drynot

Take their advice. They are right on the money. It sounds to me like you have a great thing going here. Pushing her into more will only make things bad for you. You have to let her come to her own terms on where and when she wants to wear diapers.

I've never worn 24/7 but I have worn for a couple of days here and there. I have to admit that intrest in diapers wanes after about a day for me when wearing for long periods of time.

I wear diapers all the time in public. I have been caught once before but that never really became an issue. The person who 'found me out' was a good friend and she kept it to herself. I've never worn JUST a diaper in public. Why add fuel to a fire? If anyone ever noticed me in diapers, no one has ever mentioned it. Too often people are only interested in themselves. I am not saying that they are ignorant of the world around them. Its just that they cannot be bothered to worry about other people's issues.

One thing you should also consider here. The people here who are giving you advice LIVE THE LIFESTYLE. It is inherently difficult to get an un-biased opinion on the subject. YOU have to make your own choices. YOU have to live with the decisions. Its easy for people here to sprout rhetoric telling you what to do and so on. Do YOU believe in the church and what it is saying? It makes no difference to me if you do or don't, but if YOU do then having faith can be a source of strenght. Do YOU agree or disagree with what your parents are doing to you? You are at that age now that YOU need to be setting the boundarys between you and your folks. You are still their little boy and they still want to do what they feel is right for you. If YOU agree or disagree with the whole process then it is up to YOU to decide what to do with that. My feelings on the subject HAVE NO BEARING on what you are going through. I am sure that some people who have been put through these programs have been helped. I am equally sure that these programs have hurt people as well. You want my best piece of advice...here it is. You are living at home with your parents. It is their rules until the situation changes. Until you have a SOLID opportunity to move away and out from under them, then you need to play by their rules. DON'T go off half cocked and move away simply because people here have given you bad advice. You are only 18. You have a LIFETIME of experiences ahead of you. No amount of therapy is going to change your mind if you are set in your ways. And as for that little 'Tale of the Twins' up top there. I've known alot more people who have self destructed after living an UNSHELTERED existence than a sheltered one.

It looks really one sided without Seph's posts. Too bad they were deleted.

I wear in public quite a bit. If anybody has actually noticed my diaper then they haven't said anything. I was caught wearing a pull up once, but I don't really consider those as diapers. They're as quiet as regular underwear.

Now that is a really good point wylz.

Thats some pretty deep thinking there Pipsqueak. There was a time back in my teen years that I truly wanted to give up diapers. I was under the terrible impression that I couldn't have normal realtionships with girls because I wore diapers. I didn't have a whole lot going for me in the looks department so being a DL was the final nail in the coffin as far as relationships were concerned. Being a teenager is such a strange time anyway. You are trying to figure out what you want to do, who you are, where you are going, etc, etc. Throwing the diapers away and getting rid of everything wasn't an option because I was still wetting the bed heavily back then. There was no getting away from them, so I had to embrace them. Snow: The feelings of shame and despair that you have been experiencing are certainly not unique. I would hazard a guess that 90 percent of us have gone through exactly what you are dealing with now. I would suspect that diaper wearing isn't the main issue here. You may have other things going on in your life that are just compounding the problem. I'm not going to sit here and tell you to continue to wear a diaper when you obviously don't want to. What I am observing is that diaper wearing is a symptom to another underlying issue that you need to come to terms with. I call myself a diaper lover because of the feelings I get from wearing them. Comfort, security, safety are all wonderful emotions that I experience. If I got that same feeling from another source would I continue to view diapers in the same light? I think not! I don't consider myself a whimp or a whussy for needing these emotional feelings in my life. In fact, I feel quite lucky to have discovered something else that brings happiness to my existance. You can't waste time feeling bad in this day and age or life will blast right on past you.

I think most parents are trying to do the best job they can with their kids. We all know that there are some families out there that would be hell to live in, but I am of the firm belief that parents TRY to have their children's best interests in mind when dolling out punishment or attempting to guide a child in daily life. As children age, parents have the difficult task of letting go of their child and allowing them to experience life for themselves. Parents still step in from time to time to attempt to set a child on the percieved 'correct' path if they see or hear that the child is deviating from the 'norms' of society. I have no doubts that StillNeedCntrl's parents are trying to do just that. I mean, really, he is still just a KID. Sure, the law might say you can drive and drink and do all that other 'cool' stuff that adults do, but 18 years old is still young enough to be disciplined in my book. Undoubtedly, your parents are seeing your diaper fetish as a deviation from normal life and are attempting to protect you from society. While you are an 'adult' in the law's eyes (differs by country, of course) you are still their little boy. You will always be their little boy. Nothing you do or ever accomplish will change that fact. Being attracted to something as childish as diapers simply drives that point home with your parents. To your parents (and most people I might add) wearing diapers is not normal. Obviously if you are not normal, they will do everything they can do to correct that. I am sure their reactions would be similar if you told them that you were gay or a druggie. Just remember this when you are dealing with your folks. Wearing diapers, without a medical excuses, at any age past 2 or 3 is NOT normal TO THEM. You will never convince them otherwise. We, here, know different. We all know that wearing a diaper or acting the baby is perfectly harmless. Wearing a diaper or a baby dress doesn't define who you are, it is merely a part OF you. You are still a guy under that diaper. You will still be their child wearing a baby bonnet or not. Certainly circumstances dictate how and where you can act out you desires and if your parents want you to curb it until you move out, then you might have to comply. These people are YOUR PARENTS. These are the same people who fed you, changed you, nurtured you when you couldn't do those things for yourself so they deserve a certain amount of respect. The LEAST you can do is to listen to what they have to say and really consider their concerns about the subject. My .02

Wearing diapers has never affected my choice of who or whom I choose to hang out with. Only a select few friends know that I wear diapers and they think that it is strictly for medical reasons. The ones that do know about my diapers were quite decent about it. Talking on the net leaves you in anonymous mode. You can revel your inner most secrets without fear of repirsal. I would think that the majority of AB/DL folks tend to stick with their own when it comes to writing on the net so the reactions are quite favorable.

I read the article and it looked to me like the poor fellow had suicidal thoughts brought on when he had the urge to 'act like a baby'. Perhaps he thought that the want or need to be like a child again was attached in some way to pedophilia. He claimed that there was no latent sexual desire when he was playing baby, but not everyone is exactly truthful to their doctors at the best of times. In my early years as a DL, I often felt shame and guilt associated with wearing diapers. I am sure that was latent feelings associated with childhood and the pressures that parents put on their children to be free of diapers. I cannot recall any overt pressure from my parents to be out of diapers, but it was sure strong when I was still wetting the bed at 9 and 10 yrs old. Perhaps Mr A felt that he just couldn't measure up to expectations anymore and he felt the need to end it all. At least he had the presence of mind to seek professional help before he decided on a more drastic course of action.

Ahh, young Dingo. This is only the beginning. Soon you will be sauntering into any old store that carries diapers and announcing it to the staff that you are looking for the biggest, bulkiest, most absorbant adult diaper they make

32 year old male. Did mom pay lots of attention: 3 Did dad: 2 Babysat: 4 Wet or mess past 4/5: 3 Wet or mess bed past 4/5: 9 Main emotion from parents diapering: None really. I cannot recall my parents ever putting me in a diaper or changing me. Divorced: No. What age did I want to wear diapers: I can recall the feelings at age 4 quite clearly. I tried diapers again at age 4. Depressed: 4 What point of the day do I wear diapers: I wear diapers whenever the fancy strikes me. I can be in a diaper at any moment Emotional state or urge: The urge to wear is always there. Potty training: I would have to say my mother.

It always amazes me that some people feel a particular way about a certain thing, but they feel completely different about others. I know some people who think that BDSM is a perfectly healthy lifestyle. These are the same people who regard AB/DL's as sick, twisted perverts. There seems to be a huge lack of balance here. It seems like people are far too eager to draw the line. They say 'I like to be spanked, whipped, and beaten, but there is no way in the world I would wear a diaper'. I know a girl like this. That was her exact quote. I like to think the AB/DL lifestyle is beyond the realm of sexual fantasy. I'm not harshing on the people out there who do regard the whole thing as a sexual fetish, and you are all entitled to your opinions. However, being a diaper lover myself I tend to think that it brings us back to a time where we were all innocent. Alot of us like the feeling that being in diapers brings. Comfort, Safety, Security. These are all things that I have found people have been saying about wearing diapers. I wonder if the people over in the BDSM crowd feel the same about their whips and chains?

I have been wearing diapers for a long while. When I was young, I had certain expectations about how people would treat me if they ever found out that I wore diapers. I was certain that they would mock and ridicule me for having plastic underwear. It wouldn't matter if a person needed diapers due to medical conditions. A certain stigmatism will always be associated with diaper wearing. That was the past. 15 years later I find my opinion changed. With the prevalence of the 'net, fetishism and fantasy lifestyles that once remained cloistered behind closed doors and were shared by a couple of like minded individuals have burst on the scene full on. I have seen things on the net that I would have never considered real. People now have opportunities to explore their desires whenever they like because of the long reach of those great telephone or cable wires that stretch around the world. That being said, the AB/DL lifestyle can be enjoyed in public without anyone ever knowing. For alot of us (not all mind you) the established theme in the AB/DL life is the diaper. We can wear a diaper under our clothing in public and no one will be the wiser. You can also go so far as to wear certain accesories without public knowledge if you so choose. Onesies, plastic pants, even footed sleepers can all be worn outside under normal street clothing. You can enjoy and explore your baby side without having the pressure of discovery on your back. Remember, you have to be in the proper environment for you to truly express your baby or diaper loving side. There remain alot of people out there who would like nothing more than to make fun and point fingers. However, that same person who would mock and ridicule has their own little secrets too. They are just too insecure about themselves to embrace and accept who they are and enjoy life. Time to change my diaper...

I have to chime in here. I have to say that this is a great conversation. Its a pleasure to see that we can all have a frank discussion about our unusual fetish without resorting to name calling and hurtling personal insults. Like it or not WE are a community. We may not come from the same places or even speak the same languages, but there has to be a feeling of mutual respect before we can truly begin to understand what makes us all so unique. Guys..A little piece of advice from a diaperwearin' dude in a great marriage. If she truly loves you, she won't care what kind of underwear you use. Be honest and be yourself.

Like to help you out there guy, but all I have is large diapers. It would be quite difficult to send those in normal envelopes

Man is an aggresive animal. When we see something we like and we want it, we tend to go after it with vigor. Cars, boats, motorcycles, and women. To some women, that is an appealing trait. I know a couple of girls that like to be chased. They like it when men battle each other for the privilege of asking them out. To them, its a fun game. I can admit that I was never much into the dating scene. I was always too self conscious about my diaper wearing. I can remember being so worried about smelling of urine that I would shower 3 times a day to make sure that I didn't stink. The girlfriends I had growing up (there weren't many) had no idea of my fetish. We did the normal thing that young teenage couples do, went to movies, parties, certain games that are played in dark rooms, but they never found out that I wore and I never told them. Rejection is a powerful emotion. I am sure that it applies to both sexes as well. No member of society wants to be ostracized from their peers for too long. When we find people that have similar intrests, we tend to become friends. We spend time together and find out if the relationship can progress further if thats what we want. When we find that people share the same views and indulge in the same activities, then we get to thinking that it can really work. A fetish is defined as an object, idea, or activity that someone is irrationally obsessed with or attached to. I am a DL. Wearing diapers is a fetish for me. Before I had the internet, I would drive for 2 hours just to buy a bag of diapers. I am sure we can all relate to the hunger we sometimes feel when we haven't been indulging in our chosen activity for a while. That is the best way I can describe it. Sometimes all rationality goes out the window. With such an aggresive tenancy, men can then put more importance on finding a mate with similar intrests than is really rational. When we discover a girl that has even a passing fancy in our chosen activity, we can be downright disgusting in our pursuit of that girl. Given the fact that many AB/DL women would rather stay hidden as lurkers on these boards speak volumes as to how they have been treated at the hands of male AB/DL's. Asked to perform lewd acts and to meet for intimate encounters mere minutes after building up enough courage to even post the fact that she is a female just keep pushing them further and further away. Am I more attracted to my wife because she accepts my diaper wearing? We were friends long before diapers even entered the picture. I went out with her for a year before I even mentioned them. Rejection is a powerful emotion and I had no desire to screw up that relationship or any other relationship that I have cultivated lately because of a fetish. Time to change....

This may only be a stop gap measure but have you tried to use a non prescription sleeping aid to help you fall asleep in a diaper? Perhaps a hypnotic relaxation cd might help as well. Another possibility may be to try to stay awake for as long as you can so your body would have no alternative but to fall asleep.

While the idea of wearing messy pants doesn't appeal to me, I can relate to enjoying the feeling of wet ones. Diapers gives you that ability to do it without people discovering what you have done. You could keep that great feeling that you love to have all day long if you use diapers. Where ever you go, what ever you do you can enjoy the feeling of wet and messy pants. Mind you, you might want to watch how much you actually mess in your diaper as the smell would be a blatant tell-tale sign.

I think my own mind is trying to sabotage me. The AB/DL lifestyle doesn't lend itself well to discovery by friends and families. How does one explain to a loved one that you like to wear and use a diaper? How can someone explain that a sopping wet diaper feels really good? Not without a whole lot of stammering and skirting around the issue. When people find out that I wear diapers I always make up some medical reason as to why I need them. I always try to explain its due to the fact that I cannot control myself and I need to wear a diaper because of that same reason. I've never come clean to anyone besides my wife that diapers feel great to wear and I enjoy the ability to use them whenever I feel like it. Am I ashamed? Sometimes. Am I afraid of rejection? You bet I am. No one wants to be labled as some sort of freak and ostracized from society. I have had personal experience in this area and it's not fun. However. A big piece of me wants to tell people that I WEAR DIAPERS!! I have a fair amount of young, cute, female friends and I would love to hear them offer me a diaper change. Of course, what I am really after is for someone to come clean and tell me that they wear diapers too. Wouldn't you like to share a knowing look with a fellow AB/DL when you wander by the local lavatory only to find a huge lineup of people waiting to get in? Or how about being that only friend that can really understand what diaper rash really feels like. What about a frank conversation about the pros and cons of certain disposables on the market today? I know we can have them here in this forum, but it would be nice to have another friend 'in the know'. I have tested people as well. I have wondered aloud as to how wearing an adult diaper would feel when in the company of friends. I have left bags of Attends lying around my house where people are sure to discover them. My used diapers quite often sit in an uncovered trash can in my kitchen. There have also been inadvertent discoveries of my diapers or my fetish from friends and family. My sister in law once commented about the plastic bed sheet we keep on the mattress in our bedroom after she used our room to get changed for a wedding. My best friend's wife commened on a pull-up that I was wearing after she saw it sticking out of my pants when I bent over to tie a shoe. I know that I am beginning to become more comfortable with having people know about diapers. You always need to be careful as to who you might want to tell, but I have been suprised by the nonchalant reactions that I have recieved from people so far. Time to change...

Well, she was perfectly willing to come home with me, just not willing to wear diapers. I guess the experiment wasn't a total loss.

White is my chosen preference. Some people have wondered if this might be due to age. I was born in the 70's, so all we had were white diapers. Some people born in the 80's may have been diapered in blue or pink. What is your preference?

Jeez, ya know I just can't remeber the episode number, but it was from last season I am sure. I can remember Dewy comes up to his mother and has some sort of conversation about how he is feeling left out or something. Anyway, he is wearing those footed PJ's like toddlers wear (You can't see a diaper) and he makes a grimmacing face like he is messing in his pants. Lois shouts "Are you wearing a DIAPER?" Priceless.

Well said, Dude. I can remember feeling so guilty about my diaper fetish at one time that I threw away a considerable stash of disposables and vowed never to wear again. Mind you, that was before the internet, when I thought I was all alone in the world. Ain't technology beautiful.