Joining The Incontinent

[mahleedl]

Update

[wolfpup2008]

Regarding the sloshing sound: there are "contoured leg bags" available that stay relatively flat when filling. They are also quieter in my experience.

[quicktip]

Congratulations on your progress, I am happy that things are moving towards your goal. Question, are you experiencing involuntary release frequently or is it still completely voluntary ?

[mahleedl]

Congratulations on your progress, I am happy that things are moving towards your goal. Question, are you experiencing involuntary release frequently or is it still completely voluntary ?

[Creepymouse]

That's exactly the state I'd like to be in. Where I can hold it if I need to (for a little bit) but so long as I'm not paying attention, things happen on their own without bringing it to my conscious for permission.

[DavidMW]

I referred to them as "surprise wettings" when they started a few weeks into my 30 days in diapers last winter.

[Creepymouse]

lol, I went six months straight on the '12 month program' and didn't have much success at all. But I don't go out much, especially to bars. ^.^

[mahleedl]

lol, I went six months straight on the '12 month program' and didn't have much success at all. But I don't go out much, especially to bars. ^.^

[DavidMW]

My 30 days from a 12-month program standpoint needs an asterisk.

[quicktip]

Hey mahleedl,

[mahleedl]

Hey mahleedl,

[wolfpup2008]

Thanks for the update.

I can relate to the post shower dribbling. It's startling and gratifying at the same time.

[diapertime42]

The other thing worth commenting on is that I did order and am trying the Afex for Men system that I stumbled upon a few weeks ago.

[mahleedl]

Unless you're wearing REALLY tight pants (ie spandex) the receptacle doesn't show at all, and if it did, it'd just look like you're well endowed

The bag literally hangs from the receptacle. It has straps that allow it to be attached to the brief, but they recommend only using them for times when you're highly active, ie sports. I haven't used them yet. I just let the bag hang, and its been working great.

The only thing I'd like to try different is the bag itself. They make a "vented" bag, which is supposed to let excess air purge from the bag without allowing liquid to pass. I find that, when I'm up walking around a lot, the bag draws air and swells. I worry that'll cause a leak, but so far it hasn't...

MDL

[Inconito]

I'm starting to consider an indwelling cath. i.e. foley in order to help reduce bladder capacity and a leg bag attached to it.

[BlakeJordan]

There are no shortcuts. Such options have high risks. These risks, which MDL and myself have avoided are retention for the most part. Any continued use of indwelling caths can lead to the retention to urine- this can lead to various issues, not limited to but including kidney issues, and daily use of interment cathing daily after using the restroom for the rest of your life. No shortcuts. Try an alarm, reverse kegals etc. -Blake-

[Inconito]

reverse kegels are pretty hard when sleeping

[BlakeJordan]

I used an app on phone- nag alarm and chime. Combine that with sleepphones. The point of the kegals is to eventually create a habit. Where the default state is relaxed. Not vice versa. That will translate to nights. I use a high dose of melatonin at melatonin to ease the transition back to sleep when using an alarm. -Blake-

[Baby Brian]

I'm starting to consider an indwelling cath. i.e. foley in order to help reduce bladder capacity and a leg bag attached to it.

[Inconito]

hmm. I have to try both ways both intermittent and indwelling - tried the alarm....to say the least, my spouse wasn't that thrilled about it, neither was I.

And I still void like Niagara waterfalls in the night and especially in the morning.

[Bettypooh]

Inconiuto, there are severtal threads here about nighttime protection. Side-sleepers have it worst- disposables do little good here because of nothing bieing on the sides to absorb a flood Most use a lined plastic panty for anything that doesn't get absorbed by their diaper and it seems to work for almost everyone. Some also just wear unlined plastic panties and do fine YMMV and it will be something that you have to tailor to your own needs. Experiment with this. If any wetting is too much (partner issues) start with overkill and too much protection, then work down to a level that works for you. That will keep them happier with you and that matters a lot Otherwise it's more comfortable for you to start minimally then work up. Trying to sleep when heavily protected is a chore when you just jump into it so expect some sleeplessness if you go that far instantly

[Baby Brian]

Seconded!

[BlakeJordan]

When it comes to alarms- you need to use specialized setups, just enough to wake you. Not enough to wake you up fully. You also need that supplant, such as melatonin to get back to sleep quickly.

Again- sleepphones are a must. Check amazon. They are like a like a sweatband with headphones. At the right volume an app can be non startling and rouse you just enough. The headphone setup makes sure no one else is disturbed.

Blake.

[Dill_Pickle]

Shake&wake, or vibrating alarm watches can awaken you without awakening your bedmate. I fooled around with those for other reasons, am not actively doing so right now. I personally found an external cath to work well for peeing without getting out of bed and keeping the bed/partner dry.

YMMV, user is expected to take full responsibility for determining applicability to user's individual situation.

[Baby Brian]

Help me understand here. If you're trying to become more incontinent (especially at night), then why would you want to use an alarm to wake you and interrupt your wetting while you're still asleep?