Sissy Tami

Welcome Sassy to our community!!! It's great that you have been so open minded and had some fun. Spending the weekend with us in Vegas was kind of like eating an elephant in one bite but you survived. I should know as I was most likely the larger part of the elephant. Very very Brave and adventureous. I for one am greatful that you did! I appreciate your post here about your experiance! I want the community to take notice of several points. First Bri had the good sence to be open about it and it paid of very well for him. Contrast that to the numerous stories about couples that have split up because they kept it a secret or tride to anyway. Not a good idea ever! Second she did not think less of him for his honnestly but actualy thought more of him. Third she came and witnessed how open minded people were toward us and how well we were acepted. Lets see that makes Bri, Square, and now Sassy who have had the courage to come out and atleast see how the public reacts and accepts us. All have had a similar experiance, a positive one. I guess I don't even need to mention Heidi Lynn and myself. All seem to be willing to do it again!! Need I say any more! Sassy who knew nothing about our community only weeks prior to the event and who is not an AB/DL herself had the courage to see what it was like. While many of you who have been a part of our community for years have not found the courage to do so. I understand why and know that many of you will remain in the closet for ever but I hope some of you will take courage and come and see what it is all about. Ok I'm done lecturing now sorry if I bored you. But we are having fun, it's not like I am asking you to join in our missery or anything. Thanks, Tami

I think the best thing to do is to ask someone who actualy has experinace in wearing obvious AB attire out in public. Since very few of us have that desire or courage the list is rather short. As someone pointed out on one of my posts before it could depend on how good looking you are as to what you might get away with.. I'm not saying that this is right or sensable but honestly it counts. If you are a gorgeous women you can get away with more than the over weight middle aged man. Second if you only wear just a diaper you are asking for trouble and contention. If you were to cover it up with say some rumba panties or a shortall you would be far better off. People would still know you were wearing a diaper but you would retain the knowledge of whether or not had actually used the diaper for it's intended pourpose to yourself. Unless you really stink. If you want to wear out in public keep the facts that you are either wet or messy to your self as best as possible. A bullgy and fluffy can be cute! Wet droupy and saggy is not! Thats jsut the way the general public sees it. When Heidi Lynn and I were out in public I knew what kind of reaction we would get based on what type of coverup Heidi wore over her diaper. If she only wore a clear of translucent plastic pant over her diaper we would get critisum and scornful remarks or even be asked to leave a store or establishment. If you could easily tell that Heidi was wet or even messy the unber of negitive comments would increase. If she wore a rumba panty over her plastic pants we would not have any trouble at all. Heidi did not much care one way or the other. I do so I always cover up. I cover up in a major way! There is still little question as to wether I am wearing a diaper or not it's quite obvious but undersated. As a result I never have any trouble at all other than some sinde comments from men who are homophobes or uncomfortable with their own masculinity. But I have never been asked to leave any establishment or premisis. I also don't hang out in places where the main crowd is geared toward young children or the handicaped. I never want to get in a situation where people think that I am making fun of someone or I am out looking for children. I avoid these locations at all cost. If people have children with them I go around them unless they express a desire to say hello. Even then I keep it short and sweet. In other words don't do stupid shit! and don't go looking for trouble! Best way I know to stay out of it. In the right time and place you can be yourself if you want to be. Thanks, Tami I do

Hello everyone! I am very glad to see and read all the great posts on this thread. Thanks Bri for the great pic's and post! Ultrapampers I'm a little confused I have been coming on this site and posting for two years about how much fun it is and how the girls flock to meet you and have there pics taken with you. These photos are a very small sample of what went on last weekend. the photo opp at Hooters was their idea not ours they wanted a pic to hang on their wall to remember us by. There were lileraly groups of girls who would wait in line to have their pics taken with us. I have tried not to say to much because I did not want people to think that I was braging. But know I have witnesses to help me out. Besides "It's an awfully sad dog that won't wag it's own tail!" This is the norm when we attend these events! I hope that you will come and see us at the next one and see for yourselfs how much fun it is and see how well we are recived. I did not get but about 4 pics myself this last weekend so I don't have much to add that way. I am greatful to Bri, Sassy and Square for coming joining me for a great weekend. We left quite an impression on quite a number of people. I hope our efforts pay off in the end. My favorite moment was when two girls who were with dates were staring at us in awe until I spoke a few words and they burst out laughing. They did not expect a low rough voice to come from a big pink dress. If they had laughed any harder they might have needed one of our diapers. Thanks, Tami

Last min prep is winding down Meaning I got the sign done. Jsut have to work out the wagon and make the memorial sigh for Heidi Lynn. Everything is washed and ready to pack, need to shop for some snaks and stuff but I getting pretty close. The only problem I have ever had in a bar in one of my baby dresses is people trying to by me drinks! The problem with that is that I don't drink LOL. Looking forward to everything but the long drive. Hope to see you there! Tami P.S. I like the wings both way bone in or with no bones at all. What dose that make me? perhaps I'm jsut a slut. LOL

Sounds like fun whish I were closer. Just a reminder that we will be at the Long Beach Pride parade on sunday May 17th For anyone who wants to come out and watch, participate, or meet up with us before or after. Thanks, Tami

Happy Birthday by the way. Obviously I was joking on the dress code thing. One of my dresses has more fabric in it than most the people at the club have in their whole wardrobe. You could certainly call it odd attire but indecent is out of the question. Sounds like you have been to the club before. How do you think that we would be accepted? We would not want to make you uncomfortable by our presnce there either? Would you be comfortable with us there? Obviously this would give you the chance to observe us from the side line without exposing yourself in the process. No one would be alramed if you took notice of us since everyone in the place would be doing the same. If you played your cards right you could feel your friends out a bit on how they feel about things like that and still remain completely undetected yourself. What an oppertunity that could be! You did not answer the question about the cover charge? Is there one at the Krave Lounge? Thanks and hope to see you or be seen by you at some point. Still don't know for sure what our plans are after the parade. Thanks, Tami

No Bri we would be like ghosts in a place like that With all that white, grey and black who would notice huge and pink? You know me I'm not much for attention so blending in and being invisible is right up my alley! Probably wouldn't even manage a glance most folks there! Never been to a Industrial type Goth club. But you see a lot of Goth types at the fetish events and most of the music at those events is modern industrial type so I would feel right at home. I'm trying to remeber what casino that club is in? Is there a cover charge for clubs like that? What about dress code! Man are we going to have fun. I suppose it will be like most anywhere else I go I will spend most of my time possing for pictures for peoples vacation photos. Kodak moments evey time you turn around. Tami

THe size is not all that important other than a real big one may be harder to transport to and from the parades. We jsut need something for our center piece or "float" mostly to hold the sign(s). Sure we can add other props to the wagon to help get our point across like stuffed animals and other infant-todler style toys. But mostly just to transport and hold the sign. We could just take turns holding the sign but it may be harder to interact with the crowd that way? I found some fun LED lights that you are going to love tonight when I was at the Rocky Horror Picture Show.. Last year Heidi and I just used some of the chemical type rope or necklas lights and that worked just fine.. I want to make a bracket to hold the sign that will sit in the wagon. Best if it could handle a slight breaze with out blowing over. the sign I am making for this year is 40" wide and 30" high so not to large but will look pretty big riding on a wagon. The LED flash lights I have will light up the sign pretty well. I pinned and wore some of the light stick types on my clothing last year to draw more attention! I'm not sure if it helped or not? Don't really need to add anything to one of my outfits to draw more attention It's going to be alot of fun If you would like to join us or just come and watch just send one of us a PM to get contact information. We would love to see you there! None of us bite and you will love to see the reaction we get from the crowd The parade ends on the east end of the Fremont Street Experiance. and kicks off at around 7:00 PM we should be in the staging area sometime between 5:00 and 5:30 PM Thanks

Still working on last minuet prep stuff. I am still looking for a wagon. I hope to find one soon because I need to figure out a bracket to hold the sign. If you find one let me know so I can get some mesurments from you. Also this is a night time parade so some accent lights are good. I have a couple of small but bright LED flash lights that I will use to light up the sign (if we find a wagon) then I was going to take another LED lantern that I have to place in a paper bag for the Heidi Lynn memorial. If anyone had some LED lights or even some of the chemical light sticks or neclaces they would probably help. Looking forward to seeing you there!!! Thanks, Tami

I am working on the poster board for our little entry and I was thinking of making a second board for the Heidi Lynn memorial. I would love some ideas on this one.. If you know of a good photo we should use please let me know or send it to me. I have an archive of photos from our travels that I can use if you don't come up with something you prefer. Last min preperations are under way now I'm getting so excited. Any of you that live in or near Veags owe it to yourself to come and at least observe us in the parade or come and meet us before. You will not be sorry that you did!!

It can be reall hot but luck for us it's at night. Of course I live in hell and we got to triple digits today so I will be used to it. A trick that I have found for hot weather and diapers is to dump cold water down them It keeps you cool for a while but it dose reduce ther room there is for wetting I have even worn two dipaers and put some ice betweeen them to keep cool that works well too. The dresses I wear are heavy and have many layers so I have to be a little creative to stay cool in the heat. Looking forward to seeing you in Vegas. I am working on the sign and other last minute stuff in case I have to travel for work next week. Thanks, Tami

Are we talking diaper moment here or just plain embarassing. I was striped down to nothing but my wrestling shoes as part of a high school initiation and had to walk from the second gym to the main gym thru an alley of sorts. The Drill team meet me half way across the ally as well as many of the swim team members before I could get to the locker room with my street clothes in it. I know this type of thing is not supposed to happen but it used to happen a lot. I hope not so much anymore. I have more that are diaper related but this is the worst of it. Tami

Bri said that he was having a Tee shrit made that had a guy in a diaper that says "growing up is over rated" on it. that sounds like a great idea to me. What ever you can find and are comfortable with is most important though. I have a bunch of large stuffed animals of Whinne the Poo and Tigger and stuff that I thought we could use in the wagon. I am trying to find a Care Bare in honner of Heidi for the wagon and banner at the parade. Good luck in finding something! Tami

She was really cute and I am sure that did not hurt the situation. Then she laughed and walked away so there was no really pushy follow up which am sure would have caused me some discomfort. Most people here on the board don't know it but I am happily married and striat. I would not do anything to jepordise my marriage. I have had to thow off a couple of advances mostly from very drunk and desperate women. But I got out each situtation with a laugh and a "thanks but no thanks" So far it's been all in good fun and I don't intend for that to change. I'm with you on the don't take no for an ansewer thing that would totaly make me mad but it has never happened to me before. But I don't hang out around too many drunks unless I'm in Vegas on Freemont street.

P.S. Judging from the number of people (mostly women) that come up and pat me on the butt and ask me if I need a change I would conclude that they made the thought leap to that fact that I would be wearing a diaper and that I might actualy use it.. Many more will just ask me without the pat on the butt. I have even had a couple of brave women stick their fingers inside the band of my bloomers and plasic pants and check if I was wet!! Yea I could not belive my luck!! I guess it is my little reward for braving the public. It's only ever happend in Vegas though maybe it's that "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" thing I don't know. Or possibly they were really drunk. Thanks again, Tami

I use Desitin as well and have had good luck with it. Corn starch works really well for me too. Where do you find the gauze diapers? or even the fabric? I could make my own if I found the right fabric. I use disposables most of the time but I prefer the cloth. I do like the way the disposables with the gel in them swell and get tight when they get wet though. If anyone has any info on the gauze please let me know. Thanks, Tami

Thanks Square! Maybe we could entertain a more private party as well while we are in Vegas say sometime on Saturday. Maybe we could intrest more people if we had a second more private event people would consider coming to join us. Stay on the side lines for the parade and maybe join us after for a party? If anyone reading this post has an intrest in a more private party please let us know. It's pretty easy to get lost in the crowd at one of these events as the crowds are very large and encompas quite a diverse cross section of people. You would have no worry about someone linking you to us if you just wanted to watch.. Esp in Vegas because the Freemont St crowd is large even if there is no parade. Thanks for all your imput and keep them coming. Tami

Hello, I have posted anouncements on the lifestyle page but I wanted to add one here to see if anyone would like to join us at some pride events this year. We will be in Las Vegas on Friday May 1st. This is a night time Parade and is a lot of fun. We will also be joining the Long Beach event on Sunday May 17th this is a day time Parade. Please contact us or leave a message here if you would like to come and join us or just watch. If you have an event in your area that you would like us to attend please notify us and we will see what we can do. Thanks, Tami

Cover stories and other excuses for being out. It's true that few of us, myself included have the courage that Heidi had to just point blank say this is who I am when questioned about our being out in baby attire. And yes being a DL is less compicated that being an AB especially a Sissy AB. Sometimes I have used a cover story just to avoid confrentaion.. I will most likely continue to do so in the event that I come across the drunk of dissorderly. If you come across people who clearly look like they are closed minded or not currently in a state to comprehend your message you are probably better off with a cover story. I'm not sure how much of a cover story it is to tell people that you are dressed this way to attend a Fetish and Fantasy Ball though. While I did not just tell them that I liked dressing like this or that I am having fun. It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that if you are going to a Fetish ball dressed as a baby that it's probably your "thing". Sometimes I think it's best to lead people in the right direction and let them draw a bit of their own conclusions. That way if they have a question they are free to ask it. I felt like telling them I was going to Fetish ball was pretty close to just saying this is who I am or who I would like to be. And as you said Square I was atleast being honest. I have used cover stories in the past that were not quite as honest or up front as the above mentioned before. I am trying hard not to do that in the future. I feel I can be honest as well as not be in your face at the same time. things like mentioning I am attending a Fetish Ball or going to a Pride Parade is good I think. Most people are not dumb and will understand what you are getting at. If they don't get it I would question if they would be open minded or inteligent enough to acept the message anyway. Question is what are other good reasons that are honest and strait forward that an AB could use when questioned about their attire or message. Here are some that I have used in the past "I do it because it's fun and I like to make people laugh" This is probably as honest and strait forward an answer as I can think of. As both statements are factual and are the motivation for my being there in the first place. "Just my inner child expressing itself" I have to thank Bri for this one "Because growing up is overrated" I like to keep it simple and lead them in the right direction and then let the ask questions if they would like to. Many do ask and then you have an open form to discuss the AB/DL lifestyle. These oppertuities do come along regularly and I relish them. A real oppertuinty to inform the open minded and curious. You will find that almost all who ask a follow up question will admire you for your honesty and courage and thank you for sharing. I nearly jump for joy when this happens!! It doesn't hurt when groups of cute women and girls come up and want a photo taken either!! If you have thoughts on how to be honest, up front and informitive to the public when we are out and about I welcome your impute. Inteligent answers to reasonable questions is the goal. Thanks, Tami

You are so right Tris evey move dose count and any wrong moves can set us way back!! We get engough unwanted press from things like the astronunt that decided to wear diapers to get accross country without stops to do stupid things. I am trying desperatly to get the community to think about how we would like to present ourselves and then make efforts to do it. But perhaps more improtant is trying to avoid the bad press that wrong moves could generate Heidi did an article for a local newspaper where she was pretty open about who and what she was. It was a good article and generated quite a bit of what I thought was good press. When we were out an about town together many people would stop us and ask us about the article and tell her they thought that she was both brave and cool for what she was doing. The article even generated a spot on one of the network news channels that was very possitive. The even had a therapist on to discuss what she thought about Heidi's decission to be out 24/7 and very public. She was very possitive and the whole spot was very good in my opinoin. I only wish that it had gotten more national exposure. When I was out and about town on my own people would often ask me if I was "Baby Man" of Heidi. I would always say no but I know her and she is a good friend. So the question now is do you all think it is appropreate for us to presnent the AB commuinty at venues like Pride, fetish, and Halloween events? Are there any other places or events that we should use to get the word out? This is the message that I am using for the Parade entrances"We are a group of Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers who are embracing our inner child and having fun." And "Setting aside the pressures, stresses, worries and most of all "prejudices" of adult life. Enjoying the occasional opportunity to put away our trivial worries in exchange for some stress free fun." Do you have any questions about the reaction we have recived (Heidi, Bri and I) from the public when we are out. And Would you like a chance to see that reaction from the sidelines just to see for yourself? Thanks again, Tami

I have no plans to make a video but that is not a bad idea Tris. As far as the good looking and confident people being noticed and everyone else being part of the crowd I agree on the whole but there are exceptions. People who are “hairy

Ive been caught loads of times but maybe that has something to do with the really pink dress I was wearing or the huge petticoat underneath or perhaps the really large bonnet I was wearing. LOL I guess I will have to find a way to be more discreet if I want to aviod being caught? Of course I have been caught on a number of ocassions when I did not intend to be caught. It was very embarssing.

I was thinking more along the line of would it be worth your trouble to go and see it than I was actually paying to see it. If you knew when and where someone was going to be out would you go to see it? Would that hold any curiosity for you to see how the public would react. I agree with you my fantasy would envolve both accolades and humilliation. And definatly a female athority figure for me. But there are all sorts here on the board so I did not want to narrow the field of responses. Thanks Tami

Ever wondered what peoples reaction would be to seeing someone in diapers and or baby clothes in public. You read in AB/DL stories all the time about how we fantasize about being taken out in public wearing diapers and or baby clothing by a loving or domineering mommy-daddy-babysitter or nanny. It’s interesting that we seem to need someone in authority to have around to blame for our diapers and or infant clothing and appearance. It’s much more difficult to justify or explain why we would be out in public if our only reason is that we want too. We would much prefer the laughing and scorn of people because we are being forced to appear that way by an authoritive figure who would insist that we are only being treated that way because of our infantile behavior. Some of us even adore the shame and embarrassment of the accusation of the authority. Then having people they come across ask the athoritive figure what is going on. Then after a long explanation of our abhorrent behavior that has led to our current appearance having the casual observers agree with our dominant authority for treating us that way. Thus insuring further punishment and infantile treatment by our guardian. I know that it is on a lot of AB/DL’s minds just what the reaction would be to be out in public in a diaper and or infant clothing. Some fantasies would follow the above scenario. Others may fantasize about a motherly – nanny or sisterly figure that would take pity on us and ask us if our diaper needed changing. Or that the may even pat our diapered but to check if we need changing. Some might hope that they would have adoration piled upon them for being so cute. How many of you have ever fantasized about being out in public with and authoritive figure of some kind? How may of you have ever fantasized about being out in public and receiving accolades for being cute. Or having someone ask you if you needed to be changed. Or even better having the pat you on the butt and check all the while telling you how cute you look. I know some of you will have neither. But my guess is that most fantasize about one or the other or both. Years of corresponding with you and reading of AB/DL literature tell me that I am correct in my assumption. Of course or fear is that it would be nothing like this and that we would receive nothing but scorn and disgust from people we encountered. Which is more likely to happen? More of one than the other? Or would there be a lot of both? What would it be worth to you to be able to casually observe this actually happening to someone else in an actual public setting? No risk to your confidentiality. I would love to hear you thoughts and feelings on this!

Or you could say "I'm gender disphoric and can't make up my mind about which bathroom to ues so I wear diapers instead" Several people have asked me when I am out in public in one of my baby dresses if I wear diapers to complete the outfit. The first couple of times I did not have a great reply but now I just say "No I wear the dress to complete the look of the diaper!" Then the was the time that I flew on a comercial ariline in one of my sissy baby dresses. You should have seen the the security screeners praying that I would not set off the detector as I went thru. Apperantly they did not want to check my diapers for any sort of wepons of mass distruction. It may have been funny if I had just to see them all cast lots to see who had to do it! Then the airline lost my luggage on one trip. The lady in lost luggage (who applies for that job?) asked me if there was anything in my luggage that would distinguish it! I almost fell on the floor laughing. Of course it had diapers and plastic pants in it as well as a bottle and pascifer and bonnet. Not to mention my very large fake boobs with really large nipples. I had my smarts on that day though and I asked her why in the world the would be rifeling thru mine or other peoples luggage since it had two diffrent tags on it with my name and address. And I assume that most people have tags on theirs as well. She was a little taken back and said that sometimes those get lost. I said still would it not be more appropreate to ask first if the luggage was taged and then ask about the contence. So I told her that anyone who opend my bag would be laughing so hard that it could take a day or so to pull themselves togther. Then I gave her a full and complete list of the contence of my bag. The never did find it so I wound up giving two other airline employees the same run down as well as sending in a writen list. I know that they will laugh about it for years to come! What will happen next?