depends4me

Well, if those bathrooms are empty anyway...?

A little off-topic, but I've wanted a reason to share this story. In August 2004, John Kerry appeared at a rally at the Capitol building in Harrisburg, PA. It was extremely hot and humid, and I knew I wouldn't be able to stand in a crowd for hours at a time without needing to pee. But on the other hand, I didn't want to lose my spot OR wear a diaper that I knew would quickly get sweaty and uncomfortable. What to do? Well, I brought a Tena Super with me (cloth-covered and thick), thinking I might change into it later, but once I parked at a garage, the diaper stayed in the car. After several hours of snaking through lines, I finally file into an open area at the back of the Capitol, jammed together with thousands of other people, and get a pretty good spot at the fence...given that I was nowhere near the head of the line and wasn't a VIP. A short time later, the bladder contractions start. It's starting to get dark, and everyone is so close together that no one would have the perspective to notice...so I just pee my pants. There's a short odor of pee, which quickly vanishes. The rally ends and I start walking to my car, with the crowd all around me...so I'm self conscious about checking myself. When I finally get the chance...I'm totally dry. Loved the heat after all!

Several years ago I was standing in the returns lane at Home Depot, wearing an Attends under my jeans, which gave my rear that "no butt crack" look. A college-aged girl got in line behind me, and maybe 2 minutes later I hear her chuckling loudly about something. Had she noticed my bulge? I pretended that I didn't hear her, but secretly got a little rush from the possibility. But I generally agree. People just don't expect that kind of thing. I try to go "diaper spotting" when I'm in a public place, but it's been a long time since I've had an unmistakable sighting.

I've never tried Goodnites, but have you tried normal, adult pull-ups? Either Depends, or a generic discount store or pharmacy brand? The waist always sits high, but I just fold it down about 2 inches and wear a regular pair of briefs/boxer briefs over top. They're still not good for night wear, and the absorbency could be better, but as we're comparing them to Goodnites and Depends, they might just solve your problem.

Friends...not yet. But I just told my sister yesterday, who is the first non AB/DL person (ie. the first person I didn't meet on the Internet) to know. I'd been gearing up for this for a few months, to introduce some people to the idea of me and diapers in case I do choose to go 24/7. I occasionally go to Philadelphia to visit her, and we tend to walk around downtown, go sightseeing, go shopping, etc. On two previous visits, my bladder felt like it was close to bursting...very, very uncomfortable...with no public toilet in sight. On one of those occasions I happened to be wearing a Depends Guard, which helped, but I didn't want half measures this time. I'd wet myself in a record store, and worked up the nerve to tell her just about everything on the walk back. She knew I had an underwear fetish, so this was a kind of extension. Then I mentioned the previous visits, assured her that if there was a medical side, it was entirely self-induced...and that I was wet. She said she's known much kinkier people, much stranger people, and was okay with it. Shortly after we got back to her apartment, I changed, and we both visited her apartment building's trash room, where I disposed of my diaper, wrapped in a small shopping bag. It is a huge relief having someone I don't have to hide around! Lately I've slacked off from wearing "everywhere outside the office", but still do wear a lot. I don't plan to tell anyone else for a while, unless I'm wearing and a social situation calls for it, but my confidence level just got a huge boost!

Hey, don't beat the guy up over being a little late. I didn't buy my first adult diapers until I was 29. I'd occasionally made homemade diapers back when I was in high school and college, but then put it out my head until a week of vacation when I was 29...I lived at home until ~age 27. Some people are better at putting their desires off than others, or maybe have a stronger sense of inertia. I'd even worked at a retail store, Depends aisle and all, and just never put 2+2 together. SNUGGIES: I just read a couple of your other recent posts. You know, if you posted your location, you might just find some local AB or DL friends. Hey, if you're anywhere near south-central PA, I'll buy you a beer! Hang in there, dude! NZDIAPERS: glad you're on board. What everybody says about wetting in bed is true. Ease into it. Pee standing next to the bed, gradually introducing your body to peeing while laying down. You'll have some tired mornings, but it does get easier. I find it helps to take a deep breath and relax my lower abdomen area while exhaling. After 4-6 months, I was even having some night accidents after drinking a glass of water before bed. (You may not want to go that far.) At first I'd wake up totally after a bladder contraction, but as I got used to it, didn't need to be so lucid to let it go. Good luck!

Hi James, Welcome to the site! This is the most active, open AB/DL community I'm aware of (for English speakers, at least), so you've come to the right place. Jump into some discussions, and I'm sure you'll fit right in. Enjoy!

A poor choice of words, or is Reuters having fun? Reuters article

<ducking> But if you chose to carry a purse, nobody would give it a second look...generally, unlike a guy carrying a duffel bag into a public bathroom.</ducking>

I think he's just saying that if you need to change when you're out, women have an obvious place to stash their supplies. For guys, it's more awkward carrying a backpack, duffel bag, diaper bag, etc. with you everywhere, and then into the restroom. That's a valid argument, but an overall small piece of the pie. I don't wear enough that I've ever been at a friend's house and needed to change myself in their bathroom, but in that case, having a spare diaper and some wipes in a purse would certainly be more discrete.

Hi, welcome to the board! Well, the logic is that diapers are better than a wet bed, and if you can have a little fun with it, too, then all the better! To join the chat, you need to be a "verified" member...and under the current system, I believe that involves donating at least $1 to the site. Surf around the site, and you'll figure it out. FYI, I have a number of Internet acquaintances (non AB/DL) in Europe, including some in Sweden, Norway, and Finland...and I've found Scandinavians to be some of the friendliest people I've met. Hopefully I'll visit up your way some day. Enjoy the site!

Welcome to the board...from south-central PA. If you're looking for the most absorbent diaper out there, you can't do much better than the Abena X-Plus, Secure X-Plus, or Bambino's. But if you want something that's also discrete, adding a booster like Depends Boost or a trimmed-down baby diaper to a Depends or a generic brand diaper could also what you need. You may need to do some experimentation to see what works best. Enjoy!

I don't have much more to add, but yeah, I've gone through this, too. Not "purge" as in I throw out my diapers and supplies, but "purge" as in real life intruding too much into the rest of my world, so much that it forces diapers out. I'm a creature of habit, and when I'm in the habit, putting on a diaper before bed (or whenever) is as normal and routine as brushing my teeth. But when something causes me to break the habit, even for just a day or two, that may be enough to get this fetish out of my head for anywhere from a few months to a year. I still think about it, but choose to not expend the energy overcoming inertia. Like everybody else said, though, eventually the urge becomes too overwhelming. Depending on how much money you have invested, you'd be dumb to throw all your stuff away. BTW, depressing music and hacking and diapers (toss in a binge of DVD purchases) pretty much describes my life today...so it can be done!

Welcome to the site! Everybody is nervous at first...I must have stopped at 8 pharmacies before I got the nerve to buy my first pack of diapers! But it wears off after while. If you're just starting, then anything will do. Depends or a store brand are the easiest to get. I like the Wal-Mart Assurance diapers , especially with a Depends Boost. I posted recently that the most discrete retail experience anybody's likely to find is shopping at Wal-Mart at 7 or 8am on weekday morning and using the automated checkouts. Let us know how it turns out!

Can you use it in a sentence?

I use Depends Boosts during the day (if I need a booster) and the Diaper Doublers from Babies R' Us at night. The Diaper Doublers are cheaper, but the Boosts put the protection right under my butt, where I'm most likely to leak when I'm up and about.

And I had you pegged for a Sauroposeidon! Welcome to the site!

Welcome to the site! It does take a while to get comfortable with this fetish, but once it's in your blood, it's hard to shake. For better or worse, I've always had a knack for being able to put things off. I lived at home until I was 27, and didn't buy my first adult diapers until two years later. I've made up for lost time and then some, but hopefully it won't take you so long. Take part in some discussions, or post some questions, and hopefully you'll find the nervousness wearing off.

I've been buying diapers for over 10 years, but tended towards the cheaper brands until recently. My first encounter with the "double tape/landing zone" system was nearly that long ago when I tried a sample of Tranquility ATN's. I assumed Tranquility was somewhat behind the times. I finally tried some Molicare and Abena's just recently, and was surprised these also use "double tapes". My question is, why is this considered a better system than what you find on Depends, Attends, older Tena, and most store brands? These tapes are only refastenable if you manage to stick the landing zone in basically the right spot on the first try...and maybe not even then. Otherwise I find myself reaching for the duct tape. (Although I've read posts about these tapes sometimes coming off, too.) I realize that after a few changes, you basically know where the tapes will go...but would anyone prefer that Molicare, Abena, etc., switch to the Depends/Attends tapes? Why or why not? A slightly unrelated remark: I bought my first case of Tena Ultra's roughly a month ago. These have the cloth-like cover and velcro tapes. I had my doubts at first, but the velcro tapes are really nice. They don't come off, and (within the typical 4-7 hour lifespan of one of my diapers) are infinitely refastenable. Thanks for your comments!

They're still plastic. I just bought a bag last night. Wal-Mart's done away with the two middle tapes (and dropped the price at least 50 cents?), but otherwise they should still be what you remember.

Hi Chris, Welcome to the DD board! I hope you make lots of new friends! So where are you in the UK? I don't do the IM thing very often, but perhaps I'll see you in the Live Chat here some evening? I'm been wearing the US Tena Ultra's lately. I'm not sure they're better or worse than the very popular European Tena's, but they are certainly different...probably worse.

Yeah, ditto from me. Aria: Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry your first post elicited that kind of response. Most everybody here is very nice, so I hope you'll stick around and enjoy the company. DiaperedLife: do a DD board search for "T-Girl" and you'll put 2+2 together.

I've switched to these as well, at least for now. I used to wear Wal-Mart's Assurance pull-ups during the day, but they recently changed the design. They added leak guards, but the fit is different, and the padding might be a bit thinner, too. The package still reads Small/Medium, but the old design was cut smaller. (I have a 32" waist, so your results may vary.) The new design is cut bigger, so the fit is worse, and it somehow relies too much on the leak guards now. For me they tend to collapse with heavy wear, which has actually created more leaks. The K-Mart brand may also have a little less padding than the Wal-Mart variety, but the fit is right and the price is nearly the same. So for now, my underwear is American Fare!

I don't recall any issues when I was young. Honestly. On the other hand, I did wet the bed once when I was 17, and again about 6 years ago. In the first case, I have no idea why. Woke up soaked at 4 am and at first thought it was raining and the roof had leaked! More recently I was really tired and went to bed around 9 pm. I'd been out exercising and was actually wearing a Depends male guard. Fell asleep on my stomach and woke up wet at 2 am. The guard was soaked but my jeans and bed were just damp. I actually remember waking for half a second, thinking, "what is this uncomfortable feeling?" and "ah, I know how to relieve it" and then immediately going back to sleep. This was a year or more before I started "untraining", so it was a complete (but pleasant) surprise.

FWIW, I've found that buying diapers at Wal-Mart early on a weekday morning (ie. 8 am) is about the most discrete experience you're likely to have in a store. There are no crowds, and most (all ?) Wal-Marts have those self checkout lines, and they'll be active unlike late at night. Grab a handheld shopping basket, place diapers in basket, use the self checkout, transfer diapers to shopping bag, and you're done. Not that I don't also stock up on busy Saturday afternoons....but the difference is striking. Zipo, you say you don't have a license. Is there a local pharmacy you can walk to? Unless you're completely in the sticks, there must be something. The first time I bought diapers, I must have stopped at 8 pharmacies before I worked up the nerve to make a purchase. But it's true what everybody says: the cashiers don't care. You may find yourself blushing or stammering, but that's a personal reaction that will take time to get over. Think about something completely different and boring when you're the checkout line. Write a fake shopping list for when you're in the diaper aisle, if that gives you extra confidence. You'll be fine. Will you enjoy it? You'll have to answer that yourself, but as you've started two threads on this, so I think you owe it to yourself to give it a try. At the very least, think of it as getting this obsession out of your system. And report back, whatever happens. Good luck!