Hahaha
Yes, that's true. Which is why it's so hard to find people who you connect with
I'm guilty of feeling like this myself so I can't blame others for not being open about who they are.
Thanks, lil_angel. I hope I find them too lol, but I should probably make more of an effort.
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I've found online BDSM communities to be a bit scary, also. About a year ago, I registered on CollarMe.com because I was still curious about the lifestyle and I wanted to talk to people who were in it. I became overwhelmed because about 10 minutes after I'd registered and filled out basic details of myself (sex / gender, age, sub or dom or switch) I was inundated with messages. Over the few days I logged in there I got hundreds O_O
I couldn't reply to them all and it was a bit weird some of the things people sent me, so I never logged in again
But that's mainly my problem. I'm sure most of the people on their are quite nice... although maybe that's my naivety showing.