Mr. Sea Otter

Get a phone book. Look in the yellow pages. Look for medical supply stores and pharmacies. Make a couple of phone calls and ask what brands of adult diapers they stock. In my opinion anything is better the Depends.

I would be curious to know just how big they are. I LONG since gave up trying to fit into baby diapers, but with a size 7 out there its an interesting thought. Anybody have a guess what size waist they will fit on?

It takes time to earn people's trust around here and unfortunately you got off to a less than perfect start. But as far as I am concerned, you are welcome here and I have no reason to believe you to be anything other than what you say you are. I know it can be hard to be new, but give it time. People need a while to get an idea of who you are. They will in time.

Just order them on-line silly.

I won't claim to be a control freak. I lack the patience to really be a total type A control freak. But I do very often take the lead on things. I get annoyed waiting for people to make decisions, and I tend to "take care of things" myself rather than wait for somebody else to do it for me. I am definitely a take charge kind of guy. Got that from my dad, no question about it. Which makes the whole diaper things so funny. In the bedroom am submissive by nature (but I don't have to be) and prefer a take charge woman. Which is just a total switch from how I "normally" am. Go figure.

To answer the original posters question, yea I have done that a few times. Nothing blatant, much more like just not making any effort to hide it rather than to show it off. A few times on planes, when I had a whole row of seat to myself (how rare is that?) and I could lie across them, I would let my shirt ride up and the top part on the back of my diaper would be visable to anyone who walked by.

Well, I went through the 8 pack sample and have decided that I have a new favorite diaper. I agree with the consensus that they are made by the same people/machines that make the secure x-plus. I am very pleased with all aspects of the diaper.

I put in an order for a package and I can't wait to try them out. I usually refrain from commenting on people's pics, but Rosy, you look adorable!

I have gone to a Dr. in a diaper. I had just moved to a new area and I needed to find a new Dr. So I looked around and found one and decided I would go to the appointment in a diaper. And I did. But here is the really important part. I told the Dr. the TRUTH! After she asked me all sorts of questions about my health, family history, etc etc I said something along the lines of the following. "There is one other thing I need to tell you. Although there is nothing physically wrong with me, I wear diapers. Yea, its a bit weird I know. But I really do wear them all the time. I don't want to lie to you and tell you there is something wrong with me, I believe you should lie to cops, but not to your Dr." Dr. "OK. Are you sure there is nothing wrong? YOu don't have accidents or anything" me: "Yes, I am totally sure. Really there is nothing wrong, its just a personal choice I made a long time ago. Like I said, I know its a bit strange and all, but hey, it makes me happy." Dr. "OK then" That was about it. The rest of the appointment went really well and we had a good Dr. patient relationship. Bottom line here. NEVER LIE TO YOUR DR. Its just a really bad idea. If you are not ready to tell your Dr. the honest truth, don't go to your appointment in a diaper.

Pulling this thread back on topic.... Jen, that is almost unbelievable. Assuming it is really true (which I am willing to believe), I am very sorry for you. I have never heard of anyone so cruel. Best of luck to you in your marriage.

Keep in mind that even if only 1% of the population is AB/DL, that would mean over 3,000,000 people in the USA. So even if it is less than 1%, there are still LOTS of us out there. But I do agree that the poll was less than scientific.

I doubt we will hear back from this person. I also doubt the post is from a 30 year old woman. My apologies if I am wrong on either account.

I spent something close to 2 years diapered all the time. It didn't take very long for me to get used to the idea of wetting my diapers at will (never got into messing, so I can't help you there). I would say within a month or so I lost most of my inhibitions and it became natural to just go at will. I had been wearing for a while before, so it wasn't a huge leap for me to go 24/7. I would say that the most tangible change I did notice was that I eventually started wetting with less and less "warning". When I first started wearing 24/7 I would notice that I had to pee and then in a minute or so it would actually start happening. Eventually the "warning" time got down to a few seconds or so. I also noticed that although I could always tell when I started wetting, I got to the point where I was unable to tell when I finished wetting. Eventually, I got to the point where on a couple of occasions I would not remember if I had wet or not and would have to actually check my diaper. But for the record I never once had a real accident, or felt like I lost any real control.

I have not had that exact experience, but I can relate to it. It can be easier to have an orgasm if you are focusing on a fantasy that you had gone over repeatedly. I think a word of caution is in order here though.... this is how you develop a true fetish (a true fetish is when you are unable to "perform" without your fetish object, be it a diaper or a paperclip). If you are concerned, I recommend masturbating some and thinking of things *other* than diapers, like your girlfriend or whatever.

To all who have written so far, I can't tell you how nice it was to read everyone words. I wish there was more I could do, but given the limits of the internet, I am afraid that I sincere and heart felt thank you is all I can offer. Seriously, everyone, thank you! One of the things that has been really hard for me was reopening an issue that I had long closed. Of course I am talking about diapers. I was very content with the role diapers played in my life, and then suddenly I found myself wondering if my kink had cost me my marriage. I found myself talking to a therapist trying to find out if I was "OK" for being the person I was. I have since come to believe, with the help of some of my friends who know about it, that there is nothing wrong with my wearing diapers. They are not an issue in my life, and they were NOT the cause of my marriage problems. I will continue to wear them as I see fit and anyone who has a problem with it can kiss my ass! I know that it is going to take a long time for me to heal and move beyond this. I know there is no quick fix (but GOD how I wish there was). In reality, things are just getting started. There is still all the divorce crap to deal with, and I am going to be in emotional pain for a long time. Most places I have seen mention 2 years or so, although 1 place said 1 month for every year of your relationship, which would be better. Regardless, this is going to be a long road. Fortunately I am not alone on it. I have family and friends who are there for me. And you all too! I just thought I would let people know that I am doing OK, all things considered. I have decided to use this period of my life as a catalyst to make myself a better person. Not that there was something wrong with me before. But there are some things in my life that could be improved and I intend to try to make my life better, instead or worse, as a result of this ordeal. I am NOT going to let this ruin my life. I am NOT going to quit! I will make it. I have a few goals, and for my own sake (it helps me make it more of a commitment) I thought I would share them: 1- start to exercise more. I have joined up with a water polo team (I used to play in high school) 2- I am going to start getting out more and spending much more time doing things and hanging out with friends. 3- I am going to start reading again. 4- I am going to get more music in my life. Perhaps there will be more to follow. Again, thanks everyone. And please continue to share your thoughts and support. It really REALLY helps. If anybody has gone through a divorce and/or an affair and has any suggestions I am all ears. Books you read that helped? Techniques for dealing with the crud? Anything... -Mr. Otter

I have had diaper dreams for my entire life. But they pretty much stopped once I started wearing them regularly. I still have them, but with much less frequency. But if I do go a long period of time without, they come back with greater frequency.

I am still relatively new around here, but I have shared a few posts and given my thoughts on a number of situations. I was pretty active up until about a month ago. Recent events in my life have made me want to take a lot of what I said back. I am in a really bad place in my life right now, and I have wanted to post this for a bit. In early January my wife told me she was seriously thinking about getting a divorce. I was shocked, and immediately wanted to get counseling, which we did. Over the course of 4 sessions my wife made it clear that she was “no longer OK” with diapers and that she didn’t want to be married to a DL. This (obviously) hurt me really bad, but I was more confused than hurt. My wife has known about my DL side since we started dating more than 7 years ago. She has NEVER had a problem with it. And more confusingly, she said that she didn’t think there was anything wrong with it, and she didn’t think I should change. She just “didn’t want to be married to a DL anymore”. There were other things too, but the DL thing was “huge” and the main issue she told me. Obviously this messed me up bad. I felt I had failed in our marriage and that it was all my fault. Then, on 1/25/07 the cell phone bill came. $250 bucks!? WTF? I looked closer and it all became clear. I called her up and confronted her. She didn’t deny it. She was having an affair. She came home and told me everything. It was/is her thesis adviser! (she was getting a Master’s degree in history and the guy was her adviser). It gets worse. The guy is married too. And he has 2 little girls. The affair had been going on since early November. At this point, she has moved out and is living with him. I am a total mess; counseling, crying, barely able to function at work etc etc. My self esteem is shot, my wife is living with another man, and my hope of finding another person who will accept a DL are next to nil. In short, my life totally sucks. I don’t want to make this too long of a post. I will add more at a later time. I just needed to put this out there and hope for kind words from other DLs. Happy Valentines day everyone. -Mr. Otter-

Exactly! It is human nature to try to put people into categories, to draw lines in the sand and classify things into neat boxes. We want to know, 'Is John an AB or is he not'? The point I am trying to make is that it is not that simple (it doesn't have to be yes or no, black or white) and we should try to look at it differently and ask different questions. A lot of people like to do things that are "ABesk", and some people (like us) just take that further (OK, in some cases a lot further) than most would go. I think that the vast majority of people have some amount of "ABism" as part of their personality (i.e. the John and Jane as above). We get so hung up on this question of 'are you an ab or not', when we should be asking instead 'how much of an AB are you'? My point in all this is that we are not as strange as we think we are. What we do is done by lots and lots of folks, just to a lesser degree. So many of ABs and DLs think nobody in the world would ever understand them, or think that they are so different. Well, sure we are different, I readily admit that. But the desire to be babied is something most people can relate to. P.S. Valentine, sorry I must have been thinking of somebody else.

First and foremost CONGRATS! What a memorable new years for you both. I am sure you meant this in a good way, so you can take this with a grain of salt. But I get a big red flag anytime I see stuff like "well, now that we are engaged/married things will be better." You will not communicate better because you are engaged. You might (and I hope you do) communicate better because you both realize that communication is important and now that you are planning on getting married you will both put even more time and effort into making sure you have good communication. But getting engaged in and of itself will change nothing. You must change together if it is something you want to do. But that is probably what you meant anyhow. Good luck, and congrats again.

Nice reply by Morv. I usually like what he have to say. But I think there is another possibility that he failed to mention.... that the poster is not really 18, and doesn't really live with his girlfriend. My take on people that write as poorly as he did, is that they are kids. Sorry if I am wrong.

First and foremost, yes people don't always fit on scales. Having said that though, I am not sure I agree with you in this particular instance. If I recall (sorry if I am wrong!), you used to have sex, but got tired of it or something (I seem to remember that for some reason)? You don't have to want to have sex, or even have any interest in sex to fit on it a sexuality spectrum. You can be asexual. Its just that if (or when) you were sexual which gender would you prefer to have sex with? Your sexuality is not linked to your sex drive! Its more of an identity thing.... I mean, do you consider yourself as a man or a woman, or both or neither? If you don't want to have sex with either, (or conversely if you had to have sex and had absolutely no preference) you are a classic bisexual. This is of course totally tangential to my main point.... that there are a lot of people with AB/DL tendencies out there.

Humans always want to put things into nice neat categories and such. We want to think people either are AB/DL or they are not AB/DL. Black or white, yes or no. I don't think that is how it works though... I suspect it is more of a spectrum. I have heard people describe a persons sexual orientation as being on a scale of 1-5 (or 1-10, whatever.... point is is a spectrum) with one end being totally straight and the other end being totally gay. People in the middle are bisexual, you get the idea. I think being AB/DL is not too different from this. For arguments sake lets say a person who reads this website is 1 (i.e. all of us AB/DLs), and a person who thinks we are sick and what we do is "wrong" is a 10. But there is a lot of room inbetween here. I think a lot of people like to do AB/DL things and would fall somewhere in between. Every girlfriend I have ever had, and I suspect most people everywhere, like to cuddle with loved ones. When we get sick, we all want to be babied. People, in very intimate moments with people they care about, often talk in babyish tones and act like babies. Love is often expressed in terms that many of us 1s can relate to. I mean, in the bedroom at night, how many people don't snuggle with their bedmate? Some people like to snuggle more than others. Some people really snuggle a lot. And some people take snuggling and baby talk to the next level. There are more people than we think who either already understand us or could easily understand us. What we want and do is not so strange as we think. Sure it is different, absolutely! But all we are is people at the far end of a spectrum that has a lot more people in the middle than at the either end.

There is some good advice on here. I think that talking about things before you propose is not a bad idea at all. If you don't talk about it though, you should definitely talk about it before you actually get married. You have already broached the subject once, but this really NEEDS to be something you two can talk about openly and be OK with. Its one thing to send an e-mail, its another thing to put on a diaper in front of your wife. Make sure you are clean in what you want, and be ready to compromise on what she will accept. But TALK about it!

I agree that there is such a thing as too much information. But I also believe there is no need to lie and be deceptive to folks. I usually go on a need to know basis. My wife for example needs to know the truth (and she does). In my earlier days, some people needed to know I wore diapers 'cause they were going to see/smell them in our house's trash can. But they didn't need to know why I wore them, cause that would just be too much info. Use your judgment.

I am curious where you got those numbers.... I have never seen an estimate for the AB/DL population.