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First off, when you start dating DON'T tell the first couple of girls, as more than likely these will be TRANSITIONAL relationships. So don't worry about it. She cheated on you with your best friend? Miss him, don't you? I left my ex, it was the best thing I could do for myself. Then got married a few years down the road, and after 5 years with her I left her too!! How much pain do you need to put yourself through before you allow yourself to kick her to the curb anyway? Find someone who accepts you the way that you are, and don't put their needs above your own. If you can't be yourself in the relationship, then that relationship is based on a lie! When you are going without your diaper desires being taken care of (and note that I am NOT saying that the other partner has to have a vested interest in you wearing diapers) then it's only going to cause friction, frustration, resentment, and pain. I'm not saying the woman should be some subserviant "Mommy", but an equal partner in the relationship, and, while she is NOT REQUIRED to participate in ANY diaper behavior (unless she WANTS TO), allows you to be yourself, then that is the perfect woman for you. (Hey you can dream, huh? It worked for me.) When you are past the transitional relationships, and start to feel that you're getting a little serious with some girl, you should explain everything fully. Leave nothing for interpetation, and let her know that you have to be honest, and that you have to get it into the open BEFORE things got too serious. Let her know that if she wants to back out that that is fine. you only felt it was fair to get that into the open, because if she wanted to get serious with you it has to be with the TRUE you.

Well I worked quite a few jobs, but due to my being bi-polar I'm not able to work. I am lucky that I have a military disability pension. There are a lot of things you can do though, if you are able to work for a day or two at times you might try a work today, pay today job source. Just an idea.

You Brits, I'm not going to lose any sleep tonight trying to figure out which Druid rite you'll be doing today. I think that the idea of the tolerance day is wonderful, and Ruffles I'm glad you brought this up. If I were to attend such a gathering, I would dress in my newest cloth diapers with Baby blue plastic pants, and over that I'd wear one of my Baby blue onesies. I'll have to check out what it says on the net for myself, if I'm able to make it there I may run into you Ruffles. Vic

Hmmmm, interesting, but what makes someone think that this may keep a person from wanting to wear diapers later in life? I just knew that I wanted to wear diapers from a very early age, and I can't give any kind of reason for the desire, other than it was just there. If you check with this woman's children after they've grown up, and one of them wants to wear diapers all of the time, what then? I mean, my brother was a transvestite, and when I talked with him about it he said that he'd always wanted to wear womens clothes. I mean to say that he NEVER dressed in girls clothes EVER as we were growing up, so if you never wore diapers when you were growing up, you could still become an AB or DL, right? Vic

Yes, I always find myself going down the diaper aisle at one point or another when I'm in the store, which isn't always easy to do, as I'm the kind of guy who goes in, gets the required item, and is out of the store as quickly as possible. I just love the smell of the diaper aisle, there's a Baby scent to the air there. The worst smelling part of the store to me is the meat counter. Vic

Maybe I'm weird, but I never break out down there after shaving. I've been shaving for about 2 years now, and no problems. I shave a couple, three times a week, no biggie. I have very little chest hair, so I don't bother shaving there, and I'm not a TV or TG, so I don't worry about my legs or arms. I just enjoy being hairless down there, and I don't break out. Vic

Speaking from experience, women who are not familiar with diapered dudes are NOT the best canidates for you to go out with, if you know that your diaper desires will never go away. I've had several lovers who were not into this, and who made it very clear (once we had been living together for awhile) that it was unacceptable to them. Even though I tried my best to keep things as low key as possible. In every relationship I explained to them the way I am, before the relationship got serious, I explained everything to them as clearly as I knew how, and told them that if they couldn't handle that then it was cool, and we'd stop seeing each other. In every instance not one of them said that they didn't want to see me anymore, instead they told me that that was okay with them, but in every instance they decided that they couldn't accept that part of me. They wanted to stay in the relationship, but I had to give up wearing diapers, which I did for their sake, but it just caused more problems than it was worth, so after a couple of years I would break it off with them. After the last break up I swore to myself that I would never date outside of the AB community, which (I thought), meant that I would never date again. I had never surfed the net before, so I was suprised to find out that such a thriving community of AB's and DL's were out there. Soon I found myself conversing with other AB's and DL's that were out there that made me want to weep with joy! I had known that there were others like me out there, I just hadn't found them, it felt like I was coming home for the first time in my life. And there were BabyGirls there that I talked with, and Mommies too! Before I knew what was happening I was talking with a few of them, and yes, I found a Lifepartner/Mommy! I still talk to other AB girls, and DL girls out there when I can, because I've always enjoyed communicating with other AB's and DL's, and girls have a different perspective than all of us guys, and they speak from their hearts, which gives them an insight to things that I love to hear about. Communicating with others allows you to see into another persons perspective, and it helps you to expand your knowledge of what it is to be a human being. We are limited by our selves, in that we only perceive the world through our own eyes, when I talk to others I want to know what it is they see, and what it is that they think of this or that. I want to get to know the person, and hear what their take on something is. So, don't give up on your dream, if we have no dreams we lose a big part of the child inside. Just remember that when you talk to others you should just be yourself, let the people you talk with know that you are a real person. Yes, you are an AB, or DL, but you are a person first. Wearing diapers may be a part of your life, but it is not the only thing in your life. Good luck finding your dream, Vic

I probably shouldn't say this, as it's really not on topic, but I've been to strip bars before, and spent all of my time at the pool tables. Maybe I'm just undersexed. I could imagine that getting a lap dance while wearing a diaper would be fun, but to my tastes I think it would be more fun to have a girl dance with a diaper on HER, and maybe some short Baby T shirt on (I think less skin can be more provocative sexually, at least for my taste). That's just my two cents worth. Vic

Nice guys finish last? I don't care for some of the replies here, some of them seem to say "It's the net, what do you expect??". First let me just say that when I say something here, I mean what I say. I don't care to hide behind the "annonimity" of the net, and I don't play games with people. I am a person, a real live flesh and bone person. I am an AB, and I have a Mommy that loves me and I love her. I do NOT have a problem with jealousy, as I believe that that is an EXTREMELY immature and wasteful emotion. I have had several lovers in my life, and they have all wondered at how I was never jealous. Simple fact: IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH ME, THEN, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO GO!! I don't cheat on anyone, period. If I am with someone I am with THEM, PERIOD!! This doesn't mean I won't talk with other women, I do value what women have to say. The female of our species have an intuative part of the brain that us men seem to lack, and I value their opinion. That doesn't mean I'm going to chat them up for a rendevuex for sex or anything, I just like to talk to them. When my Mommy/Lifepartner talks to other guys I give her the freedom to have as much privacy as she wants to have when talking with them. If she decided she would be happier with one of them, so be it, I won't stand in her way. If you love someone, and they love you you need not waste your time and energy on something as negative as jealousy. As for people trying to steal your partner away, she should be the one to tell them to get lost, they'll get the hint faster that way. Don't let them get to you, be more than they will ever be by being REAL, stick to your love, and don't let others bring you down. It diminishes you by giving them more than a moments thought. They can't take from you anything that you don't give them. Vic

I'd get a new neighbor, but seriously, I put my diapers into six different plastic shopping bags, one at a time. I put it in one then I spin the diaper around very fast twisting the bag up into a long strand, with the diaper in the bulge at the bottom. I then tie the strand into a knot, put it into the next bag and repeat the process until I've got the diaper sealed airtight into six bags. I then toss it in with my regular garbage, (I only use black garbage bags, so no one can see anything in them anyway), and throw the whole thing out in the dumpster. Now, if I had a neighbor that liked to paw through my garbage I would lay in wait for the culprit with either a small video camera, or digital camera. Then when they were in the process of digging through the garbage I would take pictures, but I'd come out in plain view of them as I was doing it, I don't think they'd want to get caught in the act a second time. Especially if your apartment building has a bulletin board where you could proudly display the pictures you took of old Nosy Nelly up for all to see. Just a thought. Ciao, Vic

Wow, that's one heck of a nice idea! I wake up in the morning and look for new topics and such, it's a great idea to have a place to come and just say "Hello"! True, I'm finding this rather late at night (for me), but tomorrow I'll be sure to check in and say HI (that is, if it's okay with everybody else). Oh, anyone who would care to e-mail me can find me at canitvic@yahoo.com (the canit part is to remind me to keep it short). T.T.F.N. Vic

Love going to concerts. Started back in the 70's when we'd go down to Long Beach for Don Kirchner's rock concerts. Saw lot's of bands back then, they were free. Since that time have been to many, the latest ones are the ones I wore diapers to. Of course I wore Attends 10 classics, but I had a Tena pad inside for a little extra absorbtion, as the friends I go with and I tend to knock back a few before, and during the concert. The cocerts I have worn to are Greenday, twice, Blink 182, Butthole Surfers, twice, Smashmouth, Lalapaloosa in SLC, and Gibby Haynes and his problem. I've been to more, but can't remember all of them now, (perhaps if I had a few beers it'd come back to me). Vic

Weird?? Pray tell, what is normal? As far as music goes, I too love quite a variety of ROCK. I got into punk when it was punk, I still love classic rock, but have listened to everything since then as well. I enjoy todays metal, punk, alternative, the list goes on. Rock is always new, everchanging, evolving, cutting edge, that's why it's ROCK. So I've been an AB/DL ROCKER me whole life, what makes me weird? I'm no different than any old John Q out there, just smarter, and better looking, and more fun to be with. Rock on Diaper Dude! Be happy, it's only life, you've got to enjoy it! kick up your heels now and then, see how many bars you can hit in one night on one diaper. Just have fun! Vic

Now this is just plain bad. Theft of sevices, and sexual harassment all at the same time. Tricking these nurses into caring for him under false pretenses, and then being low enough to cop a feel. I hope this Guy gets help, he needs it.

Hello Emily! I think it's wonderfull that you were enthusiastic enough to make your own site, so many of us like to hear from the "Lil Dipee Girls" out there. There just aren't that many of you, and that's what makes you so special. I myself don't view the pics that much, as I enjoy conversation more, but I did look at yours, and I must say they are cute! I too am a music lover, I love Rock, and I love to talk with AB's and DL's. You will find all kinds of people into diapers, we all come from different walks of life. I am sorry that you've heard from some cude people out there, there are so many gentlemen out there too though, so don't let the perv's get you down! You have shown a lot of grit by making your site, don't let a bunch of jerks make you back down. Mommy Shelley and I are getting on our feet financially, but when we can I'd like to order you a package of diapers off of the net, what size do you need? I will send you some when we can afford it, as I think that people with gumption should be suppoted !! For now I can only applaude your efforts, good going BabyGirl!!

In another rock reference, on the CD "Gibby Hanes And His Problem" the first track, titled "Kaiser" in the chorus says "I'll be the Kaiser, you'll wear the diapers". Just a little FYI, for those of you wondering who Gibby Hanes is, he's the front man for "The Butthole Surfers". This CD, "Gibby Hanes And His Problem" is a solo project he did, and I found it to be VERY good, hope you give it a listen.

Hi, my Significant other, "Mommy Shelley", is wondering if there is a place in here for Mommies to talk with each other. She thinks that it would be nice to have a support group for some of the Mommies out there, so I told her I'd ask. THANX

Think about this choice very carefully, once you have spilled the beans there is no way to put them back. Having the guts to do it takes a lot too. I know I told my parents (well my Dad) when I was seventeen. He was always this big "Macho" guy who you never knew if he was gonna knock you down or not. I told him, and he didn't take it that great, but he took it. First it was very embarressing to talk about, and there was also the fear of what he might do. Also it is your Parents you are talking to! The Ultimate Authority in your life at the age I was at the time, and what continues to be for many people even long after they have moved out. I thought about it for a long time before I came to the choice I made, and I decided that for me hiding things had to come to an end. I was who I was, and I didn't want to feel guilt or shame over being who I was. When I told him I was direct, and to the point, without slapping him in the face with it. I explained that it was something that had been in me my entire life, and I was letting the family know (bacause of course he was the one who said what was what in our house) because I was tired of hiding it. I explained to him about my AB feelings, and that they did not hurt anyone in any way, it was just the way I was, and that was that. Well he didn't like it, but he couldn't argue with it. That's how my family came to know. You are your own person, and will make your own choice. If you do tell, try to break it to them gently, choose your words carefully. Good luck!

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I have written to you before about the survivors of abuse support group, I think it's wonderful that you are looking to start one. I would like to say that I want to offer any assistance that I can, and if the others wouldn't mind it I would be happy to lead discussions or help out in any way that would be of service to you or the others in the group.

Dinosaurs are us! When I was 13 computers filled buildings, and had to be programmed by cards. There is no way to get any kind of actual count of how many AB's and DL's there are out there, but any therapist you may talk with will tell you that it is still relatively rare, (although more of us are coming out every day). Yes I know how it feels to repress your inner being, and the feelings of being a "Whacko" or "Freak", and I can tell you that you ARE NOT! Unless, of course you enjoy being a whacko or freak, then by all means feel free. For a lot of us, feelings of guilt and shame have plagued us over our desires to wear diapers, or to be Babied. This is really uncalled for! Why put yourself through all the pain and anguish for simply being who you are? What is keeping you from accepting yourself as the beautiful human being that you are? The only thing holding us back from being happy with ourselves is US!! If you feel pain over these desires you have, then I can assure you that it is SELF GENERATED! So many people out there feel so bad, for absolutely no reason, they should accept the life they have been given, be happy with who they are, and enjoy life! Unless of course feeling agony and pain is your thing, in which case go ahead and feel all the guilt and shame you want! If your asking yourself if it really that easy to accept this part of you, I can assure that it is. All you need do is look at yourself, realize that you are a good person, and that God WANTS you to be happy in this life! Whether God created you this way, your up bringing did it, or some weird fluke of nature, some Cosmic joke made you WHO and WHAT you are is unimportant. The fact is, we are who we are, accepting ourselves for who we are is a big step toward being happy with our lives.

Actually I think what you are refering to is the saying "a boss is like a diaper, always on your ass, and usually full of shit". And the other is "Polliticians, like diapers, should be changed often, and for the same reasons". I know a couple others but they escape me at this moment, I know "Let a diaper be your umbrella" isn't one of them. Vic quote=diapersallways,Sep 9 2005, 02:35 AM] i believe it is "they are always full of shit and always on your ass" but i have heard this qoute used differently in many ways such as instead of politicians it's parents or teachers or boss's "my boss is like a diaper always full of shit and always on my ass" things like that. <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I read in the topic about child abuse being linked to people becoming AB's and DL's, that we couldn't actually say whether or not abuse caused us to be the way we were, or if we were just made this way by chance,or God, or whatever. After following this thread for awhile I found a thread asking if some of us would care to have a support group for those of us AB's who grew up in abusive homes. It said that we could talk with others who had gone through some of the same things we had. I wrote and said that I would be interested in joining such a group, but never heard anything back from it. Those of us who went through abuse know what it feels like to know, to REALLY KNOW, that as a person we are hopelessly flawed. Inside we knew we wanted to remain Babies forever, but even though we didn't dare say ANYTHING about those desires to ANYONE, when we got beat we felt it was because of our inner desires. I think it would be good to have a group of members in the AB community who survived abuse to talk with for many of us, who better knows what you went through than someone who's walked the same path? If (like many of us) you were beaten for any "accidents" you had when young (being potty trained) and the beatings just seemed to continue, and the thoughts inside of you craved being a Baby once again, you tend to feel that as a person you are flawed. I would like to see the question tossed out there again, as I feel that such a group would be helpful to at least a few people. Vic

Sorry, the last reply seemed to say to me, "Well what do you expect? "There are creeps everywhere". I cannot accept that we as a community should be apathetic and allow other people to talk to others in this manner. If you see someone on this board post something offensive, then we as caring members of the AB community should voice our unhappiness with seeing such content on this board. We are after all a group, and that makes us a community. So please let people know when they are offending others that it hurts us all, and that we do NOT appreciate that kind of talk here.