Bettypooh

Hello and welcome I began posting here not too long ago myself though I 'lurked' for more than a year. Of all the DL sites I found, this one seems to have more real people than any other. Never feel bad about what you can't do as long as you're doing what you can. Far too many people never even try to reach their potential but it seems like you're doing pretty darn good to me I hope you enjoy your time here! Bettypooh

Anytime you want to find the number of people who do things that society doesn't openly embrace you'll end up missing a lot of them. How many wear? How many will someday wear, but haven't yet? How many want to but never will? How many don't know that others are like us? It's a nice thought but I for one don't believe an accurate estimate can be made since so many of us hide. My own first encounter was a reference to DPF in(of all places)Iron Horse Magazine, an alternative biker rag Someone mentioned it in a letter they published, and a few replied about how sick it was Let's see, that was the late 70's or early 80's I think. Later on I saw a few references to DPF in some sex mags. Back then I knew I was TG but still deeply closeted, I had scary questions about my own sexual orientation, and I thought that DPF was some kind of Gay group so I never dug any deeper. And back then my own diaper desires had a more practical angle since I was still bedwetting sometimes and I thought it was why I was interested in adult diapering. Back then nobody could have found me to count me as a wearer. The internet is a wonderful thing which allowed me to find myself, find others with similar likes, and especially to find out that no matter what you think is so weird that you must be the only one, you're not alone The WWW took off as mostly American and some European which is why English is so usual. I don't know where we are now, but the vast majority of the people alive today will never be online, they can barely afford to have any clothing so it's just a dream if they think of it at all. We may not see ourselves as rich, but if you can read this you're far better off than most of the world. Looking at it that way, it's easy to understand why we can never really know how many of us there are. For myself, that makes me appreciate all those who are here with me a lot more We're just the "tip of the iceberg" so there will be many more friends to make in the future as the internet spreads Bettypooh

The worst was the one I didn't get, but the other charges I did get made up for it(riding left of center, reckless driving, and 2 for illegal passing). They estimated my speed at 120MPH in a 40 zone but they were about 5mph slow - a Kawi 1000 and I never saw them till after I had parked it. One good lawyer and nearly $800 later and all I got convicted for was an expired MC permit, WHEW! The worst speed I actually got was 80MPH in a 55 zone. He'd clocked me on radar at 123 a few miles back, but wrote me up for the lower speed because I had slowed down by the time he caught up with me. Never saw him till the end either -road testing a 70 GTX I'd just bought. $20 and a nice judge and it was done. Wish I still had that car! The worst by price was $155 for 65 in a 40 zone- I was a speed demon in my teens and that cop knew me and my car all too well That weekend my red 67 Ford got painted primer gray to match a couple others like it in the area. Funny thing, my insurance didn't go up that time! Much older now and a whole lot slower PLEASE drive sanely in case I'm out there with you Bettypooh

50 Single Construction Most nights, some weekends, occasional days

A thoroughly soaked flannel 4X6 diaper pinned on with huge chrome blanket pins, yellow rubber panties, a short purple nightie, tan slippers and a blue cotton housecoat. Other than the housecoat it's what I wore to bed last night Bettypooh

"now resides in a federal pen, after he made threatening calls" That's a good ending for the fool. In jail you learn quickly that saying and doing things has severe consequences I used to have an anger problem and I'd blow up on people like these. Out of dozens that received my wrath, only one or two applied the lesson to everybody, the others only learned to avoid me and still hurt others. Tons of money for fines and therapy and stays in the 'Graybar Hotel' taught me a lesson: revenge is usually stupid, especially if the finger can be pointed at you for doing it. I now go to great lengths to avoid problems and I'm a lot happier in life, but don't make the mistake of not leaving me a way out because the person I used to be is still there, only pushed out of the picture because that's how I want my life to be If you want to avenge someone the two best ways are to cost them as much money as you can, and to make then live in fear of the unknown person who is obviously out to get them. The second one requires some careful thought because you don't want anything to point to you. It works because a$$holes towards you are also like that towards others and they're going to have lots of enemies by the time your paths cross. I won't go into the "how to" part, but I will say it gives me great pleasure to know that my target will find themselves needing diapers so often that they'll move away as far as they can as soon as they can and never come back. Frequent but irregular 'messages' leave them guessing and in constant fear, the best revenge possible. If I know for certain who it is that has wronged me, I make sure they pay out ten times what it cost me in terms of money, and as much mental torment as I can get away with causing them. I don't waste time mulling over the matter, I just do things as the ideas come to me. I don't get angry much anymore but I do try to make sure that people get what they give. Feed them rope and they will hang themselves. Case in point: I used to live on a very bust street. A certain car would come flying through every day about the same time, endangering me and everyone else as they swerved in and out at very high speeds. I saw that the driver was dressed in blue, evidently knowing that they could get away with such stupidity. Down the road was another idiot who didn't like to wait at stop signs and pulled out in front of people. One day those two met and I was there to see it. Only bruises and totalled cars, but I saw a way to help karma along. Since I was the only witness that hung around I contrived a situation that put the first idiot at fault since the second idiot seemed to now understand why you don't pull out in front of people. The severity of the crash made it clear that the first idiot was flying low and he couldn't deny it now. The first idiot no longer wears blue and the second idiot is courteous now and waits his turn. If I never do anything else in life this alone makes my heart as warm as a freshly wet diaper Beware-You will get what you give sooner or later! Bettypooh

Beat it? Sure Or would you prefer a paddling? Just kidding Repaid! Friday I filled up at my my usual stop for $1.73 a gallon(no typos and no kidding!) Here in SC, gas prices are almost always the lowest in the nation However the wages are the same way too so overall it takes about the same bite out of your budget. It's not always like that though. After the last hurricane the only pipeline serving this area was shut down for weeks. Gas(if you could find anyone who had some)was at a low of $4.23 while the rest of the nation was about $0.50 cheaper. I hear of people being gouged for $4.85 but I didn't see that. That didn't matter so long as you could get gas. The biggest line I had to wait in was 17 people ahead of me but I saw much worse. Some time ago I asked a couple mechanics about storing gas. They both said that today's gasoline doesn't store well and to use it within a couple months. Something about gumming and varnish and inbjectors. I discovered the problem after my lawnmower wouldn't start He said to use something called Stabil which you can get at any auto parts place so now it goes into the lawnmower tank at the end of summer. Just make sure to run the mower awhile so it gets into the carb and not just the tank. It does seem to work, and it's cheaper than the repair bill I paid to learn the trick. Hopefully there won't be much need for this thread anymore but you never know! Bettypooh

Me either and I agree Back when I drank(ok, more honestly I was a drunk ) I often thought a sippy cup would go a long ways to saving dropped drinks I kind of wish I'd went there back then Bettypooh

Oh, the tenderness of youth(and all of it's worries too) Like others have said, this is something that is going to stay with you. You can stop doing it if your willpower is strong enough but no amount of willpower can make you not want it. As strange as it may seem, for many people the best way to control it is to do it and get it over with, so the desire will go away till the next time. The danger of that method is that for everyone else, doing it will increase the desire. Try this only if you're ready for either result! For myself, increased allowance made for increased need which forced me to accepting who I really am and allowing more room in my life for my needs. All in all I'm happier now "Diapersforme"and "Flexigirl" suggested professional help. Well, I've been there about other issues and I know this: All they can do for you is to help you learn how to deal with life in the real world. They cannot modify your innermost desires, thoughts, and feelings. They can only suggest ways to deal with them. Any therapist who tries to change you lacks the most basic understanding of their field, namely that you are who and what you are and that can't be changed. By causing another an inner conflict you always create more problems than you solved. If your therapist thinks otherwise you should find a better one right away because denial always fails(except maybe for Ostriches ). "Opie" compared this to an addiction. I'm with him on having beaten addictions and I hope we both stay clean for our own good. (Kudo's on your 4 years Opie, I'm at 5 with my last one and over ten with my worst one). Part of beating an addiction is recognizing the way you got there so you can avoid that path, just like he said. But this isn't an addiction! You are already 'there' and have been from the start. You can't escape it like you beat an addiction although you can use similar methods to gain better control of your life. If you find that something triggers the desire then you can learn to avoid that trigger, but you can't avoid what has always been inside of you: running from yourself always fails If you are as stuck with diapers as the rest of us here are, about the best you'll ever manage to do is to learn how to deal with it. Be smart about it. Don't take chances with others finding out unless you really want them to know. Realize that once a secret has been released you can no longer control how far it may go. Know that whoever you thought might be OK with it might turn out otherwise, and vice-versa. Make a safe place in your life for this need and don't wait until it overwhelms you to do it. If you bend with it, it will not break you. If you stand up to it then it might. If you find your soulmate, before accepting a lifetime comittment from them, bare your soul. If they truly love you they will understand, but that's no guarantee thet they can deal with it and you might lose them. If you truly love them, you'll chance your own loss rather than see them hurt that badly decades later when it is discovered. Quit worrying so much about what others might think and go on living your own life wherever it's path leads you. You are young so there's plenty of time for you to go back to another path should you discover that you want to. Seek intelligence, tolerance of human diversity, and most of all happiness and you'll do well in life. Been there done that and got quite a few T-shirts, even if they're a bit wet at the bottom Bettypooh(the long-winded)Bedwetter

Welcome welcome I would like to know if you use diaper doublers for some odd reason(just kidding!)

Hi, hugs, and welcome Bee Don't worry about being a shy lurker, I was too. Of the many DL places online, this one seems to be as good as it gets so I hope you'll feel at home here. About the 'left coast', I was born there and have lived there some in the upper half. In some way's it's a great place to be but in other ways it's simply awful(just my opinion, YMMV!). My heart is here in the south where living is slower, easier for the most part, and a heck of a lot cheaper! I hope you like your new town and quickly make some friends there(and here too!) Bettypooh

Call me biased if you must, but on 3 occasions my peace-loving and non-provocative self stayed safe and alive simply because I made it known visually that I was armed. I didn't point it, I just let them have a good look at the side of it as I stared at them. The rapist, the rednecks, and the violent drunk all suddenly became nice and polite but they all forgot to wave goodbye as they rushed away hastily Perhaps they momentarily forgot their manners? Seriously, in the real world today you'd better be ready for emergencies because the help you need may not arrive in time to do you any good. That's the reason I keep a fire extinguisher and a first aid kit handy, too. Any sane person can see the logic in it. If you can't, I can recommend a therapist and shrink near my home(who BTW both said I was the sanest person they'd ever known)! Bettypooh

No, you don't have to declare them. While I have no personal experience, I saw this topic elsewhere about 2002/3 when things were touchy with airport security. Several people had their bags opened and those closest to them saw but nothing was said. The bag was closed quietly and they were on their way. One guy was asked if they belonged to him(yes), another was asked to step over for a full bag search. The worst was a cloth wearing guy who didn't think when dressing and used pins. When the hand-held metal detector went off it was strip search time Remember, incontinence is not illegal and with it goes certain needs, so they can't stop you from having diapers in your luggage in the USA. Later on someone posted claiming to be a TSA person and they said it was not uncommon to see adult diapers in luggage. They recommended to put them underneath everything else so that if they lift that, the diapers will be more covered to keep others from seeing. And if a TSA person says anything, just tell them that you need them and would they please quit embarassing you? That should get you on your way. The TSA people have a job to do but they know that they can be fired for doing something stupid just like anyone else can. If a TSA person does go too far, report them to the terminal manager immediately, even if it embarasses you. That's the only way problems can be found and fixed. Really, I wouldn't worry about it because anyone who does chance to see your diapers will be someone you'll probably never see again. Bettypooh

There's so much that governments do that isn't spoken of and so many stupid mistakes made that I am for putting all on them on a spaceship and sending them to another planet(along with all the ones who used to be in office or want to run for office). I'll volunteer to hit the launch button I like your "Wetnesday", it's a fave word of mine I started a blog which is why I haven't been posting here but I still read it. Well I have to take the trash can to the curb for pick-up today and put the contents of my diaper pail in there, and as usual I'm running short on time so I'll wish everyone a happy "Poopsday" on the way out the door Bettypooh

People everywhere have more in common than differences, and everyone deserves respect for that. If you give respect and consideration it usually comes back to you quickly The USA isn't at the forefront of enviromental and social issues, though we're much better than most. Our biggest asset is our personal individual freedom, but that's the main reason we are often slow at agreeing to do things that need to be done, which makes it our biggest liability too I'm no linguist, but I can identify at least ten dialects in 3 different states within 150 miles of me. For instance I used to live in "gusta jawja"(Agusta Georgia)and that's how the people raised there say it. I'm over a hundred miles north of there now so don't laugh(unless you want to )when I close with: Y'all have a good'n, OK? Bettypooh

I just checked the sellers name and it is correct. They aren't selling anything right now but I checked their "ebay My World" and they're still active with 100% positive feedback on 171 sales. I looked deeper and saw a single negative from someone who resold their prooducts and was blocked and 7 neutrals; some for slow shipping and some for bad communications and a couple for having the wrong pic. The pic on mine was right, the shipping time normal, but I didn't get any messages from them after paying. As soon as I see how well this thick plastic lasts I plan on ordering some more I just need to know how many to get Bettypooh

A wet bed is a problem? I didn't know that I guess I wouldn't since I want to be diaper-incon at night I won't get up until I'm ready and if I leaked, then so be it It's all part of the experience for me Not all of my diaper covers work well, and I pick a style of diaper that I feel will be adequate but not more than I think I will need that night. Choosing a diaper is part of the fun for me too so you see I sometimes leak more than a little when I get things wrong I want to wet in my sleep so I put up with whatever goes along with that gladly. May you get what you desire too! Bettypooh

Damn Betty...perhaps you shouldn't post..J/K, that was just freak'n depressing...hope things work out for everyone. Well I WAS asked to post, and every day can't be sunny, can it? FYI, I got the dreaded voice mail mid-post. It was expected to happen anytime as his Mom has been in the hospotal with no hope for a few weeks. When you get old, that kind of thing happens. I hate the guys at work got canned, but they weren't pulling their weight and had been on short notice for over a month. We will find a way to deal with a lower price, the sunny side of that is that we were given a chance and NOT the axe. A work pow-wow today has set the path for the near future, and soon they will see what a bargain we really are. So you see, all is as good as it can be except that I missed some diaper time. Now that WAS depressing (but it's cured now too ) Crinkle crinkle! Bettypooh

I didn't disclose to my therapist back when I was seeing her because it wasn't a big issue to me back then. I knew the DL was there but I had hoped it would go away once my other problems were worked out(it didn't of course . It got stronger and I'm not unhappy about that). Once I learned how to deal with my depression and my other problems it wasn't hard figuring out how to deal with this. Even if other people don't understand you, as long as you learn to understand yourself and find your own best path in life it will have all been worth it Never give up on yourself even when things seem gloomy because the sun will shine on you again someday. Good luck! Bettypooh

Up at 3:20 today, and dry because I fell asleep on the sofa after a long day at work. 2 1/2 hours till it's time to go back to the grind. The "big guy" paid a visit to the job and informed my boss that we either cut our prices or lose our work I won't lose anything but 2 others will "get the axe" today and I may have to work longer and harder than before And now a voice mail left for me to pass along to a friend who doesn't have a phone that his Mom just died. I guess I'd better get over there and pass the bad news along so it looks like I won't get any diaper-time in this morning. Maybe the rest of the day will be better. Bettypooh

It's an honor to be the first reply here Yesterday was a good one for me. I'd been slammed time-wise and overstressed till I got home, so I used my favorite relaxation technique- I diapered I needed rest so I went to bed early. I had to change before bedtime and that one was a little wet when I laid down. I woke once to pee and enjoyed not having to get up, and when I woke up I was soaked so I must have peed again in my sleep And that's what I want to do so yeah, yesterday was a really good day I guess

Alone at home I often wait till I leak before changing, but not iut in public Old clothes and upcoming laundry, and no pooping means that it isn't a problem My first purchase of disposables was very embarassing and they went too fast so I sort of decided to never waste my diapers by not using them fully My first DL disposable desires were for the old single-tape plastic backed Pampers. On a baby the first leakage was wherever was on bottom. On a toddler the first leakage was at the legs in the rear. I remember seeing a lot of that and wishing that I could be in a fully soaked Pampers too Luck was with me and I found a limited source of adult-sized plastic backed single tape pulp only folded disposables They don't hold much, fit loosely, and compared to any of today's disposables would be an awful diaper, but I love them No cover and waiting till my clothes are wet are mandantory for these. I just love to see the leakage in my mirror before I change But usually I don't want leaks just like most of us here and I always use some kind of diaper cover which helps that a lot.

A very wet Wings under pink plastic panties and a long beige VF nightie

In the discovery stage of my Transgenderness I met a lot of crossdressers and heard their stories of coming out to the wife. I know it's a bit different than DL but neither hurts anyone and both are really just clothing issues on the surface, though the deeper meanings may differ. Most wife-worries are that 1) People are going to find out and she's going to have to deal with that. 2) It's going to get out of hand and end up as #1. 3) You're going to want her to do things she doesn't want to do. 4) It will lead to your infidelity. 5) She's intolerant and going to think you're a sicko for being different. You know her better than anyone here so I think you will know if #5 applies. If it does, forget coming out to her, it will backfire sooner or later. For the rest, you need to assure her that you will keep it within her limits, not yours. And take it s-l-o-w! Unless she's really hip to it, give yourself at least a year to go as far as you want to, and always watching and listening to her feelings, respecting her own wants and needs completely along the way. Remember that you are sharing a life as one and she's an equal half of that! Lose sight of that and you'll lose her. The "when to tell" is very important. Best is a time when you're both happy, comfy, and alone with plenty of time to talk about ituninterrupted. If you can arrange for something else to open the subject(like a small reference in a movie)that's best since you can explore it without admitting it. Just say something like "that might be fun" or "he doesn't look too bad like that", then take your cues from there. Once you see that she's willing to discuss it, don't just blurt it out, but calmly tell her that you've done that before. She's either going to want to know more or she'll cut you off. Again, follow the clues. Hopefully it goes on! If she's really open ans wanting to know, then tell her everything. Make her understand that you have tried to stop and that you can't, and that you want to share this with her if she's OK with it. Make her understand that you will never do anything without her knowing about it and that she will decide how far it goes. With any luck you've made it through by then. The "how to tell" is important too. Only a few get away with 'dropping the bomb' by being found fully engaged in the habit. Shocking someone is almost always going to cause them to feel hurt first and foremost. Well thought out words have the least shock factor so talk it over and be totally honest. If you have a picture of yourself dressed up it might help, but don't use a pic on the computer or she'll think you've shared it with others first, maybe the whole world if the pic is online. She needs to know that you've put her first and foremost in the beginning(though the truth is different, this is one time that lying is probably best! If it goes well you can reveal and explain the reason for lying later on. If it goes bad, you haven't given her anything to use against you. You must give her all the time she needs to think about it. Pushing it on her will bring pushing back and rejection so go slowly. Coming out is a process of sharing, and you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. You may be under great pressure but don't add to her burden by overloading her with every detail at the start. Stay in her comfort zone, not yours! There will hopefully be plenty of time to reveal all the details you want to share with her. Beware the future. Many wives will explore awhile, then want you to stop. You know that you can't, so then you must choose between lying and doing it anyway hoping she doesn't find out, or losing her. Sometimes they'll still be OK with it but not in "her house" anymore. Unless you have a very trusting and close relationship your issue will be held against you in arguments and breakups. In the end you might have to choose between her and this once she knows. Then again it can be the best thing you've ever done if it works out for you both. As long as she understands that you aren't going to go beyond her limits, you'll usually find a comprimise that works or both of you. Coming out is the hardest thing you'l ever do because it's a lie you've been hiding fot so long. It's only really necessary with those who you should be totally honest with, or those who you know are going to be directly affected by it. It is beyond your control once you tell, so be careful with who knows unless you're ready to be more out than you intended. Many who you thought couldn't handle it will be OK and many who you thought would be OK with it won't. You never know until it's a done deed and too late to do anything about it. In the end, you are the only one who can make a good decision about coming out. How it goes will largely depend on how well you've chosen your mate and your friends, how those relationships were built, and how strong they are. How it goes after initial acceptance will depend on you're not pushing the issue. All of life is a risk with choices to be made that will decide your future happiness, and you can never know everything that those choices will bring. I hope my long reply helps you make a good decision and I hope it's the right one for you. Bettypooh

"I think it needs to be added that a fetish is not by nature a behavior that arises to a "clinically significant" psycological event." You are entitled to your opinion, and rightly so. I based my remarks on the current Diagnostic Standards of Medicine manual(DSM4) which is the medical standard worldwide and in courts of law to make determinations of diagnoses. And I agree with their assesment. But where does one draw thew line of "significant" at? Even the DSM states that there are no clearly defined guidelines for that. In the end, I think it is significant if it you think it is. I can't judge that any more than anyone can(even a trained shrink). "Just because we like diapers does not make us psychos." Having a condition that is listed in the DSM does NOT make one a "psycho", which is a totally different thing than a fetishist. Just about everybody is "abnormal" to some degree(which is why I believe that we are all 'normal' really)but most of those quirks are mentioned in the DSM somewhere, and it's the degree of difference that cinches the diagnosis. "When I was an early teenager I found a PLAYBOY and became aroused. Thereafter, anytime I wanted to be excited sexually I reached for a PLAYBOY. Was this then a fetish?" Yes, at that time it was a fetish because it was more significant than experiencing the real thing. I'm sure that has changed as you grew and I'd bet that while you still enjoy certain erotic pictures(like we all do), it isn't a fetish anymore. As I explored my own gender issues I became very familiar with psycotherapy, psycology, and how the medical and legal communities see and handle these kinds of issues. I did the research and found that much to my surprise, by their standards everyone could be proven to be some kind of nut if someone wanted to do that. What gets my goat is that if the preceding statement is true, then being nuts is being normal! And if it isn't true, then their whole idea of defining normality is wrong! They're supposed to be well educated and yet they can't even see the obvious paradox of their system......which they list as a psycosis, so we get the psycotics diagnosing us as nuts. Oh brother! Can't we just see that unless you're harming an innocent person, you're not doing anything wrong? So does it really matter of diapers are a fetish or not? Of course not! I think that sums up my own feelings rather succinctly. Be careful of the things you ask; you may get rhe answers and they may not be the ones that you wanted to get! Bettypooh