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Abradley kinda touched on what I was going to say. It seems to me that the only way we are ever going to get accepted is if society has a "Gestalt Shift" (Any Koon fans out there?) and we change our fundamental attitude towards sex and sexual desire. The fact of the matter is that we are extremely conservative when it comes to sex. Anyone remember how ape-sh*t everyone was because Janet Jackson exposed a nipple in the super bowl? Any one ever been told that it is sinful to masturbate? Consider this: back in the Roman times there was no 'gay' or 'straight.' Instead, people simply had lovers. It just may happen that your lover may be a man or a woman. I realize there are flaws in this analogy, but the point still stands that our attitude towards sex is not THE attitude towards sex. With our society's mindset towards sex, there's no way that us diaper lovers are ever going to get accepted. But I think it's very possible that as we progress, we'll see some big changes. -Jess

Incredible story so far! (I'm up to chapter 7, but I can't wait to read on) the story's pacing and timing is absolutely perfect and you have a certain talent in describing characters. But most of all, althogh it's a fantasy, the whole thing feels very real so far. Keep up the good work! -Jess

I was kinda bored today, so I decided to write down some rules that I live by to ensure happy and healthy diaper wearing. I didn't really have a reason for writing them down, other than I thought it was a good idea to write them down. Most of the rules are common sense, but I thought I would share anyways. If you have any modifications or additions, please post them. Enjoy. Rules for the healthy enjoyment of diapers 1. When presented with a choice between being social with out diapers, or spending time alone with diapers, always choose the social option. 2. All diapers must be accounted for at all times. 3. After showering or cleaning up after a diaper change, do a thorough check of the area to make sure it is clean. Leave the area for a few minutes and then come back to double check as well as test for odors. 4. Only purchase quality products. 5. Diapers can be worn at work only if doing so does not hinder performance and they can be enjoyed. If not, they are forbidden in the work place. 6. Never associate diapers with my fraternity or wear diapers under fraternity clothing. 7. Frequently clear the internet explorer history bar and clean the cache 8. When deciding to tell someone about the diapers, must be able to answer the following two questions: A. Why am I telling this person? B. What do I hope to gain from telling this person? 9. Never, under any circumstances is it permissible to visit websites associated with minors, view, download, or upload pictures involving minors or associate in anyway with sites that do these things. If such a website is stumbled on accidently, immediately close out of the browser and do not return. 10. Appreciate that diaper wearing is a privelage and always be sure to take it all in.

Welcome aboard! If I had to rate my top 5 'life changing' moments, learning that I wasn't alone in my desire to wear diapers would have to be up there. It's so nice to now there are others like you who share some of your innermost diapers. -Jess

I love going to the beach in diapers! I don't recall if I was wearing store brand or depends the last few times I went, but I don't recall having any problems. If you're really concerned, a tiny bit of duct tape will do the trick. -Jess

Ruffles: That was truly an inspiring and wonderful story. I hope you don't mind, but I'm stealing that and adding it to my AIM profile. -Jess

The thing that gets me the most about growing up is all the body hair in unwanted places Seriously, there is a such thing as a quarter life crisis. Having just recently graduated college, I feel like I'm going through one now. Even more than a loss of innocence, I feel like my path in life is getting narrower and narrower. Here's a silly example: There's pretty much no way at all I can become an astronaut. It's not that my life's ambition ever was to be an astronaut (except when I was 5) but at least when I was younger, I had the opportunity to go down that path if I really wanted to. The thing is that it's only going to get much more narrower later on in life. As with another discussion that I responded to yesterday, going through the same thing, I don't have any great advice. The only thing I can suggest is not to dwell on it too much. Everyone gets older. That's part of life. I think the key is to never loose sight of your priorities and find something that makes you happy. -Jess

I've definetely gotten to the point where I look at my diapered self and ask, "what the hell am I doing?" (Maybe it's just me, but I particularly feel this way after 'getting off' in a diaper) Also, I agree that if I had a say in it, I wouldn't have chosen to have a diaper fetish. As much fun as diapers are, they can be stinky, uncomfortable, and socially unacceptable. More than anything else, having no one to really share my diaper experiences with, I find enjoying diapers can be a little lonely at times. Since I go through the same thing you do, I don't have any great advice other than when you're feeling that way, just don't wear them. As with anything in life, the key is moderation. -Jess

First of all, if you haven't read the books or seen the movies, but you plan to, I'd advise you to stop reading. Harry Potter rocks! Feel free to discuss anything you want related to the subject. However, I'll start off with a few things First, what did everyone think of the movie? Personally, I definetely enjoyed the movie and got my $7 worth. I think it was the second best next to Azkaban. Newell (The director) had a real tough job trimming down a 600 page book into a 2 hour movie and he did a very good job with it. On the other hand, despite the fast pace, I don't think the movie had that epic / depth feel that the third movie had. Also, I feel bad for whoever has to direct the 5th book, because there's so action until the end. Same with the 6th book. Second, what's your prediction for book 7? My friend seems to think that Dumbledore is not really dead (if you read book 6, they never actually show his death, they just say he was blasted out of sight) It's possible, but I think it may be wishful thinking. Also, my prediction is that 'RAB' is Sirius Black's brother. In the 5th book, it says that Sirus's brother (I forget his name, but it starts with an R) was a death eater at first, but then crossed over to the other side. -Jess

I know it sounds cheezy, but I've found that by restricting my wearing to the night time/weekends only, it increases my desire to wear them at that time and the enjoyment factor that I get out of wearing diapers. When I wear diapers for a long time, they become less special. For a while I went 24/7, but I gave it up because I couldn't enjoy the diapers during the day because of work and school. Simply put, I felt like I was wasting my money on the diapers.

It's really not much more than a pipe-dream of mine, but every now and then I play with the idea of owning a diaper store / running a diaper service. (A good piece of advice that someone once told me is that the key to success is combining two things that you enjoy/are good at. I enjoy diapers, and I enjoy business) The store as I imagine it would sell a whole bunch of different diaper and incontinence related products for adults and children. In addition to selling products, I figure that I could offer a cloth diaper service where once or twice a week we pick up dirty diapers from people's homes, take them back to the shop to be thoroughly cleaned and then deliver them back to people. It's actually not a bad gig, I'm just don't know if it would be profitable. The biggest problem is attracting 'mainstream' diaper consumers to my store when they can easily go to any super market or medical supply store, especially when disposable diapers are so convenient. This means, I have to target special consumers, and my diaper service has to be cheaper and as convenient as disposables. Is this possible?

Good question! Yeah, I agree that it depends on your location and circumstances. My personal opinion is that even though you may get away with it, it's simply not in good taste. It would be the same as if you saw some guy in public washing his car with his tighty-whitees on.

Usually, I don't tell people unless I have a compelling reason to. I go by the rule of thumb that you must be able to justify the following two questions in order to tell: 1. Why are you telling this person? & 2. What do you have to gain by telling the person? In high school, one of my friends "came out" to me. To make him feel less nervous about the whole ordeal, I told him about my diaper fetish. We called our secrets "beans" as in "Spilling the beans." I told my mom about the diapers because I incorrectly assumed that she had found out about them and I didn't want her coming to her own conclusions. As it turns out, she had no idea about the diapers, but was cool about it. I told my brothers because I knew they would be fine with it and were going to find out anyways. There's a couple of other people, mostly girls I've dated who I knew wouldn't care and could keep a secret. The reason I told them was in hopes they too would be into diapers or at the very least, have a fetish of their own. None of them did, but they've kept my secret nonetheless. Thinking back to my gay friend, he was so worried about keeping it all a secret for fear of being made fun of. Even though it's only been a few years, things have changed so much that my little brother (who's in high school now) has friends who are openly gay. Maybe there's hope for us too....

As someone who is not new to this, (although new to the forum) let me say welcome aboard! If I had to rank the most important moments in my life, realizing that I was not alone in my desire to wear diapers has got to be up there. This forum gives you the opportunity to experience the joy of diapers, and more important share your innermost fantasies with other people. As long as you use wisdom and moderation, wearing diapers is a safe way to let off stress and relax. If you have any questions, please please please ask - as far as I'm concerned, the more the discussions, the better! In my limited experience here, I've noticed that people are very friendly. Again, welcome aboard! -Jess

I know this poll may seem border line random (go figure), but the reason I asked is once along time ago I asked this at a different message board and was surprised at how many people said they have been diagnosed or think they are ADD/ADHD. If it turns out that a huge percentage of people here say they are ADD, it may be something worth looking into. Although, I understand it if the National Science Foundation refuses give me a grant to study the link between Attention Defecit Disorder and diaper fetishes. Allow me to get on my soap box for a second.... As someone who lives with ADD, I really hate it when people blame it on bad parenting or lazyness. All it means is that I think faster than I can process my thoughts and what results is a traffic jam of sorts. If you're lucky enough to not have ADD, don't tell someone who does that they just need to pay attention to details or that they just need to think before they speak. When people tell me that, do they think that I'm smart enough to graduate on top of my class but not smart enough to figure that out? For those who do have ADD, one good thing is the ability to rapidly switch tasks. (I remember one time writing a research paper on transcendentalism and 20 seconds later doing calculus homework ) If you can figure out how to use that to your advantage, more power to you!

Wow! Great topic! You're lucky that you can remember originally being in diapers. I was potty real early so I don't remember much. The only thing I vaguely remember is one time my mother asked me if I wanted to wear baby diapers or big boy underwear. (Notice the propaganda there.) As I recall, I chose big boy underwear over the diapers. My bad.... The next earliest memory about diapers is actually my first dl experience. When I was about 4 years old, my baby sitter lived down the road. She had a girl who was my age and a baby brother. I remember one day when I was over at her house, she put diapers on us and we pretended we were babies. (I know that sounds creepy, but it wasn't... she didn't force us to wear them or anything.) I remember having a lot of fun and laughing a lot. When my dad came to pick me up, I asked him to let me wear the diaper home and he let me. As a side note, my friend's "baby brother" is now in his second year in college. It just blows me away how fast time has flown by.

I've trained myself to be a bedwetter, so it's doable. The key to becomming a bedwetter is that you need to subconsciously convince yourself that it's perfectly normal to wear and use diapers at night. You need to get to the point where your body just naturally assumes it has a diaper on and and wetting it at night is just something you do. I agree that 30 days may not be enough time, especially if you aren't wearing diapers during the day. Wearing diapers at night time only and becomming a bedwetter is doable- it just takes longer for your body to become accustomed to not holding it in at night. That said, here are some tips that may help. -Drink lots of water before going to bed -If you wake up in the middle of the night with the urge to pee, don't hold it in at all. Go the moment you have the urge. Everytime you hold it in at night, you're basically telling your body it's not ok to wet at night. -Whenever you're in bed and you have to pee, don't sit up or move around. Don't adjust the diaper or get in a position to minimize leaks. Don't use any energy or thought into wetting your diaper. Just go right where you are. If you start moving around or adjusting yourself, you're sending the message to your brain that it doesn't have permission to automatically pee at night, but needs to wake up. The big downside is that you're going to increase your leaks by like 10,000 percent. If that's a big problem for you, then you may not want to become a bedwetter. -Speaking of leaks, if they do bother you alot when you're sleeping, you may want to put a towel or something under your sheets. If everytime your diaper leaks you get frustrated and it takes a half hour to go back to bed, your sending the wrong message to your brain. Obviously the best thing you can do to avoid leaks is use a good diaper. (I always poke holes in a baby diaper and use it underneath as a stuffer.) Hope that helps! Let us know how it goes. -Jess -Don't

I'm Jewish - although not real religous. However, the kewl thing about Judiasm is that in addition to being a religion, it's about the lifestyle/culture - and I'm proud to say I live a Jewish lifestyle.