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  1. I'll try to answer to best of my ability. No major complications from the litho. That said, the stone (my first one) was almost 10mm in size. I passed some seriously large fragments over the course of about 3 days. One possible answer to the sleepwetting may have do with the fact that I could have had the stone for quite some time before it shifted, causing the severe pain that caused me to seek medical help. I suffered vague back ache for quite a while causing me to sleep lightly. following the litho, I began sleeping deeper than I had in years, my body not waking when the signal to urinate occurred. From a historical perspective, prior to any of this, I have a small bladder to start with compounded with urge incontinence to some degree since childhood (I wet the bed until about age 7 or so). when the urge to go hits, it's immediate. Da Vinci IS in and of itself, designed to be incredibly accurate. I was told to expect some incontinence that would lessen over time. I had the surgery performed at one of the countries leading cancer treatment centers. I was hospitalized for 48 hrs. In addition, I went home with a catheter that was left in for 12 days. I was on pain meds for a week or so as well as Viagra therapy to improve blood flow: 50 mg/day M-F. Erectile function is, so far, non-existent. The daytime incontinence appears to be the stress type: getting up, walking down stairs, sneeze, cough, lifting... It is enough that guards/pull on type is not enough to contain everything. I appreciate everyone's comments so far. Being new to all this, I am somewhat curious as to what patterns to expect. In addition, I read your comments regarding kegels, and must agree that they have no effect on urinary incontinence as it relates to prostate removal.
  2. Here I am, 9 weeks following Da Vinci Robotic Nerve Sparing surgery to remove my prostate. I am finding the incontinence getting worse rather than better. Prior to the discovery of the cancer (which they caught very early), I was wearing diapers at night, due to becoming a sleepwetter following lithotripsy for a large kidney stone almost a year to the date of the cancer diagnosis. This, coupled with a small bladder that has always been slightly overactive, caused me to wet in my sleep 3 or 4 nights out of 7. Fast forward to today and now I must wear 24/7. In a follow-up visit to my doctor last week, he asked about the leaking associated with prostate removal. I explained that I was managing it. He asked how many pads per day I was using. Pads? With the amounts I am leaking (remember I must stay hydrated due to kidney stones. I don't want to go through that again), no pad or pull-up on the planet is going to contain what I am putting out. I wear diapers. He seemed really surprised at that answer. There are times, when I can get up quickly from a seated position and have a full void. I leak quite a bit when walking up and down stairs, when I shift positions in bed, bending over to pick something up, a sneeze... You get the picture. I wear disposables with plastic pants at work or when I am out, but I prefer cloth, pin on or pull on, when at home. I feel that the medical profession is not as forthcoming with respect to how severe the incontinence will be when discussing the removal of one's prostate. I think, in my case, it is getting worse right now. The more water I drink, the worse it is, of course, but kidney stone prevention and good hydration is important too. I am comfortable in my own skin and am comfortable with the fact that I may be in diapers for quite a while. I am no longer embarrassed by the fact the people are going to become aware that I wear diapers. Would love to hear from others here who are dealing with incontinence following prostate removal. My wife is being very supportive throughout all this, but I can see see that it could take a toll over the long term to have her partner in diapers all the time. Not to be too graphic, but I am afraid of peeing while we are being intimate. Thanks for listening.
  3. I wear due to a medical need. It started out as night only but my urinary incontinence is increasing to accidents during the day as well, enough so that there are many situations requiring diapers during the day if I am not going have quick access to the bathroom. I was a bedwetter as a child up until age 7 or 8 and on and off until I was around 13. My mom had me wearing pin on cloth diapers and plastic pants at night. I wear disposables with plastic pants during the day (much easier to conceal under clothes) and night weight cloth diapers at night to manage my incontinence as I am a heavy wetter. When I am in disposables (even with plastic pants) I don't have the "babyish" feeling I do when wearing cloth, even though my disposables and pants sometimes have the crinkle sound I associate with kids in diapers. Sleeping in a cloth diaper and plastic pants makes me feel like I did when I was younger. Cloth diapers and plastic pants seem to set off some latent feelings of being a child. Disposables are like underwear for me, even with plastic pants over them. What say the rest of you? Do you feel more babyish in cloth or disposables? Sorry for the strange questions. Even though my wife is supportive of my need to wear diapers, this is not the kind of conversation I want to have with her. I still am somewhat embarrassed to have her see me in diapers even though we share a bed at night.
  4. An update for those having problems getting products from Diaperstation: After having placed an order with them in July of this year, no response or answers to email, despite having charged my credit card, I filed a dispute with my credit card company, giving them company names, phone numbers addresses. My credit card company wants details of the transaction such as what was ordered, etc. Kind of embarrassing to tell them I ordered cloth diapers, plastic pants, diaper pins etc. You would think I would be over this by now, being incontinent and having to wear at night. Anyway, to the point: Today October 28th I received an email from Worldwide (their "official" business name) telling me my order was shipped today. This cautionary tale is to inform that if you ordered from them, you might still get what you paid for. They probably are out of business per se, even though their site is up and looks like it has been updated. If you are thinking about ordering from them, think twice. If anyone here is more in-the-know than me with respect to their status, maybe you can weigh in on this thread.
  5. Nice of them to continue to collect money. They are still in business enough to process credit card transactions and paying the vendor fees, but not fill orders. I contacted my CC company, and I have to provide the details in writing to them in order to enter a formal dispute. Information for anyone else burned by these clowns: They are doing business as Worldwide Interactive, customer service email: writeus@diaperstation.com Telephone number: 631-231-8282. They are (or were) doing business out of Hauppage, NY If you ordered from them and payed by credit card, your company may require you to provide them with some or all of the info above.
  6. Six weeks ago for me. Billed my credit card, does not respond to emails. I am filing a report with my CC company tomorrow. They bill and do business as "Worldwide Interactive" Their web site was still up as of yesterday. I have had no problems with the before with orders. This one was for $170.00. I have sent them four emails requesting order status, but no response. The OP's experience leads me to believe they just may be kaput..
  7. I don't post very often, so bear with me if this has been discussed. Have you changed someone's messy diaper? Do you have limits as to doing this? I was first introduced to adults in diapers by a close female friend in college. She was a bedwetter until her mid teens but liked wearing diapers and continued to do so in college. She confided to me that she liked to mess in them from time to time and wanted to have her messy diaper changed. I never changed her messy diapers ( a few wet ones) I was around her after she had pooped in them once or twice. Since becoming night time incontinent myself and needing to be diapered at night. i look back on those days in retrospect wondering what it would have been like to change her poopy diaper...
  8. I have only been incontinent at night for about three months. Your perspective changes when wearing diapers is no longer a choice, but a necessity. People accept an adult in diapers and plastic pants when it is a medical condition, but disconnect when diapers are a choice. I have been on both sides of the issue. I had a girlfriend in college in the late '70s who liked wearing diapers. She had been a bedwetter until her early teens and learned to enjoy wearing and found a sense of security and comfort in wearing them to sleep. She got me to explore wearing them as well. My wife (not her), was totally opposed to the idea and asked me not to do it around her. Since becoming incontinent myself at night, I have HAD to wear diapers and plastic pants to sleep in. My wife has been very accepting of it and has no problem with it at all. She doesn't mind seeing me in them and has even gone so far as to buy a diaper pail and a waterproof pad for our bed, "just in case". I have admitted to her that despite the fact that I have to wear diapers, I enjoy it as it makes me feel comfortable and secure, not having to worry about a wet bed. She says "a wet diaper beats a wet bed".
  9. I began "sleepwetting" almost every night about 3 months ago due to some bladder trauma from passing pieces of a fragmented kidney stone. So, of course, my wife knows. I wear diapers and plastic pants to sleep in. I have urge incontinence and sleep rather deeply. Wearing diapers every night is preferable to a wet bed and/or interrupted sleep. I can't say she is crazy about the idea, but doesn't mind seeing me in them. She is the only one that knows at the moment; but as this is likely to be a long term situation, we will eventually have to deal with travel and staying at other people's homes. I alternate between cloth diapers and Molicare or Arbri-form Xplus overnight disposables. While I do my own laundry with respect to the cloth, my wife bought a diaper pail and a waterproof mattress pad for our bed, as even the heavy overnights have leaked a couple of times. I don't think my wife has told anybody, but I feel very fortunate that this one very special woman in my life is accepting of the situation. Our one child still living at home does not yet know as far as I can tell. All my supplies are in our bathroom closet. Eventually she may see them and ask questions. When that day comes, I will be honest and open with her about my condition.
  10. I have been somewhat of a DL for a number of years, though only indulging when I can in private. I am currently incontinent at night due to some bladder issues as a result of having a kidney stone and being required to drink at least 64 oz of water per day. I am two weeks into having to wear diapers at night. So- my wife and I are making the best of it and even having some fun with it. The bedwetting may continue for a couple of months, or it may go away quickly. Due to the fact that I am an active and deep sleeper, and the fact that I am peeing every 20-30 min, means diapers and plastic pants every night. I wear Molicare Super Plus with plastic pants over them and tonight will try wearing a thick cloth diaper instead as they are supposed to be better at controlling leaks. I only have the one cloth, but when I was ordering diapers when the night time wetting started, she said I should order a case of diapers and several pairs of plastic pants (8) to make sure we have enough. She even cleared a spot in our bathroom closet to keep everything and makes sure there are always disposal bags for the wet ones. I expected my wife to be repelled by the fact that her husband is sleeping next to her in diapers. I even admit I felt a little weird at first. She is totally fine with it. without being too graphic here, she has woke a couple of mornings quite aroused and has given me a squeeze or two through my plastic pants. I'm no psychologist, but I think the taboo of diapers on an adult might be more of a turn on for her than she thought. She told me she would "rather have her husband in a wet diaper than a wet bed" and "I guess we will all have our diaper time". it's really nice being out in the open with her and will down the road make dealing with my urge to wear them once and a while to bed easier to accept once the incontinence passes, which it should. She even mentioned that if I wind up like this for the rest of my life, we will handle it.
  11. I alternate between Tena Super with plastic pants and Molicare Super Plus with plastic pants. The Tenas I can purchase from my local pharmacy, the pants and Molicares I buy online.
  12. Interesting perspectives. I know she isn't freaked out by the fact that I am sleeping in diapers. In some ways, I think she may be a little surprised by her reaction. Yesterday, while I was shifting around and adjusting my diaper, she put her leg over me and I could tell she was aroused. Without being too graphic, she needed to "take care of business" very quickly. I wasn't too sure what to do as I was pretty wet but didn't want to get up and go to the bathroom, and couldn't get a read on how far to take it. I suggested today that we develop a plan to deal with sexual issues while I'm wearing. It is currently a need as my bladder is emptying every 20 minutes or so. If nothing else, no one wants their sleep cycle interrupted every 20 minutes. I told her today that I find them to be a comfort and actually quite comfortable to wear. Whenever any discussion takes place about it I am the one to bring it up as I think she is uncomfortable talking about it right now. She has been making sure that there are plastic bags in our bathroom for disposing of wet diapers, and I am very fastidious about not letting more than two nights worth of wet diapers in our trash can. I will not under any circumstances lie to her by telling her the urologist suggested to keep wearing diapers, if that's not the case. In some research I have been doing, another person with night time wetting due to a spastic bladder, had the situation for around two months, I have been wet at night involuntarily for only a week now, so I may have a while to go. At any rate, she is accepting of the fact that I wear diapers at night for the time being, and after the condition clears up, while I won't wear them every night, I suspect I will be able to wear on occasion when I feel the need.
  13. While I have been a "closet" DL for a long time, my wife confronted me about 5 years ago about my "thing" for diapers, we have not discussed it since nor have I let on about the DL side of me. I recently developed incontinence as a result of a nasty bout with kidney stones, resulting in bladder spasms/contractions which expel urine with no warning. I can manage during the day as long as a bathroom is close at hand. Night time is a different story. Having 2-3 spasms per hour results in a very wet night. This requires management by wearing an overnight diaper with plastic pants. The plastic pants being needed due to the "male plumbing" shifting position during the night which causes leaks. I'll be the first to admit that has been odd to wear diapers in front of my wife, and to have her see the diapers, pants etc. in our bathroom closet, but she has been great about it. No one should want to become incontinent. It requires adjustments in your routine and your lifestyle as well. I have learned that the necessity of incontinence alters one's perception of the diaper wearing experience. When one is incontinent, it is the mature thing to do to meet it head on. There is far more shame in wetting the bed and sheets than being adult enough to understand that diapers insure everyone gets a good night's sleep. I am learning that it should be approached with a sense of humor and keeping the communication open and honest. In my situation, it is probably a temporary situation (it's only been a week), but a wet diaper beats a wet bed.
  14. You know - surprisingly enough, she has been all right with this far more than I would have expected. This morning when we woke up she rolled over and pressed her butt up against me as I was on my side facing her. I told her I was pretty wet and it didn't seem to bother her at all. I am getting more comfortable letting her see me in diapers, but I am still trying to be discrete and respectful of her boundaries too. I still get ready for bed after she is asleep, but the last two nights I have stopped wearing PJ bottoms in bed. I even got out of bed and headed for the bathroom while she was still in the room. The next big hurdle will be the how to deal with a morning erection, or one during the night for that matter. Sure is strange, living a fantasy out of neccesity
  15. Greetings- I have not posted here or any forum for quite a while but I thought I would share this on this new forum. I have been a DL since my early teens. Never have told anyone about it,not even my wife of 14 years. Instead I have indulged when I can in private and feeling lonely and isolated, wishing I could share this side of me with my wife. The week before Christmas I was diagnosed with a large kidney stone and had it blasted by lithotripsy. After passing all the fragments I began suffering urge incontinence due to bladder spasms. While I can deal with it during the day, I wet a great deal in my sleep. I wear diapers and plastic pants to bed now every night. It is so weird to be in the position of HAVING to wear them and LIKING it at the same time, and to be wearing diapers ad plastic pants in front of my wife. I have been diapered at night for the last 5 nights, and with each passing night, my wife has been getting more and more comfortable seeing her husband diapered, so much so, that in the middle of the night the last couple of nights she has been reaching over and touching me on my plastic pants. It's as if I have had my long kept, deep dark secret fantasy realized, even though I truly need to be diapered. I one way, I hope I continue to need them for a while, but on the other hand, if the incontinence continues, my urologist is going to want to perform more tests. The upside is that after the incontinence passes, perhaps she will indulge my wearing once in a while as I feel the need
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