Questions About Starting.

[ducklord]

Well I've been having urges lately to try it out, but a proble i have is I can't bring myself to buying them I feel way too embaressed >.< Any tips on achieving this.

Also I have to stick with store brands I'm not ordering anything online.

[Guest YkDave]

Best way to do it is go in, get straight to business, grab your diapers and head to the checkout and be on your way.

If you go in slowly, checking out EVERYTHING for fear of whatever reason (i know the mid can run a million miles a minute for those that are purchasing diapers the first few times), you are only going to make it worse for yourself.

[ducklord]

My plan is to go to walmart late at night head in grab a pack head to the self check out line and leave. Is there any way i can get any more descrete >.< ha ha

[jbz2079]

I think we have all been there done that, Firstly know what you want, have a look in the shop you pick first, then you can walk right in pick them up and go pay.

When I first started buying diapers and plastic pants I used to go to a drug store about five miles away from home, so I had

a fair chance no one would know me, The diapers were easy just pick them up and go pay, but the plastic pants had to be asked for at the counter and of course I didn't know what size I wanted, I was ushered to the quiet side of the shop by a middle aged assistant and questioned about who the pants were for and whether they were to fit over the diapers I had.

The redness of my face and the panic in my voice gave me away, but the lady was very nice and we got sorted with some pants that would fit, I was very close to doing a runner but we made it.

I used to go back there regularly and buy diapers, always used to go first thing in the morning oe last thing at night when the shop was quieter and try and catch the same assistants attension, she would see the package of depends and usually ask

if that was all. she once asked if the fitted ok.

All very daunting at first but gets easier after youve done it a few times - John.

[SmilinBare]

I'll second YkDave's advice. Just last week, I went into a WalMart to get some more sleeveless tees and bought some of those and a package of diapers. I didn't dawdle. Grabbed the shirts, grabbed the diapers, headed through the checkout and I was gone. No one gave me a second look, that I noticed, anyway. Besides. Who cares?

[DL88]

The first couple times you buy are the absolute most daunting times you will experience as it gets much easier after that. Instead of going to walmart, I would suggest you go to a 24 hour CVS or Walgreens. They tend to be much smaller and much less crowded around 2-3am than walmart. If it is your first time, do the easiest thing and grab a bag of Depends. They actually aren't that bad for the first time wearer, they fit nicely and easily, protect moderatly, and are cheap. I always tell first time wearers to get Depends also because even if you do not like it, at least you didn't waste a bunch of money.

Going in there to buy will be some of the longest 5-10 minutes of your life, you will think your face is cherry red, and your heart will be beating fast like you just ran a mile.

You'll get through it though, we all have been there, think of it like an initiation of sorts.

Best of luck to you.

[Knuxie Fawks]

My friend pretty much forced me to go to Walmart and buy a pack of Assurance. He stood there and made sure I got them. Sometimes it just takes a firm shove to get started.

[DiaperedEntropy]

I got my first package (and all following ones so far) from a local Walgreens. It took me a few trys of going in with the goal in mind of buying them and ending up with other misc. junk before I finally got a package. And even then I think it took me 15 minutes of some aimless wandering between other aisles and the adult diaper one. Since then, it has gotten easier though. Just keep in mind it doesn't really matter what the other customers or store employees think about it, most will probably assume its for a medical reason and aren't likely to say anything about it. The first step is always the hardest, but the rewards are worth it.

Also, as far as store brands go I use the Walgreens Certainty one. They're not super absorbant, but should hold at least one wetting(they do for me), from there on you've gotta watch for leaks though.

[AutieAB]

I would suggest you go to a 24 hour CVS or Walgreens. They tend to be much smaller and much less crowded around 2-3am than walmart. If it is your first time, do the easiest thing and grab a bag of Depends. They actually aren't that bad for the first time wearer, they fit nicely and easily, protect moderatly, and are cheap. I always tell first time wearers to get Depends also because even if you do not like it, at least you didn't waste a bunch of money.

I agree with this - most towns have at least one 24hr CVS, etc and they are typically deserted after midnight. Walmart on the other hand always surprises me with how many customers they have in the dead of the night. Don't forget that Walmart is crawling with shelf stackers at night so you might get to the diaper aisle and find it's occupied by someone refilling the shelf and that will probably throw you off balance. That's unlikely to happen in a pharmacy.

One thing though, calm down, slow down, take a deep breath and make sure you get what you went in for (Depend Maximum Protection is probably what you're after). Take care not to get a lesser product in the heat and excitement of the moment and the desire to get the hell out. If you want to make the diaper a little more absorbent (a good idea with Depends) then look for a pack of "Depend Boost" pads if they have them.

You'll get through it though, we all have been there, think of it like an initiation of sorts.

And afterwards, you'll feel great. Nothing can describe the first time you buy them - there's no better feeling than right then... Except the first time you wear a diaper, of course (which you'll never forget )

Good luck. Be brave - you won't regret it, I assure you.

[AbriForm]

I know there is a huge fear about ordering online, but sites like xpmedical.com make it a discreet process.

I wore at home with my parents for four years. The diapers always came in a plain brown box... and it was never the delivery that tripped me up.

[diaperpt]

My plan is to go to walmart late at night head in grab a pack head to the self check out line and leave. Is there any way i can get any more descrete >.< ha ha

Make yourself invisible...

Seriously, all have been good posts...probably because almost all of us have been there before. It is NOT EASY to buy that first time and it takes a while after that to get used to it. I used to be absolutely paranoid about buying diapers. Now I'm a regular at the med supply store I go to and a lot of the people recognize me. No big deal to them or to me now, but it takes a while to get there. And it isn't because I'm 'out' about my diaper wearing...I'm NOT. I buy at a place where it is possible people might know me...its a risk you have to take, unless you can order online with less risk.

I don't think any of us can make you less self-conscious these first several times. All we can do is let you know that you are not the first nor the last to be worried and self-conscious about this. Just be brave and do it. If it makes you feel better, look back through different threads about buying to see that while it's scary at first, few people really care what the heck you're buying.

Good luck and report back!

[dotdotdot]

I bought my first time on Tuesday. And wow I was a nervous wreck.

But I had it planned out what else I was going to get. I also knew right where the Depends (yeah, I know garbage) were. So I could get in, get the stuff and get out.

I picked an older cashier and did what I had to and got right out of there.

But I will not be going into that wlamart for a while or that cashier.

[AutieAB]

I also knew right where the Depends (yeah, I know garbage) were.

There's nothing wrong with Depends as a 'first diaper'. First, they're readily available pretty much anywhere in the US. Second they're not actually all that bad providing you learn what their limits are and best of all, after you've tried Depends, everything else you try will be better

You can't wet more than about twice in them without leaking and you certainly can't build up a full bladder and release it all in one flood. However, you almost certainly won't be physically able to flood a diaper right from the start - it takes time to overcome the "Thou must not wet thy self" reflex and learn to empty your bladder fully on demand, by which time you should be more comfortable and able to obtain better diapers.

[sarah_ab]

ok a few things to read, know, understand as god's honest truth and keep saying over and over while in the store

NO ONE IN THE STORE CARES WHAT I AM BUYING

NO ONE IN THE STORE IS PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT I AM CARRYING

THE CASHIER IS SO TIRED AND WORN OUT SHE ISN'T EVEN PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT I'M BUYING

ANY COMMENTS THE CASHIER MAKES TO ME IS MADE TO BREAK UP THE MONOTOMY OF HIS/HER DAY AND THEY REALLY DONT CARE WHY OR FOR WHO YOU ARE MAKING THE PURCHASE

and one more time

NO ONE CARES WHAT I AM BUYING

these a important things to remember, because they are true. i've been a cashier and we've heard from other cashiers here who all say, we just dont care what people are buying. We may make small talk referring to their purchase, but for the most part, we just dont care, talking is a way to keep us awake and give good customer service.

but i think you have a good idea, go into a store late at night, and self checkouts can be great because you dont have to worry about having someone check you out.

good luck

[diaperliz]

Just keep in mind when someone sees you buying diapers they do NOT assume they are for a fetish. Unless of course they are into the same thing, in which case... who cares?

I have found when I buy them at walmart people look at me and then what im buying and then they quickly look away embarrassed. So the joke is on them.

[TheMagicDragon]

Hi, I'm going to add some food for thought. Once upon a time I was a total wall-flower and oh, so shy. Poor self-image and lacking self-confidence - scared of girls and bullies. I spent about twenty years getting over it. Here's how I finally got the nerve to actually walk into a store to buy my first adult diapers:

Well, actually, I didn't buy adult diapers first. I suppose I was thinking: "But they will think the diapers are for me and I'll be so outed to all who know me even peripherally." I decided that since there must be something wrong with me, my subconscious fixation is on an object (paraphilia) which are (((baby diapers))). Oooops, shhhh someone might hear what I am thinking (paranoia or more specifically paranoic paraphilia.) And so, I walked into a 'Toy's R Us' and bought a cool Matchbox car and a pack of Pampers Size Five, thinking I'd explain it this way: "They're for my two kids." (I was a young dad at the time.) So, I made off with my purchased treasures and opened the diapers in the car (NO, not the Matchbox car LOL!. "Damn, these don't fit! There goes 12 bucks." Well, it was a start. And, no-one had noticed or stared me down. Could it really be so easy?

Turns out, IT IS. I've made many purchases from both clicks and bricks and never, never once have I been made to feel bad about making my purchase. Well, there was a cute teenage girl cashier in a CVS who blushed a little when I bought Depends but I happen to like that kind of thing. When a manager tends the register they're thinking about themselves (acting professionally, making every transaction perfect and a million other things, not about you (the purchaser) and certainly not about the end user (The incontinent person who has to use what I sell.) So you aren't seen as a sicko or wierdo in their eyes, ever. The simple fact is that most people are thinking about themselves and their immediate concerns and certainly NOT looking at what you are buying or (if you're like me) at the slight bulge your adult diaper makes in your "streets". Someone that does notice might very likely be another diaper fetishist btw - which is why I like picking out the cutest female cashiers, just in case they are. Old habit, no offense meant to any females in here.

Over time my attitude regarding my diaper fetish became one of boldness and self-indulgence. Think about it. Who, in your life, is more important than yourself? Don't you have to love and accept yourself in order to be capable of loving and accepting others? Yes, you do and you should. Do you really care about what someone else thinks about you MORE THAN how much you care about your own hapiness and peace-of-mind? No, you don't nor should you. What gives someone else the right to judge you? Do you really BELIEVE that you are unworthy of self-love? Do you actually think that there is someone else in the world who is BETTER than you?

I think not or you wouldn't be here. DD is one of those rare golden places where no one will judge you and we support one another. It makes all of us better people to be here. It's a place where diapers are natural, normal, and FUN! Back to the point: Each of us knows what's right for ourselves. You know. It's just a matter of making the decision to get off the bleachers and into the game (of life) while you still can. I finally did in my forties and I have NO regrets. If you can't go it alone yet, find another diapered person to help - we're out there and we won't hesitate to help if you ask us. Thanks for asking us!

Cheers, GlennDL

[rusty pins]

ok a few things to read, know, understand as god's honest truth and keep saying over and over while in the store

NO ONE IN THE STORE CARES WHAT I AM BUYING

NO ONE IN THE STORE IS PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT I AM CARRYING

THE CASHIER IS SO TIRED AND WORN OUT SHE ISN'T EVEN PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT I'M BUYING

ANY COMMENTS THE CASHIER MAKES TO ME IS MADE TO BREAK UP THE MONOTOMY OF HIS/HER DAY AND THEY REALLY DONT CARE WHY OR FOR WHO YOU ARE MAKING THE PURCHASE

and one more time

NO ONE CARES WHAT I AM BUYING

I've said this before, but I echo the fact that no one will notice or care what you are buying if you act perfectly normal. If you act nervous and wander around the store waiting for people to leave, then that might attract attention from someone, even security camera people who might think you are waiting to rob the place. As mentioned, going in normally with purpose in mind, getting what you want and going right out is the best way.

I also know this is hard for some people, especially first time diaper buyers. If you feel that nervous, here is something that works. Before leaving home, put a $20 bill in an envelope and put it in your pocket. Also write the name and size of a brand of adult diapers on a piece of paper and put that in your pocket as well. Go to a drug store and pick up a few items that you need, such as toothpaste, deoderant or a magazine, acting perfectly calm and normal. This gives you a chance to go through the store in a non suspicious way to make sure no one that you know is in there shopping. Put your items in a cart, then pull out the piece of paper with the diaper information on it. Go to the diaper asile, don't delay but look at the paper, find the proper diapers on the shelf and put them in the cart. When you check out, ask the cashier to ring your stuff up separatly and pay for them with money from your wallet. Then when you put the diapers on the counter tell the cashier that you would like them rung up separatly. Pull the envelope with the $20 out of your pocket, take out the $20 bill, pay with that and then put all the change and the recipt back in the envelope. Even someone with an IQ of 25 will automatically think you are running an errand for an elderly relative who gave you the money to pay for their diapers. Believe me, you really don't have to do this as no one will care what you are buying or assume that you will be wearing the diapers yourself, but if it makes you less nervous to do the above, then go for it.

[SoCalDL]

When I first purchased diapers, I would only purchase baby diapers. I would tape three of them together (overlapping) to make them long enough and use tape to extend the diaper tapes. This was fine for me in the early stages.

I "had" to switch to adult diapers when I could no longer find baby diapers with the plastic backing. The first times I bought adult diapers in stores, I went to stores that were 20+ miles away from not only my home but homes of friends and family. Anytime I went somewhere far away I would take the opportunity to buy diapers.

Now, if I buy in the store, I go to stores with self-checkouts and they don't have to be miles away from home. If I run into anyone that I know, I would just lie that they were not for me. I am certain that I would be embarassed, but I think that is normal for anyone that needs to buy them wether they are using them for themselves or not.

[steal_viper]

When I first started buying them for myself I was EXTREMELY nervous. I would walk into the store, hang out in the isles, pass by the diapers a couple times, and half the time I would leave and try again the next day. I eventually it got easier but to this day I am still nervous. The best thing I have found is this new thing at Stop and Shop that beats the self checkout line. All you do is scan your stop and shop card, which is free, and they give you a scanner gun. Grab that and some plastic bags and go shop. You scan everything in the isles and put it right into plastic bags so no one sees what you bought. Then go to the self checkout line, leaving everything in your cart, scan your gun and card then pay, extremely painless, of course I have only seen it at one store so far...

JD

[curiositykilledthecat]

My favorite was to have a fake phone conversation while walking the aisle arguing about why do I have to buy them for "grandpa"?

I also used the boss retirement poarty excuse as well. the truth is that nobody cares aside from us.

[Aurelius]

Congratulations on discovering the best fetish!

I initially bought at pharmacies/chemists (etc) but now buy at a specialist shop. See if you can find a specialist shop - it could even be decently close by.

You might get some crappy store brands (depend, tena, whatever) to try to begin with. If so, all the advice we could give you is just to do it. Be careful and fast (but not suspiciously fast) and preferably wait until there is a register available so you can leave quickly. You can buy powder with other things without it being seen as suspicious, but wipes are fairly obvious.

I've recently overcome all nervousness about this.

Hypothetically (nobody has brought it up yet, out of due politeness)

"Are those for you?"

"Yes, they are my fetish. I wear them as much as I can and I adore them dearly, thankyou. You might try them sometime *smug grin*."

"..." *strange looks, but not a care in the cosmos*

[AutieAB]

You can buy powder with other things without it being seen as suspicious, but wipes are fairly obvious.

Are they really? I always assumed that an adult buying baby wipes was not remotely strange. For starters, they're handy for 'on the road', especially with kids or picnics, camping, etc. Second, they're useful after certain other um... adult activities

I regularly buy wipes at Walmart with my other shopping and have always done so. Nobody has ever even looked twice, even when I buy wipes, power and lotion all together

[diaperboyMKE]

My favorite was to have a fake phone conversation while walking the aisle arguing about why do I have to buy them for "grandpa"?

I also used the boss retirement poarty excuse as well. the truth is that nobody cares aside from us.

Here's what I would do..

1. Go to a local store on "off peak" hours.

2. Go to the diaper isle.

3. Park your cart across from the diaper shelf, and get out your cell, pretend you're texting but you're actually browsing for diapers in your corner of your eye.

4. Bring one of those re-usable grocery bags with you! They make great cover so no one see's what you're buying.

5. Make your selection, put inside the reusable bag, fold it over in case you bump into someone you know on the way to the register.

6. Put the entire bag on the belt, the cashier will more than likely not even take them completely out of the bag, just enough to scan the UPC, then put them right back in the bag for you.

This will minimize your exposure to anyone except the cashier, and who really cares if they know.. If you're not wearing one currently, she'll more than likely think it's for someone else (plus I'm sure she see's dozens of those cross her scanner a week, so the thrill of seeing someone "buy diapers!" is gone.)

[Aurelius]

Are they really? I always assumed that an adult buying baby wipes was not remotely strange. For starters, they're handy for 'on the road', especially with kids or picnics, camping, etc. Second, they're useful after certain other um... adult activities

I regularly buy wipes at Walmart with my other shopping and have always done so. Nobody has ever even looked twice, even when I buy wipes, power and lotion all together

I suppose. If you're nervous about it, though, it's probably better to be careful. I also buy with little care if people notice. If you buy with lots of other things it will probably not be considered unusual.

[SmilinBare]

I'm really enjoying reading everyone's posts full of their own experience and advice. It dawns on me that half the fun of wearing diapers IS buying them!!!

Know what I mean? ;-)