A Little Scared

[diaperguyred]

Ok, my first post on here:

I have been interested into diapers since I was a small boy, I have no idea why. As I aged into puberty ages, my interest became a need. I felt a huge sexual desire to wear diapers. Deathly afraid to wear diapers or have anybody know, I kept it locked up inside me. This was until I found out about ABs and DLs in my freshman year of High school. I finally knew that I was not alone. This more or less grew my interest into more intense forms of AB and DL. I had not really imagined myself in a nursery or whatnot before I had discovered it on the internet, but my seemingly only sexual interest for diapers grew into other forms.

A couple years later I grew my fetish to include sissy things. As this was not my original sexual interest, I found it extremely exciting. A common link I have found between my fetishes is humiliation.

But my problem: I have always had an interest for girls, but my other brain(my penis) has no desire to rise to just seeing a girl naked. To clear things up, I am not gay, though I feel that sucking another guys cock is sexually exciting (i go back to my humiliation connection). I am a virgin, and for a good reason: when I kiss a girl or do anything sexual, my penis fills a little bit, but goes back down after about a minute or so. The erection is nowhere near what it is like when I am aroused by ABDL things.

I have an ex girlfriend who is an ex because of distance. She has been texting me a lot and I can definitely tell that she wants to have sex when I come home in about a month. To get rid of my V card, I would love to have sex with her, but I am afraid that i will not be able to perform as I cannot get the correct arousal.

Is there any way I can get a full erection to last me through sex like a pill from the drugstore? I will not tell my ex about my fetish, its just not the right time, and I dont think she would roleplay with me on the fact anyways.

Also, do other people have a similar problem? An erection can only be achieved through your fetish?

I feel like I have always been attracted to girls in a non sexual way. But if I want to have a normal healthy relationship, I really think I need to be able to have just normal sex where I see my girlfriends boobs and get a hard on.

I have tried to quit my fetish to be able to reconfigure my brain to have an arousal for boobs and nudity, but to no avail. I always come crawling back to diapers and sissy play.

I would really like to hear everyones advice for what they did in the same situation.

[beallucanb]

I will tell you what, you and I are about the same, when I was much younger I was told that likeing girls was the right thing to do, so I convinced myself that I was normal and straight.

It took the internet, to convince me that I was indeed truly gay many years later.

When I look back on my life all the signs are there, but I never saw them.

I did try the sex with a woman thing without any sucess.

Only you can figure out what you are, my advice is to try both, whatever holds your interest the longest is your true identity.

I wish you all the luck in the world, and hope you life isn't wasted waiting to find out like mine was.

[KathyKay]

This is actually perfectly normal based on the psychological definition of "fetish" a fetish is when sexual stimulation and orgasm can only be achieved by having an inanimate object nearby that helps with the process. In this case, Diapers. I would recommend trying to imagine yourself sexually with a female, not involving diapers, and trying to find a way that it sexually excites you without your fetish. This is the way it is done in fetish clinics acros the country, and once the correct motivator is found there shouldn't be a problem. If this type of "self-therapy" does not help, Perhaps during the sexual act, use your imagination to insert some ABDL things without her knowledge.

I hope that this helps.

-Has a masters in psychology, is in the process of a PHD.

[dtalk]

Bro. I was the same way untill i had sex a few times. now my dick is a champion. trust me, after your first couple of times. your hormones will re adjust. or your gay. whichever, its all good

[diaperguyred]

It is really good to hear that other people have the same problem as me. I guess training myself to become aroused will have to be the thing. As I said, I was not interested into sissy things until later on when I noticed many AB captions were fused with sissy themes. As I was originally only attracted to DL, I grew to become attracted to other fetish situations as well (bondage, AB, strap on, and especially sissy things), which makes me think I can somehow train myself to become attracted to normal sex.

Maybe I can do that, somehow just connect my fetish with a normal sex situation, and eventually just become attracted to regular sex. I have noticed I can get aroused by hearing a woman moaning during sex.

I know I am not gay, though I think I would be open minded to try something about it if I have no luck with women. I do prefer the more dominant role in my significant other, as I am attracted to me being the submissive one.

I always knew that I didn't get aroused when I saw a model in a bikini, so I was always afraid of getting in a relationship that went that far (in High school I would imagine that my impotence might be a topic of gossip for the school to have fun with). I kind of wish I could go back in time and just start watching regular porn when I was younger, start programming my brain to become aroused to that early on, but I cannot change time, just move on with it.

[Jinxed]

Bro. I was the same way untill i had sex a few times. now my dick is a champion. trust me, after your first couple of times. your hormones will re adjust. or your gay. whichever, its all good

An interesting way of putting it but I would agree with the concept that after having sex a few times you will be a "champion." I too shared the same issues and tried the junk sold on the internet and elsewhere to find it all a scam and waste of money. Do not do the same as I did in that regard. I too found using my imagination and inserting ABDL scenes and situations to be of great help. After some time, 6-12 months, I found my confidence issues were gone and the issue kind of disappeared.

Don't get frustrated with it as that will only make things worse! Don't think about what it could mean or what your subconcious is telling you if you believe it to be related to your sexual orientation.... it doesn't mean your gay.....

[notababy]

I know I am not gay, though I think I would be open minded to try something about it if I have no luck with women. I do prefer the more dominant role in my significant other, as I am attracted to me being the submissive one.

I always knew that I didn't get aroused when I saw a model in a bikini

1) There's a difference in nudity and sexuality. OBGYN's see lots of vaginas, but I doubt they have erections every time they do an exam.

2) You say you're not gay but that you're aroused by the thought of a homosexual sex act. There's a disconnect there. You may or may not be bisexual, but you're definitely aroused by homosexual activities, and especially if you're sub. You need to think about that and come to terms with it, whatever it means for you in your life.

3) Your desire to be sub could be dangerous, especially if it leads you to be sub in situations you shouldn't otherwise be in. Before you're sexually active with ANYONE, you need the self-confidence to understand who you are, what you want, what you don't want, what your limits are, and how you enforce them. Otherwise you could easily get trapped, emotionally, in an unhealthy relationship with someone selfish.

4) Don't do anything with anyone you're not comfortable with, even consensually. That includes romantic heterosexual sex with the ex.

[Repaid1]

As a older guy that has come into this problem recently I would offer a few words. It at this point is a possible Erectile Dysfunction. That in it self isn't Medical but Physiological. Over the counter stuff probably isn't going to work, heck even the good stuff might not work. If your mind isn't in the game, then the body isn't going to follow. To be quite honest, I don't find the sight of a girls body attractive if nude. Now If she is in the right Under Garments then yeah I do. I am a weird kind of guy knowing what I like and what I don't on a lady. Cotton panties are a huge turn off for me. And also are Thongs hate those things. Crazy I know to some, but just not something I find sexy. I love the smooth feeling of a lady wearing Nylon, Satin or Silk. Even more so if they are a matching set of top and bottom. And Diapers forget it, I would probably just pop if I saw another lady in them.

In your case of being a Virgin, I have to wonder at what "Base" you have been to? Are you saying Virgin in the sense of not having had actual intercourse, such as "Clinton Sex"? Have you ever had oral, or even a hand job by a young (or older ) Lady? Just as most girls I know don't like the slam bam thank ya mam sex. Neither should you. Perhaps with a longer foreplay the attention your mind and body need will surface. Soft touches in a darken room do much to heighten awareness and senses.

It has been my observation that while yes I can take a Viagra and perform satisfactory on a whim (well less the two hour wait) I also can get my gear working with a bit of attention from her and my own thoughts. Without getting into it, last night no drugs. I went for the big night. It started slow at first and moved up to a erection that was "doable" at best. I like you go up a bit then down. But by the end of the hour I was full steam and heading home. That was after she asked me to take a break three times. Never ask a guy to take a break! Anyway the point is like above was mentioned You may be gay, and in my definition you are, but what I think doesn't matter.

It matters what you think. Only you can figure that part out. your young and normally I would say you should be like a bull outta the gate. But as this isn't the case. You are going to have to figure it out. This ex you speak of do you still love her... I mean maybe that is a limiting factor in the whole thing? Perhaps you don't want to have sex with her, your basically trying to hard. There could be other factors in your past that are causing your problems?

My biggest point I make is don't be so up in the actual deed, but more into the actual time and things you do up to it. I'll tell you it might be in your favor to not be so aroused so you don't fire off a blank about a minute in Worry more about pleasing her than pleasing yourself! You don't need a hard on to please her sir! Nor does she need her lady parts to please you! And again If you aren't into yourself, then don't make a mistake of giving yourself to someone else. I know a old fuddy duddy. But I believe in making love and I can assure you there is a time within that to Phuck the hell out of her during that time. So best of luck in whatever you choose.

I am not saying I condone this, but if you wanted a Viagra or Cialis they can be found just like pot can, at about any corner! I would imagine you don't have any health issues to worry about, but wouldn't hurt to have a check up if you are unsure, but like I said if you ain't in it those might not even help.

[curiositykilledthecat]

Sounds like you might be bisexual. i know for myself, I find the female body beautiful but have an easier time connecting with guys. I find the male anatomy completely repugnant(much to chagrin of many daddies on fetlife) so being gay or bi is completely out of the equation for myself. It does sound like you are sexually attracted to men.