Secret_Squirrel

APOTEMNOPHILIA Describes people who are aroused by the idea of losing a limb, surgically or otherwise. There's some strange fetishes out there - way beyond whats on here, maybe someone can do a study, and add yours to the list, it must be on similar lines the the above example. Have you spoke or contacted anyone to try an find the reasoning, your compulsion must come from something more than just a control thing ? I did some Googleing and there seems to be psychologists delving into the more extreme fetishes, have you found anything from the net that could help ? I presume you'll need medical procedures to do what your proposing.

Yes, from a personal perspective I cant take it tooooo seriously either, its just people with there clothes on (or off) acting in front of a camera - badly. I've had girlfriends that have been well into porn (to my surprise) but usually had to turn the sound down, the poor 'script' just put me off. In fact maybe thats answered the Threads original question, 'Things you hate about porn' - terrible acting, terrible story/script, and often very cheesy backing music, why do you want to listen to banging house music during a sensual act.

No worries my friend. Nothing is wrong, and I guess from a broader perspective I or anyone else is not in a position to judge what is right or wrong, as a person nearly twice your age - the emotions I felt in my early twenties were far more intense then, guess I've mellowed with age, today things are far more rational, and as was said earlier - hormones which drive some of our desires make us act irrationally . Personally I think your desires are rail-roading you into a position where you have 'no choice' - and this thought is acting as self fulfilling. A person who is IC and has no choice, I can imagine that person will no doubt question a person with choice - who willingly wants to remove that decision making ability, who are you to say now that in years to come you will not want that choice back, choice is freedom. I think your fetish is clouding your thoughts a little too much. In my fantasy I'd love to have control taken away and feel helpless in this department, but only for as long as I wanted - which would be say a weekend - I have a normal life to lead with lots of other interests to persue. I view the fantasy from a person with that choice to choose, and prefer to have that choice than it be otherwise. But, as I said, just my thoughts to be bounced about, no bad intention or judgement made ... hey live and let live here my man

umm, I'm probably on the fringes and by no means wish to judge anyone, I can understand you wanting to indulge the desire, it was just my personal perspective, which is what a forum is for - I have enjoyed (is it enjoy ?, not sure) waking up wet in a nappy, and thought it would be interesting to lose control in this area, but I can understand someone being IC not through choice - thinking its a bit mad to indulge to the extent that you handicap yourself, just my thoughts and comments, dont take them in a bad way.

Umm, I could not think of anything worse than being IC, for me personally, I live a very active life - fit and healthy, the way we are designed to be, being IC is a real hinderance to that - if it happened I'd learn to deal with it, we are very adaptable as a species. I think we should accept both sides, I would be happy to have a IC girlfriend, I would accept it as being part of her, same as I do at the time of the month, I dont really think about it, we are more than just this small part. I would be understanding, caring and supportive. I can understand someones desire to be IC, they are indulging their fantasy, but I often wonder when something like that becomes so extreme their lives are craving something, and the IC is not really what they crave, the nature of their fetish is warping their minds a bit - to damage themselves physically like that, I'm really sure 24/7 IC is not what they think it will be. Anyone who has succesfully made themselves 24/7 IC like to comment - be interesting to see what replies there are ...

People who use the media to gain attention to themselves open up a whole can of worms - look at those celebrities who prefer a low profile - to avoid the sensationalist headlines they would attach - most of them slanderous lies, can you imagine what a field day they'd have with an ABDL - say on Big Brother. Me personally, I'm going to keep it under my hat, my life's fulfilled enough without having to attract attention.

Hello Summerdaze, Hope you get your questions answered, I'm quite new here - and its working for me, everyone seems quite friendly. Ss

Hi Fidget, Nice to meet you. I've been using this forum for only a few weeks, doing lots of reading, doing some writing, its sometimes like a blackboard, reflecting my thoughts - I find its very helpful on a personal level to work out the unanswered questions I have.

Hi Ailen, Nice to meet you, hope you have fun. Ss

Porn does objectify women, but hopefully men will realise eventually to look beyond that - men are primarily visual in nature when it comes to attraction, and 'contrived' images can alter a man's perception of what to expect from a woman - but once your naked and talking in bed that all goes away - love, communication by touch and voice soon put it in perspective (well in my book thats what happens), where its bad is when you mix this altered perception with men who get off on dispensing violence to women (I mean abusive violence, not consensual), I think these men should be chemically neutered. (Consensual - like Spankings fine though, I was a let down to one kinky girlfiend, just couldn't administer pain to her - just didnt feel right, hope fully she's found someone to pull down her knickers and give her some proper OTK, maybe I'll make more of an effort next time

Definately 'stick'. Wow thats a lot of hits. But I wonder how many hits this site gets: http://www.datemypet.com/

Thanks Juniper is it luck or destiny ?, umm it would be very nice, to be able to share, rather than hide it. My role in life is to make someone feel safe, secure and loved and I would like to think I can influence my destiny - just a little, to find that certain someone special to share this with. Funnily at my age though, there seems less of a hurry ...

Umm - thanks, since I've been on here (only a few weeks) I've exposed more about myself than I ever normally would, so why not be upfront anyway ... its how I feel, rather than paint a different picture of who I am ... I've been keeping enough secrets from people to last a lifetime.

Thanks Guys - I'm just tipping my toe in the water, and yes I was expecting some ridicule - but thats fine. If nothing happens here then its nothing lost, but if I meet some nice people just as friends along the way, then all the better for trying.

I'm new here, and so far everyone I've spoken too has seemed friendly and positive - have I done a bad thing posting this ?

Hi, I'm looking for a DL or LG girlfriend, I've plenty about me on my profile. I have a car and I'm happy to travel where ever. Hope to hear. Ss.

I wan't abused, I was just a head strong child with a strict mum trying to keep a grip. I remember about age 7 or 8 once being force fed boiled green cabbage, my mum on several occassions previous, had insisted I eat it, but I just hated it, I really hated it - and had up till then managed to leave it on my plate despite the arguments - on that night though and with great drama I had my face pushed in my dinner, I can still taste it, remembering being made to swollow down the cold strands of green leaf and crunching on the stalk, the gravy all cold and lumpy (even the thoughts making me ill, I can still smell it), it made me GAG, and to this day the smell - let alone the taste still makes me want to gag, no other foods do that (I love me greens Its funny how my memory has just permanently imprinted, a proper physical - bending over type - 'gag reflex' response with boiled green cabbage - very specific - and sadly life long (sure its liked by many - but not me !). I'm sure it was that single event of 'forced' swollowing that tipped the scale, and consequently instilled a life long reaction to this one smell and taste ... just a one off event ! Its not a big deal, but shows how my mind has sucked up a certain situation and experience and made it 'unlearnable'. Unlike nappies though, I definately wont be reliving this particular taste. Just my rambling, slightly off topic thoughts.

Although duped, it did make a great story. I was certainly drawn in, for most of it anyway

Umm, nothing better than taking control - I would love to put a girlfriend in them for a while - pop a couple of suppositories in, make her finish her very large drink and pop out to do the shopping, taking my time, maybe calling her after a few hours to see how she was doing. Returning, to decide if she should be let out and changed.

Wow, that took a while to read. Umm true or not, maybe half of it, mixed in with a bit of fantasy. With ABDL stuff your just up for a lot of ridicule by those with a more straight sexual proclivity if your found out. Where the lady is clearly a vanilla type, she probably wont want to know about this type of fetish (some peoples mind set are too moulded), and as I feel, it should'nt be thrust in someones face (or anyones) - somethings (depending on what and who we are) we just dont want or need to see certain things. I have had good long relationships and kept it secret to the end. I have tried to introduce girlfriends, but unless it flicks her switch, they just cant accept it, I end up looking the fool. So I've kept it under wraps and enjoyed many a great relationship without ! I think your girlfriend felt side lined by your fetish, ie that it was more important than her, and by the looks of things that was the case - as stated previously - its where a fetish has crosssed the line, your impulsion over-ruled your head and it got in the way of your relationship. For those who haven't found an understanding partner - we just walk a tight rope when in a relationship - I personally found it quite stressfull keeping a secret with my first few girlfriends, I am a very honest and open character - apart from my DL fancies, but it gets easier to live a lie as I get older, who knows if I will find a like minded patrner, but if it doesn't happen, I'm happen to have vanilla relationships and sex with a girlfriend - thats great too