lil'boy

Like! Nice to see the site freshened up.

I'm still in N Phoenix. Never been to a munch and never met another ABDL. :-(

Just saw this...and tomorrow is Sept 1. Any plans for a GTG in Sept?

Surprised nobody's mentioned paypal as an online payment source.

Thanks to all who responded. I guess the AB/DL aware question, in retrospect, was unnecessary. All I really wanted to know is that they would be discreet, both in shipping the product and in handling my personal information. That, and that they would not send product advertising and such to my physical address. I suppose in light of the coupon notice on the home page for Daily Di, the question was actually pretty stupid. Not one of my more brilliant moments. Next time I put in an order I'll give'em a try. What prompted the inquiry was certain statements on their website about privacy, collecting and using your data, and such. Websites only go so far and aren't always updated; getting the customer experience here is much more meaningful. Again, thanks!

Ok thanks.

First, I apologize if this topic has been covered elsewhere. I did try to do a search first but the search engine won't search "KCK" because it's less than 4 characters. I also apologize if this is the wrong area in the forum to post it. I thought about putting it in the "just diapers" section but it seems that is really about diapers and not diaper suppliers. Anyway, DD has a new front page banner stating that KCK Industries is offering a $5 discount to DD Members. I checked out their site looking for privacy policies. It appears that they might collect your information and send you marketing materials. I don't want that. So, my questions are: 1. Has anybody here bought from there before? 2. If so, what has been the customer experience? 3. Are they ABDL aware (in theory they ought to be if they are advertising here)? 4. Do they ship discreetly? 5. Do they send marketing materials to your address? Thanks!

Make sure your TOU states that the user subjects thenselves to your jurisdiction for any legal disputes, that there is an interest rate on any unpaid amounts (interest should be as high as credit card default rates or the highest rate allowed by law), and that the user is responsible to pay for any fees and costs incurred in collection, including collection agency and attorney fees, and regardless of whether a lawsuit is filed. Check your states laws on kiting checks. Ours has a penalty that allows the receiver of a bad check to sue and collect 2x the face value. At the low amounts you describe the check maker (writer) is generally only guilty of a petty offence. So there likely isn't much motivation for the prosecutor to prosecute, esp. if the person is out of state. Good luck.

We had a mouse problem in the apt we lived in in HI. Used glue traps. Never knew mice could scream before that! I'd put a latex surgical glove on, remove them by the tail, put them in a jar with air holes in the roof. Next morning we'd take them to a local forrest and set them free. I thought that was humane, if a bit painful, since they'd lose their belly hair when I'd pull them off the trap! The hard part is that sometimes we'd get a gecko caught. Hard to remove them without causing damage - their bodies are so soft. You can't pull them up by the tail like you can with a mouse.

I'm not acusing anybody of anything, per se, but I have to wonder how many people who post in response to questions like this one are actually involved in long-term relationships? Yes there are compromises in a relationship. Yes you should be open and honest with you spouse. But, within reason. There is a difference between being open and honest and being hurtful, and sometimes it's a fine line. You can love someone more than anything else in the world, and still find faults that are at times intolerable. That's where the compromise comes in. Knowing when to be honest and when to keep your mouth shut is an important part of that compromise -- and for each of us (and for each couple) the 'line' is different. Use your best judgment and realize that whatever decision you make there are likely potential and actual consequences, some of which may not be so good. Again, good luck.

Do they hang out on a forum? I don't know that I've ever seen them here.

I'm sorry if this has been covered, but I've searched and so far I haven't found a topic on it. This was a site for an abdl/sm couple offering babysitting services in Arizona. Seems it went away, but I don't know why. Does anyone here know? Thanks.

I wouldn't say no to the opportunity to experience childhood again, particularly if I could have different experiences and make different choices. The idea of having other chances and experiencing alternative realities is always intruiging. But to relive (re-experience) every moment of my childhood the same as the first time? Not so much.

I don't know that I "suck" on my thumb, per se, but I had noticed recently that I was putting it in my mouth a lot. Not the whole thumb, either, just to the first knuckle. It's a stress relief thing; I don't always realize I'm doing it. Recently I purchased a NUK5. I like using it, especially at night when I lie down to sleep. Problem is that there are others in the house who I don't want to know that I have (and use) a paci. Just not a conversation I want to have. Which creates a dilemma.

1. B. Mostly depends upon my mood. I don't wear at work very often because it is difficult to change discreetly. Plus I've had diapers leak while at work. Not so fun. 2. A. Mostly. I have worn fairly bulky diapers, but generally not terribly noticeable when out in public. At home, when I am by myself I'll go without covering clothes. 3. B., I suppose. I don't really want anyone (especially family and close friends) to find out. If others in this community knew me, I'd be ok. with that. 4. A. I don't mess for a couple of reasons -- (a) difficult to be discrete and difficult to change, and ( time of day for BMs is usually before I leave the house. The easiest way to clean yourself after a messy diaper is in the shower, I've found. 5. B. I would say "always" but sometimes I feel like I have to hold back. A lot just depends upon my mood. 6 B. I try not to worry about it. Never tried odor control pills and I'm not sure if they'd work. I try to drink more clear water when in; the worst is coffee or asparagus. 7. Not sure. You'd have to ask them. I suppose I might have gotten funny looks, but I tend to not pay attention to others while wearing. It's really none of their business. 8. A. I don't want to get into conversations about them. I don't want to be known and I typically don't buy in public from the same source repeatedly. Anyway, I've discovered P.O. Boxes and mail order work just fine, thank you. 9. A and B. Depends upon my mood and whether I have a change with me. 10. All. Just depends upon what is available. I definitely prefer a single stall restroom (i.e, one where only one person can be in at a time). I don't typically go to the "Family" restrooms because that attracts more attention. In bigger restrooms I go for the handicapped stall. You don't feel like people are right on top of you and you have more room to put your bag, change, wipes, etc. 11. Mostly A. and C. See answer above. 12. A and C. I don't want to attract too much attention. That doesn't mean I don't wish I could be out someplace in just a diaper and t-shirt or a onesie, or a cute babyish outfit. While the fantasy is fine, I'm not sure I could live with the reality. I would do it where I could be comfortable, and I can't be comfortable with people staring at me who aren't a part of this community. 13. I do whatever I normally do. I've gone everywhere with them on. Again, a lot just depends upon my mood and whether I want to be bothered with having to keep a bag handy, change discreetly, etc. 14. A. Mostly. I used to be nervous, but not too much anymore. I've worn diapers under "street" clothes while visiting friends and such, so I've adjusted to the reality that generally nobody will notice if you don't flaunt it. 15. See answer to 1. I wear to work once in a while, but typically not all day because again, it's too difficult to change discreetly where I work. And I can't dispose in the office can without the staff knowing about it. 16. Definitely C and D. I generally have not worn in relatives' homes, at least not when they were there. I have worn at others houses, but only where I thought I could do so without being discovered. 17. I don't have a problem with people wearing, and with it showing. Except that it makes me a bit nervous that those close to me might discover I wear, too. Beyond that, I don't care, and wished nobody else cared, either. I wish the puritanism that STILL pervades the American society would die a final death, and we'd come to realize that if a person is gay, straight, transgender, have a particular fetish, or what have you, it really is harmless and that you should have no concern about it. If a person wants to wear baby clothes, so what? Who does it hurt, really? If a person wants to wear NO clothes, again, so long as that person isn't harming you, why should you care? Anyway, while I believe that, I live in the real world and know that there are a lot of haters out there, and protect myself accordingly.

I have had a good relationship with my wife for a number of years. That said, I've never told her about my diaper fetish, or my growing ab desires. I just haven't been able to work up the nerve. We've got 2 daughters, which complicates things. I wear around them, but always under clothing. It would be nice to not keep this secret from her (I hate keeping secrets), but the fear of negative consequences has always held me back. Which I suppose means I have nothing to offer, except to say that every one has to make choices in life. You'll ultimately need to decide for yourself what you think is more important to you...your relationship with THIS girl, or your ab/dl lifestyle. You could end it and hope for the best. But in doing so you could be alone for a long time, trying to find the elusive one who loves and supports you in your fetish. Good luck.

Wow. Sorry to hear the food caused so much turmoil. I'm in San Diego right now but will be back in the heat soon. Anyway, sorry it took so long to respond. Sometimes it's difficult for me to access the forum (privacy issues).

I haven't had any problem with the Bambinos tapes at all. Compare to the "cloth" backed diapers I've used, where the tape tends to come unstuck from the back of the diaper. And velcro, while nice for retaping, just doesn't seem to hold as well. That, or the "cloth" backed diapers must stretch over time. I say this because I invariably find myself "resetting" the tapes on those types. That said, I actually like the cloth-backed types, which are closer to modern baby diapers, and which are a lot cooler to wear and don't stick to the skin. To each his (or her) own, I suppose. From what I've seen, all diapers are about compromises of some sort. But, overall, I like the Bambinos. They're comfortable, the plastic is soft, and they hold a lot.

I'll try those. I tend to be sensitive right at the base of the "cheeks" -- typically I put some petrolatum product or zinc oxide (moisture protection). Last night I tried some lanolin cause I'm out of the others. With these diapers, I kind of agree with what others have said about switching to a larger, single tape per side nearer to the top of the diaper. These diapers do hold a lot and don't feel wet like others. Fit is pretty nice, too. Seems like there's always an adjustment period when trying new stuff. For the last couple of years I've mostly used the cheap Sam's Club (.33/per). Soft exterior and velcro-type tapes. Pretty comfortable, but not terribly absorbant.

I just got my first bambino classicos. I was surprised at how thick the landing area plastic was (it didn't look it in the photos). I'm not sure how 'realistic' that is (compared to baby diapers), but it certainly looks cute. Does anyone know if the Biancos have the same thick plastic landing area on the front? In some ways I like these and find them comfortable. Sitting down for instance, they don't seem to bunch up in the bottom and leave "hard" spots that feel like sitting on pepples (compared to some brands). But, I don't know if I'm just putting them on too tight, however it seems that they tend to pinch around the legs. Also, I get irritation in the rump area that I think is resulting from the leak guards. This is a chafing type issue cause it seems exaccerbated by walking. Anyone else have these problems? Most of the diapers I've used up to now have been the type with the soft outer covers (the "breathable") type. They seem to irritate less than the plastic backed ones. I'd love some feedback on what I'm doing wrong. Oh, BTW, I bought mediums and I have a 33/34" waste.

I think you should seriously consider moving out of the house. If the facts are as you describe them (which is not to say you aren't being truthful, but more that there are two sides to every story), you likely should have been removed from that home long ago. I assume finances are an issue for you. Do you have some other family member or friend you can live with, even short term? That might be better than staying in a bad situation. If the car is titled in your name, she should have no control over it. You are 19 and an adult (chronologically :-) ) -- no longer a minor. She shouldn't have the right to take the car away from you, unless there are exigent circumstances about which we are unaware. It sounds like a tough situation. I hope you can find a solution. The first thing you need to establish are boundaries. If she cannot abide them while you are living in her house, it seems to me that you should find another house.

I'm in Phoenix, too.

Let me start with an apology...this is an extremely long post. It's a bit of a catharsis to me to write it, though. My mother used to babysit (probably for extra cash) when I was around 5ish. I seem to recall that she babysat a girl who was within a year of my age (possibly older) who still wore diapers. Sometime around the same time (again, I was about 5), my mom threatened me that if I didn't remember to zip up my pants when I was done using the bathroom, she was going to put me in a diaper (I think her comment was "if you're going to act like a baby I will treat you like one"). Eventually, I forgot again and she did as she had threatened. I remember trying to fight her off when she was trying to change me into the diaper. I remember my younger sister helping her. I was embarassed, ashamed, humiliated, hot and crying. But, after the deed was done, I pretty much settled down and it didn't bother me anymore. Other than I was only allowed to wear the diaper. After an hour or so I think I asked to take them off and my mother told me that I couldn't. I don't think I ever wore disposables as a baby, simply because they weren't readily available back in the late 60s and early 70s and they were expensive and my folks were very young and poor when they had me. But, for this event, she put me in a disposable (I'm not sure where she got it). It was a strange feeling. Once I had it on I remember just basically playing and being a kid; but I also remember laying on my belly watching tv and patting my own butt and that strange disconnected feeling from the extra padding. And I had to stay in it the rest of the day until my Dad got home. He just gave me a look and told me to go change. A couple years later my parents divorced. Not long before that, I used to hear them arguing at night when I was in bed. I had a blue baby blanket that I was still attached to. One night I put that in my pants as a make shift diaper. My mom came in and found me like that and asked me why I did it (which of course, I said I didn't know). My mom remarried a year or so later and we moved a lot thereafter. I remember as a child laying in bed at night and wishing I were a girl instead of a boy. I also remember having these regression fantasies where I would end up forced into diapers and forced to dress in frilly girl dresses and that somehow I transformed into a girl (physically). Up until I was about 12 we used to spend summers on my grandmother's farm. We spent a lot of time with my cousins who lived down there. Once we stayed at my aunt's house and I learned that my cousin Brian still wore diapers at bed (enuresis). I was probably somewhere between 6 and 8, and he was a year younger than me. I remember wanting to sleep on the couch instead of the floor of the living room, and my mother or aunt or both said that I could if I wanted to wear a diaper (this was while they were changing my cousin into a diaper...he was on my aunt's bed in her bedroom at the time). I refused. I probably would have been o.k. with it but for the fact that the way they said it kind of made me feel ashamed. I didn't want to reveal that I actually LIKED diapers because I had been raised to think that diapers were only for babies... I also remember when I was 9 I was doing a Unicef fund raiser through my school. My best friend and I were going door to door collecting money. At one point I had to go, and we went to one last house, and as I started to ask the lady to use the restroom, I just couldn't hold it anymore and let go...I had to walk home in wet pants and underwear. My mom saw me when I got home. She was exasperated but only told me to go change. Nothing ever came of that (in terms of her making me wear diapers) though afterward I regretted that it hadn't. I also remember always being drawn to diapers. I could not have them in my head at all, but if I saw some (e.g., visiting a family member with a toddler), I was completely focused on them. From about 12-17, all of these thoughts and feelings seem to subside (or my energies were otherwise focused). The only diaper-related event I remember from that time was babysitting a child of a friend of my parents who was 5 or 6 and still wore diapers at night. He changed himself in front of my sister and I when we were trying to get him to bed. I remember thinking then it was odd that he would willingly put himself into diapers (while secretly wanting to do the same to myself). While these various memories are varied and don't involve me directly, each of them is etched into my brain and seems to be a part of the continuum giving rise to where I am today and why I am writing this now. My senior year of high school was particularly stressful and I started wanting to wear diapers again. During this time I had at least one "episode" where I put on old underwear, put on a trash bag, and peed. It was a very wonderful feeling. I continued to fantasize about diapers. Then while in college I worked at a medical clinic. One day some lady came by with her incontinent son (who was probably about my age) -- I think he was wheelchair bound and had developmental issues. One of the nurses gave the lady a bunch of hospital-grade disposable adult diapers. That was the first I knew of their existence. I ended up finding those in the clinic and taking several home and using them. That's probably where the obsession went "off the hook." During this period of time I met the girl who ultimately became my wife. Sex became more the interest than diapers then. But still, we had this "game" of a sort. We never talked about it, but we had a period were one or the other of us would be asleep or nearly asleep in bed, and the other would undress the "sleeping" one from street clothes and into night clothes. While this didn't involve diapers it did at some level involve a bit of age regression, in the sense of being cared for by someone else. That was a nice feeling and I miss those days... I continued to have periods of off and on desire. In the early to mid 90s I got married. My wife went out of town at one point and I bought my first pack of 8 depends (first time I ever bought diapers). Talk about a heart pounding moment. Within a year or so I bought a larger pack of Attends. Compared to the thin green depends, those were super nice. I loved those diapers-- they were much more babyish, thicker, WHITE, and comfortable. But I always had the fear of being discovered and the shame of doing something I thought I wasn't supposed to do. Eventually I got rid of most of them. Over the next several years I continued to have these "binge and purge" episodes. Another year or so went by and we got our first computer with internet access. I was fascinated by this new medium. I was doing a random search one night and came across the early personal pages and websites relating to infantilism and diaper fetishes (I'm pretty sure one of those was dpf). I learned the name to my obsession and learned that I was far from alone. That made me feel a LOT more comfortable about it. Since then I have gone through phases, but in the last year or so have started to have this pretty much constant need (psychological more than physiological) to wear them. As with everyone else, I have had phases...the sexual turn on phase, the comfort phase, the fears phase...now I seem to gravitate to them as a comfort and stress relief. Lately I've been obsessing on the idea of having someone else change me. There is a couple who live in town somewhere who have a website offering such a service. But, its pretty expensive, and I have a wife and kids who don't know about this, so I suspect that this will remain a fantasy. Meanwhile, I have also become more emboldened and more comfortable with myself as a diaper wearing adult (sometimes still wishing to be a baby)...to the point where I have to focus on paying attention to make sure that I don't leave diapers and related paraphenalia out where they can be discovered. Which I think brings me full circle to the defining moment (i.e., forgetting to do things I was supposed to be doing). Now, I wear during the day on those days where I feel I *need* it -- though I try not to wear at work. I wear at night and to bed because I just feel better with one on. And some weekends I will go all weekend wearing. And I will use them, too (though I only occasionally poop, usually in the early morning before anyone else is up and only if the urge happens to strike).

I would like to try some diapers that are only available on line. Problem is, I don't have a good place to have them delivered. If I have them sent to the house, I will get asked a lot of questions. If I have them sent to the office, not only do I get questions, but I run the possibility that the box will be opened -- BIG problem! I thought about getting a mailbox account, but I can't justify spending the $$$ for a box month after month when I only order once in a while. Plus, I don't really have the $$$ right now. What to do? Any suggestions? By the by, I live in Arizona. And I don't know any AB/DLs locally.

I've been buying these pretty much exclusively for the last 6 months. Here is my "review" (I apologize in advance for the length of this post): Tapes: I prefer tape up diapers to pull ups -- easier to change because you don't have to take off you pants. These have 2 tapes per side. Because they are cloth backed, they use velcro tapes. These work pretty well and are infinitely adjustable and reusable. Breaking -- I have had just one tape on each of two diapers break from the backing, over probably 180 diapers. Usually it happens at night, when I have put the diaper on pretty tight at the top. I probably tend to move around a lot at night, though. Thickness -- relatively thin, but then nearly everything you can buy over the counter is today. Leak/wetness value -- I have never tried some of the "super" diapers (Abena, Molicare) because I have yet to work out a shipping scenario that is comfortable to me. Believe it or not, sometimes buying in person is easier -- especially when you have convinced yourself that nobody else cares. Anyway, back when I was able to buy the Attends in 1997, they were by far thicker and more absorbent than anything else you could buy over the counter. Having said that, I bet the modern gel types, though thinner, are actually more absorbent. These will handle one or two wettings (I think I've gotten 3 or so out of the Depends pull-up types in the past). While perhaps not as absorbent in terms of volume as say, Depends overnights, they do tend to do better at leak protection. I think that these diapers have less of the gel and more of the older style pulp (which I tend to like). This means they absorb quickly (better able to handle flooding), but also means that as they fill you can feel the urine moving around. If you allow this to happen and can "spread the wetting" you can get a lot of mileage out of them. If you tend to wet in one spot continuously, they will leak after a while. I find that if I use overnight and wet while in bed, the wetness is concentrated in the middle. In that situation, if I sit in the diaper it will leak out a bit. In other words, while they might not leak simply because of volume, they WILL leak if you put pressure on the full parts. Also, I have had a couple of situations where the wetting managed to run up to the front while I was laying on my back, and then the wetting gets out from the aborbent material onto the sides, and will leak. Other issues/comments: Because these are cloth backed, they are pretty quiet and much cooler to wear. I find I cannot really wear the plastic backed under clothing. Also, because of the aformentioned issues relating to leaks and how it absorbs, you do tend to feel it when they are wet, which means that you really should use a diaper rash preventer when wearing, especially for extended periods of wetness. Also, as with the old Attends, the material in these diapers does break away and move around a bit on occasion (less than Attends used to -- that to my mind was the main flaw in the old Attends). Overall, these are a decent overnight diaper and can be used during the day if you are vigilant about changing when they get wet. I like them enough that I don't even bother looking at drug store brands or depends anymore. Plus, as others have said, how can you go wrong at $20/60 diapers (assuming you wear medium -- the large size only come 48 to a box).