Mr. Sea Otter

Great questions. I am in control of my fetish, but I do have moments where I wonder. I said yes, because I have never felt like I *had* to wear diapers.... I just chose to do so. There are times when I don't want to wear them and I don't. I just allow myself to wear them whenever I want, which these days is 24/7 or really close to it. Come summer time, when its hot and muggy, I wear less. As for could I quit... I put no. I know I could live the rest of my life without ever wearing a diaper, if say, my life depended on it or something. But I don't think I would ever lose the desire to wear one and I would just live through a life long struggle. It was this exact line of thinking (a life long struggle, or not) that helped me make my decision to accept myself a long time ago. I could try to fight it, or I could accept it and just be happy. When I asked myself why not, I couldn't come up with a very good response other than fear of what others might think and stuff about what other people thought. But you know what? Those "other people" they don't have to live my life do they? So screw em. After making the decision to just go for it, I learned something that I now think is pretty funny. The fact of the matter is that nobody really cares if you wear a diaper anyway. I was all worried about nothing.

I have always felt like I was in between sizes. Mediums tend to be a bit on the large side for me. The left side and right side tapes come close to with a couple of inches of each other on the front. I can squeeze into some smalls (like Bambinos) but they don't fit super well either and they seem, well, too small.

Tris, I respect your opinion so don't take this the wrong way. Its just that I really disagree with you. My own opinion, is that what you are saying sounds like right wing inspired nonsense. Time will tell I guess.

Calling people lairs often comes across as mean. Tris, I think you are using a different concept of "sexual" than what most folks are using. If you mean diapers are sexual in that they touch your genitals then yea, I guess its "sexual". And so are panties and boxers I suppose... However, I don't think diapers are "sexual" for everyone in the sexual pleasure / turn me on / masturbation sense of the word that you seem to be implying (you seems to have a Freudian kind of view of sexuality). For some people, diapers are just a source of comfort. Like hugging your mom, cuddling with a stuffed animal, or getting a back rub from a friend. These actions are all ways to get pleasure, but its certainly not what I would call sexual pleasure. Is it so hard to believe that for some people wearing a diaper is no different from hugging a Teddy bear?

I think some people might be a bit pessimistic when they say "She's gone." But I totally agree that you two need to have a serious, sit-down conversation on the topic ASAP. Some of the question that Porter mentioned you should discuss seemed like great things to go over. -Mr. Otter

Practice and time is the key. I don't really have any problems anymore, although I will occasionally have problems when I am in bed. This is usually due to just the way Mr. Johnson is pointing.... sometimes he gets kind of stuck (think of a kink in a garden hose) and nothing will happen. But thats not usually the case. I can wet in any position these days. I have even gotten to the point where I occasionally wake up in a wet diaper and have zero memory of when it happened. Happens maybe one a week or so and only when I am wearing diapers, which is perfect. I love the idea of wetting in my sleep, but I would never want to really be incon... its a fun fantasy, but its not a fun reality.

I can recall having the same thing going on with me. I don't know if I would call it a habit though, its just a reaction. It didn't take long to recognize that I was doing it. Now, when my diaper is exposed (bending over, sitting in a chair and my shirt rides up etc etc) I am aware of it and I can decide if I should care or not. Most of the time I just don't care and make no effort to conceal anything. You can just do the same... and if you never care, you will just stop doing it once you realize what you are doing.

I wear Secure x-plus and tend to go through 3 or 4 a day (I only wet, and sometimes I will even pee in a toilet). The best way I found to prevent rashes is the following. 1: Shower twice a day. 2: Use some kind of a barrier cream... I like the vasoline nursery stuff. 3: Here is my favorite trick that works wonders. After you shower use a hair drier! Yes, use it down there... totally dry everything off and give yourself a good shot of warm air. It works for me.

I tend to agree that you need to be happy with yourself before you can find a good relationship. One way to spare yourself the torment of losing relationship after relationship over diapers is to be more upfront about the whole thing. My rule of thumb is that I won't have sex with somebody unless they know I wear diapers. They don't have to know *why* I wear diapers, but they need to know that I do. That way if a relationship does start to grow, it grows with them knowing that they are getting involved with somebody who wears diapers. I've said it time and time again, but its always worth repeating. Wearing diapers will be as big a deal as you choose to make it. If you make it out to be some deep dark horrible secret, it can kind of freak people out. If you make it out to be something that kind of funny, silly, different and OK, well, people tend to react better to that. Best of luck, and don't give up! -Mr. Otter

Secure X-plus that I got on-line.

You never going to have a better opportunity to talk to your wife about it than what you have now. At some point, tell her that you actually kind of like this whole wearing diapers thing. Its comforting and makes you feel good (or whatever feelings you have... .just describe your feelings to your wife. Most girls eat it up when men share feelings). Tell her how much you are enjoying it and that you might be interested in continuing this even after you get better. I don't want to say its now or never, but its never going to be easier to bring up that it is now. .

I tend to agree with SDB. Some people will indeed flip out, some people won't bat an eye. I have told lots of people, and so far nobody has ever said I am a nut job. Some didn't like the idea, others thought it was cute. But the vast majority didn't care one way or the other. "Whatever floats your boat" is how most of them feel.

Very impolite are they? You mean, like calling people pathetically wrong? The number of unique visitors to this site every day is for me the most telling statistic in this entire thread. I was quite surprised.

I spent Turkey day down in Costa Rica on a beach, so there was no gravy to spill even if I wanted to (which I don't.... I would never waste good gravy like that). I am thankful for my family and friends who have helped me make it through the most difficult year of my life.

I can't tell you about Australia and places to get diapers, but I can tell you that I also used studying abroad as an opportunity to wear diapers more. Its a great time to do so!

I am totally with all the above posters here too. I long stopped caring, or even really thinking about wearing diapers in public. I don't flaunt them but, I really no longer go to any length to hide them either. There are times when I know my diaper is slightly showing, like if I am in a chair at a restaurant and my shirt has ridden up a bit or something, and I no longer bother trying to hide it. Who cares who sees?

I'm in for $10. Glad to help out.

Its an very rare night when I am not wearing a diaper!

I find diapers both sexual and non-sexual. I spent a couple of years diapered 24/7 and during that time the crazy sexual feelings changed into more comforting and happy feelings. When I am diapered alone (which is all the time these days) it can be sexual, but as often as not, it is just comforting. However, diapers can still be sexual, and if anyone else is involved in the diaper situation, it is certainly sexual. I have done just about every diaper sex thing I can think of, and they were all really hot. I guess this is a long way of saying it depends on if I am alone or not.

My two cents: I think there is a difference between ABs and DLs. I do not consider myself much of an AB, in that I have no interest in talking like a baby (I find it annoying) acting like a baby, or having somebody treat me like a baby. Yes, I like to wear diapers, but I like to wear them and act as an adult. As such I do not consider myself an AB. On the other hand, yes, there is some crossover obviously. I think I wrote about his somewhere else, but I always look at the whole AB/DL thing as a spectrum. There are some parts of me that are AB (I like cute pajamas for instance), so I consider myself 85% DL and 15% AB. In sum, I don't think it has to be AB or DL. Its a bit of both for me.

Just FYI, I saw a smaller pack of the size 7 cruisers today while I was grocery shopping. I almost picked them up, but I couldn't bring myself to pay 11 bucks for 18 diapers that almost certainly would not fit. I am curious if anybody else has put one on and can tell me just how small you have to be to even think about wearing one. I know it wouldn't fit for normal use, but maybe as a stuffer? And how exactly does a stuffer work? Do you wear it or just put it in the diaper?

I guess I didn't make it really clear. I don't really care if he saw or not. Hes a friend, and I know he wouldn't care one way or the other cause that is the kind of guy he is. And like I said before, I didn't really care if he saw either. I just wanted to get off that freeway in one piece. And we did pretty well too. Had the tire changed and were rolling again in like 15 minutes. Not bad considering we had to unload a bunch of stuff to get at the spare!

From time to time I get to travel for work and while I usually fly, sometime things are close enough that I will drive a work car (if you call a huge suburban a "car"). So, this morning me and a friend/co-worker were driving to a different office. I was doing the driving and was on I-95 doing 65 or so when the right rear tire totally blew out. I managed to get the car/boat over to the side of the freeway without incident. But there we were on the side of a really busy, major freeway with cars whizzing by. There really wasn't much room on the side of the freeway, and there was very little room to work so it wasn't the safest of situations. We just wanted to get out of there asap. Obviously we had to change the tire, and both of us were up to it (I have changed plenty of tires before, as has my friend). But I've never done it while I was wearing a diaper! As I have said before, I don't really make much effort to hide my diapers, and that means I don't tuck in my shirt or hike my pants up or anything. So if my shirt rides up cause I am bending over or something, and you are looking, you are going to see a diaper. So, between all the bending, stooping, crawling under the car, working the jack etc etc, I knew my diaper had to be showing. And while I don't try to hide it, I am not interested in showing it off! So there I was, hoping I wasn't going to die from any of the huge semi trucks flying by, and I pretty much had to just gave up on trying to not let me diaper show. My friend is helpful and all that, but he wasn't going to fit under the car (he's a big guy) to get the jack in place, so I just didn't have any choice. Nothing was ever said, and for all I know he never saw anything. But it was certainly out there to be seen. And given the circumstances, I really didn't care. I just wanted to get the heck out of there!

I don't shave, but I do use clippers to keep things really short and trim down there. It helps with cleanup and rash protection and all that other stuff people mentioned.