Diaper Lover User Manual

[Goodnitesboy12]

I know when I first figured out I was a diaper lover I had no idea where to even begin. Tonight, when talking to my girlfriend I told her being a DL should come with a user manual. I know this is probably stupid but I was thinking what if we all posted tips for those who are just starting out and manage to find this site. Nothing insane, just a one stop shop to find simple information. Where to get diapers, ways to dispose of dirty diapers, simple things like that. I think that it may do some new DLs some good to have that kind of information.

[LILJIM]

It isn't in Manual form but there are tips & hints in the forums. What kind of diapers, where to get them,different ways to stuff them, throw them out, & even how to hide them.(at home & when wearing). Newbies now have it made having the "net" unlike when some of us started wearing.

[Rockies Fan in Diapers]

It isn't in Manual form but there are tips & hints in the forums. What kind of diapers, where to get them,different ways to stuff them, throw them out, & even how to hide them.(at home & when wearing). Newbies now have it made having the "net" unlike when some of us started wearing.

I totally agree. There really is no point to create a Manual, as the tips are already here, they are just scattered about, now if it was possible to put them into some sort of "Newbie Advice Forum" Maybe that might help & do some Good.

Rockies Fan. Go Rockies in 2011!

[Zuesbaby]

you know your right Im going threw the same thing and she said the same thing user manaul.

[Goodnitesboy12]

Just seemed like it would be a good idea. There's stuff all over this site but unless you spend hours pouring over this stuff you won't ever find anything.

[RMS401]

Just seemed like it would be a good idea. There's stuff all over this site but unless you spend hours pouring over this stuff you won't ever find anything.

Hi, Goodnightsboy. You're absolutely right about this. I can't stand it when people who have been here long enough to know what's been said tell new people, "Here's the haystack, go find the needle." That really irks me.

But the truth is that everyone is different and what turns them on will be different too. Heck, the even very reasons we wear are vastly different. But here are a few things I think might get the ball rolling.

1) You're going to start with diapers you can find where you've already seen them--Depend, store brands--but make a point to find out where the home medical supply stores are. They'll either have better diapers or can get them.

2) Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, but make up a story about them being for your mother/grandmother/father/etc. if it helps you

3) Unless you're wearing a rediculously thick diaper, no one can tell, and even then they will think of a thousand other things it could be before they land on diapers

4) Don't be paranoid. No one is going to get your license plate number and find out who you are. No one.

5) If you're not hurting anyone, you're not doing anything wrong. They're just diapers, not child porn.

6) If you spend enough time here and similar places, you're going to get to a point when you think that wearing diapers isn't really that weird. You'll be wrong. For several reasons people think guys wearing women's panties and shoes is less weird than diapers.

7) There will come a time when you meet that someone special and you'll need to come clean about this side of you. Do it sooner rather than later. It'll hurt less if you're rejected early and it's only fair to the other person.

8) Like all pleasurable things, diapers will take over your life if you let them. Don't let them.

Okay, so tha'ts a start. What else can people add here?

-RMS

[diapered dan]

The best advice I can give is: 'don't be afraid to experiment.'

Over time you will find out what you enjoy and works for you.

[Dirty Diaper/Maxipad Lover]

Here's my contribution for purchasing diapers, maybe I'll add more if this idea catches on:

Step 1: Prepare ahead of time! This should seem obvious, but prepare ahead of time and prepare well and you'll be good to go. You are not "shopping" for diapers, you're buying diapers, and you should know this from the start. (You can shop later, the first time you'll just want to buy, trust me, once you've bought a package or two, it's a lot easier to be comfortable in the diaper aisle.) Think of everything you need to know ahead of time. What type of diapers will you buy? Are they baby diapers, adult diapers, or a youth pull-on like GoodNites? How much are are you willing to spend per package? Are you slender, medium build, or overweight? Are you going to use your diapers correctly, or wear them like pads/guards, and if you're planning to use them correctly, are you comfortable using them like pads/guards if they don't fit? Are you more comfortable in the baby diaper aisle or the incontinence section of a store? What are the chances someone you know will see you in the store that you're buying diapers in? There may even be more questions, but these are the big ones. Above all else, have a good, believable "cover story" that you can use if someone asks you about your purchase, rehearse it like a public speech in the mirror, get used to making it believable in case you need it, and consider having a back-up story in case you need to use your first one. Once you have a cover story you're almost set, now you just need to pick a place to hide/store your diapers, preferably where even nosy family members won't bother poking around, and you'll be good to go.

Step 2: We're going to answer the questions above, your answers will obviously vary, but we need answers to continue. For this example the person answering the questions is male because I'm a male. We will be buying GoodNites for girls (I'll explain this later,) which are a youth pull-on, we're willing to spend $40 total, and we have a medium build. We want to use our diapers correctly, but we don't mind wearing them like pads/guards if we have to, and we are far more comfortable in the baby diaper aisle then the incontinence section of any store. The chances someone we know will see us are minimal if we shop at night, but high if we shop mid-afternoon. Our primary cover story is that our younger cousin who wets the bed is visiting, and these diapers are for her. Our secondary cover story, in case we run into family (or friends who know there is no younger cousin,) is that we're doing a favor for a friend whose younger cousin who wets the bed is visiting. (See how easy it is to adapt our story?) We've rehearsed our cover story and have a nice little area where we can hide our diapers set aside, and we're good to go. We've practiced our speech, we've even figured out how to make it look like we're on the phone if we need to, and we're good to go.

Step 3: We know that our chances of being seen are high mid-afternoon, and low in the evening, so we know that we're buying our diapers in the evening (or the morning,) but not mid-afternoon, we also know that we're going to keep an eye out for friends in the store, and go elsewhere if we see them. We've picked a large supermarket as our store because large supermarkets have plenty of aisles that you can "disappear" down to get away from people who you may know.

Step 4: Once in the store itself, scan the area with your eyes, if you see friends, just look at something, talk for a few minutes, and then leave and go to a different store. If the coast is clear, which it should be in this example, head directly toward the diaper aisle.

Step 5: Continue scanning the aisle until you see GoodNites. Stop, turn toward them, you should have checked for sales before you got here, but if they're not on sale, the larger package should run us just under $20 each. Here's a question you need to ask yourself: Do I want to keep an unused package of the first diapers I bought as an AB/DL? If the answer if yes, grab two packages of GoodNites for girls. Trust me, I knew right away that I wanted a second package of the first diapers I purchased for myself.

Step 6: If you have a cart or basket, great. If you don't have either, that's fine too since you're just going to hand the diapers to the cashier, hand them your money, take your purchase and leave. Take the two bags of diapers and proceed directly to the cash register, the goal right now is getting diapers, comfort with doing so will come with time.

Step 7: Hand the cashier your GoodNites for girls, or if you're female, GoodNites for boys. Here's why we're purchasing GoodNites for the opposite gender. If we are spotted, our story is more believable, since "boys don't wear girls' diapers," and "girls don't wear boys' diapers." This will also give the cashier less to comment about, as far as they know, you're buying these for your own kid, and they're less likely to comment as a result. Ask the cashier for a paper bag at checkout, or paper inside of plastic, this way the contents are concealed and you're not carrying diapers in a semi-transparent bag on the way to your car.

Step 8: You're almost done now. If your relatives generally aren't around when you pull into your driveway, toss your diapers on the passenger seat, if your relatives are around and you have your own car, put them in the trunk.

Step 9: Once home, grab the diapers from the passenger seat and just head inside and up to your room or other private location quickly. If you know people are going to see you pull in, leave your diapers in the trunk for now, and hang onto your keys.

Step 10: Stay in your private location for the rest of the day, do something fun, play a game, relax, you've got your diapers with you, once your family has gone to bed or is mostly out of your way, you can put your diapers into storage, if storage is in your private location, you can put your diapers there and you're done. If you had to leave your diapers in the trunk, wait until your family goes to bed, go out to your car, open the trunk, grab your diapers, and put them away in your storage spot. Just lock up your car and you're done now as well.

Depending on how late it is you may be too tired to try your diapers. My advice is to wait and savor the moment, but if you're really desperate to try on your diapers, now's your chance to do so. Before you do though, have a plan in place for disposing of one of them, or storing it until trash day. In fact, it's best to wait to wet your diaper until trash day or the night before, that way once it's wet, you can toss it in a bag, and toss it in the outside trash after everything else is already in there. Nobody has to know what you're throwing away, and if you flood your diaper, you can dispose of it quickly before it starts to reek. Although you may be tempted to wet immediately my advice is to wait, get used to the feeling of the diaper, get used to hiding it, get used to wearing it. If you want to be bold, wear one of your GoodNites to bed, but don't wet it, this way you can savor your diaper all night long. Wear your regular underwear over your diaper, this actually can make it less noticeable, especially if you need to keep it on around family in the morning.

When buying diapers the first time, your goal should simply be to purchase diapers, not to be comfortable with the idea. Comfort will come with experience. Sometimes the best way to overcome a fear is to just do the activity you're afraid of, I was afraid to purchase diapers at first too. I did it once, then twice, then a third time, and by the fourth time I wasn't afraid, I didn't need my cover story, I was waiting until I knew friends/family wouldn't be in the same store I was in, and I could begin to look around the diaper aisle if I wanted to. Eventually the purchase will become second nature. The reason I say to "buy diapers" first, is that it's what I've found to be the best way to break any fear of the purchase.

[Bettypooh]

Hi, Goodnightsboy. You're absolutely right about this. I can't stand it when people who have been here long enough to know what's been said tell new people, "Here's the haystack, go find the needle." That really irks me....

-RMS

I really feel similarly, and it might not be quite as bad an answer if the search function here was better, but even as long as I've been here I still can't find anything with it, so I don't think a newbie would do any better. I advise Newbies to browse because so far it's the only workable method. I don't have the time to compile a listing of threads to find the answers in, and making a list or 'manual' here will likely just end up as another unfound thread a year from now. If someone wants to try, go for it- it can't hurt.

Bettypooh

[pampers212]

Writing a user manual for a DVD player or a car is one thing. Writing one for an ABDL is a whole nother ball of wax. Every person is different. I think given the courage and resources, people will research for information and ask questions on sites like this.

[bignappybo]

Best thing to do,is to wear the diaper and just learn from any mistakes that come accross when you are wearing them.

This is the one thing where there are no hard and fast rules,just aslong as you enjoy being in your diaoer when you wear it,or even when you use it.

[Goodnitesboy12]

Writing a user manual for a DVD player or a car is one thing. Writing one for an ABDL is a whole nother ball of wax. Every person is different. I think given the courage and resources, people will research for information and ask questions on sites like this.

I know it's a lot about personal preference. But if someone is even new to the idea there should be a place for them to read basic stuff. They can decide for themselves what they want to do about diapers. But simple advice like that offered above is a good place to start. A simple advice forum with stuff about different types of diapers what makes an AB different from a DL, 'cause for me and I'm sure I'm not alone, the idea when I started was diapers are for babies and I don't wanna be a baby I just want to wear a diaper. Simple things like that should be readily available for someone who is looking for it not buried on some forum because the post with that information was from three years ago.