Might Have Been Found Out :(

[square_duck]

She wouldn't date a guy who wears diapers... so for your relationship to last you have to be honest with yourself and answer one simple question:

Can diapers be not 1% of your life, but zero?

Not saying you need to make a snap decision... but maybe you need to hang up the huggies for a while and find out.

I didn't know you could hang up huggies....

[Diapered Jason]

ha ha ha you wouldnt beleive what gets through my spam filter on my email. porn, diapers,mail enhancement and about twice a week i get a random email form a random company saying my oder is ready

Yep, you are going to get caught, lol.

[Dpgiraffe]

i dont want to repeat what everyone else has already said. but one thing alot of people havn't addressed is the fact that even though it's 1% of your life right now... the DL side of you is gonna grow and im sure alot of people will back me on this. what happens when it becomes 2%? 5%? 10% of your life? all DL go through times of binge and purge, how would you feel about the topic when you are binging (sp?) really hard???

Also i know you've already addressed not telling her, but along with everyone else on the forum i still feel you should. What would happen if you guys get deeper into your relationship and things become really serious and one day she found out about your secret? honestly i feel like she would be more pissed off if she caught you later on down the road than if you were to come clean now (ladies correct me if i'm wrong) and say "this is who i am, i dont expect you to participate and i'll keep it to myself so you never see it. but this is who i am and it isnt going to change" atleast she knows you're being honest and like you said, we all have secrets. maybe this would show her how much she means to you and she'll open up with a secret of her own. you never know~

Bottom line: if she loves you, she will accept all of you, even if she doesn't share it with you. If she doesn't accept you the way you are, you are in a VERY scarey situation.

^

[diaperlad]

I would just address the situation sooner than later before the relationship gets any deeper or the seriousness of the relationship gets stiffer. A relationship is not healthy when one is hidding something and trust me, she will find out soon or later about the diaper thing and just hope it doesn't happen on a bad time like maybe her mother is there or it's in public or maybe your own parents are there and she confront's you? I feel it just aggravates the situation and puts you in "the spot, A bad spot"

The other thing is. IDK about you is... One of my pet peeves is lying. I don't lie. I don't like lying to anyone about things. Especially if it was my GF. I don't like people lying to me. The relationship is unhealthy if someone is lying. You are only going to get her more angry if she finds out something and she finds out you were lying. It's going to backfire on you.

[Bettypooh]

So how much do you need to wear? And if that is very much at all you'd better get through this with her because someday she will find out and iot will be much tougher to deal with then. I agree with BabyGizmo- if you can't completely trust her with anything and everything then she's NOT the one you need to be with. And if you have much of a need to wear she deserves to have the chance to back out now of she wants to. You cannot build a strong and lasting relationship on deceit

Bettypooh

[suzuki2011]

lemme update you guys. it was just a scare she didnt find out i talked to her about my email being open and she said she didnt use the computer all day. now i know some of you will say that she could be lieing and fueling up for somthing else but i have no evednece of that nor do i have any previous incidents with her doing that so i guess im in the safe zone for now.

and shes a bad liar i can usley tell when she is

[Repaid1]

Where did you get the idea Stanley is a out and about full time AB? He has never showed that before. In fact he has always said he is a adult like most people and then enjoys baby play and regressing when home sometimes. Let's not get the lines crossed, and slam the man for something he isn't. Anyway carry on...

[Eir]

Oops, wrong example. She probably wants to make sure that you will only wear occasionally and not 24/7

[BriGuy]

I find that hiding things in relationships creates hurt and mistrust. Best to be open, even if it means loosing a chick who won accept you for you. There are millions of ladies who will.

My chick can read my email because I have nothing to hide. It's a nice feeling to not have to worry.

[sarah_ab]

Its true everyone has things they don't tell their significant other. I mean everytime you have a dream or a quick fantasy about another person theres no need to run out and tell your SO. Everyone is allowed to have their own private thoughts etc... And its one thing if there is something you love, and your SO doesn't and so you engage in it when they aren't around, and they know you do this and don't mind, because they are busy doing their own thing... its another to know your SO doesn't approve, and so you sneak engaging in it.

This can cause problems when/if the SO finds out. And clearly you are aware of this, otherwise the thought of her seeing diaper related emails would not have sent you running to post here.

So you are correct, everyone can have secrets, the problem becomes, your secret is something you are pretty sure your lady would leave you over... and the longer you keep it, the more angry she will be if she finds out.

I'm not saying tell her, and i'm not saying dump her, just pointing out what could happen. On the other hand, she could be like me, and if she finds out, realize you only ever did it when she wasn't around, and clearly you want to keep it that way, and she may actually either never say anything or not care, as long as you never bring it up in front of her and continue to only do it when she isn't around and hide it just as well as before.

[suzuki2011]

point very well taken sarah but i just dont trust she would be okay with it. and i dotn want to loose her and i really dont ant to lose her over somthing like this. so i find it better if she doesnt know. ive seen her reactions enough with the suttle things about ab/dl and they werent good so idk it will problby remiane my little secret.....and for the record i dont resent her for thissome said i might now/in futer. i dont and wont resent anyone for this

[sissymichelle]

Two things...

One, don't hide this from your GF. Sharing is way more fun.

Two, if she is reading your email get rid of her...

1) I agree with this. I never hide what I like either sexually, or fantasies of mine. I had a girlfriend that talked babytalk to me in public in the city, which was embarassing as she was not into it. I also told one of my exboyfriends, whom has experimented with wearing diapers and said he liked it, call me a freak when I told him my boyfriend after him, enjoyed diapering me at night. It bothers me as his new girlfriend wants to baby him, and he is always hypocritical over the things I like or do, then contradicts himself. I.e. My transitioning, he says he wants to then backs away from it every other day due to religion and family thoughts of him, and now BDSM in a new relationship he is in (said he never liked to see me treated like that with my past boyfriends, and the diaper things...

2) My personal opinion is that if your in a relationship with somebody, you shouldnt have to hide anything. If my boyfriend wants to read my email, then so be it. If I loved him, I have nothing to hide, as I wouldnt be cheating on him ever, and if I have fetishes, he should know about them, if he doesnt like them, he doesnt have to partake in them, if he wants to get me happy, or excited, then he knows how to.