My girlfriend of a few months looked through my phone recently and found out that I was roleplaying with an online mommy. ABDL is a sexual thing for me so the conversations over text were explicit. I knew I should have stopped roleplaying with the online mommy when I got together with my girlfriend, but I figured since I wasn't emotionally or physically cheating that it was okay. Obviously, my current girlfriend didn't feel this way but we have moved past the mistrust and are stronger for it and moving on with our relationship now that I have ended the roleplaying.
Now I have the daunting task of explaining what my mysterious fetish is. I feel like I've been forced to bring it up soon now that she's read some of the things and has started assuming the worst. (She wondered out loud if I like to have sex with children, I want to have sex with my REAL mother, ectect)
So I need some advice as to how to tell her that it is NOT about actual incest or pedophilia. I have never told a partner about my fetish and I feel like she will be accepting when it comes out, but I don't know how to start the conversation. I feel like if I come out saying "I'm not a pedo" things will not go well and I won't be able to explain why I like being and adult baby.