I guess I am sort of in control of it as I sort of chouse when thing happen but that is more about being in control of my life, don't feel I am really incontrol of my AB side as I don't decide what I like to do or wear etc.
I do wonder if there would be a split in the resonses of ABs and DLs as I would have thought with being a AB being partly (at least for some) about giving up control in some way they would be more egger to say they are not in control...