NewMommy2

Confused mommy, Something that he does not understand is that he is hurting you more by not listening to your needs. You don't want to hurt his feelings, but he is hurting yours daily. You say you communicate all the time, either he is not listening or he does not care about the way you feel about things or care about giving back to you everything you are giving to him. It needs to be 50/50 all the way. If not, you will start to resent him. Just my thoughts. If my baby was not as attentive to my needs as I am to his, I would have a lot of anger building up. We do talk and we talk a lot. And he listens. If I need him to be a big boy for me, he is. He wants to make me as happy as I make him. And I love him dearly for that. You are still young. There are so many things to life than this lifestyle. You both need to be able to share each others interests, not just his, otherwise you will miss out on so much!

Welcome Avery, hope you find all your answers. I sure have.

Thanks for the welcome Kuntryman and Lilbabygracie, glad to be here!

Welcome!

We are always looking for new friends. And yes, there is more to our life than just ABDL stuff.

Thanks for the update j_addict, I am glad to see that you guys are starting to work through this all. It is worth the relationship. But I hope that you are not still loosing sleep because of his baby side. NewMommy2

Good point Honu, there are very few others we can talk to about this lifestyle because it is so misunderstood. And yes, communication is key in any relationship. But j_addict, I still think you need to be more forthcoming and maybe stern with your needs being met as well. I am the mommy of SoakedinTexas, we talk about EVERYTHING and if there is something I don't like or don't understand, he takes the time to explain. Which is especially helpful when you are new to all of this. Good luck and do not hesitate to send me a pm if you have specific questions. Everyone on here is very helpful!

Oh my, there is a lot going on with you guys. I may not have as much experience as some of the others on here, but what I have learned is that the most important thing is communication. And it sounds like you need to do a lot more communicating on your part if your needs, physically, mentally, sexually, emotionally, are not being met as well. The more you continue to give and give and not get what you need in return, the more the resentment will build up inside of you. Being a mommy is draining, it is hard to constantly give especially if you are not getting what you need and deserve in return. There needs to be balance, and definitely some give and take. I hope my two cents helps. I know it is hard when you don't want to hurt someone's feelings that you love, but he is hurting you just as much if he is not listening and giving back.

Thanks everyone for the welcome!

I am in the DFW are and wouldn't mind talking sometime. You can send me a pm.

Sweetandsensitiveguy, I am here in the south Dallas area too, DeSoto. My bf and I are looking for people to socialize with in the area. Go ahead and PM me if you are still looking.

Would like to have a get together sooner than later!

Well thank you Sissybaby789, I now officially feel welcomed!

COUPLES ONLY - we, me and my baby boy, would like to meet couples in the DFW area to socialize and maybe have 'play dates'. Don't care if your boyfriend/girlfriend, boyfriend/boyfriend, girlfriend/girlfriend, just would like to socialize with others who share our common interest. And baby topics don't need to be the only topics of discussion. If any couple is interested, please send me a PM.

I just answered you back...sorry so long!

Hi HisMommy, I am new too and know I cannot talk to anyone because of the profession we are both in. I would love to talk with other Mommies as well. Feel free to PM me anytime.

KitsaP83, Bettypooh has some very good points. And the most important thing Bettypooh said was "balance". I too am new to this community but I am learning a lot. The best thing is that you are trying to understand and not be judgmental. This is something that will NEVER go away. This lifestyle is part of who your husband is and will always be. If you think he will grow out of it, or if he says he will, all he will do is go back to hiding it from you. I never had or wanted 'real' kids, but still have the nurturing bone in me, so I guess that is what is helping me. But you really, really need to tell him completely how you feel. If you are uncomfortable with something, he needs to know. And he should also respect that. If you need him to be a "big boy" so you guys can go out to dinner or to have sex, he needs to balance your needs with his. You should not have to give, give, give all the time without receiving just as much. But how is he going to know unless you tell him everything. One last thing, and I will get off my soap box, since this is all new to you, he really needs to ease you into the whole lifestyle. One step at a time. Not just make you jump in head first blindfolded and expect you to accept everything. If you ask, he will always tell you what he wants and how he likes it done, but you need to be telling him the same.

I am a new mommy to this world and the mommy of SoakedinTexas. I have learned a lot reading the forums but am always willing to learn more. But, more importantly, I have learned even more from my baby boy. I like chatting with others to share tips and tricks. If I am online and available, I will be on chat, but probably not often as I would rather spend time with my baby boy.

The most important thing you can do is communicate. My baby let's me know what he likes and does not like. We talk openly about everything. But remember, you are important too. Make sure that you guys have an even balance of give and take for both of your needs. Talk, talk, talk.

I agree with Sarah_ab, this is an adult relationship. I am a new mommy to an ab/dl, but he is an adult when he needs to be. We have the perfect balance of both. If your baby cannot respect your feeelings and accept that he needs to satisfy your needs, mentally/emotionally/sexually, then he is selfish and does not deserve you. You should NEVER second guess or feel guilty later, this is all new to you and you are still learning. Even though I have only recently been introduced to this lifestyle, May 2011, I know that we have equal give and take on both sides.