how do I make friends?

[Just a person]

so yeah I don't have many friends. I like to be alone and being around people like my parents and anywhere outside my house gives me anxiety. not like fear anxiety, but just general bitterness and unhappiness. I am not afraid of going outside, I just hate doing it. my parents recommended I join a dating site, but I joined okcupid and it is a horrible site filled with no one who's profile indicates they would be a good match for me at all, and it makes me very uncomfortable. I also have lost a friend recently. I knew him for 2 days and he was kind of a sex tease (liked to take his clothes off on cam in front of me) and when I told him about my abdl fetishes he stopped talking to me and I removed him. I don't really have any friends. I am 20 years old and I feel like my life has become sort of a cycle of loneliness and depression and I just can't break out of it. to make things worse I think I'm more interested in guys than i am girls. just to add layers to the already crumby shit cake. I feel so depressed that my head hurts me every day and I don't know how to get out of it. College didn't work for me and now I am trapped at my parents house and I say I want to leave and they say "then leave". That's no fair though because I have nowhere to go. I am really depressed and kind of desperate for something good to happen. I see a psychologist twice a week and she knows how desperate I am and is unable to help me.

[rebelofjenova]

I was in a similar boat a couple of years ago when I was 20 as well, had no money, so college didn't work, moved back home with my parents, got a job, paid bills, and felt like, in my mind I was paddling the boat but paddling upstream and getting no where. I'll be honest, I got lucky, where I work, I met some of my closest friends, granted, that's was with me just being the introvert wanting to be alone and do my own thing...

Now, I'm roommates with one of those friends,All of those close friends Know that I'm bisexual. They don't know about the fact that I like diapers (as far as I know, one of them has VERY subtly hinted that he knows but has never said directly that he does). Hopefully I'll be able to actually start wearing off and on like how I want.im kinda the same as you, I think I like guys more than girls, but...

Anyway, my point is that, one way or another things will work out for ya. Just do what you can to keep a positive attitude and know that there are others like you either going through something very similar or have already experienced something similar. Keep ur chin up dude

As far as making friends, start trying to find people that like the same things u do. The first of my close friends, I noticed had a baby Mario tatoo on his shoulder, and since I'm a gamer, I knew what it was and made a comment about it, we've been good friends pretty much ever since...

With making friends for ABDL, that I'm prolly not the best person to give advice... I'm usually not terribly active on sites like these, but I saw ur post and thought I could chime in and give some support where needed. If ever ya need someone to talk to, I don't know about anybody else, but I'll always try to help someone as much as I can... So don't be afraid to send me a message.

[jakeboi]

Hey I'm in similar boat as you! I'm not the best at making friends either, just cant seem to hold them sometimes.

What I've found helpful with dealing with loneliness is to find a passion to follow, something to distract for a bit. For me its art, when I'm painting or drawing I'm able to escape for a bit, go into my own little world. Find out what you like and pursue it! who knows, maybe you could even find a career in it.

[rusty pins]

You might also be aware that Daily Diapers has another free site called Diapermates.

[Just a person]

the thing about sexuality is that I have always been pretty asexual when it comes to online relationships. when it starts to turn that way sometimes I get very depressed. obviously it is hard to not tell someone about abdl when they get interested in sex with me. whenever I tell people about my sexual desires who are interested in sex they often get very turned off and in turn decide to stop being my friend. so I have been going through burn after burn of terrible online friendships with hardly anyone but a very few people who have been kind and understanding to me. most people are just there to swarm you like a mosquito.

[Just a person]

another problem is I don't want to have anything to do with sex unless it's abdl related.

[Just a person]

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[rebelofjenova]

There will always be people who don't understand, unfortunately with ABDL, and with bisexuality, it is just something that comes with the territory. They don't understand the feelings we have, they don't want to understand, and so they never will.

But there are some people out there who, whether they understand or not, will accept you for who you are.You'll prolly have to go through some disappointment to find these people, but once you do, those people will be the ones you can rely on as friends for life.

I had said above that all off my close friends know that I am bisexual. For me, unfortunately it wasn't fully by choice, I had never told them that I was bisexual, even though I always wanted to, just so that way somebody at least knew. Then one night they ask me if I was gay. Since all of them were there, I felt like they were ganging up on me, and it was VERY uncomfortable. Once I explained that I was bisexual, because of the awkwardness of the situation, I left. But later on, all of them started asking me questions, they wanted to know, they wanted to understand what I felt and how I felt. It was then that I was 100% sure that these were some of the best friends that I could have.

So, somewhere along the line you WILL find people who will still be your friends, and you also WILL find people who understand what your going through. Again, there may be pain and heartache in the process, which I have had some of my fair share of, and you said that you do still have a very few amount of people who do still keep in touch knowing everything. Enjoy having those few people... Cause I don't know about you, but I would rather have a few good, respectful friends that I could talk to and share my feelings with, than 50 "friends" who truly don't give a crap.

I do wish you luck in finding more friends to share your experiences and feelings with.

[drynot]

I can relate in just how difficult it is to find and keep friends.

[Bettypooh]

Nearly the same here. I never learned social skills and by the time I was 16 I was doing whatever I wanted to while everyone else was trying to get laid. Getting into drugs, alcohol, and construction work provided my social education, a far cry from 'normal' I did learn with enough time how todealwith most situations, and that coupled with my tendency to go deep with my hobbies and interests put me among folks who became friends So chase your interests and you may find the same happening. I should make it clear that I'm speaking about RL people, not online folks.I've found friends there too but you're always c;oser to the ones you see all the time