Is The Line Blurred?

[Novingale]

Hello new friends.

I don't even know where to start, um, well my boyfriend and I have known each other for a very long time, six years now, I think. We dated lightly in the beginning, ending with a confusing break off and a long period of silence. Recently we have found ourselves together again, and he nervously came to me, explaining his love for diapers. Of course, he had forgotten that i already knew! Silly him, from when we dated the first time. I hadn't tried it, we only spoke about it. Now with this renewed love we've somehow found, I decided to give it a go, and I really enjoy it. Its very relaxing and comfortable, and its a nice way to keep an exciting twist in our lives. Fantastic.

While he was out, the other day, I was trying to find a picture on his computer so I could frame it and put it on the wall, as a surprise.

Well I found something I didn't want to.

You see, he's got these photos. Of little girls. Not adult-babies, but little girls, children, in diapers. Posing for the camera, looking surprised, sometimes I don't even think they knew they were being photographed. And one little girl, I know he knows.

This made a little red flag shoot up for me. I was scared, to be honest, I am still worried.

I asked him about it and he told me it helped with the regression, looking at photos of children, it helped with the process. I can see how that would be true, but...

Its just, well... wrong.

I hate to be "that girl" but, I mean, we wear diapers together, and I wouldn't turn my nose up for much. Children.

Where does the line blur between regression, and pedophile?

Thank you, I really hope I didn't offend anyone.

I need your help.

Nightingale and Nova

[Bettypooh]

Curious as to who unapproved this and why? I think an Admin response then closing the topic might be very educational on the subject, though it does cast us in a pretty bad light- that guy needs some help!

[Repaid1]

BP I don't think anyone unapproved this thread, it's just no one has yet approved it. If I recall correctly all post put in this section must be approved by a site mod before it post to the board proper. As such I will go ahead and turn it on. But I fear the outcome a bit. Perhaps not, we will see.

As to the OP, My Thoughts are to have a serious discussion with this guy. While I can view a pic now and then on the web and not give it much thought. To have pictures downloaded of children is not normal in my view. This could be nothing, or it could be something. And that's all I will say for now.

[Dubious]

Just search for diapers on google and the first pictures you get are with kids in diapers..

[Novingale]

I really do not want to put a bad light on anyone, at all, so I'm really sorry about that. I just want to know if that's common? It seems wrong to me, but I would like some open and honest opinions, again I really don't want to offend anyone, I'm just curious.

[ultrapampers]

First, Novingale, welcome to Daily Diapers! It takes a bit of courage to come here and seek advice on an unusual topic and, in your case, a polarizing one. I hope you make some good friends here, get salient advice, and contribute to other, perhaps less serious, topics.

Second, you're a wonderful girlfriend to indulge your boyfriend in this unusual interest. He's very lucky to have you! I'm glad to hear you genuinely enjoy it yourself.

Third, about the pictures of children: it sounds like you've tried hard not to jump to conclusions. Resist writing sentences like, "It's just wrong." Is it? Should pictures of children wearing diapers not exist at all? A lot of us had our interest in diapers sparked when we first saw them on babies or toddlers when we were still just children ourselves. I know I personally had feelings of curiosity and jealousy. Why couldn't I be the one wearing a diaper? Being pampered? Getting all the attention?

It's very likely that your boyfriend has absolutely no ill intent when he looks at those pictures. He just identifies with the subject of those photos, and the last thing in the world he would want to do is harm those kids. Do you have any evidence that his morals are corrupt and that he would be a real danger to children? If not, then there is no risk, and there are no victims. From a purely scientific point of view, it's just pixels on a computer screen, and nobody was harmed when the photos were taken.

Now, apart from whether it's right or wrong for him to have them, there's the matter of how you feel about the pictures. If you are fiercely opposed to him having them, then you need to say so. It's okay for your indulgence of his interests to have boundaries. Just be careful, and talk it over with him in a rational way. Don't accuse him of being a sicko or a pedophile.

Good luck to you, and please let us know if you need further questions answered or if you guys work things out acceptably.

[Bettypooh]

To Novingale-

The topic is fine for discussion here This particular forum is used to restrict the numbers of persons who see it so you can limit it to "Friends and Family", as the name states If you wish you can let us know who you want it open to; ask us to move it to a more open area; or allow us to approve all replies within the bounds of the rules on this site. The choice is yours, and until you say otherwise I will approve all responses as that seems to be what you intended. Hope that clears up any confusion

I agree that having the pics can be innocent, however I also know that should any governmental agency find those on his computer it will not be a nice experience Sadly, the people in those agencies are for the most part paranoid or bordering on that They do have a very important job to do but if it were me I would not want them anywhere that they could be connected to me- thus my response to you. Even if everything is totally legal, there will be lots of people asking lots of questions at best. I try to avoid standing out like that and recommend the same for anyone else as well.

Thanks for keeping an open mind and trying to work this out with him. Being ABDL means nothing beyond having an unusual need- it is not a bad thing in that regard, just unusual. As long as it's not affecting any innocent people badly there is nothing wrong with being whoever you are.

Wishing you well

Bettypooh

[Novingale]

Goodness gracious, that was incredibly helpful and decent of you.

I'm glad you think I'm doing so well, I do to! (Aren't I just the modest one)

Also, I don't think he has any ill intent, in fact, he told me he didn't himself. I really just wanted some reinforcement that maybe diapers is the only 'strange' skeleton in the closet for him, and this was something innocent. That said, he is in possession of child pornography, and for someone like me who was a victim of abuse at one point, they frighten me, more than a whole bunch. I'm not the type to put up boundaries, but for the last two weeks, I can't even look at a child without feeling horribly guilty, or look at him without this knife in my stomach. Call me dramatic, but I think this is that 'one thing' that I just can't compromise for, look past, or bite my tongue about. I'm going to talk with him this weekend, and explain how I'm feeling, I'll update you after the long weekend.

Thanks again for your kind words

Nightingale and Nova

[Novingale]

Thanks Betty, I really appreciate your help, I would love to get as many opinions on this subject as possible, its really helping clear my head and helping me sort all these jumbled thoughts, so feel free to move it where you see fit.

[Repaid1]

Hope all goes well with this on your end. Please feel free to share your outcome with us and to ask for any more insight on such matters.