem not yours. I feel that if my family ever found out they would still love me, they might not accept the lifestyle as the whole, but they would still accept me as their daughter....and if I have their acceptance do I really need to have society's? After all, I'm not society's daughter. I think with any thing else in our lives, to each their own. Everyone sees things differently, what one person might think is crazy to do in their lives might be perfect for the next person. I am open minded about this scene, there are so many different aspects that go with it, and I'm still trying to understand where people are coming from. Personally, I don't understand the diaper slave aspect of it. This still boggles my mind, but I am trying to learn more about it from those whom are into it, and I think they know who they are. If I'm into the diaeprs, but don't undertand the whole diaper slave thing, then how do you expect people on the outside to accept it or even to understand something that they themsleves are not into? Do you personally understand everything that you are not into? Ok, I think I have rambled on long enough, and maybe some people won't agree with what I have to say, but its whats on my heart and my mind. I personally, don't need society to accept who I am, nor do I really care if the abdl scene gets acknowledgement in society, im not into it to be accepted by those who are ignorant in the first place. I am happy with who I am and what I am into, and I am happy to share it with my significant other, who knows and accepts it and understands it because he too is into the scene. If you want the media to accept it, and thats your wish in life, then have that wish, but don't assume everyone feels the same way as you do.