Jilly Poo

I'm not judging whether it is right or wrong because each of us have different circumstances in our chosen professions. Some may be factory line workers, others lawyers, doctors, racecar drivers or check-out staff at a local grocery store. The real matter is, can you be discreet wearing them to work without offending anyone and if so, HOW? I would imagine that wearing it discreetly at work is not much different than wearing it in other public forums, such as shopping, to the movies, out to dinner or even to an amusement park. All of this is based on the type of diaper you choose to wear, its' absorbancy, the noise it makes, and the bulk that you believe you can get away with unnoticed. For the most part, most of your colleauges aren't going to be staring at your crotch all day (unless you leak) and probably won't hear the sound of a crinkling diaper unless they are listening for it. One suggestion would be to wear a pair of your regular underwear OVER your diaper to help hide any waistband issues and in case you end up chickening out and desire to change back. As far as sneaking a clean diaper into the restroom, try putting one in a folded newspaper and tucking it under your arm. People will get the message that you might "Be awhile" and given the option, might let you have the room to yourself...LOL.

Dear Little1, Telling your spouse or significant other about this side of your life is very admirable but keep in mind, just because you have mustered up the courage to be open with it, doesn't mean that they will accept it right away. I'm not saying that it can't be done but don't expect that because you have finally gotten this big secret off your chest that He/She is going to be thrilled and happy about it. It will take them time to learn & understand it so make sure you have some information prepared to be able to help them understand that this is not perverted, just a different kind of love. As with anyone expecting a REAL baby, it takes time to prepare and be ready for the arrival of a new baby in the house (usually 9 months) so don't fool yourself into believing that your spouse will eagerly jump for joy and want to immediately diaper you up and feed you a bottle just because YOU want them to. I told my husband several years ago because I felt that keeping this part of my life a secret was paramount to cheating on him. I was sneaking around and fabricating stories all to be with my diapers. I began to feel like I wanted him to be away or out of the house more and more so that I could have more time diapered. This started to affect how I felt about him and he hadn't done anything wrong. I knew I had to tell him. When I finally told my him, at first he didn't believe me and thought it was all a big joke. Once he knew I was serious, he was curious but later became uncomfortable with it and teased me about it. That caused me to go back into hiding with my diaper desires. I kept wearing in secret but eventually he came around and found a way to accept it on his own terms since I didn't force it upon him constantly. I'm sure you have certain expectations of how you want your spouse to react when you tell him/her, but be prepared for things you might not expect. In my case, I told him that if he wished to discuss it, that I would let him bring it up and that I would not force him into my desires. I told him honestly of the sites I had been to and had given him some information about infantalism and even a few stories I had written. I discussed with him how he could be a part of my desire without being "weirded out" by it and then left it up to him to decide if he wanted to partake of it. I will say, he has come around but it has taken him a long time to do so. He doesn't diaper me often and I don't ask him to do it so when he does, I know he is accepting of it. When he diapers me, it is different than what I am used to when I am alone and diapering by myself but at least he is willing to share it with me. Please make sure that when you tell your spouse about your fetish that you first explain that you love them deeply and that you don't wish this to come between you but that it is something you hope could maybe bring you closer together. Good Luck and welcome to our fold. Jilly Poo

Ummm, unless you fathered your Grandkids, I don't think YOUR diapers mattered there....LOL!

Maybe it's not that people don't want to get together. Maybe it's the fact that you want to meet in OHIO. Perhaps if you had picked a place like Busch Gardens in Williamsburg, VA or something like that. After all, who wants to go to Ohio on vacation??? LOL Now Virginia is better because we all know that Virginia is for (Diaper) Lovers.....LOL :oP Besides Busch Gardens, there is also Water Country USA, Colonial Williamsburg, plus the beach & boardwalk in Virginia Beach for those who aren't of the the "Roller Coaster" set. Just a suggestion!

Dear Curious Girl, As an AB that had to share my fetish with my husband, I want to tell you how nice it is that you are willing to seek advice on how to handle this new part of your marriage/relationship. For most of us, being a DL or AB is a deep dark secret we have kept for a long long time. Many of us discover we like the feeling of diapers during our childhood while some don't figure it out or act on it until our teens or adulthood. Much of that is because of how we fear society will react to our desires. Although the feeling of being in a diaper can give the wearer a sense of security, the act of getting them and hiding them from the world can cause many insecure feelings. In my case, I felt the need to share my secret about wearing diapers with my husband because I began to feel as if my secret was coming between us. I began resenting not being able to wear them because he was around. I started to get the same feelings as if I was actually "Cheating" on him because I was going on-line to chat with other people who had similar interests. Perhaps the reason your husband has chosen to confess his desires to you is because he loves you so much that he wants to be able to share this feelings with you rather than seeking acceptance on-line. Not knowing all the facts of just how he told you, I can't say he did so improperly but for him, it probably took a great deal of courage to admit to you something he has not shared with anyone else in the world. If he is pressuring you in any way, you need to be open with him and tell him that you are willing to seek information on your own but that his pressuring you is not helping. He needs to give you time to deal with this new information. As I have told others, having a real baby takes 9 months and the parents are given those months to adjust and prepare, so telling your partner that they have a new Adult Baby in the house will also take some time to adjust to. If talking only ends up in arguements, perhaps you should try writing down your fears, questions or concerns and have him answer them in writing so that you can read them later when he isn't around to fight over it. It might seem silly but it could just give you a better understanding of what he is looking for from his diaper play and what role he expects you to play in it. You can also set limits as to what you are willing to try until you become more comfortable. I hope this has been helpful in some way. Jilly Poo

Hey Gang, I was just curious to see if anyone else likes the feeling of being "Fuzz Free" when enjoying their diapers. Personally for me, not having hair there adds to my baby play and hightens my sensitivity to the feeling of my diaper. I can feel the warmth of my diapers much better when there isn't any "Insulation" around. I prefer to use Veet bladeless razor system for hair removal but if I could find a system that was cheap enough (unlike laser hair removal) that was permanent, I would certainly be interested in persuing it. It makes cleaning up so much easier (at least for me.) Thanks for answering and being honest.

I must say I find this story very Captivating. I've managed to read all 8 installments in 2 days and can't wait for another. I can't speculate where this story will go next. I certainly hope it has a "Happily Nappied Ever After Ending."

johneee, Thank you for this wonderful thread. I find it very informative and enlightening. I was an adolecent bedwetter so I understand the embarrassment of waking up to soggey sheets and pillows. Perhaps you should invest in a package or 2 of Chux pads. Those are the disposable absorbant pads they place under you on hospital beds. They are kind of like big flat disposable diapers without tapes or contours. You're right, the expense of wearing diapers is mind boggling. Perhaps, if you have insurance, you can go to your Dr. friend and ask if he can prescribe diapers for you. Your insurance company might pay for a portion of them. You might even consider trying some cloth diapers and plastic pants. I know a lot of people use them and swear by them for overnight use and to help keep the costs down although they do add to the laundry levels. Don't be afraid to go out in public. I wear diapers in public quite often and even my own husband can't tell when I am wearing diapers unless he touches me. Most people would be more embarrassed to be caught "Staring" at your backside and usually wouldn't admit to it so you should have nothing to worry about unless you have a large yellow wet spot eminating from the crotch of your pants and leaving a trail on the floor behind you. Thank you again for posting your experience. Perhaps you can even post your results on some Prostate Cancer websites because many men who seek treatment for Prostate Cancer end up in diapers and are afraid to go out in public and live normal lives. It is also why many of them refuse to seek treatment.

Awesome Question. I know for a lot of us, we hear the horror stories of how telling a significant other about our diapers has destroyed relationships. In truth, for me any way, not telling was doing more harm. I had been wearing diapers off and on most of my life but always kept it a secret. During a long term relationship that I had with a Single father of a 2 yr old little girl, I had confessed my desires to him. Shortly after that, he stopped speaking with me and moved away without saying good-bye. I was devestated and can only assume that my diaper desire was the cause. Years later, I met my now husband. I was afraid to tell him because of my previous experience so I kept it my little secret and wore when I could. We married in 1993 and he still didn't know. I managed to wear diapers everytime he went out of town on business. This of course made me wish he had to travel more and more. I looked forward to him having to leave town. After moving and him taking on a new job, his traveling days were less and less and so was my diaper wearing until I finally started wearing during the day while he was at work. Now I started to resent his coming home in the evening. I felt like he was robbing me of my diaper desires but he didn't even know I was wearing. I felt like I was lying to him. I hated what I felt it was doing to our relationship. After 8 yrs of marriage, I finally told my husband in 2001 about my diapers. At first he didn't believe me and then he said he accepted it but it took him a long time to really be comfortable with it. We went through a period of time when he made fun of me or got upset when I was wearing because he really didn't understand why I wanted to wear despite everything I had told him. I withdrew wearing in front of him and went back to only wearing while he was at work. I was afraid he would never come around but at least now I didn't feel as if I was lying to him any more. It took a while, but I believe he is now much more comfortable with my wearing because on a few occasions, he has diapered me himself and even once or twice has donned a diaper himself. He says it doesn't do anything for him to wear it but he does like how it looks on me and how happy it seems to make me. One night, as I lay sleeping in bed, I awoke to find him at the side of my bed holding a fresh diaper, my plastic pants, a bib, a baby bottle and a jar of baby food. He diapered me, fed me and tucked me in with my bottle for the night. I was in AB heaven. Telling him was the hardest thing I ever had to do but despite the rough patch I had to go through, I would say it was well worth telling him. I would suggest to anyone contemplating telling a spouse or significant other, you first make sure they are trustworthy to keep this secret. You would hate for them to tell anyone who you hadn't planned on telling yourself. I want to applaud those who found the courage to tell the truth. It is not an easy thing to do but it well worth it. And to those who have helped thier SO find the fun in diaper wearing, I wish you lots of fun with your new AB/DL friend.

I've checked out this site and saw a few I am interested in but I don't read German nor do I know the exchange rate. Can you tell me about how much they come to in U.S. Dollars and what the estimated shipping was to ship it from Germany? If you were willing to purchase a large sum of these, perhaps you could make a killing on ebay with them. I wonder why they haven't already been offered there. Thanks, Jilly Poo

I'm technically not a Virginian but I am there so much I might as well be. I live just over the border in NC but go to Chesapeake & Norfolk weekly to shop. Not looking for anything other than friends tho. Jilly Poo

Hi, I'm in NC too but so close to Virginia it almost doesn't count. If you think finding AB/Dl's is hard in NC, try finding another female one just to be friends with. Any way, I just thought I would speak up for the great state of NC and be counted. Jilly Poo