Molicare supers, hands down. You can go pee in them like normal and be 99% confident your not gonna leak, No diaper is foolproof but I like that I can use there when I leave my house and not look like im wearing one.
I see people with depends in their cart at the store all the time. They are usually a bit older maybe in their 40's at least. Im guessing they are buying them for their parents. I few tmes though I have seen people between 20-30 id say buying incontinence products. Thinking back I can recall a guy about 30 buying some diapers, i think they were store brand tape on diapers and another time was a girl probabally 25 buying underwear for women. It was in her cart covered with a bunch of other stuff but my eagle eye caught the depend package.
I have been wearing a diaper to bed every night. I dont pee when I am asleep however I usually wake up 2-3 times throughout the night whether I want to or not. If I wake up and feel like I need to pee i will just go in my diaper. So although I do not uncontrollably wet during the night about 5 days a week my diaper is wet by the time my alarm goes off. Sometimes I even forget that I woke up and peed that night (Its not an abnormal occurance for me) so it kinda seems like I might have had an accident i guess.