DL going through counselling - need advice!

[nappy-cub]

Hi all,

I've recently been going through counselling and need to hear your advice on this particular matter. If you've seen my page, you may have noticed I did ABDL artwork/edits. Doing these edits has been problematic recently as I believe they contributed to my addiction to pornography (or any kink images that "helped" me).

During this period of counselling, I have abstained from masturbation and have stopped making edits and artwork. I have started to work on myself and aimed to live a healthier lifestyle, both mentally and physically. I work out often, eat healthier and am currently staying away from viewing kink/porn related content as much as possible.

My question for the community is this: when do you think it would be best for me to resume wearing nappies? As a DL, I love the feel of wearing nappies but don't trust myself to not masturbate whilst wearing. I am currently trying to re-wire my brain to respond sexually to touch rather than images and nappies.

I haven't brought up my ABDL side to my counselling sessions. I don't wish to "cure" or remove this. I am comfortable with liking what I like. I just worry that I might undo my hard work by going back to indulging in my kink too early.

Any help/thoughts on this would be massively appreciated, especially if you have experienced similar doubts.

[babystevie1987]

I don't think you can cure the thoughts of wanting to wear diapers. But I am sure you can some how lessen the want to masturbate while wearing. I think the more wear the less you may want to masturbate in them. It has for me. I enjoy the feel, comfort and security diapers bring me when wearing and that is enjoy. Seen girls in diapers and diaper art can turn me but I don't have a burning desire to want to cum all the time.

I hope counselling works out for you

[rusty pins]

Sounds like a better question for the counselor you are going to.  You are going to them to help you out with your issues, don't take any possible counter advice from people here if you really want to get help for yourself.  That's like having a professional you went to for help with a problem tell you not to do something and then turning to someone else and asking, "What do you think?"  If you really want help, just do what your counselor suggests.

[safeandhappy]

2~7 years.

[DiaperboyEddie12]

I agree with @rusty pins on this we are not trained counselors or therapist.  
though in your next session bring up your fetish and explain to that person about why you wear them.  
there is nothing wrong with wearing diapers if it doesn’t interfere with your adult life.

[nappy-cub]

Thanks everyone for your responses, I really appreciate it! My next session is tomorrow, following a two week gap.

I will bring up that I have a kink, but I don't think I need to explain it being ABDL. My sessions have focused on my internet usage and relationship struggles. I don't wish to be "free" of ABDL. I know what I like and am happy with that (everyone has their "thing", right?). My discussion will be centered on feeling like I would be undoing my hard work so far by indulging my kink again too soon.

I will let you know how I get on, and thanks again for engaging me in this discussion

[willnotwill]

I went through counselling because of my DL tendencies.    Pretty much my doc said that what you do in your own bedroom is up to you, but figured I could probably benefit from some group therapy anyhow.   While I discussed things with her a bit, I never brought it up in the group.    Of course, my other curiosity was piqued when one of  my other group members mentioned her husband was in to enema's during sex.   It was all I could do to avoid asking "giving or receiving?"   

 

[nappy-cub]

2 hours ago, Dee Cee said:

What ? Being wet or dirty , doesn’t even go together, with gettin off , not even close , but to each their own ! I don’t remember ever gettin wood , in anything , I used as a toilet , being i.c., for 5 1/2 + years ! And when that first happened , I just wanted to be dead , then 7-9 months later , I just found the anxiety , stress and other negative thoughts , just vanish like fog on a summers morning ! And then I will just went with the flow ! yuck , yuck ! 

I'm not incontinent, I'm a DL. Wearing nappies is my kink, which means that it has a sexual connotation for me. I actually didn't mention anything about being "wet and dirty". I appreciate that everyone's experience of wearing nappies is different, as shown by the varied responses to my post. I think you may have jumped to a conclusion that isn't fully thought through.

[Ubba]

I think it is awesome that you are going to counselling and feel comfortable discussing it online. High five my friend

I am in counselling too and while its hard it is one of the better things I have done for myself.

I think you have gotten the great advice that you need here and discuss it with your counsellor. Discuss whatever details you feel comfortable with but I would say that any counsellor worth their salt would not try and "cure " you of your kink, it would be the same as trying to "cure" you of being straight or gay. So I wouldn't feel like you can't tell the counsellor you're a dl. 

In terms of your question though I cant advise on how long to stay out of Nappies due to an addiction, but I do empathise with you. Addictions are scary. I have alcoholism in my family, but I am not the alcoholic. Despite that it is still terrifying for me to drink. (theres a long discussion here about why I do drink so not drinking is not the answer ) It is so scary how an addiction just rewires your brain. Al anon has been helping me with this but I do not know enough if there is a similar support group for someone in your situation. 

[nappy-cub]

2 hours ago, Ubba said:

I think it is awesome that you are going to counselling and feel comfortable discussing it online. High five my friend

I am in counselling too and while its hard it is one of the better things I have done for myself.

I think you have gotten the great advice that you need here and discuss it with your counsellor. Discuss whatever details you feel comfortable with but I would say that any counsellor worth their salt would not try and "cure " you of your kink, it would be the same as trying to "cure" you of being straight or gay. So I wouldn't feel like you can't tell the counsellor you're a dl. 

In terms of your question though I cant advise on how long to stay out of Nappies due to an addiction, but I do empathise with you. Addictions are scary. I have alcoholism in my family, but I am not the alcoholic. Despite that it is still terrifying for me to drink. (theres a long discussion here about why I do drink so not drinking is not the answer ) It is so scary how an addiction just rewires your brain. Al anon has been helping me with this but I do not know enough if there is a similar support group for someone in your situation. 

Thank you for your response I had my session today and it was a positive conversation. I referred to DL as my "thing", without naming it as DL or what it involved. They were understanding and that has helped me process when I can get back into wearing whilst feeling happy about doing so.