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Another vote for sudocrem. I use it everyday as a preventative as I find the best way to deal with nappy rash is not to get it in the first place. Sudocrem is cheap, well-tested, readily available and designed expressly for this purpose. After nearly 12 months 24/7, I've had very little nappy rash and any I have had (usually a consequence of long-range nappies and high heat) has responded swiftly to extra application. I remain hairless down there which helps get it where it needs to be. If I'm in cloth nappies, I might use baby powder instead so I'm not having to wash a greasy cream out of wet towelling.
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Looks like Molicare is replacing the Premium slips
oznl replied to Tom Personal's topic in Diaper Lovers
So I've been using these as my "day" nappy (I'm off work for Christmas) since last Friday. I actually haven't had any further leaks but to be honest, with the heat and humidity, I don't think I'm actually peeing in them very much. They continue to stay up a LOT better but as @mick_dl has mentioned, it's still the Hartmann core. This means that after a day of yard work, I still hit my afternoon change to discover I'm wearing a plastic bag with a ball of wet, disintegrated padding collected at the bottom but a plastic bag that does a better job remaining on my hips and hugging my crotch. I've decided they're not so bad but I wish they had a little wider coverage at my crotch. -
LOL! Mis-using station wagons on the road as a kind of children’s playground was indeed an international phenomenon of that time. I remember talking once with a Swedish colleague who’d also grown up in the 1970s… She was telling me how her dad used to fold down the rear seat in their Volvo 240 wagon and wedge the children in between the camping gear for summer holiday road trips. The youngest infant was given special treatment however: he was secured in a picnic basket just like the family dog except the dog’s picnic basket was up on the roof rack. Sibling requests to have the dog in the car and the infant sibling on the roof instead were fortunately disregarded. This from the land the invented the Volvo AND the seatbelt. Also, the land that in 1968, decided to change the side of the road they drove on (google “H Day”). As kids we were always devastated that we weren't allowed to ride in the caravan (there was a TV in there!) when we dragged that on holidays. Actually "devastation" was the operative word. My mother used to pack the caravan and she wasn't too good with whole mass/velocity equation ("I'll just pop this on the bed"). It was always interesting to locate and see what had happened to things when we got wherever we were going. We'll get back on topic sooner or later but this is way too much fun for now…
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I’m not even sure I specifically set out to accomplish this but after about a year of 24/7 wearing, I wake up a couple of times per week in a wet nappy that I have zero recollection of making wet. Funnily enough I remain pretty much in control of things during the day. This is how it progressed for me: I was usually a tiny bit wet before I went to bed (since I make zero effort to hold, it’s almost inevitable that there’s a dribble between changing into my night diaper and getting into bed). I think this might be a bit important because it says to your brain “it’s ok, it doesn’t matter, you’re already wet anyway”. Every time I stirred during the night, I would relax and empty whatever was in my bladder. I don't sleep that heavily. Within a month or two, I was wetting in small amounts two or three times in a night but clearly remembering doing so. I would still have a need to pee in the morning. Then, on a couple of occasions, I’d wake up to wet, start wetting but not remember finishing: I think I fell back asleep still doing it. I’d wake up again a bit later and wonder why my bladder was empty. I would sometimes have quite vivid “pee dreams” where I dreamed that I needed to pee or was peeing. I suspect on the odd occasion, the line between dream and reality got a bit blurred but it was all the same for my diaper. After about 6 months, I went to bed one night after a fair bit of alcohol and forgot to use my nappy before I fell asleep. I woke up the next morning drenched. No dreams, no nothing. Over the next 4 months, there were isolated-but-increasing incidents of waking up wet, or at least a lot wetter than I could remember being responsible for until today where it’s happening at least once, usually twice a week. I still don’t know if I am actually waking to wet but just not enough to remember doing it or simply sleeping through. It doesn’t make much difference I guess. I wake up wet with an empty bladder and no memory of how that happened. I don’t ever need to pee in the morning when I wake up now because one way or another, it’s already happened. I think wearing 24/7 is also partly responsible. I’m quite aware that my bladder has shrunk. Even on nights where I CAN remember wetting, it’s more like 3 or 4 times per night in small quantities. These days I suspect that if I wasn't diapered, I'd be getting up quite a few times during the night. As they say, YMMV…
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Looks like Molicare is replacing the Premium slips
oznl replied to Tom Personal's topic in Diaper Lovers
So I included a couple of bags of these with this month's nappy order. Yes, I agree with that. I've been wearing one at home since this morning as my "day nappy" and although at 3:30pm, it's been on 6 hours and is reasonably wet, it's markedly staying up around me better than the old Molicare although as I wear plastics and a compression pant, this was probably already somewhat taken care of. On the downside, it has very slightly leaked. It's more like wearing a belted pad than an actual adult nappy. The padding across the crotch isn't every wide and there is only an elastic belt going around each hip. As I've been sitting down working all day, most wetting has occurred in a sitting position. I've stood up to discover that there are damp patches in my plastic pants at the front of each thigh to the point where the elastics on my waterproofs are damp. It seems that some pee has simply escaped into my waterproofs through openings between the padded crotch area and the "belt" that secures it. Normally for a day nappy, I'd be able to stay in it until a change around 5pm. I'm not sure this one will go that distance despite being a "10 drop" product. It's not the padding that is the problem, it's the shape. I suspect this product is aimed more at carers than wearers... -
Plastic Pants for cloth backed disposables
oznl replied to Tom Personal's topic in Incontinence - Medical
I'm diapered 24/7, 85% in disposable (due to overwhelming practicality rather than preference) and I don't think I could do it without plastic pants. All disposables leak at some point. If sized and worn correctly, the leaks are minor but they're still going to get small amounts of pee onto your clothing or into your bedding. Wicking, press-out leaks, or outright seepage through the "waterproof" liner of cloth backed disposables (some brands worse than others, thinking about YOU Tena Maxi..) If you're using diapers in bed, position is critical when peeing to avoid leaks and as one becomes habituated to diaper usage, one forgets (or does not awake fully) to manage position and leaks will happen then too. Plastic pants will manage this. They won't stop a major leak (might delay it for a minute or two) but they will cover up those small seepages. Even in my plastic-backed, long-range workday diaper (BetterDry), I will find a few tiny spots of moisture in the seat or crotch of my waterproof pants at the end of the day around 30% of the time. Presumably this pee would otherwise be dissipated into my jeans. No thank you. I think that's how incontinent people sometimes get a reputation for smelling. I generally use about three high quality disposables per day. During the day I wear them under Gary PUL waterproof pants and at night, I will wear them under a terry-lined waterproof trainer pant. I could possibly use maybe 5 per day by changing them earlier and chancing it without plastic pants but for me, that solution is expensive, wasteful, less convenient, and still not altogether reliable. -
As the eldest child, I was always expected to set an example. To this end, my mother toilet trained me very early (mmm, sometimes I wonder about that) and so I have no recollections of being “caught” because I was never wearing beyond infancy. I have a couple of memory fragments of times when I knew I would have been in nappies but I can recall nothing of the nappies themselves. I *do* recall very similar childhood drive-in experiences albeit from the opposite side of the planet and the wrong side of the road. We had (what seemed like) a giant V8 Ford station wagon that would regularly set fire to a few gallons of fossil fuel to drag us the a few miles down to the local drive-in, way down south in Melbourne. We were “allowed” to watch the first movie but for the second, my mother had put blankets down in the rear of the station wagon and we were consigned there to “sleep”: a baby, a toddler and a kindergarten kid. After the fighting and whining died down (or was at least, brutally suppressed by my father) we WOULD eventually fall asleep. I suspect I would have been the only child NOT diapered but to be honest, I just can’t recall that kind of detail. I cannot recall any instance of my siblings being changed so I guess they were equipped with long-range cloth diapers and left to have at it for the evening. Being the 1970s, we were allowed to remain, unrestrained, asleep in the back after the last movie had finished and I’d dimly stir at the starting rumble of that V8 (289cu Windsor) and falling back sleep as we moved off. The next thing I would hear was the sound of my father opening the tailgate to retrieve us at home. I’m surprised he just didn’t leave us in the car and get us the next morning. It was that kind of decade for child safety. I’d assumed that a 1970s drive-in cinema would have long since been flattened and developed but a quick google shows that the Australian National Trust listed it as a heritage building (oh come on, it’s younger than ME, slightly, and I didn’t get a heritage listing!) and therefore it’s still standing. Nobody seems to know quite what to do with it though. It hosts a weekly giant car boot sale (Trash & Treasure). http://cinematreasures.org/theaters/30805
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When I started down this road, more than one year ago, I’d thought I might last a week or two. I can even quote myself (blogs enable that): On Friday December 7, I said “I think I am half-hoping that I will spend a week or two diapered, get bored with it and move on with life with this aspect of myself more in proportion with the rest of me.” I can recall (apart from the idea I might become bored with it) mindfulness of an array of social or logistical challenges which would see me scurrying back to the land of the conventionally-underweared. It turned out that I just dealt with those challenges (in a nappy) and moved on. I can write off driving past those warning posts as “adaptable”, “innovative” or any one of half a dozen other self-affirming adjectives. Signs of dependency was certainly one of the challenges however for which I thought I would pull the pin. It’s harder to think of an affirmative adjective for becoming a bedwetter. Since I gave up obligatory bedwetting in 1968 (almost completely), the fact that since August, I have drifted into doing it at least once per week would seem to suggest the dependency IS a thing. I’m bewildered at myself for being so sanguine about it all: “oh well, sometimes I wet the bed, that will be something to think about at the next sleepover!” It’s strange but my daytime control is very similar to yours. Mostly usable, reduced range, some evidence of dripping but I could probably stop it if It thought about it more. The complete reverse of the experience of so many others. I'd hate not to wear a nappy at night though. I listen to my wife get up once, sometimes twice, and feel remarkably smug.
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Assuming this was an outcome you were looking for, congratulations! I think if I found myself at the point you are at now, I would probably consult with a Dr. Partly to get a diagnosis on my record and avoid discussions or awkwardness further down the road when I’d be likely to find myself in hospital or before practitioners for one thing or another and partly to make sure there was nothing more sinister lurking behind my lack of control. Have you done that or considered doing it? Coming up to a year since I first started with 24/7 (not withstanding a 4 week break back in March). For the most part, I’m still in charge of things during the day but they’re different. Ironically, it’s night that seems to be at some kind of tipping point for me. I’m finding myself more and more often waking up wet with no recollection of having done it. I have an irrational belief that this is about me not waking up “enough” to remember rather than not waking at all. In start contrast to day wetting which is still something I need to think about from time to time, nights have been a painless, comfortable gentle descent. I was never a bedwetter as a child but all my siblings were: go figure.
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What happens if you don't toilet train a child
oznl replied to Mikes Mike's topic in Incontinent-Desires
As others have said, they figure it out for themselves eventually but it happens a lot later than it needs to, is rough on the kid and speaks volumes of the parent(s). I watched aghast from a distance as a friend’s (now ex) wife did this with her son. Third birthday rolled around, nothing happening, then the fourth birthday sails past and he’s still getting around in a permanently soggy disposable and all the time the mother occasionally bleats “he’s not ready!”. Finally, weeks away from school starting, age 5, the kid more or less decided himself to stop going in his diaper because he didn’t want to wear it to school (smarter than his mother)! It seemed that training wasn’t necessary at this point for this kid, he was perfectly continent, he just hadn’t bothered because there was no pressure to. This was more about a parent who was massively over-indulgent to her only child and completely missed the bus in terms of understanding her obligation to equip her child with life skills instead of just showering it with praise and treats. Another insight into this came just the other day from a colleague at work whose daughter is a teacher teaching in a school in a lower socioeconomic area. His daughter was horrified that she’s been allocated a “prep” class for kids when school comes back end of January next year. I asked why this was a problem and he told me that kids these days turned up at this school lacking the most basic abilities and there’s usually a couple in every class who are either still in nappies or even worse, who aren’t but are not toilet trained anyway and the teacher has to deal with it (eww…). Apparently, those kids have a pretty miserable time at school from their peers because of the nappies and accidents but at least the parents were spared the inconvenience of potty training. It seems we have bred a welfare-dependant underclass that just regards absolutely everything in life to be provided for free, by the government including it seems, toilet training their offspring… -
Extended family Christmas party tonight
oznl replied to Alex Bridges's topic in Our Lifestyle Discussion
I do although my parents live a long distance away and I hardly ever see them. They are also aged, have their own interests and I don't think that I'm one of those (no problem though). I'm just not part of their world. I still have other relatives and 24/7 is 24/7 in my book. At a social gathering (at which family members will often be at) I will wear a high quality "quiet" nappy. A pair of Gary PUL waterproofs for leak insurance and a compression stocking over the top and dark pants. That gets me to the place where even my wife isn't 100% sure if I was wearing or not (as I've been 24/7 for so long now, she just naturally presumes that I AM wearing and doesn't bother trying to find out anymore). I guess my crotch is slightly flatter and bulkier than it used to be but I like to imagine that people aren't staring at it that much and an overhanging shirt hides things. I think switching in and out of diapers would cause more visual anomalies than just staying in them. People are very used to me the shape that I am. Christmas means a lot of such gatherings: I was out at one yesterday and will be at another this afternoon. I'll make sure to be in a fresh "10 drop" absorbency diaper for each event so I don't need to think about in-flight diaper changing. -
My hunch is that my subconscious has learned that such behaviour is to be "permitted" (and not worthy of fully wakening) but would thus not occur outside the context of being in nappies but it's still something to consider for those dabbling with 24/7. I have no evidence at all for this supposition ? As a postscript to my previous commentary, on Friday night I slept dry. Well, I wasn’t really dry because I went to bed a bit wet but could clearly remember waking up every few hours and wetting some more. That didn’t bother me because I don’t stay awake for any length of time as I don’t actually get up or, since I was wearing cloth, even bother to move. You’d think if ANY night I was to be relaxed enough not to wake up properly to wet it would be when I’m in my bullet-proof cloth diapers but whatever. Saturday night I went to bed dry (Molicare + waterproof trainers), sleeping under the AC again due to yet-again, high heat and humidity overnight (it’s been a very trying summer in South East Queensland this year and it’s hardly even begun). I stirred for some reason at 4:33am (that’s what the clock radio said), I don't know why. The first thing I’d almost reflexively do when stirring like that is empty out whatever might be in my bladder into my nappies. I discovered that this was unnecessary as it seems the matter had been taken care of at some earlier point and I was already wet. It's a bit hard to feel in a high quality disposable but a moment of confusion as to why the "tank was empty" and a cautious dab inside my nappy indicating moist conditions and I just fell back asleep for vivid dreams about large houses (no diaper content). This is the third time that I think I've wet myself during the night without realising in the last seven days..
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That’s a REALLY good question and I had to pause and think before replying. I think I’m feeling a combination of disbelief and dislocation. Disbelief insofar as a part of my brain is denying that this is happening. There is a big part of me that remains convinced that I am in fact, waking up to wet but simply not remembering doing it the next morning. Having said that, vividly dreaming about wetting in “the wrong bed” whilst actually doing it and having evidence of wetting laying on my side (a practice I would never undertake in a disposable whilst awake due to the risk leak) suggests that I was NOT “online” when those wettings took place. I have claimed bedwetting because that’s what the stronger evidence says but a large part of my brain still hasn't signed off on this. Dislocation insofar as I find myself reacting with a curious, distant neutrality toward what many others may regard as a personal catastrophe: the resumption of bedwetting as an adult (albeit still rarely). Why am I not aghast that this has started to occur and furiously concentrating on reversing any new habit forming in this regard? I don’t know. Perhaps part of my conflicted headspace is anesthetised by disbelief. I wonder if I am taking this sufficiently seriously. I feel a little bit like a tourist in a war zone sometimes.
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It’s been a soggy week on the night diaper front with at least three out of the last seven nights involving a saturated night diaper that I can’t remember saturating. This is an outcome that is clearly escalating in frequency. One inexplicably-wet night was associated with the reappearance of the seldom-these-days-seen “diaper dream” but it was a bit different to its predecessors. Whilst I’m not 100% recalling, the gist of it was that I dreamed that I was laying in bed at night wetting my nappy. The physical sensation of doing this was remarkably realistic for the Molicare-under-trainers I was wearing and the pattern of wetness suggested I was laying on my back. I could feel a gentle trickling across my crotch and down my perineum to make my bum wet. I can’t remember having any particular opinion about this and in contrast to previous pee dreams, there was no great build-up of escalating “I need to pee” scenarios. I wasn’t even aware OF a need to pee. I just became aware that I was wetting my nappy and that was ok. This dream was more documentary than drama. Of course, if you are dreaming a vivid sensation of wetting yourself in bed and you have insight that this is what is happening and you really ARE actually wetting yourself in bed, is it a dream at all? How would I know? What is real? Are we living in the Matrix? Does it matter? What would Descartes say? Except it wasn’t MY bed I thought I was in. At least not my current one. I “knew” I was in a bed in a bedroom from a house I’d moved out of nearly 14 years ago in a city 500 miles away. I was sleeping in the distant past. It had to be a dream. The next morning’s wet nappy was definitely not a dream though. It was distinctly “now” and “local”. Yesterday morning I did it again (sans dream), waking up to discover my nappy was in fact drenched with no recollection of me deliberately doing so. As I changed out of it into my day-nappy, I also realised that the terry lining on my waterproof trainers was also pee-sodden around my right hip (with a very small bonus wetting down between my legs due to sheer overflow). It appeared that I had wet myself laying on my side. This isn’t something I would do in a disposable in bed deliberately as I’d know it would be a recipe for rising damp. There is a recurring pattern to these nights now and I suspect at this point, I would have to formally regard myself as an adult intermittent bedwetter: strange days indeed.
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The only hint I can think of that might be useful with respect to introducing cloth diapers into your marriage would be to be careful about odour. I like cloth diapers a lot. I actually like that “wet” sensation, I find the bulk strangely comforting and in bed, I never need to think about what position I might be laying in, they will not leak. They have no odour control whatsoever. A combination of this, incomplete laundering, time and olfactory habituation (aka ‘nose-blindness’) and ‘daily driver’ (as opposed to strictly recreational) use can make them go from odourless to ammonia bears in a couple of hours. They also don’t wash themselves and in order to stop residue build-up that leads to malodorous use cases, they really need to be soaked. This involves a prolonged phase of submerged nappies in the laundry tub with associated accusatory looks and eye rolls. After that, they need to be put through a long, hot wash cycle. My wife "prefers" me in disposables. When I use the word "prefer" here, it's more along the lines of she'd "prefer" to be shot than hung. She likes me to keep my cloth nappies well out of her sight: Mars would be good in her opinion. Smell and being confronted with my washing (I do it of course) have been mentioned in dispatches. It’s still comfortable to the point of decadent to wake up late with an empty bladder, a wet cloth diaper and a very dry bed. Yes, this has been a thing for me too. It's still quite rare and a bit hard to detect although splattering on the gym floor during a change is a dead give-away. It seems that these new phenomena appear, disappear and reappear again. At first sporadically, but very slowly become more common. I do suspect that it's more to do with brain re-wiring than atrophy.
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For me it may well be that. I guess the outcome is the same. I will wake up wet with no recollection when or how. The frequency of this occurring is accelerating rapidly now: more than once per week. This morning I woke up wet (that's normal). I couldn't specifically remember wetting (increasingly common) but when I went to change myself, I found that not only my disposable, but the right hand side of the terry towel liner of my trainer waterproof pants was also soaked around my right hip. It looked to me like I'd peed laying on my side. I wouldn't deliberately do that in a disposable. In a cloth I wouldn't care.
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Oh that's interesting. I've been taking chlorophyll tablets. I don't habitually mess diapers but I'd been told that pee smells could also be muted this way. Have I been wasting my time here? https://www.chemistwarehouse.com.au/buy/67492/Swisse-High-Strength-Chlorophyll-1000mg-200-Tablets Wasting my time/money?
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I'm in my 9th month of continuous 24/7 and have been 24/7 for nearly 11 months this year. Although I'd tell you I was on that plateau, there have been isolated episodes of waking up in inexplicably-wet night nappies. Although I'd still tell you I was on that plateau, observation tells me that those episodes are becoming more common. In stark contrast to anecdotal evidence, it seems likely I will become a bedwetter before I become incontinent. I haven't experienced any substantive daytime incontinence but things are certainly "different" down there now. There has been the odd few occasions when I've thought I might be dripping in my day nappy unintentionally but I can rationalise that through gravity and residual pee in urethra from prior episodes. Until, like the night time incidents, I look back in retrospect one Tuesday and realise that there are too many to have been co-incidence.
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It must be the time of year. I had one last night as well. I haven't had a diaper dream in ages. Bizarrely, all I remember dreaming is that i was wetting my diaper. I got the distinct impression that in my dream, I was actually even in a bed, just not the one I was really in. I don't remember ANY particular thoughts or emotions about wetting, I didn't even really have a pee urge but the sensation of a dampening diaper was extremely realistic. It was more documentary than drama. I woke up in the early hours reasonably wet and that hazy dream was the only recollection I had to explain how this might have occurred. Being a Sunday night (weekend), there may have been alcohol. That does seem to be an agent provocateur for my newest habit: fairly intermittent bed-wetting. I guess it's possible I was half-awake.
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Domestic challenge #231 “I’ve booked the cleaner to come and do the house next Friday, she’ll be here about 7:30…” my wife mentioned to me casually over breakfast this morning. The periodic presence of a paid cleaner is an ongoing friction point in this house. I don’t understand why it’s necessary to pay a cleaner when there’s a perfectly good teenager who does absolutely NOTHING in terms of contributing to domestic maintenance and said cleaner won’t even touch the teen bedroom because aforementioned teen doesn’t arise before 10:30 am at least. Yes, said teen is a “university student” but classes (such as they are) consume no more than about 5 hours per week and in any case, university finished for the year in early November and will not resume until next March. There’s also little co-incidence about the choice of day. Friday is my “work from home” day. Freed from the tyranny of commuting, I can lounge around in bed until say, 07:30, peel off a rather wet cloth night nappy and change into a traditional kite-folded and pinned terry nappy under plastic pants, rinse the night nappy, leaving it in the laundry tub to soak, make a coffee and still be online for an 8am conference call. “Right then…” I replied. “I’d better make sure that I’m up and suitably dressed”. “Yes you will” she replied with what looked a lot like a “cat that got the canary” smirk. I suspect that what we have here is a turn of the screw from the Mahatma Ghandi playbook of passive resistance. The cleaner has been a highly intermittent visitor in our lives: largely because of my antipathy toward it (an antipathy backed by my willingness and habit of undertaking routine household cleaning chores). Previous (and infrequent) cleaner appearances have been associated with requests to remove or conceal all evidence that I wear nappies. The nappy-footprint in the house is more than you think it would be. There are folded cloth nappies in the walk-in-robe. There are a couple of opened packs of disposables under the bed. There are waterproof pants airing out. There’s a nappy bin in my study. On Friday’s there would be cloth night nappies soaking in the laundry tub. I am planning on not fully complying. I’m willing to stash a wet cloth night nappy somewhere for the hour or two until she’s gone as that might be smelly. I’ll be in my terries but under capacious, dark shorts. If the cleaner wants to forage under the bed, she’ll find adult nappies. If she looks hard enough in the walk-in-robe, she will see more nappies and waterproofs. It’s my house too. I’m the one who paid for it. I expect there to be a dispute about this closer to Friday.
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Just echoing the general advice here: the trick is to try to "leave the tap open" as it were and pee near continuously. I realise that may not be easy at first but @Alex Bridges has given you a strategy. Another trick (I don't need it but it does seem to work for me) is to exhale breath until your lungs are nearly empty and refrain from inhaling. After about 10 - 15 seconds, I will find I experience an urge to pee regardless of the state of my bladder. That's a parauresis trick apparently. If you are 24x7 like I am, you may find that after some months, wetting frequently but in very small volumes has become the new normal. Heading for a year down the track, I have found myself in this space and it's great for avoiding nappy leaks. I haven't really noticed the difference in my wetting patterns because the shift happened so slowly it never seemed unusual. I had to stop and think about why I was rarely (not "never") leaking these days and not having emergency changes.
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If we're talking moderate exercise as being reasonably active in the day doing normal things, walking around, work in the garden, up and down a ladder, a BetterDry will actually hold up far better than the Molicare premium slip maxi. An assisting factor is that I usually wear some kind of compression stocking over a PUL waterproof over the nappy (the waterproof manages leaks, the compression stocking manages visual discretion, noise and gravity). If we are talking about a gym session, I haven't found ANY tape-on-nappy yet that can reliably withstand say 15 minutes on a cross trainer wet. Despite my shape, I actually go to a gym around 3 - 4 times per week (I have the figure of a bear but I'm useful at moving furniture). In the early days, I tried to leverage a last 45 minutes out of my day-nappy by leaving it on for the gym session. Each brand had its own particular method of demise in this scenario. With the BetterDry, it seemed to be gravity. It got saggier and saggier and before long, I was constantly hauling it back up to stop my nappy disappearing from my crotch to reappear at my knees. With a Molicare - all the padding would head on down to the basement of the garment and there'd be a padding party under my perineum leaving the rest of my crotch quite wet. These days I will either simply go nappy-free for the 45m or so (that's still an option to me although I'm by now well aware of a need to pee towards the end). Alternatively, I will wear a sacrificial pull-up for gym. The pull-ups seem able to cope with the action but they're not much good at coping with pee. I've found their rated capacities to be hopelessly optimistic for the 2 hours or so for gym/home/dinner/night nappy they are ok. If I find my dependence progressing further, I'd make pull-ups for gym an "always" instead of a "sometimes" thing. Interested in your thoughts on that difference. Prostate problems are on my horizon and there is a strong family history. BPH is the most likely and I suspect I might already be there a bit. I could do without prostate cancer but a TURP is more than likely at some point and apparently, for a while at least, it has a similar effect. I'd imagined that since I've tried to stay relaxed 100% of the time, leaking in very small volumes fairly frequently, there wouldn't have been much difference between my experience now and the one I'd probably encounter post-TURP but I'm always up for a bit of enlightenment from somebody who went down that road before me.
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Sounds like a pretty good outcome to me. Will you bother with the exercises they give you to regain continence or just allow yourself to remain incontinent? It's hard to be sure but I suspect I'd just do the latter and roll with it.
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Mmm.. Some kind of delicate parlour game? A specific request for a third party to examine your butt-shape when it was overwhelmingly likely she knew you were diapered? My wife would be organising some kind of diversion-at-any-cost if she thought I was at risk of being discovered: "OOH, look out the window! A spacecraft!" This is to do with sparing her embarrassment more than me though. Dangerous stuff: we are all at best one playful pat-on-the-bum from awkwardness. Please send some freezing rain to Brisbane, Australia: 39C and smokey today, again with areas of raised dust... I'll trade you a palm frond.
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Looks like Molicare is replacing the Premium slips
oznl replied to Tom Personal's topic in Diaper Lovers
lol thanks! if you use their website to search all-in-one via vendor (Molicare) - it doesn't come up. Looks like another one of the (many) breaks in their new website. May YOU can find them on https://molicare.com.au/participant/#molicare-products I couldn't. I might try a pack with my next order to see if they will suffice as my weekend day-nappy although I'm wary about those side panels.