[Tykables]

I haven't seen tykables run sales on diapers in a long time, clothes and accessories yes, diapers no 😭

[Tykables]

@Spanky So I LOVE Tykables. Just a heads up. Str8up is actually NRU (A Euro diaper) and retailed by Tykables in the US. So the cut, fit, and absorption is different. I personally find them much more comfortable to day use and the cut of the tykables much preferred for night use. Regardless. I think you will find you breaking down one of the best accidents (pun not intended) that you have had in some time.

[Misheard or Read Diaper Song Titles]

I was reading a title of songs and I read "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds". Quickly it became "Lucy in the Sky with Diapers".

So what song titles if misheard or misread become ABDL titles?

[Giddy up and go!]

"Why did you name your horse, Lou?"

[Received a new cuddle buddy today]

3 minutes ago, BabySofia said:

She’s adorable! Looks like she may fight you for the bed though! 🤣

I bought one of the 7ft tall bears (I call him pipsqueak) and can confirm, its like having a plushie, needy spouse when it comes to bed space being at a premium

[MAGA Diapers and Von Schitzinpants]

 

 

[Biggest and softest booster pad?]

https://www.xpmedical.com/xp-apc-19800-config-xp

I can't speak to it being the softest but this is definitely one of the biggest that I know of.

Tykables had a very soft booster. Full disclosure. I have not purchased them in their new configuration

https://tykables.com/products/dubbler-booster-pads

I would start with those.

[Should I buy and wear?]

First. The answer is always yes. and second, You can have things shipped to you via a UPS or FedEx location and no one you live with will ever know. I had 2 cases shipped to me that way in a pinch

 

[ISO rating list?]

@ValentinesStuffIf the request had come in pre covid I could have listed them up and down the stack, or at least into the high medical market. While the medical market has stay fairly even, the ABDL market has exploded in the last 4 years. I have lost track and lost count and there are several that I have not ever tried.

[ISO rating list?]

I didn't go out of my way to make one but I collected them as part of something I put together awhile back. I'm kinda with @Little Sherrion this one. ISO capacity after the 5 or 6k mark is nearly meaningless. Any diaper in that category will hold a ton and the fit and comfort will probably make a bigger difference than SAP/Fluff content.

 

 

[Buyer beware on Bambino's BOGO sale]

8 hours ago, Alyeskabird said:

Thats more or less standard. If you read the small print, in most cases they will say equil or lower priced item will be the discounted item. Else someone would go to the grocery store with that sorta sale, buy a 10 cent bit of candy, and expect to get a 50 dollar steak for free

 

I am frankly not upset about the discount or the way it works. I am upset that it was not stated. There was no small print to read. I wasn't mad that the diapers weren't discounted after buying boosters. I added 2 cases of diapers and 2 cases of boosters and both the cases of boosters were discounted. That is when I had to go look up what the T&C were and couldn't find them anywhere.

[Diapered Greta Thunberg?]

1 hour ago, MegaChar said:

She needs to show she is serious. You can talk talk talk but if you dont act on it then your just trying to get fame and fortune.

Cloth diapers and not disposable then she is serious.

See I am, and doing it in style!

Interestingly, they seem to be the ones who do all the talking and when someone else has a different opinion those folks get shut up. Humans are freaking hard to understand.

Do I need to keep talking just so you don't feel like you've won? The people I have called out are still horrible and I still can't understand this idea of why anyone who speaks out needs to be perfect or their argument is invalid. 

[Diapered Greta Thunberg?]

38 minutes ago, ValentinesStuff said:

I don't question her that much, mostly her travel. I DO question the adults that used her when she was still underage, and those that still use her.

What is wrong with traveling. She is famous for traveling by train whenever possible, the least carbon intensive way possible. I see this all the time, "you are protesting the wrong way." It's a really easy way to dismiss the argument without ever having to even consider it.

20 hours ago, ValentinesStuff said:

Stop trying to poison the polar bears.

So THAT is what you meant when you implied that she would poison polar bears! Clearly I am not smart enough to understand that this is a stand in for potential childhood exploitation and capitalizing on fame! I am sorry. I was not smart enough to see it!

I've think I have finally figured ot why I found this entire thread abhorrent from start to finish. 

The very premise of looking for diapers on public figures strikes me with the same energy as people looking at "Trans watch" conspiracies. Why does it matter? What do you gain? Why is it your business? 

Furthermore if she is wearing a diaper now what? If she needs it medically you're a dick for making fun of a disabled person, if she is using it as a tool, you're a dick for wishing that people should suffer, and last but not least, hypothetically she is an abdl going into a stressful situation and it is comforting. I would HOPE that a bunch of people on an abdl forum could muster the tiniest bit of empathy. I have been disappointed. I'll stick to my original statement. 

 

 

 

 

[Buyer beware on Bambino's BOGO sale]

I couldn't find the T&C anywhere on the site and it will always discount the cheaper case. No big deal if you select 2 diaper cases where the difference is a couple bucks but it was a huge amount when I tried to add some boosters to my order. Only reason I noticed it was me being anal about it.

[Diapered Greta Thunberg?]

You people are all horrible. She has something she believes in and stands up for it. You question her motives, and you are suggesting murder. The media made her the icon she is. There are hundreds and thousands of climate activists but none of them will get any press if she shows up.

[What diaper is this?]

That looks like a now discontinued Bambino diaper, Carnival I think it's called.

 

Yup.

https://daynitecare.com/products/bambino-karnavalee?variant=44511795773755

[Gaining diaper dependancy (not incontinence)]

The biggest flaw in your plan that I see is your hard stop point. I see one of two things happening. Given how fast you took to bedwetting, you spiral and end up fully incontinent way before you wish to, or because you have that hard stop your mind stops you from losing any control. I think the latter is more likely personally.

[Something i found on the Internet]

1 hour ago, BrownBobby said:

You have two muscles to "defeat" for incontience - the autonomic bladder neck/internal sphincter, and the consciously controlled external sphincter. Finding a medication to target the bladder neck is trivial - honestly, I recommend most people just stick with Tamsulosin/Flomax if they're looking for something. Easy to get generically, minimal list of side effects, and decades of use for this purpose, so it's widely understood by the medical community.

However, Tamsulosin and similar meds won't make you incontient. It just makes it a little easier to pee. From my research, there was no medication that could reliably disable the external sphincter. This makes sense when you think about it - what medication could you take that would relax/disable *only* that muscle and not others like your arms or legs that have similar biological makeup? The one suggested here is interesting, but I'm skeptical how much it's actually doing here - I suspect the required doses to be effective would have significant side effects.

Frankly just weakening or partially disable the internal sphincter/bladder kneck should be enough to dramatically jump start incontinence training. As far as I know, adults, save those with severe nervous system dysfunction, have near complete control over their external sphincters, so relaxing thoseis easy. The problem has always been convincing the unconcious mind and it's control over the internal sphincter to relax and release. I could see two or three months of diminished or destroyed control in someone who already wants incontinence being enough to convince their subconscious to give up on clenching those muscles. The unconscious is lazy and if you are leaking anyway there wouldn't be a reason to try. And that amount of time would be plenty for a habit to set in.

[You Know What They Do To Girls Like Us In Brighter Days? Chapter 16 and 17 Posted!]

I started reading this story yesterday and am already all caught up and have to wait for new chapters. Great story! 😭
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[The better mouse trap of the "reverse kegal"]

50 minutes ago, superabsorbantpolymer said:

Yeah I find when I breathe deeply and think of my bladder contracting then maybe it will, but I have to be relaxed. 

I'll try the more indirect method, imagining I'm peeing. It sounds like it would work.

I would be interested in hearing how it goes. I have spent the last five+ months practicing hypnosis and self hypnosis virtually daily so I wonder how it would help someone who has not practiced hypnosis and the powerful visualizations and mental game that go along with it.

I am writing a more in depth post re: the Parasympathetic Nervous System and how it pertains to what I think may be some of the mental blocks. If you want to do more research on your own look up Vagus Nerve Stimulation, The Parasympathetic Nervous System, and Interoception.

[The better mouse trap of the "reverse kegal"]

23 minutes ago, Enthusi said:

This is great!  I do this too but with an imaginary catheter being inserted.  

Do you find that you feel more open with imagining the catheter? I imagine that it is an unnatural feeling unless you are cath'ed frequently and even then the muscles are forced open.

[The better mouse trap of the "reverse kegal"]

Your internal sphincters are part of the Autonomic Nervous System or unconscious. These muscles are yours but not yours to control as it were. The good news is that the unconscious mind can help influence the ANS and the ANS can influence the unconscious mind. Try this, go without a diaper or get into a position that you usually have a difficult time going and do a reverse kegal. I am willing to bet money you will not wet yourself. That is because your potty training, so much of which is taught at the unconscious level before our conscious minds develop says that this is not the time or place to wet or mess and informing the ANS to clench and hold tight. Focusing on doing a reverse kegal is a behavioral action while the imagined wetting is a mental/psychological one.

So I have started doing this recently. Instead of just “relaxing” my pelvic floor, I now imagine that I am wetting or messing without even thinking about my pelvic floor, clenching or relaxing the pelvic floor is not a normal action for a potty trained adult and is very difficult to do. Holding or going is much easier. I try to make the action of going as realistic in my mind as possible, focus on all the sensations that go along with it. I find that in doing this my pelvic floor is even more relaxed than if I directly tried to relax and it has the added benefit of training the unconscious mind that this is an appropriate place to go to the bathroom and work through that emotion and thoughts at the time. I think there is an additional benefit in that the mind is pushing the ANS along and unconsciously contracting the bladder and moving paristalsis of the bowels along.

Try it next time you relax. Do a normal reverse kegal diapered or undiapered, and feel the drop, leave it for a few seconds and really take note of the sensations. Then imagine you are wetting and messing, it creates an even further drop for me and I have actually wet myself a few times in positions or times that I have had huge amounts of difficulty with in the past, such as in the car and in a diaper that I wasn't sure would or would not leak.

Good luck and let me know if this works for you. Since diving deep into psychology I have become nigh obsessed with why some people spiral in a way that @Kaliborio has outlined and why other people like me can spend literally years making zero or even negative progress. I have several more ideas but this one is the most succinct and easiest to implement.

[The mental game of becoming a bedwetter- overview of mental barriers I've seen (add more!)]

10 hours ago, WBxx said:

I’m good on 1 to 5.  I’ve contemplated but not ready for 6) Sharing with professionals.  My primary care physician’s annual questionnaire has – “Do you wet the bed?” Reasoning that I don’t want treatment or discussion my answer has been no.  And several times my urologist has inquired as to how many times I get up for the bathroom during the night?  Do I have trouble getting back to sleep?  My responses are less than truthful.

I struggle big time with 7) Acceptance of all outcomes.  The day after wetting the bed I’m on top of the world.  Nothing bothers me.  I’m special.  Conversely, after not wetting in my sleep I’m depressed and irritable.  It's a bad day.
 

😎 Any others???

In addition to physicians, some recommend telling colleagues, friends, everyone you have a bedwetting problem.  If everyone thinks you’re a bedwetter you are one and act accordingly.  Sounds good … but not happening here.

I like your #6 but may I propose a change or maybe it is different enough to warrant it's own number. Sharing your authentic self with others in the community, the broader ABDL community but also within people who are seeking incontinence. Last November I started going to ABDL meetups and that has helped reframe things significantly. But what has helped the most has been discussing this with people who are also on the journey. Talking with them has helped me in learning myself and different perspective has been fantastic.

[Peeing little and often!]

It's a great start to build the habit of peeing often but you won't become incontinent by doing that alone. 

[Another diaper sale -- and it's not Bambino!]

TBF the sale last week was essentially the same. I picked up two cases of Mermaids for $149.