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I started reading this story yesterday and am already all caught up and have to wait for new chapters. Great story! 😭
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50 minutes ago, superabsorbantpolymer said:
Yeah I find when I breathe deeply and think of my bladder contracting then maybe it will, but I have to be relaxed.
I'll try the more indirect method, imagining I'm peeing. It sounds like it would work.
I would be interested in hearing how it goes. I have spent the last five+ months practicing hypnosis and self hypnosis virtually daily so I wonder how it would help someone who has not practiced hypnosis and the powerful visualizations and mental game that go along with it.
I am writing a more in depth post re: the Parasympathetic Nervous System and how it pertains to what I think may be some of the mental blocks. If you want to do more research on your own look up Vagus Nerve Stimulation, The Parasympathetic Nervous System, and Interoception.
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23 minutes ago, Enthusi said:
This is great! I do this too but with an imaginary catheter being inserted.
Do you find that you feel more open with imagining the catheter? I imagine that it is an unnatural feeling unless you are cath'ed frequently and even then the muscles are forced open.
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Your internal sphincters are part of the Autonomic Nervous System or unconscious. These muscles are yours but not yours to control as it were. The good news is that the unconscious mind can help influence the ANS and the ANS can influence the unconscious mind. Try this, go without a diaper or get into a position that you usually have a difficult time going and do a reverse kegal. I am willing to bet money you will not wet yourself. That is because your potty training, so much of which is taught at the unconscious level before our conscious minds develop says that this is not the time or place to wet or mess and informing the ANS to clench and hold tight. Focusing on doing a reverse kegal is a behavioral action while the imagined wetting is a mental/psychological one.
So I have started doing this recently. Instead of just “relaxing” my pelvic floor, I now imagine that I am wetting or messing without even thinking about my pelvic floor, clenching or relaxing the pelvic floor is not a normal action for a potty trained adult and is very difficult to do. Holding or going is much easier. I try to make the action of going as realistic in my mind as possible, focus on all the sensations that go along with it. I find that in doing this my pelvic floor is even more relaxed than if I directly tried to relax and it has the added benefit of training the unconscious mind that this is an appropriate place to go to the bathroom and work through that emotion and thoughts at the time. I think there is an additional benefit in that the mind is pushing the ANS along and unconsciously contracting the bladder and moving paristalsis of the bowels along.
Try it next time you relax. Do a normal reverse kegal diapered or undiapered, and feel the drop, leave it for a few seconds and really take note of the sensations. Then imagine you are wetting and messing, it creates an even further drop for me and I have actually wet myself a few times in positions or times that I have had huge amounts of difficulty with in the past, such as in the car and in a diaper that I wasn't sure would or would not leak.
Good luck and let me know if this works for you. Since diving deep into psychology I have become nigh obsessed with why some people spiral in a way that @Kaliborio has outlined and why other people like me can spend literally years making zero or even negative progress. I have several more ideas but this one is the most succinct and easiest to implement.
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10 hours ago, WBxx said:
I’m good on 1 to 5. I’ve contemplated but not ready for 6) Sharing with professionals. My primary care physician’s annual questionnaire has – “Do you wet the bed?” Reasoning that I don’t want treatment or discussion my answer has been no. And several times my urologist has inquired as to how many times I get up for the bathroom during the night? Do I have trouble getting back to sleep? My responses are less than truthful.
I struggle big time with 7) Acceptance of all outcomes. The day after wetting the bed I’m on top of the world. Nothing bothers me. I’m special. Conversely, after not wetting in my sleep I’m depressed and irritable. It's a bad day.
😎 Any others???
In addition to physicians, some recommend telling colleagues, friends, everyone you have a bedwetting problem. If everyone thinks you’re a bedwetter you are one and act accordingly. Sounds good … but not happening here.
I like your #6 but may I propose a change or maybe it is different enough to warrant it's own number. Sharing your authentic self with others in the community, the broader ABDL community but also within people who are seeking incontinence. Last November I started going to ABDL meetups and that has helped reframe things significantly. But what has helped the most has been discussing this with people who are also on the journey. Talking with them has helped me in learning myself and different perspective has been fantastic.
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It's a great start to build the habit of peeing often but you won't become incontinent by doing that alone.
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TBF the sale last week was essentially the same. I picked up two cases of Mermaids for $149.
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They've gone full Kohls.
Just waiting for Bambino Bucks and a Bambino credit card.
Maybe they should have never gone full Kohls.
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The way back machine has most of the site archived.
https://web.archive.org/web/20130322004148/http://www.foxtalestimes.com/
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15 hours ago, Diapered Dave said:
Just googling around for inflammation remedies, I found several places that recommended nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory medications such as ibuprofen and acetaminophen. Of course, you don't want to over-due it with these, because to much can cause problems with your liver and / or stomach.
Only problem with that is many of those cause blood thinning. Is that a good idea while still recovering/bleeding?
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2 hours ago, Reddy said:
He didn't really comment on that, other than to say even if he thought there was something in that area, he wouldn't want to go close to it because "that's where the external sphincter is, and if we damage that in any way you can become grossly incontinent." Lol
You didn't correct him and say deliciously incontinent?
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@BabySofia Thank you! Your post made me remember that I had actually written a story a number of years ago. I went back to reread it. Consider me inspired to start writing again!u
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On 3/4/2024 at 6:56 PM, LilHotRod said:
I have and I can second comments from above regarding the issues that make me hesitate to wear cloth-backed disposables. No sagging or odor with these.
My only complaint was the wings feeling rather thin. I like my diapers to be very snug and I was afraid of ripping the tapes off of the wings or pulling holes into the wings as I was affixing them.
I do enjoy the wetness indicator most though. Rather than a fade when wet design, the stars fade to water droplets when wet.
Interesting. I haven't had too much issue with tearing with them but they definitely feel like they stretch more than a standard plastic backed diaper. Not enough to make them unusable but enough to make mention of it.
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57 minutes ago, PuraVidaDip said:
Hope everything works out for you! I wear 24/7 and I have to change way more than it seems some people do. 1-2 diapers per day? Not sure what's going on there but I suspect they use the toilet for #2 and pee at the same time. More realistic for a 24/7 wearer is 3-6 diapers per day.
You're using 3-6 because that is how manh times you are messing?
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For anyone who hasn't lurked around the forums for half a decade. A quick recap. Hi, I'm DAQ and I have been trying to become incontinent for over four years. I started stints of 24/7 lasting usually a monthish in 2019 and like so many during covid went 24/7 and never looked back. To my dismay I did not become incontinent in the mythic 12 months and my plateau was basically at square one. Fast forward to today and the last year has been mental health year with psychiatry, therapy, and hypnotherapy. I have learned more about the human psyche and myself in the last four months than I have in the last 30 years. All of this has helped clear up doubts and understand what I want from incontinence and diapers moving forward. It is through this understanding that I have a newly formed confidence in my decision, cast aside all doubts and redoubled efforts to becoming truly incontinent.
With my newly informed psychological approach I thought back to a post I recently saw a post that referred to Milton Erickson's bedwetting protocol on how he got a married couple who were bedwetters to stop. It seemed strange and extreme but according to the literature it worked.
I was wracking my brain trying to figure out how to adapt this to our purposes. During this process I remembered a post on Tumblr by Serah-in-diapers that outlined how she became a bedwetter in a month.
https://serah-in-diapers.tumblr.com/post/184830904104/how-i-became-a-chronic-bedwetter
Seem familiar? Looks remarkably similar to me. So today I committed a cardinal sin in diaper training. I took off my diaper on purpose and used the bathroom. Originally I had intended to do this for at least two weeks and beyond but today made me realize I am far more psychologically diaper dependent than I thought. I made it maybe twelve hours before I came waddling back. I was in the bathroom at least once an hour and was miserable the whole time. However, I think I am going to continue going without as long as I can. To remind myself why I wear diapers and want incontinence and provide my unconscious mind a viable way out from the torment of running to the bathroom constantly, I just don't know if that will be hours per day or days or weeks yet.
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4 hours ago, Reddy said:
Hi Everybody, I'm sorry for being absent, work was busy and then I spent the whole weekend out at my parents. I got blocked up pretty bad during the week, but I associated it to restarting caffeine and quit that again yesterday (I even noticed my tight esophagus was much worse the days I was on caffeine). I also used a catheter here and there just to pee, and then for a few hours at a time too. Dr. Ivan said to go back to a catheter if I'm blocked, and also that we might need to see if I have developed a urethral stricture. Obviously I don't know, but I feel pretty sure I have the stricture. Over the weekend at my parents house I was blocked multiple times in the night and used a catheter once or twice. Since the afternoon I've been back at my apartment. Not wearing diapers. Just relaxing in boxers. Nothing is leaking whatsoever. I want to find out about the stricture and also might ask Dr. Ivan about another surgery. But first I'll see how the next days go.
Thank you for being open about the problems and/or complications that have occurred post op. While I am rooting for you and the option it presents, I think being realistic is important.
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39 minutes ago, Diapered Dave said:
My guess... He's out buying more diapers.
Or least out using more 😃
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15 hours ago, Davidevens87 said:
I used to wear nothing but megamax, I haven’t bought a case in almost a year. ABDL diapers are more affordable and are as durable if not more in some cases to MegaMax. My wife noticed the baby prints and wasn’t a fan but when I told her the price difference she, like me, no longer cared.
Great Writeup
I think that is my disappointment w/ Megamax. I focused primarily on cost/liter, but as some people have said, they don't need more than 5000ml there are cheaper per unit costs out there even in the ABDL space and especially once sales are taken into account. Rearz and Bambino regularly have sales of 20-30% and some of the holiday sales get crazy. So it doesn't matter if it is unit pricing or capacity pricing, they still lose imo.
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16 hours ago, Don Incognito said:
I've wondered how removing the lower sphincter through the abdomen (instead of chewing up the urethra to get to it) would change the risk factors there. Though it probably wouldn't have any real advantage if the muscle can't easily be separated from the urethra.
That or leave the sphincter muscle alone and sever the nerve that drives it. Though tampering with the nervous system obviously has its own risks.
I think the other issue maybe the muscles response to severed nerves. I read a story of someone who had botox into the spincter for UAB and instead of being relaxed open the muscles were forced closed until the botox wore off.
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29 minutes ago, Reddy said:
I will keep you updated! I think the day to day experience will probably have unexpected elements.
I think over the next several months you will have many firsts and interesting experiences. Should be a fun time relearning who you are.
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She has a youtube channel.
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I bought a case recently. I am impressed. Very solid diaper and I like the cloth backing even more than the alphagatorz or little kings. The cloth backing is much tougher than the latter.
I would say the Try Agains are comparable to the Tykables Animooz. I haven't done a detailed analysis or anything but having worn both I would say they are identical in all but price and and style. So if you care more about price I would go with the Animooz. If you care about supporting an upstart business and/or the pattern, go with the Try Agains.
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12 hours ago, DailyDi said:
Lately I have grown tired of taking my mental health drugs and struggle to force myself to take them most days. Some days I don't take them at all, other days I literally choke them down. I know it's bad to skip doses and would be worse to stop altogether, but I just don't feel like taking any more pills.
Anyone ever feel like this?
As I am in the process of some major life choices I was left with a thought that I could not shake while taking antidepressants. "Are my thoughts my own, and how much of them is chemical driven?" Was a hard feeling to shake and I almost stopped them cold turkey because of that and a couple other reasons
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@Reddy so when the cath comes out tomorrow are you going to change the name of the thread?
"Got Surgery in Mexico"
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Something i found on the Internet
in Incontinent-Desires
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Frankly just weakening or partially disable the internal sphincter/bladder kneck should be enough to dramatically jump start incontinence training. As far as I know, adults, save those with severe nervous system dysfunction, have near complete control over their external sphincters, so relaxing thoseis easy. The problem has always been convincing the unconcious mind and it's control over the internal sphincter to relax and release. I could see two or three months of diminished or destroyed control in someone who already wants incontinence being enough to convince their subconscious to give up on clenching those muscles. The unconscious is lazy and if you are leaking anyway there wouldn't be a reason to try. And that amount of time would be plenty for a habit to set in.