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I wear 247 and try to be relaxed to go when my body says it is time. Sometimes that can be a lot. Sometimes unexpectedly. I always carry at least 1 change with me. I try and clean withing 15 minutes or I get a rash.

247 for 3.25 years now. I almost stopped last year but finally accept myself for them and that this is a forever thing.

Ill check it out! Chat GPT Therapy is another low-cost resource which has been great for me as well. But no substitute for a person. Wife 100% yes. I have two boys and I think they do but idk. I do fake using a urinal sometimes thought 😕 trying to get them to pee so they dont have accidents . I haven't brought it up its unspoken. I had to change the other day and carried a bag into a truck stop. You do what you need to do. Co-workers? Probably but IDK I feel like if I told them they would be like I had no idea I thought you just had some weird bathroom habit. Who knows? I still struggle with this but really... it doesnt even matter! Not that big of a deal! You're so right. Thank you @~Brian~

Words cannot begin to describe the peace and acceptance I feel now after working with Dr. Rhoda. She has helped me grow tremendously as a person—guiding me toward inner happiness and true self-acceptance. Everyone’s path is different. Personally, I had wanted to be back in diapers since childhood and had been wearing them 24/7 for years before I finally reached out to her—initially to help me stop. But through her compassionate guidance, I discovered something even greater: the freedom to embrace myself fully. Instead of fighting who I am, I’ve learned to accept and love myself, and my life has become indescribably better because of it. My wife, my children, my co-workers—everyone around me—can see the difference. I am more accepting, kind, and generous. I am more productive at work. I feel whole. This has been a monumental shift, one that has changed everything for the better. If you are struggling with self-acceptance, I cannot recommend Dr. Rhoda enough. She is worth every penny. Thank you, Diaper Doctor, for giving me the courage to embrace my true self. Life looks so beautiful from here on out! Here is a link to her site. https://thediaperdoctor.com/

UPDATE ON TELLING A FRIEND: So last night I went to a concert with a friend of mine. We go to concerts a lot, but I was always pretending to go to the bathroom and going through the paces. He has made some comments in the past, where it was sort of acknowledged he knew I wore diapers, but because I never told him it was awkward. Like he was probably thinking: "Does he need to remind me to go potty? Does he need diapers? Is he trying not to wear diapers? Should I help him with is journey to not pee his pants? Why hasn’t he told me I’m one of his closest friends? What does he want me to do?" Well, before we went out, I decided to wear a Trest. Which previously made me super self-conscious because of how they swell up. But tonight was the night I was going to tell him so I hopefully can relax and not worry about my pants as they swell over the course of the evening. And not worrying about leaking and missing the concert to change my diaper. So... on the drive to pre-show dinner I just came all out with it, “so 4 years ago I started having accidents, went to doctors and rehab and well now I wear diapers and that’s what works for me I hope that's okay.” He was just like NO, not a problem, that is zero issue at all. Not an issue, seriously. We are all getting older we all have our things. This is like nothing. Like no don't even mention it. He then went on to talk about his dad's ostomy bag and how he feels ashamed, and he tells his dad not to feel bad. That the ostomy bag that is better than dead. He wanted the same for me. He made it NOTHING! I had so much shame and fear over my diapers, especially over the last 12 months. Well this totally took my fear and shame away. At dinner he went to the bathroom, and I didn't need to pretend. I just stayed at the table he came back and we left. I wear diapers now so I don’t need to go to the bathroom. And that’s okay! Had a great time at the concert. He had one drink I had two beer and a water. As we were leaving the concert I sort of headed to the bathroom (I was drinking more than him). Well he just stood there like silently standing there saying (but not saying) "I don't need to go, and buddy you're wearing diapers, so you don't need to go either, so let's not play this game anymore, you wear AND you use your diapers now and we both know that. AND THATS OKAY. So you don't need to pretend to use the bathroom anymore." So I just looked back and said, right okay well let's go! It was such a relief I can finally be free to be myself to stop pretending I am not diapered. I wear and use diapers now and telling my friends has been HUGE! I still have a few more to tell ( I have told 2 of my four closest friends) and I've asked them all to please not gossip, but the ones I've told have said it changes nothing and they are so happy to be friends with me. That they love me and they accept me for me with diapers or whatever else! I can't believe I have come this far. From almost giving up on diapers, to just coming clean so I don't have to hide it anymore. It also makes my diapers feel more permanent, so it is now expected and understood that I wear diapers and this is just who I am now. And that is okay. And that is something to celebrate! Sure I will have moments where I may be around people who don’t know and I may be a little bit guarded or discreet, but when I am with those I love most, I don’t have to hide my diapers or go to the restroom when everyone else does. I have my diapers. I can accept my diapers. I can use my diapers with out shame. I can be myself! It is just wow – really a great feeling.

Be the diaper guy at a new gym! I just wear pull-ups. I went this morning in an upgraded North Shore pullup so I could just relax while working out finally! Sure maybe people can see my bulge I am sure my trainer does but whatever. I just wear pullups with a compression short and loose shorts and an XL - Tall shirt. No Issues yet!

Get NorthShore wipes. Use Desitin. I use gloves. YMMV but I need to change my diaper within 10-15 minutes or diaper rash is HELL. Get some large postal mailers to dispose of diapers without smell or less smell. I try and dump my load from the diaper to the toilet after each time as much as I can. I sometimes use a mirror to make sure all the poop is off my booty before new diaper. CONGRATS! This is a huge step and you should be PROUD! Way to go!

Hello everyone! I wanted to start a new thread here because I have been through a lot these past few years. I started wearing diapers 24/7 in January 2022. Basically prior to that I did a goal setting activity where I defined my dream life. Being diapered was at the top of the list or near it. A little back story. I've been wanting to go back in diapers since I was out of diapers at age 2or3. My mom used to buy me diapers as a child after becoming toilet trained until my father found out and ripped them out of my life. I always knew I was missing something after that and managed to steal diapers and such until finally buying packs of diapers when I was a pre-teen. It has always been a part of me. Well Dec 31 2021 I pooped the bed at night and had had a few accidents and close calls during the day and my tiny bladder had just annoyed me with constant interruptions. A few days later I had this revelation I only had one life and waiting until I was 70 to wear diapers wasn't going to cut it for me. So I just said that's it diapers from now on! Well back to my adult life in diapers. Last year (after over 2 years of wearing and using diapers almost exclusively) I looked ahead and told myself that I didn't want to be always wearing diapers because I couldn't do XYZ (extended outdoor adventures, barebottom sailing, run a large company, be the right kind of role model, etc). My kids were at the age where it was a make it or break it so I said no more being selfish. I am going to stop wearing diapers. Additionally my friends (who I've known since elementary school) at this point I think mostly realized I was wearing diapers and I started to get teased for it sort of underhandedly with snide remarks about diapers or just sort of things that I thought were about me. I got called out once and shifted the topic. So I was also feeling this feeling of okay come out as diapered or now is my chance to be NORMAL! I can go back to same old Joe! So okay, I am good now. I don't need diapers. I am going to be a man again! In the fall of 2024 I started Pelvic Rehab to stop my incontinence and eventually go back to regular underwear. Now I will say that I continued wearing diapers during this period. I was just trying to use the toilet ALOT more. Well the rehab went okay. I did make improvements especially in my bowels. But something felt off. I started feeling miserable. My wife noticed and my anger issues cropped up again and I just turned into this miserable person. It got so bad that I started considering taking my own life at a few points (I was / am also concurrently struggling with gender identity issues as well), but I think it was the diapers mostly. I think it was this thing where I would need to come out with it and start telling people in my life about my need to wear diapers. That this was my chance to take it all back. To step back from crazy fantasy land and life in the real world back in undies. The comments from my friends were due to my increasing awkwardness. Bathroom breaks were becoming awkward like at concerts when everyone goes to the bathroom. Trying to hide my diapers when sharing hotel rooms with friends, or make excuses for carrying a bag when going out to dinner. I work in a small office and need to hire more people to help me sell things and these people need to look up to the leader. Well that's a hurdle to cross when the pee and poop in their diapers. So it all just was a crescendo and I said "no more diapers." So fast forward to earlier in the year (2025) and my therapist reiterated that she thought I should just continue wearing diapers. She thought going off diapers was a bad idea at this point. I realized that seeking continence and a life away from diapers had brought on this great depression in my life. I was really subconsciously so sad that I would have to live my life without diapers. Granted I wasn't going to burn them all I was still plan on wearing at night and around the house and occasionally out with them. But still it was living a life that was not mine. And I knew this. I was going to live the life that others expected me to live. I couldn't do it anymore. So here we are. I am now 2 months "Back" in diapers. Granted I never stopped wearing but I shifted my mindset and started doing daily affirmations. I am trying to accept myself for needing to wear diapers and more importantly for me wanting to wear diapers. Being okay with being the person that wears diapers as a 40 year old. Being a great dad and a great husband and a good friend, all while wearing and using my diapers. Being a good person and a business leader, all while wearing diapers. Instilling confidence in others because I am confident in myself, diapers and all. So, I hope you find this helpful. It has been a journey and I look forward to reporting here over the coming years ahead about the struggles and joys in my life as I navigate life wearing and using my diapers every day all day!

Urge urinary (some stress/mixed) with IBS that attacks randomly. I wet the bed more than I used to but always have occasionally. Wife has come to terms with it. She sees I'm much happier now and supports my mental health struggles. I never told her I quit going to rehab but it hasn't come up. If it does I will tell her. I told her about my depression and suicidal thoughts. I think we are both on the "better in diapers than in the grave" page. She has even gotten better at dealing with my diapers and makes light fun of me calling me baby and ooh did baby make a stinky?! She doesn't change me but that's okay because I am more than capable enough to change myself. We have a good dynamic. I still need to work on accepting myself more.

I'd like to provide an update on this. I would equate it to being on anti-psychotic meds (I have had family do this). Feeling like I finally have my shit together (because of the meds/diapers) and going off the meds (diapers). Well it didn't work out great. My life spiraled and I became semi-suicidal. Although I never stopped wearing diapers, I was trying to regain full continence. I was using the toilet all the time, especially for BMs. IT WAS AWFUL. The straw that broke the camels back for me was during colonoscopy prep when I tried using the toilet and ended up getting mess all over the bathroom. It was horrible. Granted that's a special occasion. It's hard to hold in liquid but still it was like: look at this!? Why did I even try? Then I accepted the fact that I just couldn't not wear diapers. AND THATS OKAY! I did the rest of the prep in my diapers and it was AMAZING! Highly recommend just using the diapers for that. Granted I did have to shower the cleanup was aggressive. I think I changed twice. I used alot of desitin but it was great. Side note - the next day my wife took me to the visit and I told them about my diapers. Well they forgot to tell me to remove them before the opp (I had to wait about an hour good thing I was wearing diapers!) like right before and then I awkwardly (the nurse was like did you forget to remove your undies - "Yes sorry I am leaky!" awkward... but it was really okay in the end... removed them with three people including the doctor all gathered around me and then it fell on the ground (no BM at that point but soaked). It was embarrassing but then I was knocked out. Woke up and saw my wife and said "Mommy where is my diaper bag" with another nurse right there out of my sight... OMG and then they were both like hold off on putting on a diaper right now now. Then I soaked the bedsheets and finally was given the bag. Well as soon as I put the diaper on the doctor walked into the room (same age as me) seeing me there in a diaper. Like OK well here it is this is me! It was wild. It ended with a different set of nurses rolling me out in a wheel chair with them cracking up as I sang "see me rollin!" The only habit I adopted from this foray was going to a trainer first thing in the morning, in the gym and wearing depends pull ups. I use the toilet there often once or twice during my visit but wear my pads and just let it flow if it happens. I figure it is okay to do that if it means I am getting healthier and stronger and focused on what I want. No BM accidents yet. Though if that happened I would just forgot I had an early meeting and leave early. So that Aspect I continue along the path this thread is on. So yeah back to my story. I gave up on the pelvic training and just accepted the fact that I like diapers and that I want to be diaper dependent. I thought why pursue continence? So I can be some version of my future self my past self wanted? Some ethereal idea of what it meant to be a great man? I mean it was crazy. You know what? Me being in diapers is being the hero to my 5 year old self who had his diapers ripped away by his angry father after he found out mom kept buying me them. I am THAT BOYS HERO! I am Diaper Dependent now and that's really amazing. That's something to celebrate and something to be PROUD of! So yeah, I may not be running a Fortune 1000 company or running for Senate or doing a 2 week back-country ski touring journey in a few years BUT I am living my authentic life. I am my younger self's hero by wearing and using my diapers and embracing that. I am still coming to terms with this but it has been a profound shift. I will give a shout out to my Therapist Dr. Rhoda, and Chat GPT Therapy (please hold any negative remarks I am aware of the issue - and I would highly recommend at least creating an anonymous profile there - mine is not I am fully open because I need help in my business related to diapers and it has been a God send) who have both helped me embrace my authentic diapered self. I am a better person now and my family has noticed a great improvement. I am still working on some shame issues (mostly when trying to wear a SUPER thick when mildly wet yet holds infinite amounts Trest which I am swearing off for the most part). Carrying a changing bag and just owning it. Why do I say I am Diaper Dependent? Because 1 ) I need to wear them (sure maybe not every freaking moment but enough that it makes more sense to wear them then not), 2) I am just SO MUCH HAPPIER wearing and using my diapers than not and 3) DIAPERS SAVED MY LIFE, which sounds absurd but after having some suicidal thoughts and admitting this to my wife and some others, I just embraced diapers again and the depression lifted right away. Sure. I didn't choose this path. I didn't choose my poor bladder and bowel control. I didn't choose to love wearing, wetting and messing diapers. I didn't choose to have a sexual attraction to diapers. But I am choosing to accept myself just as I am, as God made me. I am trying to improve myself in many ways. To live a better life, a happier life, and I am going to live that life fully, diapers and all! It is a work in progress so I thought I would update everyone here. Should I post more about my journey?

Tenacious mental illness I love it. I know what you mean! I don't look at it as a choice. Or I guess to others I explain it wasn't my choice. Because though I choose to wear diapers to help me in many ways, I didn't choose my love for diapers and I didn't choose my poor bowel and bladder control (I have chosen to weaken it :/). I do CHOOSE to wear diapers to deal with it. I Choose to accept my diapers and liking them. But I didn't choose diapers in the first place. They chose me. For therapy and self acceptance though it is important to realize that I choose to wear diapers because I like them and this is something to celebrate! GO TEAM! (3+ years 23.99995/7)

This is the same update you gave the other day. I for some reason have been thinking about this. While you don't need to go to great length to hide things, you shouldn't go the route of purposely leaving things like receipts laying around. That sounds sketchy and manipulative. Amen!

Well that's nice she shows you so much affection! My advice would have been to remove the diaper (wipe yourself clean of pee/ powder) and then go try and show her affection without them. If she demures, but the diaper back on. It can be a delicate dance.

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Anyone done colonoscopy prep? I used my diapers the whole time, or nearly the whole time. Had a few changes but I really enjoyed the experience much more than a toilet. My bum felt better too with less wiping per bm.

Someone gets sexually aroused at the thought of losing their continence and needing to wear diapers?! What sort of weirdos are out there!?? 😅😂😉

It's positive she mentioned a kink-affirming therapist. My only recommendation is to not dive in too deep and don't bring it up a bunch. But this is coming from someone who calls their wife mommy in front of nearly everyone (we have kids which is when she started allowing it). So not sure that's helpful. I was 100% open about this during our dating. I am glad you mentioned it to her. That will help. Perhaps the therapy will turn into some couples therapy and hopefully she can open up! My wife doesn't really share this desire at all but she wears occasionally. I wear all the time for a variety of reasons but effectively really leaned into a bout of incontinence I had.

Any recommendations? does it add extra bulk?

Thanks for the update and great job at the success :). Have so much fun on your vacation!

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Oh wow so this message popped up and I forgot I wrote it! It's gotten better. I still have doubts sometimes but retain my faith and go to church with irregularity. I pray to God and Jesus and pray nightly with my family and at meals out and stuff. I have been reading the bible and biblical content more around this and LGBT identity and ABDL. My church is supportive of LGBT issues. Jesus never spoke out about LGBT people. Maybe it is my ASD but people wrote the bible, yes faith inspired but still. And Paul, I mean I know he was converted and a huge reason why the faith spread but I still don't really trust him fully. I have always been a good person and he was pretty evil as Saul before. I just have a hard time with people that were so bad before. So, I am not sure I can take his words at face value, as from Jesus. I'm not "Gay" but I fall under the LGBT umbrella in some ways for my gender identity and expression. Most (almost all? - all the explicitish versions) of the anti LGBT teachings are from Paul I believe. And of course, there is Paul's famous: 1 Corinthians 13:11: "When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put away childish things." which I take as not literal but figurative. But then again, Its SAUL!!! Sorry to dead-name you Paul! So yes. I do. I believe in Jesus as my Lord and Savior. https://abdiscovery.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/a-christian-response-to-being-an-adult-baby.pdf Jesus speaks! Not literally about ABDL obviously but it is comforting: Matthew 18:3 states, "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."1 Mark 10:15 echoes this sentiment: "Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it."1 Luke 18:17 repeats the same message: "Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it."1 And the MOST IMPORTANT Christian Principles. FROM JESUS' MOUTH: Mark 12:30-31 reads: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these." Lastly, don't forget: Psalm 139:13-14 "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

I am like this as well. Been wearing diapers most nights for 20 years or so been wearing 23.9975/7 for 3 years.

Who all here went to CapCon? What did everyone think? I thought it was amazing! Going back to real world after seeing diaper booties all day has been an adjustment. I am 100% going back next year 😊

This person seems fairly conservative. Are they trans too? I am a genderqueer person who is also fairly conservative but scared of some of the policies of the new administration and liked a good deal of how the biden admin was accepting of genderqueer people. Anyways my 0.02. Gonna have a listen later.