Bullying & Dating

[Villaliver]

I Wear Incontinece Pads (Adult Nappy) Because Of My Medical Condition I Was Born With

But Ive Came Across Bullying About Incontinece And My Nappys

How Do I Deal With It And If It Gets Really Bad Do I Have The Right To Go To The Police About It

And How Do I Tell Girls About My Incontinece And Nappys When I Date People

Any Advice

Please Help

Ive Even Considered Sucide

[beallucanb]

Yeah you have the right to go to the police, or tell anyone who will listen that you are being bullied for your medical condition.

Don't let them get away with making your life tougher than it is.

A girl that really likes or loves you will understand that you have a medical problem, any girl that don't is not worth knowing.

You are more than a medical problem, you just happen to be a guy that has a problem that is all.

[Villaliver]

Thank You For You Advice

But Am I The Only One That Wears Incontinece Pads (Adult Nappy)?

[Elfy]

Believe it or no but I wouldn't be surprised if a vast majority of people on here (a website called Daily DIAPERS) wear some sort of adult nappy

I don't have suggestion for bullying but I have found a partner who does not care whether I'm wet or not, and when you find the right person they won't care either

[Bettypooh]

There are those who see no wrong in bullying. They would not believe in it had they lived my life. What needs to happen (and is beginning to some degree) is a raising of social consciousness about the diversity of life, of people who have problems they cannot help having and don't want but are stuck with anyway, and of people who are simply different because they like being that way. It is moving in the right direction but it isn't there yet. If you can, standing up to the bullies often solves the problem, but sometimes is just escalates it. You have to decide your course of action yourself. You are responsible for you. I know it's hard- I lived it- but that's how it is in this world right now. You may have legal recourse if you choose to take that route, but that too has implications involved adn might make things worse. We, as a society, must learn to not tolerate bullies anytime anywhere, seeing and knowing that they are the ones with a problem that needs to be fixed, not those who the bullies target. When we finally accept that might does not make right we will have reached the point where the human race can once again make progress- until then we're stuck in a rut that will cause us all to slowly waste away in the end.

Bettypooh

[Dirus]

Sorry to hear about the bullying. I have never been bullied by kids or adults. Been in diapers since freshmen year of high school and never had anyone give me a hard time. If they did I would have put a foot in them... Anyhow I have been humiliated during relationships. I had one mate tell all his friends with out me even knowing. I had one that pretty much would not go near them. But I have been with truly nice people who have been okay with them, even offering to help me. If I was the one on the other side, I wouldnt care, heck I would wear diapers just to make the other person feel better.

When It comes to dating I usually do this. I wait to the second or third date to disclose that I wear diapers, then I go from there. I would rather get it right out in the open before disclosing where i live and any other personal information.

Good luck.

[babykeiff]

Villaliver,

1 - I would estimate about 30-40% of the members here (that is approx 6000 people) wear diapers / nappies due to either medical / physical or psychological needs - and that is 24/7/365 which includes in work, shopping, going out socialising as well as at home etc.

2- The world as a whole is under the false myth that only babies and the elderly wear diapers. Due to this belief, people think that everyone is like themselves and do not wear diapers. This is a bonus to us.

3- Your choice of underwear is your own business, and you should not allow your choice of underwear to dictate how you act and/or be treated.

In reference to the bully...

if you analyse the events, you will find that due to the inbuilt insecurity of the human race as individuals, there is always a ringleader. This person might be the one on the side quietly laughing at your discomfort. To get to this person, you must prosecute the one person who verbally initiates the bullying, and that person is very easy to find. S/he will have a very aggressive yet subordinate temperament, who is easily led - and is being led by the person that outed you.

In relation to your privacy...

it shouldn't be that difficult to find out who outed you. I am presuming that you didn't openly publicize your diaper dependence. The only other people that would know about your dependence is medical professional and your family - parents / siblings etc, and neither of this list would publicize this - medical profession have a duty of care and a confidentiality act. Family members usually don't tell since they personally don't want to be associated with someone different.

Dating

Finding a partner may seem daunting, but when you find one, and trust him/her enough, and they trust you well enough, it is better to be open an d honest with them about you completely. If they can't accept the diapers (being part of you) then they can't accept you so it is better to move on. Still, when you tell another of your choice of undergarment, and they decide to tell another, they are breaking your confidence, and can be prosecuted. Since prevention is better that cure, it is usually better to inform your significant other of their legal responsibilities and the cost to them if they betray your confidence.

Legal Costs / Implications

I personally hate using this word and its implications for misuse, but technically you would be classed as disabled. As such, you, and your privacy is protected by European law, so if another decides to betray your confidence, it will cost them dearly.

Since publicizing your need for diapers can effect your ability to earn a living, and it can be humiliating, there is a legal calculation towards damages, which from last checking is... The average salary of the country multiplied by 25 years multiplied by !0 plus 25 years compound interest. The person / persons that outed you, and those who discriminate against you are each liable to pay said moneys under the Disabilities Act and the Equal Rights Act within Europe. American law is slightly different (uses different terminology), but the intention of the law exists.

[harmony83]

When I was a kid I was baby sat by this woman who's son went to school with me. He was a lot tougher than I was. I was being looked after by his mom one day when I wet my pants and after numerous threats, she put me in diapers. I was in them for the remainder of the day, and this happened several times. Of course her son was witness to the whole thing and, even though he said he wouldn't, the next day at school told everyone about it and proceded to beat me up in front of a large group of classmates. This was the start of years of bullying for me after everyone found out.

[gotdiapers]

I like the punch in the face method. Straight and to the point. If you don't know how to do that then practice with a pillow on the bed. Punch the pillow and get a feel for how much you need to follow through. That is the secret.

Then when the time is right don't hesitate just punch as hard as you can and follow through with your shoulder. When the person is on the ground. Point to them and tell them to leave you the fuck alone and the next time you will not be as nice.

Has always worked for me.

[ldatsea]

you tell a person when its time... meaning you will know when you feel comfortable about talking about anything with that person ... talk to them before you get really intimate usually if you like each other you will be comfortable and confident to talk about life's challenges... remember EVERYONE has little challenges so its ok to talk about it.

If you never feel comfortable talking about it to someone maybe you are not as close as you think, if you are comfortable and they mock you its a good sign they are not right for you.