Mr. Sea Otter

Wow, quite a thread here. I know it is like super old, but going all the way back to the original post.... Yea, I do sometimes worry about my impact from wearing diapers. Not that I think my individual actions are particularly large, but I believe that every bit of good helps so I do what I can. There isn't much I can do related to diapers, I'm just not willing to give them up. But I try not to waste diapers, and I take actions in other ways to help off set it. 1 - I drive a car that gets over 50 mpg 2 - Every light bulb in my house is energy efficient 3 - I try to buy energy efficient appliances (particularly happy with my tankless hot water heater) 4 - I compost (I do not compost my diapers though... thats a bit much) 5 - I reduce, reuse and recycle 6 - I try to buy organic to the extent possible / practical 7 - I take public transportation (buses and the metro) to get to and from work 8 - I turn off lights, and keep my house cold in the winter and hot in the summer I'm sure there are a few other things I could think of too, but I think those are some really basic ideas that everyone can be happy with. Even if you think climate change is a bunch of crap, some of the ideas above will SAVE YOU MONEY in the long run. So if nothing else, do it for that reason. I'm not interested in jumping head first into the climate change debate with folks here. If you are convinced that 'green' is the new nazism, or that climate change science is some kind of conspiracy to make you buy things, well, I'll just say I respectfully, but totally, disagree with you. But have a nice day, ok? If you don't feel that way, hey neither do I. I believe climate change is happening, and I believe we (humans) are largely responsible for it. I also believe that the overwhelming bulk of the scientific evidence on this subject supports my view.

I went a good year or so of 24/7 and never felt like I lost any control. I didn't mess, but I used them all the time for wetting. I was never able to wet the bed while sleeping or anything either. It certainly did get a lot easier to use them after a time, and I did find that the time between feeling like I was going to pee and actually peeing got quite short (seconds not minutes). But I never wasn't able to not pee if I wanted to. This was all years ago. These days I am 24/7 probably 90% of the time (or more), but I don't use my diapers at will and often use the toilet for peeing. But I did finally learn to wet the bed. It doesn't happen often, and it has never happened unless I was wearing a diaper and wanting to do it. But a few times a month I will wake up wet with no memory of it happening at all. I would agree that using diapers for everything is not convenient at all. I just have no interest in changing a messy diaper in pubic. And while I do enjoy wearing 24/7 and am totally comfortable doing it around any and everyone (discreetly, I don't flaunt it and 99.99% of people have no idea), I have no interest in becoming incon.

I was the guy who had two cases of defective diapers. They all had the same leaks that folks are describing. And after having gone through all the hassle of dealing with them I'll just say this. I still plan to buy Bambino diapers! Both defective cases are being replaced, at no cost to me. I feel I just got unlucky, and I was taken care of as a result. I also have bought dozens of cases of Bambinos and 99% of the diapers have been fine. These diapers are made in China, at really high speeds, so it's not too hard to make a few hundred bad diapers. I don't blame the company for having a few defective products in a mass production situation. If they didn't take care of the problem, I would feel differently for sure. I do agree however that we should be able to talk about issues and state concerns and complaints. I have no doubt that somebody from Bambino reads this forum, and this thread in particular. I posted my issue to make sure they were aware of the problem and did something to address it. And they have.

I was really hesitant to even post this given recent talks, but I am going to do it anyway. I'm a big Bambino fan and have been buying their diapers by the case for pretty much as long as they have been out. I usually buy a case every month. Unfortunately, the last case I got had the same issue that somebody else mentioned.... small pin sized holes in the plastic backing that caused the diapers to leak. The entire case was effected. Bambino, like a good company replaced the entire case and even rushed the shipment to me. But the replacement case they sent me has the same problem. I'm not giving up on the company and I would recommend their diapers to anyone. But in this case they did have a batch of bad product. I'm hoping the situation will get resolved. To cope I have been using tape to cover up the holes, but it takes time to do this and I feel that I shouldn't have to repair defective diapers!

I have now had a chance to try these a few more times. Some additional thoughts... Yes, it is true that they do not have the same absorbency as Bambinos or Secure X-plus, which are the other two diapers that I normally use. So if you are really incon, or want to only wear 1 diaper all day and plan on wetting, then they are not for you. Having said that, they are more absorbent than I think some folks are giving them credit for. They certainly didn't leak on me after I flooded them. I would be worried about trying to get two floods though. But you can wear and wet these diapers without fear. You just need to change them after they are wet. I am still surprised at how well the single tape works. I have used a few of these now and can really get a good, snug fit. And the tape holds well. As I said before, I think these are the cutest diapers I have ever worn by far. On the flip side though, my girlfriend disagrees with me. She says they "look like pull ups" and thinks that Bambinos are better. She is far from an expert on these matters, she had never heard of ABs or DLs until we met, but its interesting to hear the opinion of an "outsider".

I just got a package the other day and am giving them a try. First impression: Yea, its the cutest diaper I have ever worn, hands down. I was really skeptical of the single tape thing, but it seems to be working out ok so far to my surprise. Any time I am trying a new diaper out, it takes me at least 3 diapers before I get used to putting it on. So here I am on my second and I feel like I actually got the thing to fit pretty well. The diaper fits snuggly, even around my legs, which is where I would think the single tape would be most problematic. It feels pretty comfortable. I was also surprised at how thick it was. I was expecting it to be pretty thin, as all the other ABU diapers I have tried seemed that way to me. Its not really really thick, I feel Bambino's have more bulk to them, but its better than I was expecting. It doesn't have an elastic waist band, which I normally like. It does seem to be a bit louder than what I normally wear (Bambino's) which is fine by me. Not a lot louder by any stretch, but I sometimes find that most diapers are nearly silent, and so far this one doesn't seem to be. Then again, I'm not wearing jeans over it... (PJs). No comments on absorbency or leaks as I haven't really crossed that bridge yet. I'll update later after some more use.

Agreed 100% Its not about how much you have, its about what you do with what you've got.

I don't know one way or the other. I am really close to one neighbor though, and I have them come over and house sit for me when I am out of town. They have seen me in footed pajamas, and I know they have brought in cases of diapers when I was out of town too. One time when they were house sitting they couldn't find one of my cats (turned out he got outside) and they looked all over the house. Well, all over probably included my closet where I keep all my diapers. But they certainly never said anything about it, so I am not sure. If I had to guess I think they don't actually know.

Thanks for all the tips. I left out a few details for the sake of keeping things simple, but there were some good tips in there. I will let folks know how things go. We both went home for Christmas, but she is on her way over now and we are looking forward to seeing each other after a while apart. :-)

Eh, I've had my share of ups and downs as far as diapers and relationships go.... I wouldn't call myself lucky exactly, but that is a topic for a different thread. How do I make the whole diapering me thing less serious and more lighthearted? I'm looking for laughter and smiles not stress.... I think part of the issue is that I am like AuntieAB to some extent and she is worried about doing it right so much she can't have any fun because she is too worried.

So, my girlfriend is totally aware of and accepting about the whole diaper thing. We have talked about it a lot and she is willing to diaper me if I ask for it. The problem right now is that she is really worried about "doing it right". She has watched me diaper myself enough to see that I am particular about the whole thing... although I think I just like to make sure it fits right. She is concerned to the point of being uncomfortable about doing it, not because she "doesn't want to" but because she is worried she won't do it right (I'm talking about putting the dipaer on right, and getting a good fit.) I've tried talking to her and explaining that its just going to take some practice and she understands that. But she still gets nervous. More over, I have a hard time giving her pointers and suggestions without her getting upset that she isn't doing it right, or getting frustrated about not being better at it. So, I am looking for a couple of things: 1: Some basic diapering suggestions. I know how to put on a diaper for myself, but I am much MUCH less familiar with diapering another person. Any tips for beginners that might help her? 2: Any ideas on how to get her to lighten up about the whole thing? Her concern has nothing to do with diapers... its about not doing a good job. She is really bad at taking constructive criticism, so it hard for me too. I want it to be a fun or funny thing, not something she is stressed out about. But she also needs to learn to do it right. The last one would have fallen off if I hadn't fixed it. Thanks for any ideas folks. And for the record, this isn't something I want her to do all the time, or even very often (which is why she has little experience with it). I don't think she has even tried to diaper me more than 5 times. I am happy to just change myself and take care of it. Its more of a treat thing than a regular thing.

That's really just pathetic. I hope the OP get his head screwed on straight someday.

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A couple of thoughts. People are confusing what a career in politics can mean. Its one thing to run for office, its another thing to work as a congressional staffer on the hill. I know lots of hill staff, but much less elected officials (although I do know a few). I would be willing to do one of those jobs, not the other (guess which one). If you want to run for office, well, good luck. I will say that I promise you there are plenty of elected officials who have bigger and worse things to hide than being into diapers and age based role play. Having said that though, yea, it is something that could crush a political career. As a hill staffer, or a staffer for any elected official however, you don't need to really worry as much about something like that. Especially as a junior staffer or an intern. People in the United States have a constitutional right to privacy! That includes you. So as long as you are discreet and use basic common sense about it, nobody is going to know or care. Some basics rule of thumb: Don't tell anybody you work with about it. Its none of their business, and honestly they really don't want to know about it. Never, ever go to an AB/DL website (including this site) on a government computer. Don't be an imbecile or in any way shape or form bring shame onto the official you are working for. All this means is don't show up in nothing but a diaper to some public event and say you work for so and so. Other than that, you really don't have much to worry about. Remember, there is nothing illegal or immoral about wearing diapers. Its weird and all, but really that's about it. And trust me, DC, including the hill, is FULL of weird!

I either work in a very different environment, or I have a different outlook on things than a lot of the previous posters. I wear to work regularly and think nothing of it. Wearing for me isn't totally sexual, its as much for comfort as anything else. I also don't use my diapers at work, so I don't need to worry about changing, although I have done that more than a few times as well. I work in an office environment probably similar to Angela.... people wear suits and ties and are all professionals. First of all, I am not worried about somebody discovering that I am wearing a diaper. I don't see how it would get me in trouble or anything like that. The way I see it, what I wear under my pants is nobody's business but my own. More over, it is very unlikely that anybody would notice, and if they did they certainly are not going to ask me about it. I suspect that over the past 5 years, at least a person or two has noticed, but nobody has ever said anything.... and why would they? And if somehow they did ask me about it, my response would be to politely tell them that it was not something they really wanted (or needed) to know about and it certainly was not something I was interested in talking about. There is no way I am going to be 'forced' to talk about my reasons for wearing a diaper! I understand how some people work in places where they might have a hard time if they got 'caught'. But in any kind of professional setting, where there are work place standards of conduct and professionalism, nobody in their right mind is going to give you a hard time for wearing diapers. The fear of an ADA suit, or something like that would keep most people from saying anything. And common decency and professionalism will keep everyone else from saying anything.

The first person you tell is always the hardest. I don't see how anybody who really cares about you is going to freak out if you do a good job of explaining what the situation is. Tell her that you have something you need to share with her, something very personal about yourself that you are trying to understand and come to terms with. And then tell her. Even if it doesn't work out between the two of you in the long term, she should honor your trust.

Sally Brown's site was the site that made me accept myself. No other site had such an impact on me. I made a site of my own in an attempt to try to give something back that would be similar to what she gave. I hope somebody saves the content from the site and is able to keep it for posterity sake.

Wow. Quite a thread here. A couple of thoughts. I'm not going to get into the what you should have done stuff. Whats done is done. Learn from your mistakes (and I really think there is one major lesson to be learned and most people have already pointed it out) and be a better person as a result of them. For now, you need to not dwell on it and think about what you are going to do. Forget about all this 'who is in control' stuff. You need to just work on basic communication and stop worry and analyzing who has the upper hand here. I think one thing you might want to tell her is that this whole "its them or me" thing isn't fair, because honestly you don't have a choice. Sure you could throw all the stuff out, but that won't make you stop being a DL any more than a homosexual person throwing out their gay porn stash will make them straight. You are who you are and you need to come clean about it. I think your first priority if you are going to try to make this work will be to do some major education! She needs to understand what this is (and probably more importantly what it is not). Good luck man,

As somebody who has been on the wrong side of infidelity and had a marriage ruined as a result.... I just have to say that nobody deserves to be cheated on. If things are unfixable or unacceptable, get a divorce. Having said that, I also think the billboard is a total fake.

Well, I gave it a shot. I don't know exactly what happened, but lets just say it was a really bad experience for all involved. For whatever reason my body was not OK with the whole thing. It never felt good, but I wasn't in major pain or anything like that. But my body eventually started to really freak out (I actually passed out). I was hoping to keep it in for a day or two, but we took it out after about an hour. My girlfriend said she has never seen anyone react to a cath like that before, and she was really worried. I took me a good 24 hours to feel normal again (I feel 100% fine now though). Bottom line for me: Not something I ever plan to do again. I'm not here to tell people its wrong or bad to do it, but if you want to try it, make sure you do so with a trained person who knows what they are doing and is going to be with you while you are trying it. If I had not had my girlfriend (who is a trained medical professional) with me, I would have ended up in the hospital. That is all I have to say on this topic. -Mr. Otter

Well, we talked and decided to give it a shot. It is not something I plan to do for a long time, maybe a day or two at the most. I have no idea if I am going to love it or hate it, but we went out and bought one, so in the next day or two I will probably find out. I'll let folks know how it goes.

Like a lot of us, I have always wondered what it would be like to really have no control over wetting. I don't want to permanently lose control (this isn't one of those threads!), but I have often thought that it would be cool to see what it was like for a while. I have heard that catheters are an option and will really render you without any control whatsoever. But I also know that inserting a catheter is not something you should mess around with (risk of infection, and I sure don't know how to put one in). So it was never something I considered an option. Well, I have been dating a nurse for the past few months now. She is aware of the whole diaper thing and is fine with it (I don't know how you could date somebody for months and not tell them... but that is a different thread). Well, she works in a hospital and puts caths in all the time. I told her I had always wondered what it would be like and we talked about it a bit. Long story short, she is totally willing to do it, and I feel 100% confident that she knows what she is doing and that it would be safe. I haven't decided to do it yet, but I am thinking about it. Have any of you ever tried it before? I mean, I know I won't be able to control myself, but I am wondering if it is totally uncomfortable? Does it hurt? And does it work with a diaper? (She normally uses a drip bag). I am thinking I might want to try it for a couple of days or something, but I am really interested in hearing what other folks experiences have been before I commit to it. Thanks for any thoughts or experiences.

I probably average a case of bambinos every 3, eh, probably close to 4 weeks. So maybe $20 to $25 a week. If you are broke its a big expense. If you tight on cash though, take a look at what you are spending money on. I'm not broke or anything, I make plenty for my needs, but I really don't spend much on myself at all. No Starbucks, no fancy car, no expensive clothes, no cable tv etc etc. Diapers are about the only luxury I am willing to indulge in. I don't regret it at all. Heck, I know people that drop more $ per month at the coffee shop.

I'm a civil servant in Washington DC.

Another option, and one that works if you don't speak much or any German: If you are staying at the hotel call the concierge desk (or better yet ask for the manager). If you are on a work trip you are likely in a nicer hotel and they will have dealt with plenty or travelers who need diapers. Tell them what you are looking for and ask if they can either suggest a shop or have any ideas. Hotel staff really love helping out people in their hotels and I am sure they would by happy to help and will ask no questions.