Alysson

That's great news Vic. Let's just hope that things continue to get better. Right now, I've been mostly dry for almost 2 months. I still have a touch of the urgency, and leak a little if I don't get to the loo quick enough, but even that's improving. I'm not entirely trustworthy at night - or rather during the few seconds as I wake up, but that's infinitely better than waking up soaked every morning. What you said about the incontinence wannabees - amen to that. I do wonder how many would wish to remain wet (or worse) at the end of 8 weeks? <hugs> Ally

Having done a bit of reading on the subject now, it seems that although the SSRI (Serotonin Reabsorption Inhibitors) are worse than Tricyclic AD's for this, contibuting to (mainly urinary) incontinence in some of the population. Obviously anything that leaves you less tense may leave you too relaxed .... and it's true of tranquilisers and other meds. (My Mom had to take muscle relaxants for a trapped nerve in her back ... she would fall asleep in the chair, and wke up wet.) I think, Vic, you have to hope that your problem is down to the trapped nerves and not the meds. It's certainly more likely to be the case - and at worst, the AD's may make an existing problem worse (as in my case - a long-term weakness that seems to have been exacerbated chemically). I'm lucky - I work in a college with good disabled facilities, and have been able to use the facilities there - and no one takes a blind bit of notice I can sympathise with wanting to keep close to a change facility, though. Did you know that it's possible to be manic when in a total zombie state caused by the meds - that happened to me when I was put on Seroxat. Mind you, the vivid dreams were *wonderful* (haha). Happily I managed to kick that stuff quickly. All I can say is I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. <hugs> Ally

The long and the short of it is that I don't need the AD's any more (until the next time) They were starting to seend me froot-loopy ... wandering around in zombie mode, talking rubbish (more than usual). I'm sure you know the score, so I decided it was time to come off them. So I did. <hugs> Ally

Well, Happy Birthday Fett. <uber-huggles> Ally

I cared for someone who had been fitted with a suprapubic cath, once. There is always some leakage into the abdomen (the catheter actually pierces the bladder wall), and the open wound is constantly open to infection. When the catheter is removed, there is the added risk of persistent leakage into the abdomen, an added risk of infection, and the risk of adhesions (where two separate wounds heal together like a graft). Plus, my friend suffered constant pain from the wound as well as the discomfort of the hose pulling the entry (exit) site. All-in-all, a port of last resort. Good luck with your SP.

Please don't assume that I was taking the antidepressants for my own amusement ... these are serious medications prescribed for people who are having trouble coping with life in general, and please believe me when I sat that depressive illness is like Hell on Earth. Antidepressants don't make you feel great - they make you feel less anxious and less unable to cope. They also make you feel as though your head is stuffed full of autumn leaves. It's better than the depression, but it's still not like being alive. Coming off of antidepressants can be a big, BIG downer .... nausea, dizzy spells, mood-swings, nightmares and either rapid weight gain or total loss of appetite. There are also visual and auditory disturbances that can be quite disorienting. If you feel tempted to take them for some side-effect, then don't. After 4 1/2 years on them, it's going to be months before I'm free of the after effects. <hugs> Ally

Well, we all like playing games, and the interweb is great for wordgames, so here's one I used to play with a couple of sysops back in the mid 80's. We called it the Drama Game. The rules are quite simple. 1. We play for laughs - the more humour we can put into this thing, the better. 2. You may only use (mis)quotes from plays, television series, films, radio series or books etc. 3. You should try to keep on-topic (unless it's more humerous to stray) 4. Please try to provide a citation for your quote 5. This is a PLAY (drama/comedy etc.) You are allowed to change the scene, provide stage directions etc. so: TOPIC: Science Fiction Scene One: In the control room. Scene: The scene is a control room containing gaudily painted 1950's surplus computer equipment with lots of blinking lights and incomprehensible displays of meaningless data. The walls are a dull metallic grey. (Enter Captain Romeo Enteritis) Commander Alice Harper: Capitan, Capitam, wherefore art thou Capitan? (You get the idea ... so over to you ..... and try not to destroy the universe too much )

I never wear anything short if I can help it - there's simply too much of me, but .... I pull my shirt down and my jeans or skirt up because I don't like a draught aroung my midriff. I pull the hem of my skirt down (on those incredibly rare occasions whn I wear a skirt above my knee) purely because skirts tend to ride up (and admit draughts). <hugs>

I wear for need - urinary incontinence. I have had a couple of messy accidents, but that was too yucky for words. At least it was at home and I could get showered and changed. What I mostly do in my diapers is get on with the rest of my life though

Tyco brand - what I'm supplied with by the hospital. They're comfy, and very thirsty.

A rescue greyhound rules our lives in this house. Docile, loving and incredibly lazy - a greyhound is a 40mph couch potato.

Hi all, I've been a member for a few months, and thought it was about time I introduced myself properly. umm ... I'm Alysson, a 49yo transwoman with an incontinence problem (well it was a problem, but that's another story ) I live in Devon (UK) and I teach at a local college For those who need to know: I'm NOT single, and not available for weddings, funerals OR any other function you care to name. I DO have a wicked sense of humour, and have a playful nature. I find that I Do have a liking for diapers (surprising, considering how much emotional pain they brought me when I had to start wrearing them again). I DON'T have an AB side to me .... if I'm not acting my age then I'm behaving like I should be celebrating my 250th birthday anytime soon. Anyway, that's me in a nutshell. If you want more, then you'll have to ask. <hugs> Ally

After a long time wet, I seem to be getting the option back ..... I have been incontinent for a good few years, but about 3 1/2 years ago it reached lifestyle-changing proportions, and I had to start wearing diapers most of the time, and latterly 24/7. The problem was that I had no sensation whatsoever - and my doctor and I assumed that there was some kind of nerve damage down there, somewhere. About 8 weeks ago, I came off the antidepressants (Citalopram) I've been on for ages (4 years and more), and within a fortnight, the uncontrollable leak had become just urgency and stress incontinence. The improvement has continued since. The coincidence is too marked to be coincidence, I feel, and so does my GP. Well, I wasn't a diaper lover when I lost my control, but I think I'll be continuing to wear for my own pleasureand amusement in the future. I do wonder if anyone else has had the same experience? <hugs> Ally.

Congratulations, and best wishes for a speedy recovery. and here's looking forward to you having the option of diapersinstead of the neccessity! <hugs> Ally

The fact of the matter is that incontinence isn't all that it may seem to be, but ..... It takes all sorts to make this world. I once wondered what it would be like to be in diapers again (a LONG time ago), and now I know, but not because I wanted to try it. To anyone who feels that they want to become incontinent I will simply say: 1. Be careful what you wish for 2. Be very sure that it is what you want before you go there, and 3. If you have the choice - try it before you buy in with no chance of changing your mind. <hugs> Ally (diapered 24/7 without any other options.)

I was gifted, a few years back, a pack of Attends, and the smell of the fresh nappy express-delivered me back to my first school. I have no idea why, either. The brand I wear these days just has a "clean washing" type odour. J&J baby powder (which I use for other things) reminds me of the times when I used to baby-sit when I was still at school. Baby oil, for no reason that I can figure out, sends me straight back to a trip to the Isle of Wight with my grandfather. Smell IS the most powerful sense in terms of promoting recollection of times long past. <hugs>

I'm kind of in the 24/7 bracket .... I wear for medical reasons, but the problem comes and goes with monotonous irregularity, so I'll be 24/7 for a few weeks, and then be able to wear panties for a while (and let the air get to me ). I hated having to wear a nappy, but when it happened, I had to say "what the heck". Now, it's having to wear that I hate (I would rather have a choice in the matter), but more and more I'm finding that I enjoy the feeling of a nappy around me. I have little doubt that one day I'll be wearing 24/7 for 365 days a year instead of for about 1/3 to 1/2 the year. They are vaguely aware of the problem where I work, but it's really nobody's business but mine, and I use the big nappy-bin in the disabled toilet when I need to change during the day. Oh, and my nappy bag contains (in addition to clean changes) spare tights and skirt, just in case I leak. Touch wood, that hasn't happened in public yet. <hugs>

My work clothes (sensible skirt and short-sleeved top, barely black tights) And a daytime pad (changed about half-hour ago, so probably wet already) Tonight, it'll be an all-in-one disposable and a silky nightie. Tomorrow will probably be much the same.