rubbersheetmike

I'm not certain I was wetting for attention except to be able to keep the rubber sheet on my bed. I got sent to a couple counselors during my teen years and I was always somewhat skeptical about their conclusions and advice. I knew by the time I was in puberty that I got aroused by bedwetting even though before puberty I disliked waking up with wet sheets and pjs. I never admitted this fetish to a counselor though. I probably didn't even understand what a fetish was at that point. Thanks for the honest and thoughtful answer. I wasn't allowed to wear diapers for bedwetting beyond early primary school. The belief was that wet sheets and pjs would make me want to be dry at night. You note that after 8 or 9 wetting the bed became something you liked. Do you think that was because of entering puberty?

I wonder though whether you loved the bedwetting and diapers or liked the attention you got because of it? A counselor once told me that he thought I was engaged in attention seeking and noted that for young people negative attention is often seen as similar to positive attention. I had to complete with six siblings for attention.

When you get older nature sometimes just takes its own course. It's not a matter of aiming for it.

My mother took care of the discipline for it. My father was against diapers for overage wetting so around 8 or 9 I just woke up in wet pjs and sheets. I was shamed and spanked too. I learned that if I cried at the breakfast table when I woke up wet my mom would go easy on me. I had to start taking care of my own wet bedding and pjs into puberty and by that point the spanking stopped. I made sure to keep the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17 even after the frequency of my bedwetting decreased.

I went to summer sports camp at 14 because I convinced my mom I had control over my bedwetting. Well I didnt and ended up wetting the bed. It wasnt my finest moment. As for medications, your about the same age I am and maybe a little younger. I was put on a drug called amyltriptilyne (spelling?). Its usually used as an antidepression med and has been around since the 1950s but has alternative uses like for bedwetting in children and young adults. I took it for maybe a year and didnt like it because it made me feel lethargical and dehydrated. It did reduce the bedwetting but isnt a cure because wetting at night returns when you go off of it. I suspect they have better meds available these days.

Did you know he was a bedwetter when you married him and how did you react if you did? I remember reading an advice column a few years ago where the columnist addressed the issue of newlywed women finding out their husbands were bedwetters. Most apparently weren't happy about it at all. My bedwetting largely cleared up by my early 20s after I (mostly) stopped drinking. I had a gf later in my 20s and wet our bed one night after I was out drinking with some of the guys from work. My gf was furious at me. After that if I was drinking I had to sleep on small single bed we put against the wall at the far side of the bedroom. "And you have to clean it up!" she said to me. We stayed together for about a year.

Did your parents make you use protection for bedwetting when you were young or did you just pee your pjs and sheets like I did? I wet deliberately in my teens too but mainly to keep the rubber sheet on my bed because it was like a security blanket for me. A counselor I had to see years later told me my post-puberty bedwetting including deliberate bedwetting was "attention seeking" behavior that was likely caused because I grew up in a big family and had other bedwetting siblings including an older brother who got more attention than I did. As for your mother having no interest after your parents split up Im not surprised. I helped a friend coparent her son for a year after her marriage split up. She was dealing with a messy divorce and custody battle while undergoing medical treatment for a serious condition and needed somebody to be at home during the week to get her son up, feed him and get him to school in the morning so I offered to stay over an do it. I quickly realized he was wetting the bed but she was oblivious to it. 'I thought he stopped that a couple years ago' was all she said when I told her. I bought a mattress protector for his bed and overnight pullups and I believe his bedwetting stopped several months later. My friend lost the custody case and she moved away to live with her mother so I lost contract both with her and her son.

I had to do my own laundry starting when I was 14. But I still had to report when I wet the bed. I seldom went dry for more than a couple weeks before the rubber sheet was used for its intended purpose even though by then I was having real accidents only once every few months. I remember begging my mom not to put me down as a bedwetter when I was sent to summer sports camp at 14. I believed I could control it but then I ended up wetting the bed at camp.

I didn't like being lecture or spanked for it either. Because of the advice of a counselor to my parents after I got into trouble the spanking at least stopped when I got into puberty. But I always wanted to keep the rubber sheet on my bed and did whatever it took to make sure that happened. I was on my bed until I was 17.

I did that to a mattress when I first moved away from my parent home. I was drinking almost every night after work back then and completely ruined the mattress is my small apartment. It was extremely stained on both sides because I kept flipping it over to try to dry it. I had to replace it after a few months and then started using a waterproof mattress cover and then only had to worry about washing the sheets.

This is true. Anybody who develops urinary IC after not having it for many years should always see a doctor. It could be a sign of something more serious. I was mostly dry at night by my late teens but after I moved out of home and started drinking a lot my bedwetting returned. It took a few years to deal with it but the main thing I had to do was get the drinking under control. After that I was dry at night for at least two decades.

According to a recent Time article called 'The Shame of the Adult Bedwetter' about 1 to 3 percent of adults in the U.S. wet the bed. I have read other estimates of 1 to 2 percent.

I think that after a while where fetishes are involved the gender of your partner is less important. If I find a partner whose into the same kink scenes I am Im not really very picky about gender. Mind you as you age actual sex tends to be far less frequent. I now call myself asexual even though Im probably not. My fantasies and porn preferences tend to be for hetero situations but in real life Ive been more diverse. Early in my adult life I figured out that gay guys tended to be more open to experimenting with lots of things. A gay guy introduced me to adult disposable diapers which he wore 24/7. So Id say that you like me are probably bi. Your not confused unless you dont know what you like.

It did when I was younger and I had to get it under control in my 20s just to have a dating and sex life. Now I'm a retired older guy so it doesn't hold me back at all.

I think heredity related bedwetting is fairly common. In our family it was on our father's side. I grew up in a family of seven kids and four were overage wetters, three boys and one girl. We had a cousin in his teens from my father's who stayed with us for several months and he wet the bed literally every night. Mind you he was staying with us because of disruption in his family so it may have caused by both heredity and stress. Back when I was growing up we didn't have "products" to make bedwetting more comfortable, or at least we didn't have products that we were aware of. At a certain age we were just switched from cloth diapers to having to sleep with a rubber sheet and absorbing pad on the bed. My father felt diapers made it too easy to keep on wetting once we reached a certain age.

I often wonder about this because I grew up in a chaotic environment in a big family with an alcoholic mother. There are theories about emotional stress leading to overage and adult bedwetting but there's also fairly strong evidence that it's often an inherited condition. Or maybe both combine to make it more severe? I know there's an inherited aspect in my family that seems to affect mainly males. But during puberty and beyond I developed an attachment to it and to my rubber sheet, which became like a security blanket that i didn't want to give up. I wonder what the experiences of others on here is, especially where they believe emotional stress led to bedwetting.

I don't mean to be rude about it, but I think antidiuretic hormone and vasopressin are the same thing. According to the U.S. National Institutes of Health "As most investigators now agree, increasing urine flow results from alcohol's acute inhibition of the release of antidiuretic hormone (ADH), a hormone also known as vasopressin." Alcohol may well be a poison to the body but it's one that's generally expelled within a fairly short period of time. I think moderate alcohol use is okay for most adults. I had a problem with drinking way too much when I was younger, maybe because of the trauma of growing up in a chaotic environment with an alcoholic mother. I got treatment and counseling in my 20s and even though I started drinking moderately again after several years I now pretty much know my limits. Two drinks, two pints of beer for instance, gives me a bit of a buzz that wears off over three or so hours and doesn't result in bedwetting as long as I don't drink anything within two or three hours before going to bed. Three pints is tempting fate and results in wetting about half the time. Anything more than that has an inevitable conclusion and usually results in a morning hangover, something that in the latter case usually causes me to stop after having three drinks at most.

It was a bit of a shock to me when it started again after an almost twenty year period of being dry at night. I pretty much stopped drinking in my mid twenties to get my bedwetting under control. After a decade or so I started drinking very moderately again, having no more than a couple drinks and none in the three or four hours before going to bed, and this went well for quite a long time. And then in my mid forties after going to a friend's milestone birthday party where everybody was drinking heavily and I got really drunk, I woke up at about 5 in the morning soaked and I wasn't wearing protection nor did I have the mattress protected. I immediately put a vinyl cover on the mattress and stopped worrying about whether or not I'd have a dry night. I hated wetting the bed when I was very young. It wasn't until I entered puberty that I started to enjoy it. And I didn't want to give up my rubber sheet, which I kept on the bed until I was 17. A psychology counselor later told me that because I grew up in a big family where I had to compete for attention I probably viewed wetting the bed as a way of getting attention. He told me that even negative attention is interpreted by some as being good attention.

It was explained to me decades ago that alcohol interferes with the production of the antidiuretic hormone that reduces the amount of urine produced during the night. So if you've already got a medical issue, have a muscle control problem or you're a deep sleeper and you're drinking alcohol you're far more likely to wake up soaked during the night or in the morning.

You're not mistaken. I stopped regularly bedwetting at around 13 but was able to keep the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17. My mothers rule was that after six dry months, which I think she later changed to three months, the rubber sheet would be removed. She saw that as a reward. I saw it as a punishment and made sure that I extended its use until I was 17. It was well used past 13 although by then I had to do my own laundry so I guess she probably lost interest somewhere along the way. I still got lectured though. My regular bedwetting began to lessen during puberty and by 13 I had only occasional overnight accidents, although as I told WBxx above, I was able to keep the rubber sheet on my bed until I was 17. When I moved out of my parents home over a year later and was working in construction and had my own place I was drinking a lot after work and the overnight bedwetting returned. I wrecked a mattress because of constant wetting and learned to keep protection on it after I had to replace it. I had to curb my drinking just for the sake of being able to date and have relationships. But when i got older and developed health problems the wetting issues returned. I think that if overage bedwetting is a problem when you're younger it's probably more likely to return when you get older.

Looks like we're pretty close in age. I think it was pretty common back in the 50s and 60s to deal with bedwetting as a discipline issue. I wet the bed regularly into puberty and got punished for it.

I think back then moms would talk to lots of people including neighbors about their bedwetting kids. I heard my mom discussing my issues with a neighbor one day. You know, the "one day he'll grow out of it like mine did" talk. But back then diapers weren't common at all for overage bedwetting. I remember driving on my bike around the neighborhood in the summer and seeing quite a few soiled pjs and sheets out on lines to dry. My mom hung mine on the line sometimes too when she didn't have the time to use the washer and dryer. There were probably at least ten or more homes with bedwetters within the few blocks around my childhood home. Of course it was the baby boom era so lots of homes had lots of kids.

Hi to all. I just came back to this site after being off it for a long time. There seemed to be a lot of technical issues with the site in the past. Hope to reconnect with many. No, I haven't stopped peeing my bed. In fact I seem to be doing it more as I get older. Funny how that works, right? Any other on here have that experience too?

Just til you were 6? For me it was 13 although I had a rubber sheet on my bed until 17. I wasn't allowed to wear diapers either. My folks thought they'd make bedwetting too comfortable. I guess it's an age thing. We're both close to the same age and I think bedwetting was dealt with a lot differently decades ago than it is now.

My fetish involves being punished, and mainly spanked, for bedwetting.