The Boyfriend

[KawaiiLilMary]

A few months back (ok so back in early April), I told my boyfriend (of 8 months this coming 17th) about my love for diapers. I answered any questions he had, the typical "o.O what's a DL?" stuff, etc etc and gave him links to the wikipedia site link for the infantilism/diaper lover page. He's cool with it, but it's hardly ever brought up. Maybe I'm just too embarassed to bring it up. Actually >.> The other day I told him that I was done fighting with my DL side and have learned to accept it. Thing is.. is that I really want him to diaper me and be my Daddy when my AB side kicks in (which is rare in itself). I don't know how to approach that with him. Oct 6th he's leaving Alaska and moving here, making him arrive on Oct 7th, so we'll be living together and getting our own place (currently living with my parents at the age of 20 >.

How do I approach that subject with him and ask him to do those things for me? Any advice would be much appreciated..

Hugs n' Kisses,

Kawaii Lil Mary

[Guest diamondback688]

just ask him...if he is cool with you being a DL, then i bet he wouldnt have any problems with diapering oyu...hope everything goes ok for ya...

[dldad]

Since you are moving it together, not having known each other very long, there is going to be many adjustments you will both have to make, to begin with. Get yourselves settled, have a nice meal, tell him you would like to talk and see how receptive he is to that. Once receptive then don't just jump into the part of asking him to be your daddy. Ask him is he has any questions, look some information up on the computer. Get him at least somewhat used to you being a DL before getting into being an AB, unless your conversation is open, and you or he opens the subject of being a DL or AB. Hopefully you will have a open and honest dialog. That is THE best thing for any relationship. And both have to be open minded and willing to make adjustments. Any good relationship is a matter of give and take. Hope all works out for you. Hope your folks are ok with your moving out of their house and into a relationship. GOOD LUCK and have fun.

[Mantra]

As in any relationship, things need to be reciprocal. Make sure he gets some benefit out of treating you like a baby/diapering you, etc. For the first time you do it, you could make it very sexual, incorporating diapering into regular sex, or similar activities. Such as lots of sexual wiping/cleaning prior to diapering, or even sex prior to diapering (use your imagination). I doubt he'll complain about diapering you when its a very steamy moment between you too and it'd be a great way to begin. Just make sure the diapers dont kill *it* for him. So thats where female expertise comes in. Make him want to diaper you and change you; care for you. If he sees how horny it makes you (im just guessing here) im sure he'll get the idea. Next time around he won't feel as wierd about it. Just remember to never make things one sided. If he diapers you, and gives you all his attention, do the same for him sometime. Give him a back massage, dinner, model your sexy panties or whatever.

Cheers

[jenniebear]

i think you are handling it just right...

you've been honest...provided him with information and let him know its a part of you....

with my Daddy i did the same...i answered Him ask me questions when they came up...i brought it up occasionally and let Him know how much it would turn me on if He was to participate ....but i was also patient and resigned to it being His comfort level that would determine how far we went with it....we started small like browsing the baby stuff in the baby isle etc.....but eventually i wore in front of him to bed....and finally He wanted to diaper me.....i was sure to let Him see what a turn on being diapered was for me.....*wink wink nudge nudge...*................and anything that turned His baby on that much....was something He had an extreme interest in.....

[KawaiiLilMary]

I've already done a few small things, i.e. mentioning that that side (dl) of me was kicking in occassionally. WHen he was out here visiting we'd go into various stores (walmart, CVS, Rite Aid, walgreens) and I'd wander down the diaper isle. He didn't seem like it bothered him. (Crikey, we've gone to the porn shops several times together!) I think I'll try what Jennie and Mantra said once he moves here, show him how much it's a turn on for me, etc etc. Hopefully, HOPEFULLY he'll get the idea and go along with it. I asked him a looonngggg time ago if he'd ever put me in one, and he said he'd have to learn. Other than that though, I couldn't bring up the courage to talk to him about it again (embarassment maybe?)

[diaprbayb]

Actually it may not be as hard as you beleive. Most people not familiar with DL's quickly associate diapers with babies. He may already see you more as that.

[nappyloon]

Never mind the embarassment side of things, if you are planning a future together then talk it through with him PDQ so you both know where you are going, possibly for the rest of your lives together.

They always say that "Love finds a way" and I think it is true.

"BE HAPPY IN YOUR NAPPY"

[Guest]

A few months back (ok so back in early April), I told my boyfriend (of 8 months this coming 17th) about my love for diapers. I answered any questions he had, the typical "o.O what's a DL?" stuff, etc etc and gave him links to the wikipedia site link for the infantilism/diaper lover page. He's cool with it, but it's hardly ever brought up. Maybe I'm just too embarassed to bring it up. Actually >.> The other day I told him that I was done fighting with my DL side and have learned to accept it. Thing is.. is that I really want him to diaper me and be my Daddy when my AB side kicks in (which is rare in itself). I don't know how to approach that with him. Oct 6th he's leaving Alaska and moving here, making him arrive on Oct 7th, so we'll be living together and getting our own place (currently living with my parents at the age of 20 >.

How do I approach that subject with him and ask him to do those things for me? Any advice would be much appreciated..

Hugs n' Kisses,

Kawaii Lil Mary

I'm a boy, so let me help you out.

MOST boys are up for damn near anything. If you ask for something they don't want to do, they'll say no and move on. So, my advice is to just ask! If you want to sweeten the deal, offer something he likes in return. However, I don't advise you start with your biggest return offer, or he'll expect that every time. Start small.

My girlfriend wants something I'm not willing to do, and I said no, but I'll consider at least trying it when I get over my hang-ups. So just ask him.

[FunTime]

I'd mention it and talk to him about it. Things move slowly right and work their way so mention it and talk about it. After that, when the time is right, I'm sure he'll be open to more things. You yourself said you don't want it ALL the time so at least if you can talk about it, he can be open to it and know that it's something of interest/turn on what have you. He doesn't like a lot of peanut butter on his toast, so you adjusted. You want to be diapered sometimes, so what's so bad about that? See what I mean

[RMS401]

I don't post here much anymore, but this topic intrigues me. Everyone seems to think that true acceptance of and involvement in this fetish will be simple. I'll readily admit that most men are much more game for unusual sexual practices than most women, but hasn't anyone considered the fact that the boyfriend in this scenario hasn't really accepted this extremely unusual behavior? It seems to me that he hasn't dealt with anything yet, and waiting until after they move in together to express her desires to be babied is a recipe for disaster.

In my opinion, this is something that needs to be dealt with right now, before going further down the road of commitment, into a situation where problems will only be harder to handle.

* Sit down with the boyfriend and ask him to explain back what he thinks is going on with his girlfriend.

* Ask him point blank how he feels about that.

* Ask him if he would be interested in some diaper play himself.

This is the kind of thing that really should be discussed dispassionately, not in the heat of the moment where people say and do all kinds of things they later regret or, worse, feel embarrassed by.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

-RMS

[DollyDiaper]

No, you're not the only one who feels that way RMS, in fact, you've probably pipped me at the post in saying it.

The situation as I understand it could soon spiral out of control without some serious thought and discussion taking place between both parties.

D lly

[Pipsqueak]

I agree. This needs to be discussed before any moving in together takes place. Sharing a place adds another level of commitment and a new layer of mess to disentangle yourself from if he's not game to play daddy. Put your cards on the table first and see what he has to stay.

And Dolly, there will be no "pipping" without my permission!

[diaprbayb]

I told her pip, that she couldn't "squeak" it pass you

[Pipsqueak]

Back to the Cosy Corner with you, bayb!

[nitrous]

My advise for you is be fair and see if he wants you to get involved in his fetish/lifestyle. Also I wish you good luck in your guyses relationship

[Acecool]

Talk to him, and show him before you move in together...

As in a few posts above mine stated: Guys are pretty much open for anything a girl wants to do, especially if it adds a little fun to the game..

Josh

[DLK]

I don't post here much anymore, but this topic intrigues me. Everyone seems to think that true acceptance of and involvement in this fetish will be simple. I'll readily admit that most men are much more game for unusual sexual practices than most women, but hasn't anyone considered the fact that the boyfriend in this scenario hasn't really accepted this extremely unusual behavior? It seems to me that he hasn't dealt with anything yet, and waiting until after they move in together to express her desires to be babied is a recipe for disaster.

In my opinion, this is something that needs to be dealt with right now, before going further down the road of commitment, into a situation where problems will only be harder to handle.

* Sit down with the boyfriend and ask him to explain back what he thinks is going on with his girlfriend.

* Ask him point blank how he feels about that.

* Ask him if he would be interested in some diaper play himself.

This is the kind of thing that really should be discussed dispassionately, not in the heat of the moment where people say and do all kinds of things they later regret or, worse, feel embarrassed by.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

Nope, you're not the only 1. This is the 1st time in a while for me too. See I made that mistake with my wife. Talk about it without emotion. Use you're brain, not you're heart at first. RMS401 is right. Now my wife wants nothing to do with diapers. So I'm posting this wearing just my diaper because she is at work. Point is, its very frustrating for me. I agree with everyone though, guys are up for more sexually, in my opinion. Just remember this, I'm very open minded about sexual fetishes because I'm a diaper lover. People who don't have a fetish may not be.

DLK

-RMS

[DiaperLover4Life]

Tell him you had a dream about him diapering you and basically make that dream what you want him to do to you and tell him and see his reaction to your dream. and you might want to slip in that maybe you can make my dream come true something of that sort.

[KawaiiLilMary]

Yeeesshhhhh I posted this topic months ago! O.O

Unfortunately, he's not interested in anytype of playing in that area. Makes him rather uncomfortable, but that's ok. I can still wear around him when I want to (though I feel rather shy about it even after how many months that he's been here.)

; ; i miss my AB/DL playtime..