jenniebear

For U/us ... my Daddy and i have a Big/little relationship but the "ab" part of the relationship is put away for "special" Daddy / baby times.... So we certainly do not get do it up "ab" style every time we "play/scene" so to speak.... There are lots of things out there to try and explore....as well as just good old fashioned romance and enjoyment of each other... I will admit that before i had the opportunity to be babied by someone...i fantasized about it and thought of it as the ultimate experience. I still enjoy many aspects and variations of those fantasies....but the ultimate experience i've learned is more about pleasing someone else and learning ways they can please you.....with or without involving a diaper.....

While personally i don't find us all that weird....i'm gonna agree with RM on this one....the general public is very sensitive to anyone who loses control of their bladder or bowels even accidently....they seem bearely tolerant of those who are truely incontinent... I am a member of other alternative lifestyles and even those who belong to the bdsm and D/s population for the most part find diaper wetting and messing disgusting..... Obviously we are less freaky then lots of other fetishes when it comes right down to it....but i'm thinking the general public would put us right up there ...i don't believe they are going to see the differences and seperations we all do..... to them..... wearing diapers is gross....even changing a babies diaper for some can be gross....it just grows from there.... i dont think they will find it any less disgusting then "golden" or "scat" play.....and bdsm and D/s seems to becoming more acceptable today in certain parts of society.....

My Daddy had dat same fing....Himz wented to da Doctor and dey perscribed Him somefin and Caopectate.....Himz tooked da Caopectate only and gotted better right away.....me not fink Himz ated old bread or chocolate bars..... You shouldn't let it go too long if you not gettin better ... see a Doctor tause You can get dehydrated ....

My relationship with Daddy is considered extreme to some in that W/we practice an extreme 24/7 D/s relationship. The first 6 months of my living with Daddy, i was required to crawl in every room on the main floor of O/our home, except when in the kitchen, bathroom, or my own special room W/we call slave's quarters. I could walk only when Daddy wasn't home, i was serving Daddy, or i had asked for permission to walk. i am still required to always request permission to use the bathroom, letting Daddy know exactly what i will be doing while in the bathroom. i must in check on the phone each day between 4:30 when i am done at work and 4:45 to inform Daddy of exactly when i will be home...etc.... while i no longer am required to crawl...i must ask permission to move from room to room, or activity to activity. Daddy expects to know exactly where i am and what i am doing at all times. When i am diapered i am not allowed to remove my diaper...no matter how wet or what the circumstance is...without asking permission. I am also not allowed to put a diaper on without permission. Sometimes as slave, i get frustrated by always submitting to Daddy's word and decisions, it can be hard to not argue now and then. I have learned though, that with the sacrifices and submission come many many rewards.....and being a good slave also means being a spoiled one.....

Whether one believes in the war being fought or not.... i believe it's important to recognize those who serve their country ... support and honor them ... their sacrifices should never be taken for granted.... It is our responsibility to also know who our leaders are as best we can and vote for those who best represent what we believe in.... Life is complicated ...we don't always find ourselves represented as we would personally wish....but ultimately we still hold the right to speak what we believe and vote for who we wish

We watched our little towns memorial day parade from our front yard this morning...Family and friends seated all around us. The honor gaurd carrying the flag came by...so many people stayed seated it made me sad to see so many who have not been taught or choose not to follow the tradition of standing as the flag passes by.... As I watched the flag coming closer....i took the hand of my Master/Daddy/Friend and waited for His que to stand at His side as they marched past...as W/we stood ...others followed O/our lead but as the flag passed many asked the question....why did we stand and what are the expectations when honoring the flag....i was so proud of mine as He answered their questions... Tears came to my eyes as the many veterans passed by...some walking...and older generations driven in many of the towns peoples finest cars.... convertables and antique cars of locals who proudly carried them down the street....i held Daddy's hand...so thankful that He was beside me...here this day...having himself served for many years in the Airforce including time spent serving during the gulf war.... I am sure there are many places all over the world where one can feel safe grateful for all they have....but i know today looking up and down the street of this little town...the flags waving in the gentle breeze...amongst some of the best people I know.....my heart was filled with gratitude...... Thank You to all who have served and to those who are serving...a nation holds you in our hearts and prayers....

My guess is tht lil stevie is right on the money! Stereotypically...... Women in general are "nesters" and more inhibited when it comes to sex.....though each generation seems to produce women who fit less and less into the "traditional" idea of woman, still they are often the primary caretakers of the children and home even when they have a career outside the home. I think most women my age (middle aged) anyway, are too busy with family, life, work etc... to look on the internet under fetish interests.... Men on the other hand are traditionally the "hunters". They tend to look for what they desire, exploring and searching for sexual turnons, and they are more visual as well. They also aren't busy at night doing the dinner dishes, working on the laundry, bathing the kids and putting them to bed etc.....they have more time to "look" around online.... I'm definitely generalizing and am sure that these ideas don't always hold true...but i believe it might have a great deal to do with why you see such a higher number of males into the fetish then women. For many women the feeling of a full bladder actually may enhance sex and actually may affect more women then would ever admit to it....

ummm.....i not into the crotch shots.....ack..... i understand wanting to be descrete....but how about something a lil more creative?...... pleeeeeeeeease!

for me i don't equate diapers and what i wear for my monthly period in anyway shape of form....ack! for me diapers began totally as an extreme sexual turn on...i couldn't put one on and not "have my cookies" immediately ....the thought of putting one on was almost enough.... time and exposure to them has lessened the intensity i feel (i began wearing when i seperated from my exhusband at about 6 years ago at age 35 ... i wore in the evening every night for probably about 2 years...now i wear maybe once or twice a month)...but they still play into my sexual desires though my desires are not limited to diaper play..... i admit though...guys in a diaper are not really a turn on for me...my fetish revolves around my own wearing of the diaper....i am turned on by a Guy in the Daddy role....so pictures of Guys "Daddying" or Dominating a diapergirl are awesome! i am more apt to enjoy looking at women in diapers.....maybe because i identify with the girl in the picture and see myself ... or maybe i just enjoy looking at pictures of women

It's funny...i've known "mypetlion" for a number of years.... we've watched each other grow older...wiser and more comfortable within ourselves.... I unfortunately missed most of cubbie's rant.....though my guess is most of it is there in quotes....... for what it is worth...my take on cubbie is that while sometimes his rant style gets a lil too "out of control" for some people...he is himself....he tells what he knows from his real life....he speaks as he does from his real life.... and what i love about him....is that he says it like he sees it....and he would never comprimise his priciples.....granted the way he says things is not how my neighbor from small town midwest america would say it..... he says it like a kid who's lived the life he's lived would .... cubbie and i spent new years eve together a few years ago....he was an awesome host with awesome friends....i just wish i could have spent more time with all of them...because my experience... though brief.... was a lot of fun ..... i felt the friendship and family they'd developed with one another and it was something i think many only dream about having....o....and yep....everyone was diapered .....well except for my Big Bro....and some "Daddy" guy who was also there.... jennie *scritches the cub behind the ears*

i'm guessing that many of us would make interesting psychological case studies...but speaking for myself...it wouldn't be about what i use for a means of escape or sexual turn on...it would be more about why i need a means of escape...or why it is that diapers are my choice of "turn on" Over the years i've spent a few moments thinking ... why diapers?....why bdsm?.....but i work with a lot of other women who would be considered successful, highly motivated individuals....and they each have their own share of baggage and their own special kinks too...it just doesn't seem all that abnormal to be a little kinky.... i'm just thinking that while diapers is a unique choice.......it's not all that unusual to have a "turn on" that enhances my sexual life...and infact given the number of "straying" spouses out there...maybe having a "kink" actually keeps our sexual life more spontaneous...interesting...and our relationship more intimate then it might be otherwise....

Hey...i think "sweetie pie" is an adorable term of endearment....typos and misspellings happen...

Topguy is right about ab's not being accepted by a Dominant if they act in that demanding... infantile way that we are so famous for...in my experience Dominants desire a well behaved partner that they can groom and develop rather then someone who acts like a spoiled brat....they are not going to do battle...they expect obedience to be given not won.......my Daddy would never accept behavior that was anything less then my very best....... i am slave as opposed to submissive to my Daddy/Master... and yes...there is a difference...though it could probably be defined differently by everyone who has an opinion...my definition of slave would be that is a 24/7 committment and total submission in all things to my Master...it is sometimes a difficult lifestyle choice but the rewards W/we feel far outweigh the challenges that sometimes make U/us "groan" When W/we met and and "designed" our relationship parameters so to speak (bdsm'ers often draw up contracts which are signed by both parties.) W/we agreed that Daddy may never punish me by taking away my blankie, my plushie (tallie) or refusing me the privilege to wear diapers to bed. I don't actually wear that often...but the option is always mine though i have to ask permission to wear or change or remove my diaper always. What Daddy does do though is reward me with diaper play...if i am a good girl (well behaved slave)...Daddy spoils me....if i desire it....He indulges my baby side....dressing me...bathing me....diapering me....basically pampering his babygirl till she purrrs..... I try to respect His desires too....if it's saturday and the day is a beautiful one.....if i am to receive the privilege of choosing O/our activity for the day....i'm going to choose something that W/we both find a treat but i might choose to do that activity in a diaper...or save the diaper time for later when W/we return home....

Awesome post TopGuy... I enjoy discussion on this topic very much. i am an ab but also slave to my Daddy. He was Dominant but not even ab/dl aware when He met me...nor had He heard the term Daddy Dom. While i feel there are many similarities between a submissive and an ab...technically most ab's i've seen are as You've said egocentric. In some ways this egocentrism could be seen as a way to "Top" from the "bottom". (Dominants are also known as "Tops" and submissives are known as "bottoms"...Topping from the bottom would be a submissive who is doing the controlling of the Dominant) Of course slaves and submissives enjoy being the center of their Dominants attention also...but their pleasure more derives from "pleasing" the Dominant rather then the Dominant "pleasing" them. There are different styles of Dominants out there...some they have actually classified. One of these styles of Domination is calld "Daddy Domination". A Daddy Dom is more of a nurturing type of Dom...I've found this type of Dom to be more into the "guiding and teaching" aspect of the Dominant's role. This is the type of Dom I have always sought out. He is more apt to fit my personal needs. My own Dom probably would not call Himself a Daddy Dom, but He has many of the same qualities, plus He has an extremely open mind...and loves pleasuring His slave/baby...it's something He finds gratifying. Plus if He pleasures me by diapering me or changing me....He reaps the benefits of how these activities affect me. I'd love more conversation around this topic...and here is a website I'd like to share on "age-play"...it is not necessarily focused on ab's...but rather a girl who enjoys roleplaying different ages, including some younger ages as well. http://www.mybdsm.com/pages/Vamp/intro.html Also this next link to a Daddy Dom's own definition of what it is to be "Daddy Dom"... it's been around a while... but incase you haven't seen it...it isn't too long and it's very interesting.... http://www.subspace.cc/daddydoms.htm

Well put Toddler...."clash of charisma"...an excellent descriptive statement.... I've had my own "clashes of charisma" with others who were well liked by most everyone...but something about them just rubbed me the wrong way....it happens.... it's tempting to be a part of the "cynda war"....but the more i see of it...the less i see people taking the high road ... i see a lot of manipulating and negative behaviors..... sometimes i myself am just as guilty...and i always feel bad afterwards...to me it's important to ask yourself...are my actions going to be productive or destructive? but...i try to live my life by those old sayings..."do unto others as you would have done unto you".....or "live and let live"....and "if you can't say anything nice...don't say anything at all".....simplistic?....cliches?...probably to some they are even "dumb"....but i believe i am a happier person when i around people who are happy...vs.....being around those who are unhappy (especially ones i have provoked them into unhappiness).... remember this one? "if you lie down with dogs....you get up with fleas"? my advice to anyone who is cares to take it.... ignore gossip and rumors...your actions will stand for you and your friends will stick by you..... ignore those you dislike or who dislike you...you'll stay out of way more trouble then you might otherwise be finding yourself in... and i just read val's post above mine....C and i have not been friends for years...but we have tolerated each other because we are "nice" to each other......... In the last few weeks i stuck up for Toddler because i love him like a brother....but if i hurt you cynda it was not my intent to...and cynda.... if i did....please accept my apology.... and about "getting your rocks off on seeing someone upset"......yep....why is that do you think? It reminds me of children in school...how they pick on the "weak" one of the group....."weak" one could be defined as the least popular...least socially skilled...least like everyone else (say the one who wears diapers?...or messes themself....or occasionally wets their pants?...hmmmm...has anyone in this group ever been that "picked on person") done ranting....

It sure does mean sharing a lot more then that... i am in a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. It's actually very hard to fit everything into O/our relationship that W/we would like and enjoy... In some ways I believe a D/s relationship is stronger then most normal vanilla relationships...but i also think it takes more work. It may sound simple, the Dominant telling the slave to do this...do that.... But in reality...my Dominant controls two lives in a sense....sometimes it's hard enough to control one... As a slave...it's easy to think that if you love your Dominant enough that you will fulfill all of His expectations....but it takes a lot more then that....hard work...tons of communication...and communication in this sense is much more demanding...when He needs to know about every aspect of your thoughts and life just so He can make the right decisions for you.... Diapering has to often times take second stage to lifes demands....paying the bills...cooking dinner...shopping...getting the oil changed...yard mowed etc....and if you have extra's in your life like boats...motorhomes...things that require extra attention....it sometimes leaves little time for the "fun" stuff like diapering etc....if my Master had to change my wet diaper everytime i peed instead of me using the bathroom.....we'd take forever and a day to get through all that needs done... We fit a little times of Domination into our schedule now and then....like a trip to Lowes can be a lot of fun diapered...bending over to look at "nails" for Daddy while your diaper is peeking out the back of your jeans or Daddy asking you if your diaper is wet at the checkout counter....not really diaper domination per say...but still fun

Hey... W/we are visiting North Carolina in June....anyone have places of interest or beauty to recommend seeing? W/we especially enjoy canoing and enjoying nature....

hey Daddy Will... *smiles sweetly and flutters her eye lashes in her most adorable and winning manner* i know my Daddy and i would love to see pics of Your nursery...W/we are always looking for fun and creative ideas....and i would bet others would enjoy seeing them too.... pleeeease....

Yep Luke...but when i was 18 i couldn't wait to live somewhere other then where i grew up...somewhere fun and exciting......now that i'm 41...quiet and peaceful means a lot

My Master never uses diapers as a form of punishment because....i enjoy wearing diapers. When my Daddy punishes me it's with something i don't like...generally being sent to a room in O/our house W/we refer to as slaves quarters. There is a single bed, a desk and not a lot else in there....He has tried a ball gag with me...but i tend to freak out when it's used in a punishment sense....sometimes He washes my mouth out with soap or makes me stand in a corner... He does Dominate me when i am in a diaper, W/we actually have a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He will ask me if i am wet while W/we are standing in line buying diapers or check my diaper with a pat in front of people. Sometimes He will not change me for a long time when i'm wet as punishment...but of course this may or may not seem like punishment to me...depending on the situation....

This is my personal opinion....but just as i would not want people running around in just their underwear in my small town....i would not want them running around in just their diaper either... seems a bit unhygenic to me... or from a different perspective.... i also wouldn't exactly want to see anyone running around in their erotic attire (whatever their kinks may be) and that would include someone in their diaper...i don't want to experience anyones sexual fantasies but my own thank you..... And explain that sorta thing to your kids.... a little exhibitionism in a grown up venue is a lot of fun.....i agree.....but i don't think its fair for the general public to have to deal with it when they are just minding their own business.... Remember too.....it might be fun to see a young (over eighteen), fit, clean, well groomed person running around in just a diaper....but ...and no offense to anyone older then 20 something or overweight....but same rules apply for everyone....no matter size, age or self grooming levels..... Finally i have no doubt in my mind that anyone in small town midwest USA caught running around in a diaper is going to at the very least be picked up by the local police and while maybe you won't be arrested....it's not going to make your evening or help your popularity in the community in any way, shape, or form....

Daddy and jennie live in a rural northwestern Illinois town. It's tiny and the people can be a bit small minded at times, often having been born and lived their whole lives here. There is something to be said for living in such a rural area though, quiet, clean, open space, big yard, trees, grass, wildlife, rivers (W/we are on the Rock River and about 10 miles from the mighty Mississippi River. W/we know O/our neighbors and they know U/us. My Daddy and the neighbor on oneside, take turns mowing each others front lawn or shoveling each others sidewalks. The neighbor on the other side carried my groceries inside for me last night. W/we often spend time with a neighbor or two, having a beer around one of our backyard firepits on cool nights.

she went wee wee....*giggles*

that first adult diaper was the ultimate for me too! though i couldn't sleep in one for a good month or so.....something always distracted me until i'd finally have to take it off just to get some sleep..... um...yep...jennie is definitely a dl

Absolutely Ally! I am 41 years old...in a very satisfying relationship...i've owned my own home....a car....I have a great job and career...and while diapers are something i enjoy ...they have also been a fetish that i have at times wished wasn't a part of me... what i've learned to do is to set priorities....know what direction my life needs to take....and i have not let my fetish rule my life. I have a great life...great job....great friends....wonderful "normal" experiences....i've learned that in life it is important to balance all of these things ... decide what is most important and not place too much importance on things like a fetish.... its like life is a great big meal...you pick things that are healthy and good for you....and then for desert...you indulge now and then.......and while desert is enjoyable and lovely and extremely satisfying........it's not what nurishes you ...... Does that make sense?