Morv

Homosexuality also occurs in nature. It is a preference between sexes, not a preference for objects that we create. Homosexuality has been around pretty much as long as humanity has. Diapers, and therefore diaper lovers, have not. And even with homosexuality, there is a cause, but it didn't lie so much in the nurture realm as it did in the nature realm. Things don't just happen for no reason. There may be things which we don't fully understand the cause of, but that doesn't mean they aren't caused by something. Personally I think we overmedicate and for that matter overtreat mental disorders in general. However, I do not see there being a problem with studying and analyzing. Saying we shouldn't search for causes is paramount to saying we shouldn't try and understand, and that, I believe, is wrong. Human nature, as Bob Seger so eloquently described when he wrote, "so it seems our destiny/to search and never rest." Humans explore things, that is what we do. It is called science. Science finds causes, it finds how and why so that we can comprehend, so that we can gain insight, so we can be enlightened. Some things may have more immediate answers, however. People who like most of the activities you listed easily find other people that enjoy the same things. In fact, I'd take the guess that people who like most of those activities enjoy them because either they grew up being exposed to them, or they discovered them with people they are friends with.

The right to privacy isn't guaranteed from your parents, especially not if you are using their equipment, in addition there should be no expectation of privacy if you are using their equipment. (And if by chance you are talking about the right to privacy, as a specific right rising out of a penumbra of others in the U.S. Constitution, you should note that the ammendments to the constitution is a list of things people can be protected from the government infringing on, not individuals.)

Necros, I said to look the numbers up in the yellow pages. A phone book. They list hotlines like that in the phone book, and often they will have emergency numbers which may include those up front. You don't have to know the number; you can look it up.

200 gb hard drives... ah, so long ago, lol I'm kinda nuts with my music collection too. I've got about 38,000 songs -- just a bit shy of 400 gigs. I collect a lot of bootleg concerts. jam bands, classic rock, some punk, very limited country, some opera, classical, jazz, blues, raggae. Some of my favorite artists... Phish, Beatles, Bad Religion, Moody Blues, Pink Floyd, Clapton, U2, Bruce Springsteen, Bob Dylan, Bob Seger, CSN/CSNY, and so much more. As far as classical, love Bach.

I read "mental health" to be a broad term, Vic, not just to mean whether it is classified as a disease. Psychology as a whole is related to more than just the mind. I think you may have also misread my post, though I could be wrong. That was in refrence to this: I was mostly responding to the sentence "They seem to be well balanced folks overall," which I took to mean that he saw them as sane... in addition to above average intelligence. That was a step outside the issue, just noting the lack of a relationship between high intelligence and being "well balanced." Also, I made no suggestion that I disagreed with his evaluation of DLs to be "above average intelligence," nor do I. Nor do I argue with his evaluation of his DL friends as "well balanced folks overall." What I meant to argue was the possible false assumption that high intelligence caused them to be "well balanced folks overall." The rest of my post was about a mental condition. I never meant to suggest that ab/dl was a mental illness. I guess that might make my last sentence a bit disconcerting. I probably worded that poorly. I work with mentally ill individuals (clients, not my co-workers -- I've had other jobs where my co-workers were mentally ill, but that's a funny rant). And everything I work with is a mental illness, so that is, I guess what I have to compare it to. Oddly, I didn't go to college for psychology, but I do know enough about it to know some basic concepts. (I actually paid attention in General Psych (Psych 100).) All the detailed information in the field, however is mental illness. There are trends in mentall illnesses which, also arise in general with conditions. I however, only have mental illness to compare this too. If, out of my post, that made you think I consider us all nuts, consider yourself corrected. I'm sorry you read it that way. That's how I apologize, I rationalize.

I'm just gonna throw out the paranoid side of things and suggest that if his dad actually knows what he is doing with computers, the problem may be far more severe than erasing history. Routers can be made to keep track of outgoing and incoming requests, which is not erased by a history deletion. If his dad is really gung-ho about all the computer security, their whole network could be running through a linux box acting as a squid proxy server, which would not only keep track of your history, but would store a cached copy of everything it transfers. Then again, if either of those are the case, your Wii browsing would be getting picked up too. Oh, speaking of caches, while you're at the history and cookie deletion, make sure you clear the cache too. The list goes on and on. My suggestion is to chill until at least you've got your wheels. Not what you want to hear, but without far more information, it is hard to give a definitive answer, and I'd hate to lead you into trouble.

Hey, it could explain premature birth. Mom got run over and -- pop! But, there goes my bizarre sense of humor again.

You were born already crushed by a semi? how interesting.

Yes, but with gender switching, you don't gain a disability. (You know, there are SOOO many things that could be said right here that would be SOOO funny but so inappropriate... so I'll just think them, and all of you that know my sense of humor can just laugh right along with me, knowing that I mean no disrespect or harm, but the jokes just presented themselves.)

Take a deep breath. Now, where was the last place you remember having your mind? We're gonna try tracing our steps back to then. Seriously though, if things are really looking down, pick up the yellow pages, and find a suicide hotline or other "emotional breakdown" hotline. I don't know you well enough to know if feeling like "losing [your] fucking mind" is something that is a dangerous experience for you. (For me, the times I've lost my mind have been quite entertaining and insightful, though a bit scary, but, fortunately, never very dangerous.)

Presuming that it is Brock's uniform that Melysa is wearing in those pictures, he was E-4 (corporal) at that time. (In the marines.)

I saw the list of rock bands you listen to, and I can't help but feel the need to suggest checking out Led Zeppelin. (And mayhap Jimmi Hendrix.) In Zep, you'll find part of the roots of nearly any modern rock/hard rock band.

Mister Witch, sir, a thought. Instead of suggesting change in the system, why not try and use the system... Add something in your profile, or your quote to indicate your "mixed" nature.

Many people that are of above average intelligence also suffer from depression. Mental illness is not side-stepped by being smart. Nor is a psychological issue something that arises completely within the brain without outside influence. I doubt they'll find some gene that is related to this -- besides, a psychiatric/psychological investigation of infintalism isn't going to turn up that information anyway, unless they have some geneticists on the team. My guess, like many mental conditions, they will find several common causes -- as if we couldn't identify this ourselves -- along with several not-so-common causes, and to top it off, some cases where they cannot pinpoint a cause. In between these, they will be able to say things like "much of the time" a certain factor at a young age was a cause, and "often, it can be observed" that some sort of mental or physical gratification is the reason the behavior continues, due to the positive reinforcement. Seriously, we don't need an "official" study by people who have pieces of paper that give them a title to figure out why many of us are the way we are. Sure, there some cases that won't fit in nicely, but this seems to be true with many mental illnesses. It is certain that there are psychological causes to our desires. And there is more than one.

Actually, I was just talking about the music I'm into. No research needed. Classic rock is what I like, with stuff that leans toward the symphonic or electronic/experimental sound. But, as far as what I like... classic rock, prog rock, some punk, some rap (very limited), some country (also very limited), jazz, classical, bluegrass (some), jam bands, Irish traditional, alternative, some opera, blues, raggae. Probably some other stuff that falls between there. I like music with social meaning, intelligence, and talent. I can't stand crap that is manufactured -- drum machines and artists that don't actually play their instruments or write their own music. No respect for that crap. That reminds me, if you like strings so much, consider exposing yourself to some instrumental bluegrass. Yeah, I have heard some of Apocolyptica's stuff. I got introduced to them with their album of Metallica covers.

I think I would need a little more information about you, your situation, what she is expecting to be doing with you, and so on.

Did you just say you'd screw anything with hooves?

I can't say I ever considered the possible problems with using the bathroom while wearing my wedding dress. I can't say I ever considered wearing a wedding dress either. Although, the image of a woman in a wedding dress and a diaper is solid to me.

Yay Florida school system. Ugh. That girl should not be in a public school, especially not in Florida. There was enough in that article for me to pick up on the fact that this girl has special needs and it is apparent this school cannot provide them.

I was normal once, but then I got better. Just saw the conversation and felt a need to interject. Can't say I have a little girl in me or anything. Find some transexuals to be attractive. *wooo* Yep, crazy me. Anyway, I'm not sure anyone is truly "completely fine" ... at least I'd hope not. Life would be pretty boring without problems to overcome and challenges to surmount.

Well, nice to meet you. I'll tell you that I am a little crazy, so don't think I'm kidding when I tell you to grab something to drink from the bar and make sure to check out the stuffed mushrooms at the hours-dourves buffet.

In The Hall of the Mountain King is actually a much older song than just that. Grieg wrote it to accompany the play Peer Gynt (the play opened in 1876 in Norway, I believe). Other bands have done covers of it besides Apocolyptica, including Big Brother and the Holding Company, The Who, and Electric Light Orchestra. The following suggestions are not pure string groups, but rock/classic rock groups that might appeal to you if you enjoy the orchestral sound. I would suggest you dig up some Electric Light Orchestra if you like Apocolyptica. ELO really pushed into the realm of the "rock symphony," and one of their main instruments is a cello. Unlike Apocolyptica, they are not a strings-only group. Also, with ELO, you may have to make an effort to avoid their more comercially successful items in order to find the stuff that has more of the sound you are after. (I'd recommend the album "Eldorado" as a good place to start.) If you decide you like the "rock symphony" sound of ELO, then I have a few other suggestions for you. The Moody Blues (their first 7 albums have more of the rock-symphony sound, after that they moved more electronic/keyboards -- still good music, but a certain change in their sound). Jethro Tull might be a good joice, especially if your interest ranges from strings to wind instruments -- Tull features the flute in many songs (and is pretty much where The Anchorman got the "jazz flute" from.) I'd always suggest Pink Floyd, but they are certainly more electronic with a smattering of saxaphone (the albums that may be of interest include Dark Side of the Moon and Momentary Lapse of Reason; if you like Dark Side's electronic, mellow sound, check out Wish You Were Here; if you like Momentary Lapse of Reason's sound, check out Division Bell). Again, if you like the "rock symphony" sound, consider the Kansas album "Always Never the Same." If you just like the strings, check out most of Kansas's other stuff, as one of their featured instruments is the violin.

I must admit that I have often pretended to be someone I am not, however, I never take further than assuming a persona in a chatroom for a period of time. I don't think I have the time to waste on leading someone on for an extended period of time. The only time I've ever pretended to be a woman was when some dude started messaging me and wouldn't stop, so I just gave him like 20 minutes of BS while I was hanging out with other people. I can see how taking playing make-believe too far can be harmful. Hope things work out well missyD. There's always more people out there.

Ok, I too am a bit embarrassed about my desire to wear diapers (and see women in them). I don't let it bother me. But being furry? Speaking as a hairy man, this is nothing to be concerned about. There are many hair removal products on the market, along with waxing and laser hair removal. Things like Nair provide an at-home temporary solution, as I suppose most waxing kits do too (provided either you can reach your own back, if you have a hairy back). Anyway, the hairy thing is easy to take care of. (This response was a joke -- I know what a furry is.) As far as I can tell, your biggest problem is worry. Bah, screw other people. You don't need 'em -- once you decide that you're cool, other people eventually will too. And in the meantime, you get to hang out with the coolest person you know, you. Though, you may have to come to terms with the fact that you're not gonna make a whole butload of friends if when you go out you are wearing a diaper and bunny ears... That part might be best left at home. Encapsulation.

It is all a matter of where you draw the line for yourself in your mind, where you manage to convince yourself that it is real. To truly, ultimately experience what being an adult baby is happens to be a paradox in itself. To be an baby is to relinquish control, to lack the ability to have that control. It is to have another, a parent, who you must trust to treat you properly and care for you. But, unless you are mentally or physically impaired to the degree that you are as helpless as an infant or toddler, it is still a falacy. It doesn't matter where you draw the line. Needing a pacifier, making yourself incontinent, or making yourself emotionally dependent. It is still a falacy. It is important to realize exactly this. We create and define the point at which we are satisfied and our desires are satiated. The true and utter paradox of an infant or child's viewpoint is their inability to comprehend, and at very young ages, to remember. We can never regain this innocence, we can only pretend. Whatever efforts we take, it will not be real. It will be a game. And the self is the definer of the terms of success. To desire control and safety in your life and seek it through AB/DL play is not a problem. By the simple definition of necessity, when this need infringes upon living a normal life, it becomes a problem. Like it or not, the norms of society govern what "sane" is to some degree, but even more so, they govern the ability of an individual to participate in a successful manner. To need diapers 24/7 is a problem, because you are making yourself dependent to an utter degree. To truly live a 24/7 AB lifestyle is even worse, if that is truly how you are living, not just how you choose to spend, say, an extended vacation. What happens if a tragedy occurs to your caretaker? What happens that one day you can't get more diapers because of god only knows what stands in your way? People need food, shelter, clothing, and unless you're a hermit, caring human contact. Addicts need more -- and I will stand by that statement. People that need drugs to get by, that have to have alcohol, who compulsively steal because they'd start picking at their skin obsessively if they did not, people that can't open the front door unless they step on certain tiles in the right order then unlock the twelve locks in certain order, people that compulsively lie, and, yes, people that for strictly non-medical reasons cannot get through the day without peeing "accidentally" -- all I would describe as afflicted. By what? For each one it is different, but whether it is termed addiction, compulsion, or disorder, it remains beyond their control. That is a world of difference from, say, a casual drug user or drinker who does so on occasion or as the situation permits, people who steal because they need to survive, people who habitually lock the door because of potential theft, people that tell lies for convenience or to protect others, or people that choose to use diapers or baby paraphernalia for entertainment. When you create a line in your mind for "satisfaction," whether consciously or not, and that line drives you to do things that can impair your life because you cannot simply "not do them," it is a problem. I'm not saying you're a bad person to want this, or that the problem is incurable. But it may take work, long hard work, to manage to draw that line at a different point so that you can find satisfaction, completion, and a resolution with efforts that disrupt your life less, with efforts you can control. The first, and the hardest step, one that may take years and one that may take help, is to convince yourself that you CAN be satisfied with something less. It may take telling yourself what you feel are lies for many weeks, months, or years, but it IS possible. The human mind is a ridiculously powerful thing... and like the sophomoric question "can god make a rock so big he can't lift it?" the human mind suffers the truly and definitively unanswerable question of "can the human mind create within itself a problem so large it cannot overcome it?" Maybe the closest thing we can have as an answer to that question is the response, "I know that my mind can overcome."