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Greybird
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5 hours ago, oznl said:
Hope this works out well for you but if it hasn't metastasized anywhere else, things are strongly in your favour as I understand them.
This is something I've thought about though. Prostate cancer killed my grandfather (late diagnosis) and my father has it (earlier diagnosis but not much is being done about it for him since it's a race between the cancer and geriatric inevitability). Genetically therefore, it's on the cards and it has occurred to me that as I'm presently using nappies 24/7, I might not notice any onset.
Before going 24/7, I was experiencing escalating urgency but I think that was just down to a "mid 50s" thing. My GP runs a bunch of bloods including PSA annually. So far, PSA has been pretty quiet. My PSA even went DOWN at the last test and my GP was asking how I managed that (I didn't like to mention that I'd been 24/7 for a month when the blood was taken).
Any insights as to what we should be clued in for (for those of us who aren't using bladder control anyway)?
On a small upside, you are going to have a few months of clinically necessary nappies with no questions asked and hopefully, support. I hope the catheter doesn't annoy you. I've only ever had one for 2 days (and was bedridden for both of them) but it still drove me batty: the bladder spasms were relentless.
Thank you, Oznl, I had a close friend who died of it, and worse, he never had any symptoms at all. I'm sorry to hear about your father, but I am told many die with it, not because of it. If they suspect that that might happen they sometimes just give some hormone therapy which slows or stops the growth of the cancer.
Just monitor your own urgency and have the annual check, both PSA and DRE. Some doctors here are ambivalent about the PSA as they say it is unreliable, but it is a guide and a good starting point. I wish I had been more insistent. Your being in nappies 24/7 should not have any bearing on the PSA result (but I'm no expert). I have been 24/7 for a few years now for very similar reasons as you, but I have wifely approval, if non participatory. Now I can 'come out', to anyone that asks, perfectly honestly! If there is anything to look forward to it is that. The down side is inability of erections, but as long as libido is in tact, I shall venture into viagraland, not that wife is interested in sex.
could not agree more about catheters, hate the things, but it's only two weeks so I shall just have to put up with it!
Happy days
Greybird
4 hours ago, Dubious said:Need to get 40+ first, the time I have heard they get checked, and you could just check your self..
Explore your body often and you will notice differences
Dubious, I am not sure you can check yourself, back to anatomy classes for you! You are right about keeping an eye on any changes to your body though.
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7 hours ago, WetDad said:
Thank you Greybird
It's a pleasure wetdad.
7 hours ago, AbabeBill said:It good advice, and I’m so terrible at going through with it.
I wish you all the best Greaybird, hope you have a uneventful, speedy recovery. And on the light note, enjoy the diapers!Thanks, AbabeBill, i shall indeed enjoy the nappies, legitimately!
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I have posted this on FL but I thought I would start a thread here as it is just as relevant.
Well, now I have a conundrum. I wet the bed as a child until I was 12 then less frequently after that. A confirmed ABDL at probably 10/11 years old and going through all those years of denial and acceptance ending in my going 24/7 in nappies 4 or 5 years ago. I am now 70. I wet when I feel like it and whilst I i born with a small bladder, I still have the same one and it has remained small! The consequence is that I wee often. I do have control but only as much as my small bladder will allow. I wear my terry nappies and plastic pants almost all the time, only wearing disposables when I cannot hide the terries easily.
My problem now is that weeing often is also one of the symptoms of prostate problems, especially at my age. So, yes, you guessed it, I have been diagnosed with prostate cancer and am going to have it removed in a week’s time. It has been caught in time in that it is ‘contained’, ie. not spread to bones etc, so that is good. I am not looking forward to the operation. Catheter for two weeks followed by six weeks of rest and recuperation. Anyway I am not complaining, it could be a lot worse, I have a close friend who died of it.
The conundrum is of course I shall be in compulsory nappies (the medics politely call them ‘pads’!) for up to six months or maybe longer. At least I can carry my nappy bag around as everyone will know why and hopefully I'll enjoy them as much! The surgeon was very surprised when I told him I was not worried about being incontinent. How do you explain that one!!!!
So the message is for all of us ‘older’ ABs or DLs please go and get your PSA checked and maybe even a DRE as well. Happy days.
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On 9/15/2019 at 7:39 AM, littleTomás said:
Ending the repression of my little side and working on self-acceptance has hands down made me happier. I was so stressed and just downright miserable for many years trying to make my little side go away, but when I decided to accept my little side, I became much happier. Now I'd say I'm a pretty happy person. I do get stressed at times, but regression puts everything back into perspective and helps me think creatively.
This is how I felt for over 40 years. I wish I had acted on it much earlier. I am now 70 and have allowed myself to wear nappies for the last five years, and I am much more contented. Maybe it is the age we live in that is more accepting of 'alternative' lifestyles than it was when I was 20. I have always been a happy person but with a little something missing. Now it is not.
On 9/16/2019 at 9:41 AM, Stroller said:A lot happier. A lot more relaxed. I used to get into all sorts of displacement activities (If that's the right term). Extreme rock-climbing and running, for instance. I'm pretty sure I went that way because I was an AB and had to throw myself into other things to distract myself. That was actually very good for me when I was younger. I was very fit and learned to address my fears and how to survive in difficult situations. But I'm getting a bit old for that now, as my body is starting to need more looking after. And now I'm able to be an AB a lot more, and wear nappies every day, I don't feel the need to push myself to the limits any more. I still get plenty of exercise, but that drive to push myself to the absolute edge seems to have gone now. I loved it, but I don't miss it. It's amazing what a nice thick nappy and a big dummy can do - who needs meditation? ?
i never went for the rock climbing, but have always been an active 'outside' sort. As you say, Stroller, I have to look after my body more now. I have just been told I have prostate cancer so that focuses the mind even more. On the positive side I told the surgeon that I would be fine with the incontinence part as I have always wet the bed and nappies are fine, you should have seen his face, he was very surprised!
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You'll need one of those things called a camera. A phone is a thing for having a conversation on. Sorry, but I was a photographer in a previous time and whilst phone cameras have made it easy to take 'snaps', I'm not convinced of their ability to take (photographer controlled) pictures.
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Cloth nappy and plastic pants which were very wet, so I wore them into the shower where they get rinsed with yesterday's nappies. Shaved the boy bits and then dressed in nappy, plastic pants, shorts and t-shirt as a boy should be ... went to work after breakfast!
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On 8/27/2019 at 10:47 PM, ppdude said:
To be/appear redundant, because it is, sleeping in a wet diaper is no problem BUT my pee stinks bad -- like rotten cabbage and skunk mixed together. YUK! I envy those who's pee smells like pee. Oh, how I miss the smell of ammonia in the morning!
I have that problem also, do you know what can be done about it. I might ask the continence people/nurse. Asparagus makes wee smell dreadful so I know to avoid it or smell the consequences. I think I wee as soon as I drop off to sleep so my wet nappy has many hours to get smelly, I also wee small amounts all night.
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I travel to Auckland from London every year and have had the metal detector used every trip, I have a metal hip and knee, so added to the metal 'wand' I often get 'felt' up to my crotch. I know that they know but nothing is ever said. I do one nappy to HK and one to Auckland which lasts until I get home. I suppose that now iI have reached the great age of 70 I shall just be seen as another invisible geriatric in a nappy! Yes but what about the 'teddy bear' stickers on that nappy, they missed those!
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I was taken out of nappies at 3 and just had a plastic sheet and a flannelette sheet on my bed. I had to learn to sleep in a very wet bed, but I did not like it. My mother thought that being wet would be so unpleasant that I would stop the wetting, not a chance! At boarding school I had the red rubber sheet on my bed after the first night of wetting, it stayed there until I left at 17. I don't think I ever found it different from the plastic sheet, which was a 'Henley', just like yours, Stevewet. I do remember that it never stayed in place and the mattress used to get very wet and smelly, never used to worry me though. I was hooked on nappies from about 8 or 9 anyway
i had so many 'investigations' at numerous doctors/specialists/hospitals that I preferred to be a bedwetter thereafter and stop worrying about it.
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I have a woodwork shop, but only me in it! I do work in a yard which has a builder and a car painter in it. I know the builder, who is also my landlord (and a good friend) has seen my nappies. I wear my home made terry nappies and plastic pants, usually I have to change around lunch time which I do by tucking into a corner of my room behind the bandsaw! I always wear shorts, or dungarees if it is cold, it's the child in me that resolutely refuses to leave! But they do hide my nappy, I just look a bit more bulky. Do I worry about it? Not at all!
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I never completely left my childhood behind. Simple times, simple pleasures and you don't have to stop what you are doing to go to the toilet!
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For me 6/7 was perfect. I was a bedwetter until I was 12 with not a single dry night. At 6 though I got a bicycle and in the 1950s I would spend every hour possible riding around my local park in central London. I was perfectly happy with my own company and a few fantasy friends, the only instruction was "don't accept sweets ('candy' to our American friends) from strangers". Toy cars in my pocket and a biscuit or two. Simple pleasures, simpler times, post war London was a good place to be for a boy.
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I, almost always, wear Suprima plastic pants that I get from https://www.saveexpress.de/ in Germany. There, that is the advertising done. No, I don't have any affiliation! But they have good stock and deliver quickly, albeit they are a bit expensive. The plain 1205 pants are good and the size increments means that you can get a good fit. I also have 1312 pants for day wear. I tried the Gary pants but find the thigh fitting a bit tight, although the quality of the plastic is really good. I might buy one of the Gary plastic sheets for the bed, they look really nice! As for a nappy, I get a roll of 550gsm terry and make my own, super comfy, super thirsty and last a while.
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The word 'nappy' does it for me!
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As a child, the pressure on trying to stay dry was huge, but the need to be wet was even bigger! I was attracted to nappies and plastic pants from about 4 or 5, but I knew it was not the norm. Wether it is just the childishness of nappies or the plastic pants rubbing on the insides of the thighs, the smell, wet or dry, not forgetting the act of changing a wet nappy, it is all lovely. I have almost always worn nappies at night as I have almost always wet the bed, but I did not go 24/7 until about 4 years ago, that makes over 45 years of torment when all I wanted was to be in my rightful place, in nappies 24/7.
The night time incontinence has been followed by daytime urgency, I think my bladder only holds 250mls! But now I just let go and enjoy the wee filling my thirsty nappy. Enjoying my incontinence ... sure do.
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I bedwet every night until I was 12. My parents took me out of nappies at about three years old, I think they were of the opinion that I would 'get over it' quicker if I were uncomfortable, no chance. I hated the wetting and asked my mother for nappies when I was 10, that got a flat 'no'. At boarding school I wet, but less frequently, but always had the red rubber sheet on the bed. They eventually put me in a dormitory with five other night wetters. I don't remember ever being teased for it though. After school, which I hated as I am very dyslexic, a term not even known then, the bed wetting returned. I also recognised the abdl side of my personality.
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Lynn Truss wrote a book called 'Eats shoots and leaves' a few years back. It was a best seller and explained punctuation and grammar excellently.
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I have humiliation fantasies. I love the idea of being caught in nappies and babyish ones at that. Being discovered as a bedwetter with a crinkly plastic sheet on my bed and ridiculed. I actually have been caught by my cleaner on more than one occasion, hand more than one cleaner) that fuelled my fantasy that I relive over and over. I also have nanny/little boy fantasy with lots of dressing up, all boy though.
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Terry cloth nappy works for me (and has done for over 25 years). I make my own shaped nappies with two layers of terry and a layer of brushed cotton. Then for night time I add a soaker of two more layers of terry. Then Suprima plastic pants over the top and I rarely get leaks. Terry fabric comes in different thicknesses. The best I have found is 550 gram, very thirsty, soft and comfortable. Then take a look at Saveexpress a company in Germany with a great range of inco/abdl stuff. I have also reverted to my childhood flannelette sheets, if you do leak they are more absorbent and still comfortable when wet.
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I grew up as a bedwetter, but I am also dyslexic, which was little known about back then, so grew up with a very low opinion of myself. My father was a bedwetter but did little to help me. I was taken out of nappies at about three years old and just had to suffer the clod wet nights and the crinkly plastic sheet. At 12 they sent me to boarding school a hundred miles away where the wetting slowed to once a week, roughly. My bed always had the red rubber sheet on it but I don't remember ever being humiliated or laughed at.
After school the wetting continued but by then I was a confirmed AB 50% and DL 50%. That has been tougher to live with than anything, but after more than 50 years of berating myself about it I now accept that it is a part of who I am and I try to make use of it. In essence I have a more 'youthful' outlook than many people of my age. So now I enjoy my nappies 24/7 and have gone from night wetting to wetting whenever I like.
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I keep my bedwetting fairly discrete. However, some friends did see my nappies and plastic pants hanging on the line when they arrived unexpectedly! No questions were ever asked though. I think other friends suspect that I am padded and if asked I would not mind talking about it. As rubbersheetmike said these products are now so commonplace it has become much less embarrasing.
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The fact is that English is a beautiful language. One can make it more interesting by learning the rules both of grammar and spelling, but also the usage of a correct or different word. One can hold the readers attention, or convey a more complete picture of a situation through our language.
I absolutely agree with Rusty Pins and Alex in that there are obvious mistakes that either change the meaning of a sentence, or make no sense at all. Although, if I may just pick you up with one correction, with apologies, you use 'different', and it should read 'differently', well, I did go to an English public school! My pet peeves are 'your' and 'you're', also 'different to ...' no, no ,no, 'different from' and similar to'. This is an instance where, like driving and many other things in life, learn the rules (yes, even the historic ones) and they will become subliminal in ones writing.
The biggest peeve, however, is that people don't read what they have written before posting it. Similarly, how many times have you written an email to discover that the recipient has only read the first line? Grrrrrr
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And then I realised I’d put it on inside-out…
Ha, laughed myself silly, it's a 'right of passage' in other words been there done that!actually I quite like pull-ups. I am away on a driving holiday in Europe at the moment. Normally I like to wear my terries, but without the washing facilities (I did get the hotel to wash a couple of them on one trip years ago but .... ) it is down to disposables.The day-wear is one pull-up in the morning and one for pm. The boot of the car has a large bag to manage the leaky anatomy, namely three packs Tena pull-ups (super absorbent ones) plus enough Abena M3s for the nights. Plastic pants to go over the nappies and a plastic sheet for the bed although it has been so hot that I have not used it yet (and not needed it) finish off with baby powder and nappy lotion.I do love the fact that one can buy disposables at most pharmacies in Europe, the UK is catching on but very slowly.I do appreciate that you cannot carry that lot around business meetings though.Thank you OZNL it is a very insightful thread that I'm sure many of us can identify with, not to mention entertaining! -
12 hours ago, Stroller said:
We've had lovely weather the last couple of days. For the first time this year, yesterday I walked Binkie (my doggie) in just my onesie and cargo shorts and a straw hat. I remember the first time I dared to do this, only a year ago, and feeling pretty nervous about it. Before that I'd always had a jacket of some sort over the top, feeling pretty self-conscious about being in a nappy. This year, everything's so different. Even though I'm now in cloth nappies, I'm not worried about anyone noticing anything. They just don't. And even if someone did suspect, I'm not really bothered. It's amazing what finding the right clothes can do for your confidence: to all the world I look like I'm in a T-shirt and shorts. Actually by the time I got home again yesterday I was pretty wet and needed a change.
Anyway it's another great day today, and I think maybe we'll walk to the pub for a sandwich and a couple of pints.
I’m very impressed that your nappy will hold two pints, even with a sandwich!
i too was out in a baggy pair of shorts, cloth nappy and plastic pants and just a t-shirt, it’s my daily attire! I love the UK summer.
Look after your prostate
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Hi Stroller, you need to get it checked again. Apparently it does grow slowly but ....
I had prostatitis a few years ago with retention, dreadful!!! I feel sorry for your father, my brother-in-law had his prostate out and has wetting problems such that he almost will not leave the house! I shall not be like that!
Thank you for your good wishes, much appreciated.
Hi Stevewet, have it done regularly, it was my mistake not to have a PSA done every year, sometimes the NHS need a push.