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2 hours ago, spark said:
I find it funny when the effort to stop the desire for incontinence by sharing the obstacles to being 24/7. It focuses on cost, the need to always have diapers on you, and the requiring changes in public. First, I'm already 24/7, so I know exactly what it is like; especially how it affects my life. I know how many diapers I need on a given day. I'm fortunate that I don't have a level where I'm peeing every 15 minutes, but it's about once an hour. It's something that I've already understood and accepted.
However, I do have an issue with the sub-group that is encouraging posters to do something unsafe. I think considering giving an unregulated medical professional a lot of money to perform a medical procedure that purposely harms body parts is unsafe, and not wise. It is not something that should be encouraged in any way. I think if that's where you are, there is something deeper going on and the permanent incontinence isn't going to help as much you think.
There are ways to train yourself to be incontinent, and it is far safer than harming yourself. To put it simply: just wear a diaper and use it. Eventually, your brain accepts that the diaper is where you pee and poo go and you are no longer potty trained. By the time that happens, you've already experience life as a 24/7 diaper wearer and will know whether it is right for you.
Going to disagree as someone who is seriously considering doing this very thing. No one is encouraging anyone to do anything. No one said, "hey you, you need to do this" or "you should totally do this". They posted about their own objectives and goals as well as how they were going to achieve them. Frankly surgery, even ones performed in areas that are not state of the art or what not is still far less dangerous than some of the things I have seen people do around here. Extended open catheter use, home made stents, deliberately causing damage to the bladder and urinary tract. I have seen posts about UTIs, Urethral bleeding that lasted days, ER visits to extract stents that migrated into the bladder. None of this is normal and in any corner of the internet that was dedicated to wearing diapers and more specifically incontinence itself you would be told to immediately seek psychiatric care.
Lets be clear within this niche part of the community there are still sub groups. There are people here fantasizing about becoming incontinent (not calling you guys out. Keep doing you!), people who are entertaining the idea, people who are actively seeking non destructive methods, and others who do not feel complete unless they are physically unable to ever hold urine again.
Anyone who is actively seeking this has a condition defined by the DSM5 and being redefined in recent years. DSM5 calls it BIID, Body Identity Integrity Disorder and some linking it more recently to a more broad Body Identity Dysmorphia. Go look it up. Look at the treatments. There are ways to lessen the "symptoms" there is no cure. Because it is not something to be cured frankly. The people who do not feel whole by being whole are beyond your judgement or "help". And chastising anyone for posting their experience while actively addressing any questions and concerns someone has is so contrary to this forum in my opinion.
Going to get less ranty and more personal here. I have been wearing 24/7 for 4 years. FOUR YEARS, with out a single drop of urine leaving my body without me struggling to get it out. Not everyone can be trained to use a diaper by passive use or even active training. After months of therapy I am fairly certain that my desire for incontinence stems from potty training being beaten into me while simultaneously causing trauma every time I had an "accident".
This desire for incontinence coupled with the world's most stubborn bladder has lead to a host of mental health problems. Most of which stem from feeling like a failure for not being able to do one of the few intrinsically motivated goals I have ever had. This lead to clinical depression diagnosis. I have been left with this need for incontinence without any prospect of success. I can honestly say that the post you won't mention but everyone knows you are talking about has given me hope. More interestingly because I have a nuclear option it has allowed my subconscious to address the very real possibility of incontinence and work to resolve some of those issues.
Also back up for the advocacy part for a second. The procedure that must not be named is a cosmetic/optional procedure that will not be covered by any insurance. Anyone that lives in the US lives in a dystopian hell hole that 60% of people can't afford a single emergency with out significant financial stress. The $25,000 barrier to entry will dissuade all but the most serious inquiries and even out of serious inquiries it is still a HUGE financial burden. I consider myself extremely lucky financially and career wise and I am still scratching my head at how to come up with the deposit, let alone surgical costs.
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1. The original XP Medical would turn the Abena boxes inside out because they had some small identifying mark. I don't think the new owners do that. But every diaper manufacturer that I know ship boxes that are unmarked or nearly unmarked
2. I think I received a mailer as recently as June 2023, but the exterior was very plain.
3. UPS and FedEx both suck. A symptom of an industry ruled by an oligoloply. I have had FedEx deliver my packages to the wrong address multiple times. I have had packages that were split open from both shippers.
If you are ordering medical diapers I wouldn't worry about what your delivery guy sees. He is too busy and odds are not an ABDL and will think nothing of it. I wouldn't worry about it if you were ordering ABDL diapers either personally. Live your life and screw everyone else so long as you aren't hurting people.
I don't think these questions will provide much insight into this company personally. So much of that is the manufacturer or shipper. I will say this about XP Medical, I have placed probably dozens of orders with them, they have always been fair when there are problems with the order or even if you make a mistake on your order. They were quick to reissue an order when FedEx shipped their package to the wrong address and we worked something out when it turned up like a day later. Their prices have been very fair. As other companies have increased prices 50% in some cases they have had very fair increases.
Bottom line, if you are looking to buy a single case or going to wear 24/7 I would use this company. I have seen out of stock VERY rarely, even during the pandemic.
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8 hours ago, superabsorbantpolymer said:
I wonder if anyone has experience with using Botox to temporary disable the sphincter and induce leakage? It could be a good dry-run (wet-run?) for simulating the type of incontinence a sphincter resection induces?
I am generally averse to the idea of surgery for myself, but I am a big believer in letting people make their own choices. Ive had genital surgery before (orchiopexy to address testicular torsion), and it was enormously painful and I still have issues (tmi, but my balls are stitched to my scrotum, to prevent them from tangling themselves, but they painfully pull on the skin during intercourse and general movement). I imagine at the least your erections will be painful after this surgery.
As other mentioned, I'd be concerned with how the prostate resection would affect sexual function and your ability to ejaculate (as well as fertility, if you're straight). What's the fun in being a constantly leaking diaper user if you cant orgasm!
There was a user here at one point who's goal was to do this very thing. @BoToxI seem to recall it not just being a name but a goal. Were you able to do it eventually?
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13 minutes ago, DiapergirlWB said:
I'm a big supporter of people going 24/7 and diaper training over time to need the diapers whether that is daywetting bedwetting or bowel IC because you will be living the life for long time before you have to live the life forever and if after all the effort it take to become diaper dependent you have regrets I don't know what to telly you, choices do have consequences. I am not a fan of surgery as an option. This is an irreversible flip the switch type incontinence and by your own admission you tend to get tired of diapers. If you had been 24/7 for a long time and just looking for the final push then fine but i think this is a mistake but like I said choices have consequences and you will have to live with them.
I think what he means by "getting tired of wearing for no reason" is the appeal of wearing fades when the diapers are not necessary, not that there is no discernable reason for the appeal fading.
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I can't speak for @Reddy, but I can for myself. There comes a point where you don't feel like yourself using a toilet. Every conceivable, rational bone in your body says that you should be, but you don't, and that the only way you can conceive that you will be is when you are totally incontinent.
There is no logic-ing or rationalizing with that level of drive. One would sooner tell someone who is CIS that they are gay. Or that the earth is flat..... OK, bad example. Regardless, its probably better to show how to get through the bad days then dissuade.
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I agree that thicker diapers are better. There is a very practical limit to how thick disposables can get with booster because of the leak guards. For most diapers it is 2 safely. I can do 3 with rearz but under no circumstances can flood the diaper without leaking.
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1 hour ago, Kawaharu said:
I don't know if Tykables or Rearz accepts FSA/HSA. Having an FSA/HSA their are rules on what you can buy
I couldn't find anything for Rearz (maybe a Canadian thing) but Tykables and AB universe will provide a FSA/HSA receipt/invoice upon request. And I looked it up before I signed up for my HSA. Baby diapers are considered a necessity and not covered but "adult incontinence products" are.
https://support.tykables.com/en-US/can-i-use-my-fsahsa-to-purchase-diapers-92470
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22 minutes ago, Kawaharu said:
That's why I buy my diapers from Northshore because FSA/HSA will always cover my diapers and boosters. Plus most insurances are covering adult diapers under the affordable care act Federal law.
You can order any diapers with FSA/HSA though, even something like Tykables/Rearz
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17 minutes ago, Kawaharu said:
That's why I always look for sales and deals.
If you have FSA/HSA, You can get those diapers on a good deal. On top of that if you have autoship, they drop the price by $5 bucks and shipping is always free.
Honestly this is why I think NS doesn't care and won't compete on price. While they are ABDL aware, they are firmly a medical company and insurance and all that will pay it regardless of price.
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2 hours ago, Crinklz Kat said:
But Bambino is always running a sale lately. I just got an email announcement yesterday - buy one case, get a second at 70% off!
But, don't forget that Rearz capacity values are also skewed with how they test. And I find Bambino's just fine for capacity. I can't get enough use out of an "ultra" capacity diaper before it is absolutely reaking.
Them running a perpetual sale is kinda my point. They have high prices for anyone who doesn't realize or must buy in between the sales but then almost everyone else gets the lower prices when stocking up.
I don't necessarily buy that Rearz are 11k ml capacity but they are definitely high. Higher imo than even tykables or the NRU Str8up. But honeslty I don't really go by capacity that much anymore so much as tier. For me the top tiers are Tykables, Trest, and Rearz. At that point it is more preference and fit more than anything. They are very similar in terms of performance. Then if they all fit or work for you the same the cost. The problem I have is that the Bambino is definitely a mid tier diaper for me but still charging top tier pricing when not on sale.
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14 minutes ago, ppdude said:
Agreed. Basic economics. Always thought NS were overpriced.
NS Megamax was a fantastic value when they first released. They were like $2 each and they more or less started the capacity wars. As I recall almost everyone was stagnating around 5000ml. After Megamax hit 6500, the dam broke (pun intended) and everyone went crazy on capacity. Now Megamax are $3 each and I can buy ABDL diapers with Velcro tabs, higher capacity, a myriad of other features to choose from, and free shipping on a single case.
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My grandpa had to go soft food diet after a bowel blockage a year ago. He LOVES pecan pie, so we used a coffee grinder to powder the nuts. Just an option.
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Ya, Bambino is pretty much ONLY worth it when they are on some sort of sale. Feels like Kohls now. Can only buy on "sale". What is more crazy to me about Bambino is their diapers are still "only" 5000 ml. That was amazing when they were released years ago but that is almost bottom of the barrel when it comes to premium diapers now at and around their case pricing.
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1 hour ago, danieltiger said:
You had the surgery in Mexico at that place? I would love to hear more about it. Did they perform on just the external sphincter? How do they do it? Was it successful and permanent? My fear is regaining continence somehow. I want them to take it all out so I can never regain continence. I would love to hear any info you have. Unless something comes up to change my mind, I will do it as soon as I can (this year hopefully).
I was looking on their website. I am am doing the same. Currently overweight (max BMI Of 35) so making that a goal and saving up my PTO to be able to take off.
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Thank you for this amazing addition to this story! I loved Nia's journey before and loving the continuation now.
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Nappy New Year!
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I need a gut check. Appropriately organized or crossing the line into anal?
My new apartment has so much more storage and its built in. This is the most organized my stash has been but it just feels too, something.
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Without passing a value judgment on anyone who consumes porn, I'll leave this here. Internet porn is more available, more quantity, and more tailored than ever before. Occasional porn use can be OK but porn addiction is a real thing and has actual health consequences.
and another one that can help illuminate the situation
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1st night in the new place and it is all worth it. Able to be myself anywhere in my living space. I feel so much relief.
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3 hours ago, ValentinesStuff said:
A friend of mine moved, had professionals do the moving. He got no comments about the queen sized crib.
Ooof, I feel called out. I guess I am just to private and not brave enough for that yet.
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This is my first time moving while diapered full time and also having significant quantities of littles gear. Ugh, what a pain. Wanting to keep things stashed away while needing to simultaneously keep everything readily available. But then also wanting to delittle my room before the movers get here.
On the plus side, I am so freaking excited about having my own space/place for the first time in six years. Going to be wearing my littles gear I am sure for the forseable future, assuming I wear pants at all. That prospect also sounds amazing.
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7 hours ago, Hannah YMS said:
So the TENS/EMS unit really did help you with relaxing your pelvic floor? Which unit did you buy (link please?) and how are you positioning the leads to relax your pelvic floor?
To answer your question. Yes it has helped, but I don't want to sell it as some sort of silver bullet or panacea. I have been doing so many other things in the last 6 weeks that it is hard to tell which one is helping where. At worst I think that applying electro-stimulation to the various muscle groups in and around the pelvic floor and bladder has helped me create a stronger mind/muscle connection. Which leads into the body mindfulness exercises I have been doing lately. I will sit and meditate on the sensations of my body while keeping everything as relaxed as possible and try to feel every muscle and nerve. It sounds ironic to want that but, it has helped me be able to relax better. Conversely at best the TENS/EMS feels like a deep tissue message in and around muscles that I don't think you would want someone poking at or completely unable because of how deep they are. But the message I think has actually loosened up the muscles. As to the unit, I ended up with the following:
Base setup
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07Q32KX3J?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&th=1
Pelvic floor specific probe
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0768VFV5D?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&th=1
And required adapter
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0759B5339?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&th=1
And shocky shocky gel for better contact and less pain for pads and probe
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0837LN9X9?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details
The probe placement is self explanatory I hope. I did, and still use the external pads either separately or in conjunction for different spots. I have used them on my lower back and hips to loosen up tension and stress that I store there and other times directly to areas in and around the pelvic floor. Some experimentation is probably best. I don't know how far they will travel but everything in between and usually the shallower muscles get stimulated the most.
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So I just recently bought a TENS/EMS. I guess in theory you could get it to contract the bladder but hopelessly impractical. It would require surgical precision, literally. The leads would have to be implanted. I have tried with a lead on my perineum and another near the tail bone, and another time over the pubic mound. This didn't cause incontinence, but the message settings made relaxing my pelvic floor MUCH easier for a time.
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This is the clinic that several members have gone to here in this forum right? IDK, personally I would feel much more comfortable knowing the surgeon is reputable and paying a few more dollars then getting ??? in Thailand. Not saying that those surgeons aren't capable or safe but I would want to talk to previous patients in a situation like this.