Mary Moon Posted July 29 Author Share Posted July 29 New updade: Yesterday we went to the beach, and since the beach is about 2 hours away from our house by car and because of the heat had been drinking, obviously after about an hour and a half, because of my mini bladder, I had a very strong need to pee, my girlfriend noticed that I was pressing my groin and squeezing my thighs and said to me "do you have to pee, love?" and i nodded telling her that i could resist until we got there. However, she said that since i was in a diaper, i could wet myself and then she would change me when we got there, i was a little worried because it would be difficult to change there in the pine forest with other people who could see and she said she would be very discreet. In the end i gave in because my need was indeed at the limit of desperation, so i started to pee in my diaper sighing with relief. She pinched me on the cheek saying "good girl. Do it all you will feel better, pssss pssss", that "psss psss" was too much and my bladder completely gave out. When we arrived my diaper was quite wet. She looked around and waiting for other swimmers to go to the beach, she took off my pants and pullup, she quickly dried my private area and inner thigh with the wipes, and put the bottom of my swimsuit on me "today you will have the big girl panties, please no accidents" and i "yes, ma'am" and she kissed me on the lips sweetly. I love her so much. She plays along and doesn't run away because of my weirdness ❤️ 4 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted July 30 Author Share Posted July 30 New update: This afternoon at home because of the great heat i am forced to hydrate myself a lot, i had to ask my girlfriend for two diaper changes because I was very wet. I am not allowed to change my own diaper, this week I am grounded and I have to keep the diapers on 24 hours a day, because yesterday i made her a little angry because i did not wash the dishes when it was my turn and I left all my clothes around in a mess. It is right that she gives me a little discipline. I am allowed to use the bathroom only for "number 2" but i have to tell her when i have to go. 😅 1 Link to comment
Pelusban Posted July 30 Share Posted July 30 Your topic is so interesting to read, thank you for it. It's almost like a diary. Sorry, I still half believe it's fiction, but who cares? I also half believe that writing your last report was part of your punishment 1 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted July 30 Author Share Posted July 30 3 minutes ago, Pelusban said: Your topic is so interesting to read, thank you for it. It's almost like a diary. Sorry, I still half believe it's fiction, but who cares? I also half believe that writing your last report was part of your punishment My girlfriend and i have a somewhat special relationship: i am a complete submissive, she is a dom, it's great to have found someone so complementary to my submissive tastes. Of course she doesn't do anything meanly, she doesn't hit me except for a few spanks (which i appreciate anyway eheh). She gave me a password to say in case i feel uncomfortable and want a break from role playing. She is truly adorable, i love her so much If it was fiction i would have written it in the other session calmly, i'm just sharing this thing, because i've never had relationships before this (by the way I've never been with a man). Link to comment
Pelusban Posted July 30 Share Posted July 30 3 minutes ago, Mary Moon said: If it was fiction i would have written it in the other session calmly, i'm just sharing this thing, because i've never had relationships before this (by the way I've never been with a man). Eh, it's just me overthinking. Writing down these things is so sweet and now I'm sure you have good submissive feelings and thrills while you're writing them. I like your reports, so innocent and cute, that's why I thought it must be some kind of "guerilla literature". Don't grow out of diapers, and please continue this as before! 1 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 1 Author Share Posted August 1 New update Yesterday i went to an open-air disco pub with my girlfriend. Obviously, since I'm a "little girl", i can't drink beer, so I had a coke Since we were there for quite a while, because of my tiny bladder, i had a really strong need to pee and in the end i couldn't hold it in any longer and i flooded my diaper, since i can't use the bathroom until Sunday because of the punishment. In the end i was really wet and it was a bit unpleasant because we won't be going home soon. So i confessed to her that i needed a change of clothes because i was quite uncomfortable. She took me to the bathrooms of the place where there was quite a lot of coming and going. I was quite embarrassed because there were several girls going in and out of the bathrooms. We went into the box, and she took off my pants and diaper, then she gave me a quick clean with the wipes and put on the new dry pullup that she took from her bag. All this while there were other girls outside talking to each other, i was very embarrassed that they could find out what we were doing but at the same time very excited. When we went out she threw the used diaper in the bin trying to be discreet, then she started to fix my pants to make sure that the elastic of the pullup wasn't showing, at that moment i really felt like a little girl 1 Link to comment
spark Posted August 3 Share Posted August 3 On 7/30/2024 at 1:22 PM, Pelusban said: Eh, it's just me overthinking. Writing down these things is so sweet and now I'm sure you have good submissive feelings and thrills while you're writing them. I like your reports, so innocent and cute, that's why I thought it must be some kind of "guerilla literature". Don't grow out of diapers, and please continue this as before! And who cares if it is fiction. It is written so matter-of-factly that it feels reals, and I'm sure it is. Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 3 Author Share Posted August 3 in a few days we will leave for the holidays in Spain, and since my sister and friends are also there, we will not be able to do too daring things in the context of our "passion", but I hope to carve out some "adult kid" moments Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 4 Author Share Posted August 4 New Update: The punishment is over, i can use the toilet again, this week i could only use it for #2. Yesterday my girlfriend also gave me the last spanking session that was foreseen by the punishment. 25 strokes on the bare bottom. I'll definitely not forget to wash the dishes next time when it's my turn, and i won't leave any clothes lying around. 😅 When she spanks, she doesn't hit with malice to hurt, but obviously the bottom still becomes a little red. I'm a little ashamed to say that during the spanking i almost had an orgasm, i'm really a masochist. I know, i'm weird 🤣 1 Link to comment
Spanky Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 41 minutes ago, Mary Moon said: New Update: The punishment is over, i can use the toilet again, this week i could only use it for #2. Yesterday my girlfriend also gave me the last spanking session that was foreseen by the punishment. 25 strokes on the bare bottom. I'll definitely not forget to wash the dishes next time when it's my turn, and i won't leave any clothes lying around. 😅 When she spanks, she doesn't hit with malice to hurt, but obviously the bottom still becomes a little red. I'm a little ashamed to say that during the spanking i almost had an orgasm, i'm really a masochist. I know, i'm weird 🤣 Next time you misbehave, you need to wear diapers with tapes instead of pull ups and not be able to use the potty for #2. And get a harder spanking, with a wooden spoon. 1 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 4 Author Share Posted August 4 21 minutes ago, Spanky said: Next time you misbehave, you need to wear diapers with tapes instead of pull ups and not be able to use the potty for #2. And get a harder spanking, with a wooden spoon. Meither she nor me are fans of number 2. I tried to do number 2 in a diaper once, and i didn't like it that much, especially the cleaning was a bit unpleasant. As for spanking, she and i like it with an open hand on the bare bottom, it's a bit like that border between pain and pleasure. 2 Link to comment
Little Sherri Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 @Mary Moon, is there anywhere you can go for an hike and wear just a diaper? This is something I would like to accomplish myself, although if I proposed it to my wife, she would roll her eyes at best. I would be going by myself. But having someone to share it with would be exciting, I would imagine. Imagine getting to the destination - somewhere remote and private where you wouldn't likely be imposing your interests on the unsuspecting public - and then she removes your shorts and locks them in the car, and you and her venture down the path, you in just a diaper, no safety net, her carrying your diaper bag and some drinks, maybe a snack, off you go. 3 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 4 Author Share Posted August 4 36 minutes ago, Little Sherri said: @Mary Moon, is there anywhere you can go for an hike and wear just a diaper? This is something I would like to accomplish myself, although if I proposed it to my wife, she would roll her eyes at best. I would be going by myself. But having someone to share it with would be exciting, I would imagine. Imagine getting to the destination - somewhere remote and private where you wouldn't likely be imposing your interests on the unsuspecting public - and then she removes your shorts and locks them in the car, and you and her venture down the path, you in just a diaper, no safety net, her carrying your diaper bag and some drinks, maybe a snack, off you go. Public things are very risky, i admit that the risk of public humiliation excites me a little, but I don't think i would have the courage. However, some time ago she changed me in the car when we went on an excursion, then she did it in the pine forest by the sea and also in the bathroom of the pub, with other people who were outside the box. In those cases there is a mix of emotions: the fear of being discovered and therefore feeling humiliated and at the same time a lot of excitement. As i have already written, due to my partial incontinence, unfortunately in the past i have had accidents or people have seen me with wet pants. At the time it was always terrible, i was very mortified and sometimes almost in tears because of how humiliated i felt, especially when it happened to me as a teenager. But in hindsight i felt a bit of excitement. Unfortunately, i am a masocist and submissive, and i am a bit embarrassed to feel excitement for these things. But this thing is a part of me, with much embarrassment I spoke about it with my psychotherapist, and she told me that if it made me feel good, being careful and with the right person I could explore it, but in moderation. 2 Link to comment
Pelusban Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 In these situations you can take some precautions, like a "security" blanket to cover your diaper in case somebody is unexpectedly coming. 1 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 7 Author Share Posted August 7 New update: I have some time to write before dinner: today i went on vacation on Spain and i had a flight of about 4 and a half hours, i went to the bathroom once during the flight but, i was forced to pee myself then, because i had to go again, but during the landing and i couldn't resist. Luckily i put on a diaper. I was hoping to stay dry and make it to the airport bathroom, but i was in a desperate moment and didn't make it. Since I was really wet, i whispered to my girlfriend what happened, then asked my sister and friend if they could go get our bags while i went to the bathroom. My sister giggled and said "are you wet?" and i said "SHHH you want everyone to hear!", she shrugged and she and my friend went to get our bags, while i followed my girlfriend to the bathroom, she followed me into the box and helped me undress, gently taking off my pull-up and then wiping me down with the wipes. I said "doesn't it bother you to have to do this?" and she smiled "no, not at all". Then she said "do you want to be without your pull-up?", i nodded. She put on a “mom” tone of voice and said, “Please, no accidents these days when you’re without, just tell me whenever you need to go to the bathroom,” and i promptly replied, “yes, ma’am,” and hugged her. ❤️ These weeks being on vacation and not having a PC, i will be able to write little, i will try to do updates when i have time 😄 3 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted August 12 Author Share Posted August 12 New update: Yesterday morning very embarrassing moment, i woke up very wet, my girlfriend cuddled me a bit and then i went to take a shower. After a while my sister arrived with my friend, "are you coming to the beach?" and my girlfriend replied "in a bit, your sister is taking a shower" and my sister with her usual tact "did she peed herself last night?" and my girlfriend replied "yes", then they started talking my sister said "eh, it happens to her at least a couple of times a week" and my girlfriend "i usually try to cheer her up a bit when it happens", obviously i could hear everything because the walls of the apartment are very thin and they didn't whisper. I went out embarrassed and the three of them looked at me "is everything ok?" and i was a bit irritated "look, i don't have 6 years old" and they started giggling, and when my fatal anger was about to explode on them, my girlfriend defused it by hugging me. I basically have 3 moms on this holiday 😅 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted September 15 Author Share Posted September 15 New update: I had to take a break from my potty routine that i've been working on lately to use less diapers. Today i'm bedridden with cervical pain (unfortunately i suffer from it every now and then), my girlfriend told me that i have to stay in bed and rest, and that i shouldn't get up because then i get dizzy and fall. So she put diapers on me and told me to tell her when i need a change. Today she been changed me several times since this morning. I feel truly loved by her ❤️ 3 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted October 27 Author Share Posted October 27 Update: Last night my girlfriend and i went to the pub and i had a bit of a drink. Although I had gone to the bathroom during the evening, when we were leaving I had to go again and I had a lot of pressure, i thought would hold out until i got home since it was only a 20 minute drive, because there was a huge queue for the bathroom. My friends started chatting in the car park, i was a bit restless because i needed to pee quite urgently. After an eternity we said goodbye and got into the car. I asked my girlfriend to drive away quickly because I had to go to the bathroom quickly, she said if she had to pull over, but we were not far from home, and i didn't want to do a squat in the middle of the road at night. Unfortunately, 10 minutes from home i couldn't do it anymore and my bladder gave out during the pullup. I tried to position myself so that it wouldn't show, my girlfriend immediately understood "Honey, did you wet yourself?", i nodded a little mortified answering "sorry I ruined your sexy evening a little" and she "relax, at home i'll change you and then we'll relax, ok?". Once home she put a towel on the bed and made me lie down, she took off my jeans, checking that i hadn't leaked, then the pullup and started to clean me carefully with the wipes and in the meantime she filled me with sweet words while she did it. I apologized again telling her that I would have to wait in line at the pub since i know i can't resist for long when i have to go bad, she put a finger on my mouth telling me to shut up. Then we started to cuddle and you can imagine the rest. Having met her, it was the greatest gift I could ever receive. 💗 Link to comment
~Brian~ Posted October 27 Share Posted October 27 2 hours ago, Mary Moon said: Update: Last night my girlfriend and i went to the pub and i had a bit of a drink. Although I had gone to the bathroom during the evening, when we were leaving I had to go again and I had a lot of blood pressure, i thought would hold out until i got home since it was only a 20 minute drive, because there was a huge queue for the bathroom. My friends started chatting in the car park, i was a bit restless because i needed to pee quite urgently. After an eternity we said goodbye and got into the car. I asked my girlfriend to drive away quickly because I had to go to the bathroom quickly, she said if she had to pull over, but we were not far from home, and i didn't want to do a squat in the middle of the road at night. Unfortunately, 10 minutes from home i couldn't do it anymore and my bladder gave out during the pullup. I tried to position myself so that it wouldn't show, my girlfriend immediately understood "Honey, did you wet yourself?", i nodded a little mortified answering "sorry I ruined your sexy evening a little" and she "relax, at home i'll change you and then we'll relax, ok?". Once home she put a towel on the bed and made me lie down, she took off my jeans, checking that i hadn't leaked, then the pullup and started to clean me carefully with the wipes and in the meantime she filled me with sweet words while she did it. I apologized again telling her that I would have to wait in line at the pub since i know i can't resist for long when i have to go bad, she put a finger on my mouth telling me to shut up. Then we started to cuddle and you can imagine the rest. Having met her, it was the greatest gift I could ever receive. 💗 @Mary Moon sounds to me, as if you have one hell of a girlfriend! The way this went down is exactly the way a person who “understands the situation” should handle it. I remember asking several of my close friends from high school one day, if it would change their opinion of me if I was IC, and they said it was “no big deal, and they could handle it“. Your girlfriend treated this exactly the way it should be treated, as a “no big deal will take care of it situation“. If there were more people that would handle a situation, just like that, and more people that would understand what we deal with every day and what we deal with every night and what we deal with every day weekend and week out, it might be easier for others to understand and except that there are people that need diapers and need support and assistance, understanding is the most important thing, because without that, it’s almost impossible to help someone to understand the need. I am glad that you’re girlfriend was able to help you so quickly, and to assuage your fears so quickly. It reminds me of some of my close friends, who understand that sometimes we have accidents, and sometimes we can’t hold it, or we might need a little extra help. in my estimation, you do have one heck of a gift, and a very understanding girlfriend, who is very supportive, very loving, and will help you deal with the situation that can be very embarrassing. I used to help kids when I was growing up that were disabled, and I always used to tell people that some of the friends that I was “helping“ I needed that help and I was learning from them, so it was a learning experience for both sides. I’m the kind of guy that wants to help those in need, and I remember at least one time when I helped a friend who was having issues, because he was scared, similar to how you were when you were having accidents, and you had to wear protection. This nine year old friend of mine was so scared that somebody would find out that he was wearing diapers, that I had to tell him in no uncertain terms that there are young men and young women who are diapers because they just can’t hold it, or they have an issue with her bladder is not growing properly as you and I have both discussed. My friend was so worried that someone was going to find out that he wore diapers, that I told him that if anyone gave him any grief about this, not only would they have to deal with the counselors of the camp, but they’d have to deal with me, because my brother wore diapers because of his disability, all of his life. I am very glad that your girlfriend is not only loving and caring about you, but also takes good care of you. Someone who can do both of those things at the same time, similar to the way, your mother does it or a father does it, is awesome because not only can I delay your fears, but it can help you to relax, and eventually, I believe in time it won’t be so bad, but of course we all have the times when we lose control and we flat out, I’ve done so much of that that it’s not even funny. I remember at 47 crying to the state of Vermont because of the fact , that what they were giving me for incontinence was not working, and I was making more of a mess than if I didn’t wear a diaper at all. I employed them to get me better protection, and insisted that they consider having everybody have better choices. They kept telling me that the best they could do for someone who is in continent when I first started wish to give us these things that were designed for dribblers . I told him that I was flooding out, and I needed something better. I needed some thing that was plastic backed. I needed some thing that was quality, and I needed some thing that had order control, and my mega max briefs do that. It is my hope that more companies get the idea that if you’re totally incontinent and you’re severely incontinent that what they first give you when you tell them that you’re having problems will be investigated so that you get better quality products that has been one of my missions as I have been talking to certain companies have even talked to the state and told them that it would be more advantageous to have at least a couple of plastic backed alternatives Have a great weekend! Brian 1 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted October 27 Author Share Posted October 27 @~Brian~ I am very independent by nature and i always want to look mature (also because of my very young appearance). Let's say that when i wet my diaper i feel a bit defeated, even if the physical sensation at the moment is pleasant. My girlfriend decided on this changing routine to encourage our intimacy, the first few times i was very embarrassed, but now i enjoy those moments, in fact they end too soon. When i sleep at her place in the morning she always feels the diaper with her hand to see if I'm wet I'm starting to have some problems too, I usually wear the large 12-15 year old girl's pullups, because being petite they fit me well, but even though my bladder is growing slowly it is still bigger now, and consequently those pullups can sometimes leak, so I switched to adult pullups, which however are thicker and less discreet. Let's say that as a child, the ones under my jeans were practically invisible, but these thicker ones I have to wear looser clothes, it bothers me a bit P.S. I also really like working with children, since i started on my mother's advice, to be a part-time babysitter i feel more fulfilled, I really like it. There's nothing to do, mother always manages to understand what i might like, among other things i've become quite in demand, sometimes i have to decline because i also have to study and see my girlfriend. Apparently the word has spread, evidently the children and boys i've worked with have had a good time. I know that many babysitters, just send them to bed or put them in front of the TV or console, and then do their own thing, i instead try to involve them, i play with them Link to comment
~Brian~ Posted October 27 Share Posted October 27 31 minutes ago, Mary Moon said: @~Brian~ I am very independent by nature and i always want to look mature (also because of my very young appearance). Let's say that when i wet my diaper i feel a bit defeated, even if the physical sensation at the moment is pleasant. My girlfriend decided on this changing routine to encourage our intimacy, the first few times i was very embarrassed, but now i enjoy those moments, in fact they end too soon. When i sleep at her place in the morning she always feels the diaper with her hand to see if I'm wet I'm starting to have some problems too, I usually wear the large 12-15 year old girl's pullups, because being petite they fit me well, but even though my bladder is growing slowly it is still bigger now, and consequently those pullups can sometimes leak, so I switched to adult pullups, which however are thicker and less discreet. Let's say that as a child, the ones under my jeans were practically invisible, but these thicker ones I have to wear looser clothes, it bothers me a bit P.S. I also really like working with children, since i started on my mother's advice, to be a part-time babysitter i feel more fulfilled, I really like it. There's nothing to do, mother always manages to understand what i might like, among other things i've become quite in demand, sometimes i have to decline because i also have to study and see my girlfriend. Apparently the word has spread, evidently the children and boys i've worked with have had a good time. I know that many babysitters, just send them to bed or put them in front of the TV or console, and then do their own thing, i instead try to involve them, i play with them @Mary Moon I also tend to be very independent by nature, but I also have people that can help me. Should I need it. When I first started having problems with incontinence, they ended up giving me stuff that was basically used for “dribblers“, which doesn’t even apply to my situation, since I am fully in continent, both ways, and nothing that they can give me would even be plastic backed, or even something that can be used for what I’m dealing with which is full on total incontinence loss of both bladder and bowel control. I knew that when I started, I was having difficulty after a while, and I just couldn’t deal with what was going on. Sometimes when you choose the diaper that you want to wear or that works best for you, you also have to determine, whether the diaper would be helpful for what you need it for as well as what your skin would do. Many times my skin would be irritated because of what ever chemicals they would stick inside these things they called “tabbed underwear“ I’ve tried using these and then for weeks into my little experiment, I had to call the state and beg them for further assistance because this just wasn’t working out. When I finally got the diapers I wanted and the ones that I needed, I finally understood what was going on, and I knew the first or second time I used the diaper that I am wearing now, which is a mega max that would work a heckuva lot better, and it would allow me to actually use it to its fullest extent and be able to sleep through the night without too much difficulty. When you have to use the diaper, I can understand your feeling of “defeat“, because you probably couldn’t make it to the bathroom on time, and while I understand this, it is normal for people who have small bladders or bowels, for example and they need to grow in proportion to their body. That’s why people have to wear diapers sometimes. This is why it’s important for adults to also consider that they have some things that happened to them and they might not be fully grown when their bodies are, and that is why one of the things that they make our pull ups for adults. However, releasing something that you’re holding does have its redeeming quality because once you’re able to release, you feel a lot better, however, sometimes you have to clean up a myriad of mess but if you’re While it might be embarrassing for you, intimacy in this way, can be redeeming. Sometimes when you’re intimate, there are things that you are embarrassed about or that you don’t want to disclose, but if when when you’re intimate, you can deal with certain situations, then most other things are easier. I remember being embarrassed myself when I had to ask for help, but I finally had to say that I was going to “open the floodgates and get some help in here because I needed it, and I’m not ashamed to admit it”. I talk to my case manager at length about having incontinence, and the fact that there’s nothing to be really worried about because people deal with incontinence all the time. I was fortunate that my former case manager was in charge of the high needs program for people that are disabled, and this Particular level of service would be something that would be given to someone who needs 24 seven care. I am on the moderate needs tier. The type of assistance I can get is pretty specific, but there’s certain things that they can’t do for me, without me being on the next level of program. One of them is that they cannot assist me with personal care, but they can’t help me with the diaper disposal and things like this. I was pretty lucky that I had such an awesome case manager at the time, and while she is no longer with the agency because of a state change in the way, the program will be dealt with in 2025, I have an awesome case manager that replaced her because she hand-picked her, and I am one of 14 people that are still on the caseload of the home health agency, and as soon as 2025 happens, people will be transitioned to the council on aging, which is what the state wants to do with all people that are in home health or in case management under agencies like this. I talked to my case manager at length, and she told me that there was nothing to be worried about. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about it happens, and it made me feel better, also being here on DD, I was able to understand why I feel the way I feel why I like diapers and why they feel the way they feel are they feel good. I couldn’t figure it out for the longest time, but I finally did because of people here. I have fully excepted it, as part of my life and I’m not worried about what happens anymore. I’m not worried about people finding out, because the people that know about what’s going on, or people that need to know what’s going on. People that I don’t need to tell, don’t know, or maybe I think they don’t but maybe they do. Being intimate, I can understand that this is a way to bond. A mother and a baby bond in certain ways, because he or she is born and the first person that they deal with is probably a nurse and then mommy and daddy. The child ends up learning who mama is knows your voice knows who daddy is, or grandma or grandpa, and they learn those voices, and when they hear them, they remember. A babies mind is like an empty sponge that is sucking up information at an incredible rate it might not be some information that they understand at the moment, but they filed away for further information. Being intimate with your girlfriend is a way that you can be more at ease about having to use or wear protection. You are also very lucky that your mom knows and your sister knows about your situation, and now your girlfriend knows, and she deals with it in such a way that it makes it so that your fears are not as bad as they normally would if you had to deal with all of this yourself, and all of the inks and all of the nervousness and the anxiety and everything else. That’s normal to have anxiety, and to be worried, and to be scared: the problem is, is that when you have an issue like ours , there are things that others may take for granted: one of the most important skills that you learn as a child is to be able to control your bladder or bowels. When you can’t seem to control these after a certain amount of time, it can be very stressful believe me very stressful! One of the things that I have learned is that the most important thing is that to say that I have a disability is correct but I always say “I have a disability, but it doesn’t have me“ and by that I mean, yes, I have a disability in my CP yes I wear diapers because I need to but doing so allows me to worry about the things that are more important in life than worrying about whether I have to get to the bathroom on time. Many times, over my entire lifetime. I’ve had accidents some of them very very very embarrassing! Most kids that I know would probably die if they found out they needed to wear diapers because of a situation. One of the things that is important to realize is that if you have to wear diapers, that may be a negative, and I have learned to take a negative and always try to find the positive. The positive is that if you have to use the bathroom and you can’t make it to the bathroom, your pull up will help you. It may not have the capacity of my mega max, but the one thing that I’ve always learned is that if you have to use these, for whatever reason, there is a good reason, and you shouldn’t feel bad, and you shouldn’t feel upset, and most of the friends that I have in my life don’t see it as a big deal. In fact, there are many of my friends that have disabled children who deal with stuff like this all the time and it’s no big deal. The thing is you have to be able to take a negative and turned into a positive. In your case, the negative is that you have to wear pull-ups, but the positive is that if you were with your girlfriend, she will help you take care of it, and as you continue to use these, you’ll figure out what works the best for you , and you’ll figure out whether you need to use the bathroom or not before you leave, but you’ll always be prepared. Should you not be able to use it while you’re out. Are used to be nervous and scared about using my diaper in public but I don’t worry about it anymore, because I figure most people that see me in a wheelchair probably think that if I’m in a wheelchair and I’m disabled, I might wear diapers, so there’s no big deal there. so as I said before, I wouldn’t worry too much, there’s gonna be times when you can make it to the bathroom and everything will be OK, and you can have a humongous Sigh of relief because you made it, and then there’s gonna be times when you just barely make it , and you might make a mess in the bathroom or there might be a time when you totally don’t make it at all, and you have to use your pull up, and they’ll be times that, regardless of what happens, you have a mess that Hass to be cleaned up. your girlfriend, and you have found a way to make it intimate, and set up a situation where you feel more at ease, this doesn’t mean that you’re totally IDs all the time, but your girlfriend, and you have found a way to make it so that your fears are not as bad. I remember several times when I messed myself and the first time that I had done that, it took me over three hours to clean myself up, but after a while, it got really easy to take care of because I found a system that worked. The good thing is that regardless of what happens if your girlfriend is around, she will help you, if you have a bad day, or you need to talk to her, she will help you. If your cousin calls you and tells you a bunch of stuff and you can help her, I’m sure that you will help her and there’s gonna be times when you call her and ask her how she’s doing and check on her. Remember the old adage “it takes a village to raise a child“ this is so true, because a child will have people around him or her that will always be there to help them. Some will enter their life for a short time, and then leave, some of them will be with them all through their life, and then they will pass on, and then there are certain people who will always be there, regardless of where they are. Each person that you interact with helps you to learn new skills and helps you to learn how to do things in certain ways are in different ways. The many people that influence you will always have an impact on your life, and if you find the right person, who is that type of influence, you’ll always remember all the things they taught you, and always try to do your best. So, as I said, you have found a way between you and your girlfriend to make some thing that is a negative into a positive. Everybody Hass to change themselves when they make a mess, and if it can be made fun, or made into something that is intimate as you have described, it puts you at ease because your girlfriend is there to help you, and she’s helping you to relax. Many times because of my disability, I get tight, and I have to relax my muscles. Sometimes I do it in the other ways, but most of the time it’s because of spasticity or tight muscles, and I have to find a way to relax, I always say that “if I have to wear diapers for the rest of my life, and wet and mess myself for that time, period, at least I have been able to do a lot of other things in my life and been successful, and I don’t need to feel bad about it. It’s part of life and it happens . ps: there are a lot of people that have been a good influence in my life. I’m glad that you were able to be a babysitter to a lot of children, and that they trust you, and that you have a good relationship with them. I’ve always like to work with kids, and I have a special soft spot in my heart for people that are disabled like my brother Richard was. When a child makes a particular milestones, a parent usually makes a “small production“ over the fact that a kid can do this skill or that skill. When you have a disabled individual that is trying to learn a particular skill that somebody can do easier than others, when a person who is trying real hard can master a skill it is worthy of that same praise, and I have been lucky in my life to be able to help those that may be Less fortunate than I am, or they don’t have as good of understanding it as I do because of things like down syndrome, or some sort of physical or mental challenge. When you have a particular situation like that, the people that you work with a real close, and they become People that these little ones look up to so it’s a good thing. I always like to work with kids because I always like to be able to see a kids reaction or a friends reaction when they finally make something happen or they do something that they didn’t think they were gonna be able to do. If it wasn’t for good friends, when I was in school, I probably would not be the man that I am today, and if it wasn’t for my parents and good friends and people that were influences in my life. I wouldn’t be in the position I am today. children learn at an early age that they have to do certain things and they have to follow what an adult says. They say that you have to do with your parents saying all of that so whoever dead family members. When you were a kid and you are left in the care of a babysitter, that is one heck of a responsibility,and the kid forms, a relationship with that babysitter, that is some thing that is strong as that continues to mature. As it matures trust to get stronger and stronger, so it’s almost as strong as a brick wall, with mortar that sticks, real good, sothe child looks up to you, and trusts you. It’s always a good thing to have a relationship with someone that they can trust, and I remember as a child myself I had a friend. named Marc. MARK was 17 when I met him, and I was six, we formed a friendship that as a strong as it was when I was six years old than it is today as I am 52 and he is in his 60s. When you have a friend that’s not close, you remember a Lotta good things and you’ll always remember the fun times you had and you’ll always remember the times when you could’ve done things differently, but the good thing is, if you have a good relationship with a child, and it can remain it is one of the strongest you can have. by the way, I just wanted to let you know that I have a cousin that lives in Italy. I was surprised when I found out from my cousin Jennifer, that her children can speak English, Italian, German, and French. They can easily go fromone language to another, and it’s really cool, because for example, one of them would start a thought in English, and be able to continue that thought in one of those languages, so let’s say, one of them decides to start some thing in English. They’ll talk about something in English and then switch to Italian then to German then to French. It’s always cool to see that there are people that can learn multiple languages, but I unfortunately was unable. I tried to learn Spanish and it was hard for me but it’s pretty awesome when somebody can do that. I’m proud of my cousin and her husband, because they own a winery, and I believe a bed-and-breakfast. My cousin Jennifer is also an international lawyer, and has taught English I believe to Italian children. Take care, and always remember there’s always end positive thing with a negative thing! 🤓🤓 Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted October 27 Author Share Posted October 27 Thanks, it's true i also had to try different brands, some pullups made me itch, tena are the best in my opinion, even if they cost a little more. I try not to let my incontinence stop me, i try to do everything i would do if i didn't have it. and with good management, i'm succeeding. by the way now my group of friends know my secret (i told them because they would have found out anyway when we went camping), i've taken a weight off my shoulders. it took a lot of courage Link to comment
~Brian~ Posted October 27 Share Posted October 27 5 minutes ago, Mary Moon said: Thanks, it's true i also had to try different brands, some pullups made me itch, tena are the best in my opinion, even if they cost a little more. I try not to let my incontinence stop me, i try to do everything i would do if i didn't have it. and with good management, i'm succeeding. by the way now my group of friends know my secret (i told them because they would have found out anyway when we went camping), i've taken a weight off my shoulders. it took a lot of courage @Mary Moon The most important thing is that incontinent should not stop you. You might not be able to stop it, but you can manage it a practically, just like someone who deals with some thing, like diabetes, or asthma, or any other types of medical diagnoses. I am glad that you have decided to tell your friends about your situation. Now you have even more people that can understand and will empathize and sympathize with your situation, and when you’re with these individuals, they will be able to help you deal with it effectively. back in 2020, I had a choice to make: I could either let the incontinence get to me, or I could take charge of the incontinence. Once I had the proper tools, the proper diapers, the proper equipment, the wipes, the powder, etc. etc., then I was able to handle it more effectively and I felt less burdened because somebody didn’t have to always know what was going on and it didn’t matter how many diapers I used or why I use them or if I use them, it was something that I had made the decision to do. Most of the things that happen in life are things that can be, surprising, or they can be things that are inevitable. I have learned from experience that me being a diaper lover, and also being in continent are things that are inevitable when you deal with a neurological disability, or a mobility disability, or both. The good thing is , that you always will have issues that you deal with every day, but it was one thing that my doctor once told me “it took a lot of guts to come in here, and ask me for help like this, to help you with your incontinence” to that I replied “well, I needed help and the only way to get what I need is to ask for help, and I’m opening the floodgates now because I know I’m going to need to help, and I’m not ashamed to ask.” not only that, but now that you have told your friends that you have told, I bet you your adventures will be a lot less burdensome because you already know what you were dealing with and they know what to expect every once in a while. Remember, I said that incontinence should not have you, you have incontinence, but if you manage it appropriately, there should be no reason why you shouldn’t be able to have fun and do important things with your family and your girlfriend and your friends. When you finally realize that it’s not a big deal, or not as a big deal as you thought, it would be, a lot of stress, evaporates, and you don’t have to worry, because you don’t have to hide anymore, you don’t have to worry that someone’s going to find out about it, you don’t have to worry about somebody walking in on you and then“blowing the whistle on you“: it’s just something that happens, and you learn to deal with it, as my friend Ashley would tell you. I’ve learned a lot from her because her “plumbing doesn’t work downstairs“ and so she has no control either way , and she deals with what she deals with, she knows that she hast to use the bathroom, eventually, but cannot feel it, and only knows it when she finally hast to change. not only that, but when you finally realize that all that stress is gone, that’s one less stressor that you have to worry about. I have been having trouble with incontinence for a long time on and off all through my life, but this bout of incontinence was getting worse and I couldn’t just in good conscience let it sit and not do anything. Now that I have solved the problem with my incontinence as far as how to deal with it, it also helps me deal with the feelings and urges that I deal with as well so I have solved both problems and I’m able to do it in an appropriate way so that it doesn’t cause me problems. you are a pretty lucky lady, because you have your girlfriend, who is willing to help you like that, who is willing to deal with it, so that you don’t have to, so all I can say is, don’t let it bother you, because as long as you were with your friends, or with those that you trust, it won’t be as big of a deal, because your mother already knows and has helped you and your girlfriend already knows and he’s helped you and your friends now so that is a huge, huge, huge problem that has been lifted off of your shoulders. You still may be in continent and you still may have problems with your bladder or your bowels but you have a way to deal with it and you have understanding friends who would not put you in a position where they would ever pick on you, Take care! Brian Link to comment
Mary Moon Posted October 27 Author Share Posted October 27 From my latest tests, my bladder is recovering slightly, my doctor said that once i stop growing, my bladder will make up for lost time better, giving me more control, already now I have more control than when i was 13 years old. My doctor is optimistic about the progress anyway and says there is a chance that in the next few years i will have more control and maybe i can start to say goodbye to pullups. He told me to take it very slowly, to continue my pelvic exercises and not to rush things. There was a time when i was stubborn about not using pullups and i was nervous when i was out of the house without them. 2 Link to comment
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