PaulCain

I most definitely have had this feeling and I actually did stop for a number of months. However in the end, I went back to it because diapers are a part of who I am. I knew that when I wore my first diaper after a long break, I enjoyed it so much and felt comfortable with it on. Before the purge I had had a serious binge and I think it was too much. Keeping things in moderation is important with anything and I think the same is true for being a DL.

I actually would genuinely like to talk to DL / AB girls, because quite frankly I get on with women better than I do guys. How can someone like myself break down the barrier that just because I want to get to know ladies here, that I'm not automatically going to sleaze over them?

You know where I am...

Hiya, bi 28 DL here from London and would love to chat sometime. Welcome!

I noticed your criticism of the guy wanting nappy sex tonight and accept that. However in this case I don't agree with you. My wife knows about my diaper fetish, however having our own baby is very tiring for her. We have a fully active love life both emotionally and sexually, however she doesn't really have the time, the energy or the desire to dedicate to being a 'mummy' for me and fulfilling my sexual fetish. Therefore when she wants an early night, she is happy for me to have my 'nappy nights' as we call them, whereby I can stay up in a nappy and play online if I want to. She knows I love her and she also loves every part of me, including my bi-sexuality and my nappy fetish. I don't think you should be so quick to criticise him, without knowing the in's and out's, with all due respect. My wife and I do have a very out-in-the-open relationship and she would much rather I played by myself and was happy than feel she wasn't giving me what I needed. It's hard to explain unless you are in the situation really, I was sceptial about it myself but she encouraged me and it works. Paul

Hi Guys, I mainly use this forum as a place of support really, and I hope that's okay with everyone. I've been a DL for many years now and as some of you may know, I told my fiancee about a year ago. She was very accepting about it, to the point of buying my diapers, changing me and even being my 'Mommy' which was fun but not a priority of mine. I get a lot of pleasure from diapers and always have had, something which hasn't changed over all this time. My fiancee and I in the meanwhie, have a fantastic love life and the chemistry between us is as amazing as it was when we first met. However, here is something I am having a problem with. I feel that when I want to use my diapers that I'm being perhaps selfish or isolating in my pleasures. Does anyone else find this? I struggle to use them because I feel like it's not fair on someone who is not a diaper lover themselves, but has adapted to it quickly and easily for the DL's sake. Has anyone else had this kind of experience and how can a DL best incorporate his interest in a regular relationship? My fiancee has been amazing about all this and I just feel very guilty about my whole interest. Any views appreciated, Paul

I totally agree with everything that has been said so far. My experience was a little different as I found it hard to get back into diaper wearing once our daughter was born. It was only in the last couple of months (our child is 8 months old) that I started wearing again. There was no issue from my wife about me using them, I just felt awkward about how to go about it again, after having spent so much time focussing on our child. For me, being a DL has sexual and emotional meaning, the former being harder to fit in around a hectic family life! I would say, don't give up your diapers as you will find time to fit them in. You may not wear them as much as you used to, true in my case, but you do get to and that makes it all the more fun when you can.

That kind of situation is always the fear that's held me back to be honest. I'm too scared to try anything like that.

I was hoping to revive this thread... I'm a 28 year old DL looking to get to know / maybe meet other DL's or AB's in the UK. I live in London but happy to talk to anyone from anywhere PM if you are interested

I am in the same boat as dlconfusion. To further muddy the waters, my big problem is that I am scared to wear diapers for fear of not appearing a 'man' to her. We have had nappy play and she has even babied me quite happily, although we don't have the time for that these days because of being parents ourselves. Our sex life is very good either side of the diapers, but I struggle to overcome this fear of eventually becoming less attractive to her, because of the diapers. Other men don't need / want diapers, so does that make them more attractive? She says not and that she loves everything about me including my sexuality and my DL / baby side. How do you get past that yourself though?

To be fair, that is a good point and I'd love to be able to. However after having just started to get comfortable in them, I then stopped because I wasn't comfortable using them as a new dad. Now though I have to go back to square one where I was when I first started wearing them around my wife. I'm nervous as to how to begin with that first one.

After the first three months of our childs birth, I have realised I'm ready to begin being diapered again. My wife is happy to have this happen and has no problem with putting me in and changing my diapers. She has said she is too tired at the moment to be a full on Mummy to us both at the moment, but to give that time which I'm cool with. Trouble is, I have no idea how to start again? Does that sound strange? Any advice? Paul

Hi Everyone, We've recently had our first baby who is now 2 months old. Now both my partner and I aren't too fussed about sex but I've noticed for me particularly, I have a strange change in my likes. Whereas before, diapers meant the world to me and my quest to being a DL finally happened, now I have no interest in them. This seems to have been since the birth of my own baby, now I feel unable to be a DL and feel comfortable about it. Has anyone else had this experience? I really am upset about this because diapers were my main source of stress relief and in this stressful time, I could do with them right now. Paul

As a psychology student and future psychologist, I find Dr Pill an example of what is wrong with one of my communities. When my fiancee and I were in the Special Care Baby Unit, caring for our daughter, the psychologists continued to force themselves onto us, despite the fact that we did not require counselling. When I do graduate and become a psychologist, I learned that this is the last thing that you should do. Dr Pill has demonstrated that same attitude in his comments here by making assumptions that AB/DL's should change. I can confirm that I am of sound mind and body, with an intelligence that I hope to put to use with people that NEED and WANT help. I love diapers and I know exactly why. I am comfortable with that reasoning and enjoy it. I would advise that some of my fellow members of the psychological community respect the wishes and needs of those in the AB/DL community.

I told my fiancee about six months ago now and it went very well. I am very fortunate by how well she took it and she has given me the freedom to explore who I am. We've been really busy lately though and haven't really had a chance to go much further into it, but it's fantastic knowing I can wear and she won't be upset or annoyed about it. My biggest thing is finding the time and the courage to ask to be nappied / babied because I'm still very shy about it.