[This kink/fetish is becoming a very lonely place for me in my life]

After my wife passed, I was depressed and thought I would be alone the rest of my life. But I got involved in my local kink community (I tried spankings for the first time), met people on Zoom during COVID, and went to events like DiaperActive in California and CAPCON in Chicago. I met a lot of ABDLs and I met a really good friend who has since moved in with me. I'm in my 60s and he is 39. It is a gay/asexual relationship with the bulk of our time devoted to our dog, our non-kink hobbies (i.e. bowling, D&D, beer), and we have ABDL activities we engage in together (e.g. he has a crib, we change each other, etc.)

Life isn't over until you stop breathing. Be open to new experiences and there is no telling what your future holds.

[Hot Wings Hot Mess]

Try spicy Indian food next. 😋

[Psychiatric, secure unit clothing. Medical play.]

I just got two of these for sleepwear.  They are difficult to remove, so a second person is very useful when putting this on or taking it off. 

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BBSQ6K4Z?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

[Fine Dining for Fancy ABs (A Digital Short)]

OMG! Too funny!

[Laser Hair removal]

This is the one I bought. It does have the disadvantages that the review mentioned, but it works well. It will not fire the laser if the aperture is not fully covered with skin. So some spaces are hard to hit. It is a safety feature to keep from beaming the room. It does have an attachment with a smaller aperture for those nooks and crannies. 🙂

Also, it does include the laser safety glasses. I would guess they all do.

[Laser Hair removal]

I have one that I got from Amazon. Generally, I shave use the laser on the stubble that is left behind. It works fairly well, but I still have to touch it up periodically. It is thinner hair growth. Wear the laser eye protection. The laser is very bright.

[My experience flying diapered]

I have been patted down a few times, and once had to go to a private area and show them the diaper. My partner has had this happen when he flies as well. It really is no big deal. We have an ABDL friend that works at TSA. He says it happens often enough no one cares.

[Nocturia, diapers and a good night's sleep!]

Same

[Diaper photos]

I like clean or wet. I don't mind messy, as long as I am not looking at actual fecal matter. A lumpy diaper where one is free to assume it is messy is fine.

[Advice for someone going 24/7]

I went 24/7 about 4 years ago. I rarely mess in my diapers since it involves more work than I care for. I recommend that you protect your skin. Rashes are a pain to get rid of. I told my urologist and my primary care physician that I was doing this as a choice, not because of any medical issue. I didn't want them trying to cure a nonproblem. Outside of that, I have been fortunate to mostly work from home or work in my own office. The gym was tricky, but it is only a big deal if you make it one.

[No rent? How how will this money be spent... (asking for suggestions)]

There are so many good disposables on the market today. I love Trest for their absorbency, and the throwback white color. I have also done their other colors. I love my new Potty Monsters from Tykables. ABUs, REARZ, Bambinos, and from the medical side, North Shore MegaMax all work well. Try out a few and see how well they work.

 

[Capcon 2024]

I'll be there along with quite a few of our COVID LockDown Zoom groups (Diaperbois/Boston Babies, SoCal, and Melbourne). I look forward to meeting folks from this forum.

[An experiment]

Is it possible that the fact that you barely fit in the Goodnites and probably had space in the Assurance could be related to the leakage? It may have to do with the tightness of fit and the ability to leak around a looser fit diaper. I'm just asking because I am curious. I wear regular disposable diapers 24/7 because I have never been satisfied with diaper pants, and also, Hey I'm ABDL. 

[Do you ever wish you could be more open about being an ABDL?]

I just wanted to share some thoughts on being myself while juggling the rest of my life. I've been open about it with my family, best friends, and folks in the local kink scene. They've been awesome about it, and it's been great to be me without holding back.

But, when it comes to work and the outside world, I keep it private. Not because I'm not proud of who I am, but let's be real, not everyone gets it, and I don't want it messing with my job or how people see me professionally.

I've never been much for needing approval of my life choices, but it feels good to not have to hide with the people who matter most to me.

I'm not the only one walking this tightrope between personal truths and professional life. It's all about finding that sweet spot where you can be true to yourself with the people who get you while keeping things private where it counts.

So, to anyone out there figuring out how to balance their life, you're not alone. It's all about doing what's best for you and finding the people who support you no matter what.

[Staying messy?]

I once went 24 hours in a dirty diaper. The rash that followed sucked. My worst experience was when I delayed changing until after mowing the lawn. The heat, the friction, and the mess combined to create a rash that was bloody, and took weeks to eliminate.

[No regrets]

[Thicker is better]

If you don't waddle like a duck, it's not thick enough.

[Which is it?]

Ahh, the blissful life of the self-owned.🤣

[Patreon ABDL purge]

This purge sucks. I plan to resubscribe to the content providers who I was subscribed to. I cancelled all of my Patreon subscriptions today and deleted my account. F... Patreon. 

[Have you worn a diaper to a massage or chiropractic appointment?]

24 minutes ago, Little Sherri said:

 

Do you guys wear something over the diaper, or just a diaper, under the sheet? 

I just wear the diaper under the sheet. Sometimes I have a plain medical style diaper, other times it is an AB/DL style, but the therapist keeps the sheet over the diaper, so they don't really have to look at it.

[Have you worn a diaper to a massage or chiropractic appointment?]

I go to Massage Envy routinely and I wear 24/7. It's no big deal. I informed my first massage therapist before we started, but in the last two years, I stopped bothering with it. It's underwear. I make it a point to be clean and dry before the appointment starts. No one has ever raised it as an issue. It is no different from going to a doctor appointment. I try not to impose on the therapist, but they are professionals, and I am not their only diapered client.

[Where would you place your diaper fetish in Maslow's Pyramid?]

3 hours ago, cathdiap said:

The theory behind the model is that you need to have fulfilled all the needs of a certain level before you can start fulfilling those in the level above. If this is true at what level would your diaper fetish be? Where would your personal growth stop if it wasn't for your fetish? 

 

My fetish replaces sexual intimacy and makes me feel like I belong in diapers, which helps me move up the pyramid. But at the same time, this fetish sometimes affects my self-esteem, causing me to fall back to a level below. I alternate between levels three and four, but I can never seem to reach the top. This is literally what is going on in my life right now. I know I have the gift of musicianship, but the constant inner battle surrounding my fetish is keeping me from getting there. 

Old Maslow and his dog.  

This was a joke in one of my classes while in the military. We were learning about the hierarchy, and while discussing it in the cafeteria line, one of the cafeteria workers mentioned that he remembered learning about "Old Maslow and his dog." We commented that eventually, when you ring the bell, the dog self-actualized.

[Stupid HOA]

5 hours ago, drynot said:

No chain link?  Man...we have a chain link fence and it has been the best money I've ever spent on a house.  Ours has been completely maintenance free for many years now.

It's an aesthetic thing, and I personally don't dislike a chain link fence. The home developers build a subdivision and they create a covenant that seeks to preserve a "look" and everyone who buys a house in the subdivision is required to sign the covenant as a condition of sale. The covenant is perpetual, and imposes a requirement that all sellers must pass on the same covenant. The covenant is on file with the county, so any change is rolled into the covenant on file. The covenant creates a board of directors elected by the homeowners, and they can hold homeowner meetings to change things, but changes are slow to occur and if we end up with idiots on the board, we could have a troop of enforcement zealots running amok. Like I said, our HOA is currently run by a reasonable group who appreciate keeping things simple and not going nuts with rules.

[Thick Diaper]

If you don't waddle like a duck, it's not thick enough.

 

[Stupid HOA]

I live in an HOA community, and fortunately, we have adults with a sense of perspective running the HOA. There are few things that they enforce but mostly dealing with the aesthetics of fences. I replaced my fence two years ago and had to submit the plans for their approval. If they didn't get back to me in 14 days, it was considered approved. The HOA president sent me the list of fence rules (no chain link, no higher than 6 feet, must have a gap between pickets, etc.). I was replacing the old fence with an identical fence. No big deal.

I have heard of nightmare HOAs that require that you get approval for paint color on houses, and anything else in the yard.  It's ridiculous what some people think they have a right to dictate.