Topguy

Probably you sense this from the point of view of simply not having been there. Most girls I have known into this are pretty together- or I would not have been "feeding" what would have been obvious mental illness like this. Some really get off on an inxeorable feeling of being totally out of control-and this scenario is heaven for some-where it would be absolute hell for any other. Takes all kinds!

What an odd board,no wonder the moderators shut it down.

Not too many subs are into extremes of restraint that I enjoy. Imagine having handcuffs slapped on one unexpectedly. A piece of tape across the mouth follows.....and one finds ones hands being pulled up in back,and padlocked to a chain, fastened to a ring bolt in the wall. A spreader bar is cuffed to your ankles as you struggle to free yourself-with total futility.....Your eyes bug out as I produce a knife........and proceed to use it to cut off your clothing. I add a rather heavy steel collar around your neck... locking bondage mittens go on the hands next....and two pieces of line are attached to rings on the wrists of those...and threaded through a front ring in the collar.....The cuffs come off,but before any resistance can be mustered..I yank the ropes hard through the ring,your hands are pulled inexorably around to the front of the collar,doubling up your arms under your chin....and a padlock clips it all together. A hand twines tightly into the hair on the back of your head.....pulling you down to the floor,where a four inch piece of chain with a clip secures you there on your back, by the collar......to another ring bolt. The ensemble is completed by winching the steel spreader bar up over your head,lifting your behind a few inches off the floor.....I wander off and leave you to think about your situation or a while-you hear the tv come on in the front room.....there is a knock at the door-faintly heard.....strange voices...... Someone you don't know-some guy-peeks in at you and laughs-then dissapears. More faint conversation in another room. I walk in matter of factly with a rather LARGE enema bag,with a double bardex bulb. And begin to tease you, while I lube it up, and insert the thing up your ass. I make a rather loud comment over my shoulder about "the show being about to commence"...and pump up the bulbs. A nice thick cloth diaper follows. Covered with snap on plastic pants. The collar is unclipped from the ring...and spreader bar removed. The hand returns to your hair,roughly jerking you to your feet......and you are frog marched out into the front room. Another chain on the wall awaits you,clip......you are forced to kneel there against the wall .....and the bag is hung up from the same ring bolt. A few strangers are lounging about, they obviously seem to be enjoying this little scenario.....we are playing a game of cards.....you are ignored for a while, except for an occasional glance-or rude comment. finally the game has a winner....it's one of the strangers,a man. He gets up,and wanders over to you.....chuckles and clicks open the retainer that keeps the hose from the enema bag closed. A quart and a half of cold water begins flowing into bowels,the cramping begins almost immediately-and it doesn't get much better after the bag is empty-fifteen minutes later. Your moans and whimpers are again ignored, as another card game commences. The winner once more approaches you,making a snide comment about someone needing some relief. She releases the valve on the pump up bulb that keeps the inner bardex bulb inflated-and your ass sealed up against leaking. Immediately, it all begins to come out-soaking the diaper, and inundating your nether regions with the contents of your bowels....there is no controlling or stopping this-it takes half an hour, in repeated stages before you are finally emptied. The group of friends eventually begin to tire of you stinking up the room after a couple more hours......and you are lead into the bathroom....hands released from the collar, and cuffed to another ring in the shower wall. The plastic pants are unsnapped-and the diapers dropped at your feet. The smell is unimaginable. A shower nozzle set on pulse is used to hose you off.......you step out of the dirty diapers....are wiped down dry, and a clean diaper replaces it. The bondage mittens are then removed,and you are instructed to wash out your dirty diapers,and crawl with them into the laundry room in the back of the house-and throw them into the washing machine. You do this past the guests,who are now beginning to take thier leave..... More humorous comments. And provided with clothes to go home in,a short dress that BARELY covers your diapers-and a blouse.

Ok .............I begin to see the reason they cover it all up with a diaper now.

I can't recall the last time I saw a baby with legs that looked like a goats. Not the most attractive thing I have even seen. I guess this is the dd equivalent of a penis pic? EWWWWWW

I only hope that admin reacts quicker the next time she shows up-on another account.

I'll stick to diapers for sleeping.

They aren't cut to fit men. no.

This rant is entirely irrelevant to people who are incon....... Like me.

It can become just as unhealthy to rely on others for sexual gratification, as it is to rely on a fetish. Ever heard of sexual addiction?

Jennifer, misery loves company. Don't expect to get sympathy from people in denial, who are upset over needing to use protection. You have managed to find a really good way of coping,.and loving and supportive partner....So of course,they are envious.....and envy often turns to spite. This place is different, people here have learned to cope with thier needs, and find some happiness in diapers........ If the other broads, and the harpies there upset you- just stop going there. The incom community here is very tolerant, and I'm sure you will have a much more enjoyable experience.

I understand regression as a rather pure way of letting it all go. Where a person has no cares or responsibilities,even to be potty trained. As the others have said, it's an escape.

I'm sorry your past boyfriend was such a nutcase......... But all good things,and you seem to have found the best. He sounds very much the same as with my feelings about girls into diapers-whether they need them or no. Just having the acceptance, is the best intimacy of all. Thanks for the warm feelings your post brought to me........Topguy

This is the healthy way to pursue this,kudos to you guy. This is why he indulges, you of course. You have both worked out a balance that works very well.

Precisely pipsqueak. And it is those who are mature enough to achive that balance with a partner, who find sustainable relationships.... While those who do not, spend the rest of thier lives playing baby solo.

There are plenty of dls here as well, AB...........one has simply to be patient. And role playng is fun-but I prefer someone who already has this as a kink. That way, there is never any overt resentment to being 'forced".....There is a huge difference in diapering oneself,and having another control how that happens,and when.

I work from home already,and I'm working hard to move into a situation where I can save,and buy my own place. Maybe I can eventually have somehwere that I can share with a nice dl sub........Where we can have the freedom to express ourselves, without worrying about what the rest of the world thinks of us.

And in fact, most submissives who behaved like AB's around a Dominant would be immediately dismissed as useless. D/s partners need to be equals in competence,unequal in authority.

Well it's pretty hard to get involved with someone so stubborn about thier "kink" that they won't even talk straight. At least grow up long enough to be related to.........

I don't mind an ocasional session of catering to an ab side-just being with a person who is obssessed by it. As far as humiliation? That's always in the mind of the beholder.

Exactly pipsqueak........but parents make that investment in a baby willingly- knowing it will grow up. It's never for more than a few years.......Can you imagine taking on a person like that for the rest of your LIFE? What a nauseating concept!

I think this is a common taboo,even here. I've done a lot of things in my time-so mine have pretty much evaproated-taboos that don't invlove illegal activity are to be broken-so far as I am concerned.

Well jennie, it is pretty much controlling the Top to have to take care of an adult in a regressive state. And anyone with common sense knows that a Dominant despises being controlled. One young ab lady,in her first letter, stated that she wanted to play baby every day..........My immediate reaction was "No effing way honey-I don't need to be a babie's slave! Now if she had been bright enough to mention other things she had to offer, in an ADULT fashion-and showed a reasonable willingness to compromise and care about MY needs as well-things may have worked out differently.......As it was, I only saw someone selfish, who wanted to use me to fullfill a fantasy........ I have a nurturing side as well-but it's balanced with the expectation that the sub use it to do something positive, to move forward with her personal growth....not stay stuck in infancy......... And become a black hole that only exists to suck me dry. But on the brighter side,I have a few words of advice and encouragement for the ab's reading this. Never ever approach a potential dominant in baby mode. Always put your adult side forward first...... Consider what you are REALLY asking-try to have some empathy for what a Mom or Dad is going to put up with to make you happy..........and figure out if YOU really want to meet them fifty fifty in meeting THIER needs as well. And if you say no to any of the above-I wish you luck-no one wants to get involved in a parasitic relationship-where they are the host.

Why do you say that bear? I never had any issues with cleaning up dl girlfriends who messed thier diapers-I thought it was kind of cute that they trusted me enough to relax to that extent...........

I hear many ab's expressing over and over again,how hard it is to find a Daddy/Mommy....... And how many were disgruntled by the D/s scenes where they lived........and felt rejected. In light of this, I thought I would Explain the differences in the dynamics Between Dominants-and those who enjoy more of a caretaker dynamic. It really comes down to the issue of maintanence. I have had some lovely ab girls approach me in the past-but I realized that thier kink was so narrowly focused, that I would never be happy with them. You see,in Domination and submission,the dominant does invest a lot of time and energy into a submissive...but they expect a payout in service, to balance that. So it pretty much equals out. An infants world is egocentric-everything revolves around the baby-and they are too small to be more than dependent. It's still a D/s dynamic-the parent being very much in control.......but the maintanence is skewed far out of balance. So when you view an AB dynamic,the Dominant in that situation has to get thier payback in being very much the caretaker.......and not a lot of people are selfless enough to go there,long term. So I have one word of advice to you babies-seeking...Be willing to grow up, and offer more than work to those potential daddies and mommies out there...... If it's always all about you-it's going to stay that way.