the-dude

I started as strictly a DL but have grown to love the AB side of things over the past few years. So, both.

I tuck the top sometimes, but not usually the bottom. Those need to stay loose to maintain a good seal around the leg gathers. I find tucking them stretches then out and they fail. I don't tuck the top if I have a tight onesie on. Don't need to.

¿Porque no Los dos? Used to be just a dl but now I'm thoroughly both.

I was raised in the early 80s and was in cloth diapers. One of my family members bought my mother a diaper service subscription, so it was pretty much cloth until I bought my own disposables much later on. I do remember heisting disposable diapers from any other places I could, whenever the opportunity arose. I do quite love the assortment of adult cloth pocket diapers I have now. They are worlds better than what you could have bought even 3-5 years ago. I have some adult prefolds and plastic pants and they just don't hold a candle to snap pockets.

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Supposin' I'll keep this thread alive for a few more minutes... I have a few different spots I keep mine in. Aside from the shipping boxes in the attic, I have a 2 drawer lockable filing cabinet in my closet. It's my stash. When I'm out of the house, there's plenty of ways to keep them with me. I'm a sysadmin, so I *always* have my laptop bag, a large 17" messenger timbuk2 bag. It fits my laptop, 2 portfolios, a bunch of parts, and a few diapers in a inside front zip compartment. I always keep a change or two in there. When I was in school, I carried a swiss gear MAXUM laptop backpack, which has a small pocket in the laptop compartment that nicely fits two changes. When we had our first kid, we were at the hospital twice. Both times we were given a similac diaper bag (full of formula, wipes, and other baby samples). It's a mini 12x10x18t single strap backpack. It's got enough room in it for a pack of wipes, 5-8 diapers, a few plastic bags for disposal, creme/powder, a few pairs of clean boxer briefs, and a pair of plastic pants. I have two of these bags set up in the same way. One permanently lives under the back seat in my truck hidden by a 10" sub, and the other can fit into my work bag if I take out the stuff I don't need for a weekend away from work. I carry that one with me when I'm in the wifey's car on a trip. They're both flat black. Nothing attention grabbing, which is good. I have a nice timberland fleece which has fairly large pockets sewn on the inside. The way it's made, it has an interior pocket which is the perfect size to conceal one diaper in between either arm. Great for fall trips around, in case you want to just bring one with you to a public bathroom for a quick change. Lastly, I have a smallish nylon document pouch, which I got when I took my scuba class. It's probably about 12x14 inches, and can expand to 3 or so inches thick. Opaque blue nylon shell with a zipper that goes halfway around. It was supposed to be for keeping dive logs and diving paperwork. It perfectly fits a change or two with some travel wipes and a tube of creme. I could carry it around the office with one of my portfolios no one would say a thing. The best part is that you can carry it to a bathroom, change, and fold up the empty pouch and pocket it... or use it to transport the wet/soiled diaper to the trash can unnoticed. There's plenty of ways to keep things concealed, you just have to use a little ingenuity. I keep at least a few changes everywhere, since I do need them from time to time.

I started another thread on this topic, but I thought I'd check in here as well. So I don't mean to threadjack Just wanted to say I'm also headed in for a scoping in about 2 weeks. I'm also a bit apprehensive about the whole ordeal, but I'm sure it will be worth it to make sure I'm ok on the inside. I've spoken with my family and they've been pretty reassuring and supportive about it, so I'm feeling a little better and more optimistic. I'll let you all know how it goes, if you want. This whole thing sucks, I hope I find some decent relief soon. Hoping for the best for you as well, diaperedtrucker.

Just wanted to say thanks for the links. I've since been to a general practitioner and have visited a gi specialist as well. I'm scheduled for a colonoscopy in the middle of september. I've also had a bunch of tests but don't have results yet. They're checking me for all sorts of stuff. So, hopefully I can find out what options I have and what's going on. The symptoms haven't improved much taking a probiotic, eating healthier, and trying low/high fiber. Hopefully I'll find a way to get some relief. I'll post an update when I know more, if you'd like. BTW sorry for the posting delay, I don't get to visit very often The Dude

Hello all; I'm a 28 year old, otherwise healthy male, and have been a DL for as long as I can remember, which is why I'm a member here. I'd like to take a sec to say this is a great and *wonderfully supportive communiuty, so I wanted to ask a bunch of questions as I'm sure others have experienced what I'm going through. I'm having some problems with IBS, which is a new-ish development for me. Over the past decade or so, I have had night time "poop attacks" as call them where I'm horribly crampy and pooping diarrhea like mad for upwards of an hour or two, generally in the wee hours of the morning. I had previously thought it was from eating something bad, since my (college) diet wasn't the best. I had brushed the once-a-month attacks off as poor diet. These were mostly limited to night time, however several occurrences did take place during day time. I have been out of school and in my professional career for a few years now, if it matters. Diet has been a lot better since then. It wasn't until a few months ago when I had a severe case of food toxicity poisoning that my symptoms went into overdrive. When I got sick, I had the worst gas, diarrhea, and cramp pain I've ever felt in my life. It was the most unbearable and unpleasant thing I've ever gone through. During the illness, I had almost no bowel control and had a few accidents. Fortunately, since I already have diapers in the house, and my SO was also poisoned and occupying the only toilet in the house, my fiancee suggested I protect myself at least. Now, whenever I have a flare-up, I'm always diapered to make sure I don't have a messing accident. I don't want to ruin any clothes or household stuff. I guess it's peace of mind as well as functional need, at this point. I have flare-ups during the day time now, which i never had before. The flare ups can last from my experiences, 1 to 3 days in length with varying degrees of symptoms. This has been ongoing for about 2 months now and I've finally mustered the courage to get myself checked out. I will be scheduling a meeting with a doctor to investigate the sudden change in my habits. I have heard, from reading, that IBS can be brought on post infection, IBS -PI I guess it's called, which has some halfway decent (50%) recovery rates. Being that I have had issues before hand, however, I am worried that symptoms might persist. Right now, I experience cramps, occasional nausea if I have bad cramps, bloating, excessive gas, diarrhea, constipation, and occasional fecal incontinence from sudden uncontrollable urges, or the leaking of diarrhea. I also feel like I have a constant need to defecate. I can sit on the toilet for half an hour with no results and still feel like I need to go so bad... but no relief. This can go on for a few hours to a few days, where I feel like I absolutely need protection, so I'm in a diaper the whole time. Mostly I experience a flip-flop between pretty severe diarrhea and constipation. I can literally feel my bowels spasming. In addition to the IBS symptoms I do feel an increased need to urinate frequently. Since I'm diapered, this is not a huge issue but I seem to have some urgency in urination. During my flare-ups I have a tendency to stay as relaxed as possible, which may be contributing to the urges. I have since overhauled my diet to things that are recommended for those with IBS. I eat much healthier now (out of sheer necessity, and try to be as cautions as possible about what I eat. I have also noticed that high levels of stress cause my symptoms to go into super-overdrive. We lost a pregnancy this past Thursday (my fiancee miscarried at 8 weeks) and the stress from taking care of the household while she is on prescribed bedrest, along with the associated stress has been a nightmare. This was the last straw, and I'm out to seek professional help. Stress is a huge trigger for me. I'm on day 4 with symptoms right now. (Please, I'm not mining for sympathy here, we're all in good shape, just filling you in). So I wanted to take a few moments to ask others who are suffering through this: How did you talk to your doctor about it? What questions should I be asking and how is a good way to begin a conversation? This is pretty embarrassing for me and I might have trouble discussing it with a stranger. What tests should I expect to go through, and how bad are they? Not really sure what to expect here, however I do hear (shudder) that colonoscopies are pretty routine as one of the tests. I'm quite nervous and scared of that in itself. Has anyone with IBS experienced any urinary urgency or incontinence? Is this common? When I'm feeling fine, I have no trouble retaining feces or urine, but when I'm in the middle of a flare up, I have to pee a lot, usually in small amounts. I've been relying on my diaper to help me there. I have a feeling it's associated with being crampy. Anyone else get that? During my discussion with my doctor, I would like to tell them that I am wearing protection and that it does provide me peace of mind regarding accidents. I haven't had a ton, but they have happened. How likely is it that I can get a doctor's note (or prescription) for diapers if I can justify needing them? Is there an easy/delicate way to approach this? Would a doctor be willing to do something like that if asked? I'm not about to try to abuse my health insurance (diapers are not covered anyway), or get a note simply just to be able to wear out of being a DL, but a note or script would be for work in case my employer happens to notice and/or question my needs. I would be worried about being found out at work and not being able to furnish "medical advice" to wear protection. It's more of a "cross the t's" situation if I find that I need to wear at work out of necessity. I have not discussed needing to wear protection with my boss, however she does know what I am going through and understands my current situation since one of her daughters also has severe IBS. Lastly, quick question for others with children. I have a daughter who is 18 mos old and is still in diapers herself. We are beginning potty training for her and hopefully she'll be potty trained soon. I want to know how others have talked with their kids about the difference between kids needing diapers and adults needing diapers due to illness. How do you talk to your child (if and/or when) they find out about needing to wear protection? I don't want to seem hypocritical or contradicting and have no plans to tell my child unless the time is right and they need to know or accidentally find out. What do other parents out there do in this situation? There isn't much advice out there from my reading. I really appreciate any answers and advice that anyone can give. I know it's a huge pile of questions, and I'm not expecting one person to answer them all, but perhaps others can give some insight as how to handle this in a discreet, dignified, and easy manner. Having to deal with intermittent fecal incontinence is not fun it's impacting my life since I don't want to leave the house, let alone move out of discomfort. Thanks for listening guys/gals, hope someone out there has some good suggestions for discussing this with others. I don't get here often but will be making an effort to check this post frequently and will do my best to respond.

Honu & mod admin are right. I'm in the same situation and have been for a long time, my fiancée knows about my wearing and accepts it, but doesn't really care for it. She lets me, and is cool with it, but has no desire to become involved. I wear an awful lot too, which is great, and she usually doesn't notice or say anything. Once it a while she'll mention it, but eh, thats part of the whole diaper experience. I'm lucky to have someone who accepts me, and I honor her wishes if she wants me to skip a day or take a week off or something. I don't do it because I feel like I'm being told what to do, I do it out of respect and the face that I love her. It's a compromise thing.

Thx for the input!

I must have wound up with a bag of them. About 6 months ago, I had a bag of abena xplus that had this problem. Total bummer, wet pants aren't cool. I also had a bag of tena slip maxi where a few diapers had the same weepholes here and there.

So I was just wondering if anyone knew... I've used secure xplus diapers in the past (as a matter of fact I liked them so much that I bought a case of them...) and just recently ordered a sample of bambino biancos. The appear to be identical to the secure xplus,except de-branded. Is there any difference, in design or materials, that differentiates the bambino from the secure? The bambinos were really nice, but I'm thinking that they're more expensive. "Is it worth it" is more or less what I'm wondering.

Assurance medium disposable diapers with a depends booster pad inside, plastic pants over the works. I'm slightly wet, but I just had my morning coffee so I'll be a lot wetter in a bit! I just moved, and I need to re-up my stash. All I've got is a few spare tena ultras and a small stock of assurance & cvs brand diapers (same mfg, different package), some booster pads, and one more adjustable underwear. I am sooooooooo missing my big thick dispisable diapers... way not cool to be out!

I just moved into the rochester ny area...

I told my girlfriend a few years back. We got drunk and started talking about everything. When we got on the topic of fetishes, I actually told her all about mine, but made her promise not to freak out. She was like, "That's it?". I was so relieved that I didn't have to hide anything from her anymore. She doesn't like it much because she's not into it at all, but it's wonderful because now she lets me wear my diapers (and use them) while I'm around the house. I've have worn and still wear them out all the time, but haven't done so much lately. It's great to have someone that will stand by you. I told her after we were together for about 2 years, and was able to successfully hide it for that long. It's been 4 years and she still loves me and puts up with my diapers I wish she'd get into it and participate with me, but I couldn't get that lucky.

I just ordered a few things from dmes, waiting for my package Some Tena products I haven't tried yet. Love the Tena product line though, so excited to try some new stuff!

Sorry I haven't been back in a bit, don't get a lot of chances to get on. But thx for the support. GF is still having a tough time talking with her sis about it and not sure it will help at all (she's still all sorts of bothered by her problem). But, we're still trying to help. I will be back with updates when they occur so I don't leave anyone hanging. Might be a while. Thanks again, for the comments and support! Hope we can get somewhere with this. The Dude

I'm a DL and NOT an AB. I do not like regression, being treated like a baby, or anything related to being a baby, AT ALL. OP is wrong. You most certainly can be a DL without being an AB. The only connection between the two is diapers, and that's it. Nothing more.

I think some people here misunderstood me - sorry about that. I'm not telling her that I have a fetish. They way my gf will approach this is that I used to wear at night all the time, but don't usually need to anymore (I still have infrequent accidents from time to time). I still do, however, because I enjoy the feeling of comfort and security it gives me - something that I had when I was younger and life was more simple. She's not out and out saying to her sis "oh, my bf is a DL, have fun with him". That's the exact opposite of what we're trying to do. The idea is to provide support and show that even though for the most part they are unnecessary, that it didn't bother me at all when I had to - it grew on my to the point where I still feel comfort and security when I do. And as far as approaching her about it, I'm not, at all. My girlfriend is, and her sis has no idea that my gf has shared this with me, the same way any couple shares things with eachother - confidently. I'm going to let her sis come to me if she has any questions or wants to talk, that's the whole idea of being supportive. I'm not about to strike up a convo on the topic. If she feels the need to discuss her issue with someone who really understands, then I will by all means provide an ear and listen. Give advice. Let her know that she's not alone in the world. Show that needing protection doesn't need to be embarrassing to family, and in my case provides a feel of comfort and security. I can't imagine how it would feel to be so uncomfortable with yourself... I hope being used as an example can help her overcome that and understand it's nothing more than a medical need that just needs to be dealt with. That's all I want to do. I'm not looking for a DL buddy to hang out with - I already hang out with her for many, many other reasons, all of which are cool and fun. I just want to be an example to help her get over her fear of staying the night at our place and being able to see her niece.

So I've been a lifelong DL. I also used to wet the bed pretty hardcore up until my mid-teens at which point I "kinda" grew out of it. I still have a night time accident once in a great while (once a year, maybe?) but I'm usually pretty dry all around. My girlfriend of 6 years is the only person who knows this and she's ok with it. She even wet my bed once after a night of heavy drinking... I never told her but I thought that was pretty awesome. So anyways, my gf's sister has the same issue, but she never grew out of it. My gf has told me this in confidence, and I see no problem sharing it because a ) I'm fairly anon here, and B ) People here will understand. She lives a few hours away and is worried that when we move another 2 hours away (new job coming shortly) that she won't get to see my daughter / her niece anymore because it would basically mean sleeping over. She is so concerned about other people finding out that she's a wetter that she refuses to sleep anywhere other than her own place. I know she wears protection at night, since she still has a lot of accidents. I've given my gf permission to tell her that I also suffered nighttime accidents for a long time, and that I was in diapers for a lot of it. She wants to show her sister that not only do we understand but that it's perfectly ok and acceptable, but that it's also nothing to be ashamed of. She's even going to tell her that she won't need to bring her own since I always have sone on hand (I wear almost every day). Right now, she has no idea that I know, but I want her to know that she has a "diaper" friend and family support. So I'm more than willing to let my gf concede my secret to her in hopes that I can cure her of her anxiety of spending the night at our place, and hopefully feel a lot better about herself. I told my gf that I'd even wear a diaper with her (clothed, of course - so as not to be weird or anything) so she won't feel isolated when she needs to. I'm hoping that when she finds out, this will be a huge step in her life to accepting the need to wear and understanding that she's not alone and has support. I'm really looking forward to seeing what she says. I hope she sees my needs as a way to feel better about herself and feel less alone in the world. I have a chance to make a diaper difference and I hope I can provide her understanding and support. I think once she finds out that I have a "secret" too, and that she's not alone, our relationship will become even stronger (it took a long time to get her to like me to begin with - she's a pretty crazy feminist and was at one point a man hater). We're on great terms now and get along fine but I want her to know that not only is she not alone, but that there are others that think it's not only perfectly fine, but find it enjoyable to want or need to be diapered. I am looking forward to having another friend who will both know and keep my secret in return for the same support. What do you guys think? Has anyone here that's a DL helped deal with support for another family member that desperately needs it?

> How complex could have possibly been? Have you ever managed a huge user database or the framework for a site like that? It can be easy if you're using stock framework but when you start adding on customizations and plugins, etc, it can get pretty complicated pretty quickly. There's the possibility that several updates to different packages or mods didn't play nice with eachother. There's both the backend and the frontend to manage, so making them jive with the database system can be a challenge from time to time. It probably wasn't terribly hard to manage but I can imagine the possibility of it getting out of hand from a botched update or a major corruption/incompatibility of some kind. >If the server was down the DNS would still resolve. Not necessarily. If the DNS is in house and the link to it has been broken either by a bad network connection or ISP issue, then it could indeed be up but non-routable. If it's on a hosting plan at a datacenter or service provider, either the bill didn't get paid, the provider went under, or something major league went wrong. Either way, something's completely ****ed.

From an IT perspective: Even though they have an "IT guy" working for them, web site management is a tad different than webserver and/or nameserver management. In a lot of cases, IT manages the server and the webmaster (whom I would believe is Cali) would administer the site. For small operations, IT can take care of both the server and the site maintenance but it's not too common. If the site was down but the server was still online, you'd probably either get a park page or a custom 404 if the home page didn't exist. However, the web address diaperspace.com doesn't even respond to a ping. The DNS points to custom nameservers, which leads me to believe that the most likely culprit is that the server is indeed down or they have major DNS issues. If it's true that they have no backups, it will probably take a long time to reconstruct the site framework and user interface, which is not an easy task from scratch - even with prebuilt framework. The site itself seems to have been a work in progress for a long time and was "ok" but not something I would consider to be superb work. It did the job alright, though. Taking into consideration the size of the site and its complexity, it would be very surprising to find out that they didn't have backups of any kind. Any good webmaster keeps a backup of their site data and any good server admin keeps a backup of their machine images and configurations for emergencies like this. If they do decide to resurrect it, it could be quite a while before it's back on its feet, if the do decide to at all. Considering there is no park page to say that they are experiencing problems, (and I hate to jump to conclusions) I would venture to guess that it's going to be down for a while if not permanently. Sucks, because I was a member there too. It was a decent place.

I was at the grocer's a few weeks back and saw an old lady who was very obviously wearing a big soggy saggy diaper under her old lady pants. I was like, yep. Diaper. lol. Better change that thing, lady. There was a middle aged guy in front of me at Rite Aid the other day, who bought 4 or 5 packages of generic full-brief diapers. They were his size, not sure if they were for him or not. Oh yea, and there was an older dude in front of me at wal mart in the customer service line that had a few packs of wal mart brand assurance full briefs in his purchases. I see this stuff everywhere - the kind of thing you just have to be on the lookout for. Never talked with anyone about it, except for a dude on an irc channel I hang out in from time to time, who happens to live a few miles from me down the same road. He's like 55 and I'm 27 and I have a family so it's unlikely i'd ever hang out with him or meet him anywhere, (maybe if he was really close in age, but this is a little weird for me). Maybe he's the guy i saw at rite aid. Probably not though, I'm sure there's a ton of people around here that wear diapers. Nobody seems to have noticed my diapers yet, and I'm keeping it that way