Exploring Ab/Dl As A Sexual Fetish

[QuietTouch]

So, I've been a member here for some time. I don't post a lot... but I read often

A lot of the people here don't really seem to view AB/DL as a sexual fetish so much. Many of you seem to embrace it as more of a lifestyle or a preferred way of living.

Well, I come to you as an AB/DL purely out of a sexual fetish. To be quite honest... it turns me on. Gets me an arousal which leads to a good climax.

I know of the pretty much normal porn user. They visit a website, watch a movie with a girl and a guy having sex or 2 girls having sex and that's about as kinky as some people get. Some of them REALLY cross the line with "gasp" a girl dressed as a nurse

And to each their own, if that's what works for them... good for them! It works for me sometimes too...

But me... I'm a man of action. I'm not embarrassed about myself. I'm open to the idea that whatever arouses me... I should pursue. It's not hurting myself or anyone else (although it has put a chunk in my wallet )

I think I've come to realize that this fetish to me is brought about largely as just something very taboo. I think I like that it feels so "naughty" so to speak. It's not like I can control what arouses me, but I think that... as a guy who is naturally attracted to things that are a bit out of the ordinary, it is what really pulls me in.

Now don't get me wrong... I would love to be diapered by an attractive female. I would love to be babied. I would love to fed a bottle, have my diaper changed, and be held. But I could never view that as a life style. If I ever did it, it would be done for pure sexual reasons. It would turn me on a lot. But I don't think I could ever actually view it as living my life like that. Which is also why I don't think I would ever want to reveal it to another whom I'm in a relationship with. Because my fetishes vary. Sometimes, I love this fetish... other times I'm into something else or just not really into anything in particular.

Maybe if I one day find a partner who can read me very well and know when i'm in the mood for what, I'll consider it. But until then... I put diapers on just to get an arousal and get off

So it was a bit of a rant... but I'm curious as to others thoughts on this. Am I viewing things incorrectly by assuming that many of you enjoy this as more of a comfort or other reason that's not a sexual fetish? Is it both for a lot of you?

To be clear too, I have nothing against anyone who doesn't view this as a sexual fetish Many of you are nice, good people for the most part Everybody should live their life the way they enjoy it the most. And props to you people for being open minded enough to acknowledge what you enjoy and pursue it.

Was just kind of interested on the community's thoughts on this.

Thank you

[Darkfinn]

AB/DL can be many things to many people. Though, generally speaking, most folks who use it as a sexual fetish tend to be more on the DL side. For a lot of folks the AB portion is regressing to a time when life was simpler and more carefree.

[arren]

to me it used to be sexual for me when i was a teenager but now that im older i dont seem to view it as a sexual fetish more of a lifestyle or a thing that makes me happy i used to get turned on by wearing diapers but now i dont if im wearing diapers i sometimes get turned on but not often and its not something i set out to do when i have a diaper on but it happens whether i want it or not getting turned on

[aleyxsis]

As long as you are not hurting anybody or your self live and be happy ! . When i was younger this was more sexual. But now i just like it very much and enjoy it for what it is

[LILJIM]

I read about the AB/DL scene in Penthouse; as a young teen. So it was sexual for me for years. That faded some as I got older but like many different things at different times fill that place now. When you find that special some1 be open to what they like as well. Talk openly & don't depend on 1-2 things to fill that place.When wife & I meet we tried things & keep what we liked;somethings we did for the other because they liked them.(It is called =LOVE)

[Guest Wetnmessy247]

As long as you are not hurting anybody or your self live and be happy

This +1.

However I don't hurt other people, but still get flamed anyway. I'm happy and not hurting anyone so...

Diapers are not fetish for me, as in sexual gratification. I don't masterbate at all. Last time I did was like two years ago and it didn't involve diapers in any way.

Diapers serve other purposes for me. I like the comfort of the puffiness against my skin. I like the waddle it gives you wet OR dry. I LOVE the crinkle sound. Absolutely adore the crinkle, so I crinkle likewhereever I go. I love the security it gives me, knowing I don't need to rush to the toilet just to relieve myself. It's convenient to be plaaying a video game and just poop yourself without need to pause the game.

All in all, it makes me feel like a baby, which is what I was I was. A helpless, cooing baby.

Sigh...

[messyman]

This +1.

However I don't hurt other people, but still get flamed anyway. I'm happy and not hurting anyone so..

Because you make posts like this. Contributing nothing and giving you a opportunity to say how much you love to wallow in your own shit.

[Guest Wetnmessy247]

Dammit, I contributed!!!! You only quoted one f'n sentence of my post!!!!

I said I like diapers for COMFORT, SECURITY, CONVENIENCE....

Don't quote ONE LINE and say the post was pointless when there WAS MORE!!!! I'm sorry, but even when I do contribute, I get misquoted.

I contributed!!!! Oh my god, I did. Grr.....I feel like kicking something.

[messyman]

Saying how you don't involve yourself in the topic of the thread. Real productive.

Admit it it was just a pretext for talking about pooping.

[Guest Wetnmessy247]

Sigh.

The OP DID want to know what we thought.

I gave my thoughts.

Is that so hard to understand?

Let it go.

[sarah_ab]

i am strictly an ab, no dl about me, i like to be treated like a baby, and diapers are just a prop to ad to the realism of this scenario.

This is completely sexual for me.

sometimes people forget that you don't have to have an orgasm for something to be sexual. You don't have to masturbate, or have sex with someone else, or put anything in your body for an activity to be sexual. I"m not trying to say this is sexual for everyone, just pointing out....things can be sexual and not include sex, masturbation or orgasm.

[timmyc]

Because you make posts like this. Contributing nothing and giving you a opportunity to say how much you love to wallow in your own shit.

coming from someone known as "messyman"

[Guest Wetnmessy247]

coming from someone known as "messyman"

Yes!! Thank you!! At least someone acknowledges the hypocritical posts on here!!

Lay off of me. It's not fair when I'm honestly trying to make friends.

[curiositykilledthecat]

The fetish is both sexual and non sexual for me.

[jackm]

Over the years diapers have always been a sexual thing for me.  I used them or the thought of being forced to wear them to masturbate, when I was young.  And now they play a role in the bedroom with my wife.  I guess I am quite fortunate that she plays along with my fetish even though I know it's not one of hers.    

[QuietTouch]

AB/DL can be many things to many people. Though, generally speaking, most folks who use it as a sexual fetish tend to be more on the DL side. For a lot of folks the AB portion is regressing to a time when life was simpler and more carefree.

So I'm curious on this one.

Not saying you're saying I'm not a AB or anything... just genuinely curious

I understand that ABs want the regression and everything... but does this apply when the regression is solely a sexual fantasy?

As I was saying, I'm really into a bit of regression, just mainly out of a sexual desire. Is it more so that ABs are strictly adults who would rather be babies... or can ABs be adults that just want to be treated like babies?

Even I'm confusing myself but I hope ya get what I'm getting at lol.

I'm fascinated by this fetish. Mainly because of the diversities in it.

I mean... if you look at another fetish... I don't know let's say Bondage.

It's pretty much a given that it's sexual. People are excited, and in turn, turned on by it. There isn't a huge amount of diversity to bondage... except for maybe how someone is bound and how much.

The AB/DL Fetish just seems so much more complex. I'm into a lot of things, as I said before... I'm very open minded. And of all of them, I think the AB/Dl community interests me the most just out of understanding the depth of it.

[AutieAB]

So I'm curious on this one.

Not saying you're saying I'm not a AB or anything... just genuinely curious

I understand that ABs want the regression and everything... but does this apply when the regression is solely a sexual fantasy?

As I was saying, I'm really into a bit of regression, just mainly out of a sexual desire. Is it more so that ABs are strictly adults who would rather be babies... or can ABs be adults that just want to be treated like babies?

Point #1 is that AB is what you make of it, nothing more. If you want to do something and that involves diapers + babyish things like bottles, blankies, pacifiers and so on, then you're an AB in my books. The motivation, sexual or otherwise is irrelevant to the fact It simply goes to show that there is no such thing as a typical AB. We're all different. While some or even most ABs fit into a general pattern, the definitive, standardised AB doesn't exist and that includes the spectrum of sexual interest/fetishism's involvement.

Point #2, when I started out with diapers in my adult life, I considered myself a DL and it was strictly a sexual fetish. The AB stuff came later, over the past 5 years or so, and is still developing to this day. For a while, I suppose, I was probably a sexual fetish AB but that has diminished considerably over time to the point where it's not the driving force behind my AB activities any more. Sure, if my wife were to change me, feed me, etc, it would still be a turn on but the motivation today is relaxation, escaping from stress and shutting the world away. Most AB/DL's relationships with diapers, diaper loving and adult babying change over time. It may happen so slowly that you don't notice until you stop and look back but what you like doing (and why) two, ten, twenty years from now probably won't be the same as today. Enjoy your current pleasures and enjoy the future ones too

AB as a 'lifestyle' is perhaps quite a small subset of ABs in general. To me, the lifestyle people are those who allow almost all their time to be spent in 'baby mode' - the AB equivalent of the 24/7 DL. The 'fetish vs. lifestyle' distinction isn't that polarised - there's a huge middle ground where the majority of ABs play.

[curiositykilledthecat]

I am into forced regression which can be a sexal fabtasy

[sarah_ab]

forced regression which is a scenario many ab's are into is a form of bdsm play, it is being dominated by someone and forced into a role.... so a person who considers themself and ab because they enjoy being 'forced' into the baby role is most definitely into this for sexual reasons.

anyone who claims to speak for the whole of the dl or ab community should automatically be dismissed as misinformed and delusional. As has been stated DL and AB is many things to many people, and only you can figure out what it is for yourself.

[aleyxsis]

we are all like snowflakes no 1 is the same!!!

[hazardouskink]

I'm strictly fetish also. I have no problem with what other people chose to label themselves or what they do or what they get off to or anything like that, but for me personally I neither understand nor participate in the AB culture. I am DL, through and through. There is no regression, there is no sense of security, there is no trip to my carefree past, and certainly no platonic enjoyment... I wear diapers to feel darn good and make my climaxes that much better. It is sexual, it is fetishistic, it is pointedly powerful.

That also means (like you) that my fetishes come and go. Sometimes I'm so into diapers that my friends wonder where I've gone for a week. Sometimes I'm so into one of my other fetishes that my diapers stay up in the attic gathering dust for months. Sometimes I'm content to be vanilla for a time until I rediscover my fetishes, always there, always waiting.

I personally do not understand how people can get off to 'vanilla' porn, especially the produced stuff. Amateur is getting a bit better, but seriously... I don't get it. I need fetish to get off. No idea why.

Great post! Glad theres more of us out there!

[tndyperboy]

Diapers are totally sexual to me. I still remember getting the first "real" diaper when I was 17, I didn't experience a climax that intense until I had my first boyfriend. After all this time sex is still so much better if a diaper is involved; be it foreplay or a part of the action. The only thing that has changed somewhat with frequent wearing is I don't get an immediate erection when putting on a diaper, but if my partner does it then it will happen for sure. Something he finds to be devilishly cute.

I never was interested in AB play. Guys I've met have tried to get me to try it, but frankly it is just doesn't work for me. For a long time I really didn't even understand the AB attraction. But, after meeting and getting to know a few AB guys I have a better understanding. Still have absolutely no interest. Sure, I have plastic pants and some have prints on them but that is all part of the diaper experience for me. Its not that I want to look babyish, its that is what my parents used when I was in diapers (the 1st time) and it part and parcel of the fetish imprint.

As many on here and other boards have commented, the "Diaper Community" is as varied and diverse as humanity. Not all want to play with each other but our different wants and desires make this much more interesting.

[Criss]

I have combined both my fetishes into one. I enjoy wearing my disposable diapers, with or under my petticoats and maids outfits. I have this thing for both of them, so I just put them together, and am very happy when I have the time to do it!

[skyeluffsdad]

I have to say, as long as no one is being hurt and you are having a good time, why not?

I'm huge into age play and I identify as an AB and this is very sexual for me.

I think it all depends on the dynamic of the relationship you are in. I have a Papa and I have adult needs, why not combine two fun things?

[Wakko]

I've hesitated to answer this, because I've had the impression that many AB's here are not in it for the sexual overtones, and, I perceive, some may be even afraid of that aspect; sex and sexuality is scary for many.

Yes, it has been sexual for me ever since I could identify being AB/DL. I have some regressive feelings, some memories of childhood situations that feed my AB fantasies. Would I like to go back to those days? Can't. But I like the memories; I was a late trainer. Sadly, throw away the diapers I might be tempted to do, but the fantasy life is with one always, and always sexual for me, it seems.