My best "coping" mechanism is to not really think about it. I don't let the fact I'm incontinent really run my life. I mean, yeah, I hang around here more often than I probably should lol..but I'm discreet, and really don't refrence or lead on that I'm inco.
After all...I can hear, see, stand, walk, talk..how is it exactly a disability other than a social one? =)