Ivanna P. Friely

Probably easier to achieve mental conditioning that doesn't need physical results to re-enforce it yes, there are files like this - Hypnocat on Etsy does good work.

I don't know why liquid chlorophyll isn't mentioned more in here, I find it really effective. Truly an awful taste for the straight stuff but there are some that are flavoured with citric acid or the like which are actually yummy (like Swisse mixed berry flavour). I'm confused by the desire too, it makes no sense and I often actively wish I didn't feel this way - and sometimes feel much better for stopping all diaper wearing, but it never lasts long. I don't think I've had more than a week out of diapers in over a year now, and thats only a few weeks. For whatever reason it's a really effective coping mechanism for the stress in my life and it intersects with kink as well in a totally different way. For what it's worth, honesty and open communication is probably the only real long term successful dynamic with a partner in my opinion. And I say this coming from never having managed to achieve that. I tried the route of accidentally letting my partner find out once (by letting her find my supplies), she didn't actually reject it and was open to being involved in it so long as there was no poop, but she wasn't really interested in exploring and with me not having the ability to advocate for what I really wanted (I'm autistic and this being a really stressful conversation I quite literally could not speak about it) it was just never mentioned again. I know she would have tried some play out with me *if* I could have taken the lead. I know you want your partner to make the decision for you, but you really can't bank on him making the decision you want - he might want to try every possible cure there is before diapers if you don't say that's what you want, and obviously wouldn't be good if he later found out you weren't honest.

For what it's worth, I'm not so sure trying to stay relaxed all the time anymore, I'm focusing more on just letting go at the first urge and I am also starting and stopping like Bonsai mentioned as it seems to be pretty widely reported as a thing that weakens muscles. Definitely leads to incomplete emptying through and potentially worse problems. I haven't had the time to write a post about it but I've recently had to go to the doctors about lower back pain that I thought was a UTI after it carried on over a few weeks - got referred for an ultrasound and blood test after the urine test and external exam found nothing, haven't gone for the final results yet but it seemed to be a mystery reason. That is, until I stopped trying to hold my bladder open, then it went away pretty quickly. I think what was happening is I was losing core strength (and this did coincide with being less active because I was stuck working on a lot of admin), the pelvic floor is part of holding you upright and while I was making good leaky progress I was pretty miserable.

I think that's nigh on impossible until a diaper is wet enough to be practically swimming in it, I know there's often incomplete emptying though and that is a cause for UTI's

Urine lingering in the bladder too long, bacteria could build up. This has happened to me the last couple of times I've made a serious attempt at untraining and I'm sporting a UTI now. I think in my case it's because staying relaxed doesn't always push it all out.

I'm not sure it's reasonable or practical to be expecting these muscles to stay relaxed while you're moving about as that's flexing them. Trying to relax every time you're at rest is easily achievable though, I've done a lot of hypnosis and it's hard to say if that helped or not but I'm pretty relaxed most of the time, sometimes catch myself clenching a little but it's easy to let go again - it seems to be more and more that the default is shifting to the relaxed state and they're definitely weaker. I think just relax as much as you can and remind yourself to do it whenever you're at rest.

Aside from the catheter issues, and I'd worry about potential puncture injury from the rod with that too, those captive bead rings are very unreliable and have sharp edges should the ball come off. I don't think it's at all unlikely to work its way off inside you.

Could we define a different trigger though? E.g. "Whenever I am exhaling, I am incontinent" ?

I don't disagree that there's a comparison on the dysphoria, I wasn't getting the impression that was the angle though and having seen this comment around the forum a couple of times it came across as a flippant way of saying "well this other weird thing happens sooo...". Probably an overreaction on my part and I apologise, it pushed that "well I identify as an attack helicopter" button and reminded me why I usually don't disclose. I mean, it is weird, all of it. GID has the benefit of about 120 years of research to look better - I don't actually disagree elective that surgeries of any kind should be allowed so long as the recipient is well informed and always responsible for the outcomes of their decision. Everyone should have full bodily autonomy. Also as a side note, Gender Dysphoria is separately a diagnosis (DSM V) and a symptom; the diagnosis would be applied to anyone seeking therapy or other affirming care but is not actually experienced by all trans people as a symptom in regard to their physical form. That interpretation is flawed because Gender Dysphoria is really about the way people perceive you versus the way you perceive yourself - for some people the body doesn't come into it, for others that's a very strong component but for those that experience Dysphoria akin to BID (which includes me) it's near impossible to know if the incongruence between self and external perception led to the dysphoria towards ones body or if it would have existed in isolation. I feel like the dysphoria regarding the body is a rationalisation that you build up from childhood to make sense of why it is you can't be seen for who you are. Some people will say they don't feel like their body is "wrong" but still want to alter their appearance because it's easier to get along in society by providing more of the expected gender cues. anyway, sidetracked. Silicon putty wasn't really successful for anyone hoping to get back on the topic of stents.

Gender Reassignment Surgery is well proven to be a highly successful treatment for a highly researched condition affecting around 1-3% of the population and it's been in use since the early 20th century. Elective incontinence surgery is not known to be practiced at all and being an ethically dubious procedure only the fringe of a fringe population want, should not be compared. Honestly seems a bit rude to conflate the two.

This comes across as quite insensitive; great that you're making progress in your life, no need to disparage other people's diagnosis. The OP also didn't ask for alternative therapy recommendations.

It's hard for people not deeply invested in trans rights (I e. The majority of the population) to grasp just how unbalanced the coverage of the "trans debate" is, and how much of it is just outright lies by bad actors either in it purely for their own prejudice or because it's an easy way to stir up & leverage other people's prejudices. By the same token I think those of us it affects directly lose sight of how people of all political persuasions can be convinced that there's some sort of truth to the most ridiculous bullshit about trans people simply because of sheer repetition. E.g. recruiting /convincing kids to transition - no one, ever, has had this goal, yet it's probably the most common accusation. It's mentioned in this thread. Seriously, I'll eat my hat if you find any sort of trans activist trying to recruit people. Alex Jones said it? Chyeah, obviously nuts right? Bunch of Fox News hosts are saying it? Well they're always a bit excitable. JK Rowling pens an essay about it and whilst avoiding derogatory language or snide comments about trans people still pushes the idea it's an ideology and won't somebody think of the children? Oh, maybe there is something to this. It's really disappointing when people believe this crap and we can be prone to lashing out over it because it just.never.stops, but yeah, it is understandable that if a lie is presented often enough and by people who seem reasonable it can stick. It's really simple - talks about LGBT issues aimed at children are there to provide support for queer children. Queer children exist, they always have and always will. These talks by Sophie LaBelle, other stuff like drag queen story hour, the unfairly maligned safe schools program (big debacle in Australia) etc. aren't about sex, they're about showing kids that it's ok to be different. It's for the straight and cisgender kids too - the more people come to learn about cultures outside of the heteronormative the less hate there is in the world. But yeah back to the original article, this is lazy conservative wedge politics & nothing more. The only people putting children at risk of being involved in a conversation about ABDL are these conservatives & other hateful people trying to create an association between Sophie being ABDL and transgender and imply that she is giving talks on both topics - which she is not. In my opinion that should make y'all angry at them, not Sophie. Whatever your opinion on transgender people it's very clearly relying on the widely held assumption ABDL is related to paedophilia. Ok I might be ranting because it's way past my bed time. That'll do!

She has/had a deviant art under another name, can't remember what it is but she gave a run down on Facebook of how she was doxxed and targeted for the last few years by the worst creatures of the internet for being ABDL. Being a prominent trans speaker it's just an easy angle to attack her on, she's not speaking about ABDL on these tours and has not at any point suggested it should be in the conversation; she's speaking about the Assigned Male comic and trans rights. This article isn't really even trying to be honest or balanced, it's an attack piece. The only reason I know about her being ABDL is she did a couple of couple of posts about ongoing attacks from TERFs and how they have recently gained more traction as conservative politicians in general are focusing on trans rights as an easy wedge issue. A trans activist with a taboo kink is an obvious target, she's quitting the public speaking after this tour because it never stops. She doesn't use the term ABDL or mention diapers at all when she discussed this on the Assigned Male page , she uses "Little" in the post and I don't think the comic used the word at all - it was just one strip about being persecuted for liking childish things, this accompanied the post where she talked about this saga. That's it. ****edit: I was underinformed about the artist, I came across this video today discussing her: I'm leaving the rest of the post and the one below as is; I don't feel any different about all I said about the tour being misrepresented and disingenuous reporting on ABDL/trans issues for political gain etc, but unfortunately Sophie has some issues.

Yes, why?

I've been playing around with silicon putty and liquid silicon in pursuit of the female stent. I'll come back with more pictures but my ideas are basically all just a very short, flexible tube with two bulbous ends, retaining line threaded through all parts. So it just sits at the bladder sphincter with the bigger bulb outside. I was modelling some with the putty alone as pictured, the trouble with that is they need to be quite chunky for the putty to retain enough strength. Next models will use some silicon hose with metal ends painted over with the silicon rubber (which gives a nice slippery finish). The Long one in the middle is the only one I've tried inserting and I wore it for a few days because I didn't have faith in the strength of the small ones - it's a good sound and it caused minor constant leakage but not enough, the hole at the top comes out just under the base of the tip; the idea was it was far enough away from the outside to be a bit protected from bacterial but it isn't effective for flow. And obviously there's significant sensation with something like that one, so not ideal if you want invisible. Edit - I should add that I've got a pretty wide urethra and am post-op trans, so there's a bit of difference at the bladder entrance because I still have a prostate. Withered away from no testosterone in a very long time but still there presumably. I don't know if that changes the idea though, essentially I'm hoping to anchor purely on the bladder neck with a shorter stent than these examples. Good odds that it will go in, so trying to keep it small, smooth, and have every part attached to the retrieval line. I don't have time to experiment more at the moment :(